233 - A Dating App For People Wanting to Marry

0:00Welcome to Daying Relationship and the Building. You go to the high cat for all things love and the happiness, never what your ability. I nearer hope to think at the end of a mental health and counselor with a passion for empowering people with the tools and signals you need for successive over the relationship. I share my journey from being a single person, never getting the challenges of ableism to be happily married for many years.

1:02I'm here to share my insights to all of you and that helped me dealt with encouragement to support you on your own journey in the daying world. Let's dive in. I think you'll be welcome back to the show. I have interviewed you today for you from time to time. I do have daying apps and daying sites approach me about having it to be on the show as a way to let people know about that app or the site and I'm happy to do that because

2:11you know there are so many things sites and apps out there that it's good to send on to take a dive into various amounts. I do not however promote any particular app except one which is really the sign for inclusive daying and that's the ability but today I am bringing you Jeremy Nelson who created MirryingAmerica.com. It's not a daying app, it's a web page site where it matches people who

3:16are serious about wanting to meet someone to marry which could definitely fall in the category of a lot of people who are going to be in apps and what is different about MirryingAmerica.com is actually limits your matches to five amounts to encourage more intentional choices about matches and when you match you get a credit deducted so that it is helping to ensure a more deliberate and bear your connection between the members. Since the weather interacts then I hope you enjoy this

4:27conversation with Jeremy as he is to bring what's about when you say not for MirryingAmerica.com. Welcome Jeremy to doing a presentation session this is really even though I just don't know anyone about you I do like people to begin in their own words talking about who they are and what they do. Okay Katherine let me begin by again thank you for the invite it's a pleasure to be joining you for this podcast I am looking forward to the discussion I am Jeremy Nelson I am the founder of MirryingAmerica which is a intentional 14 website meant for serious individuals who

5:31are looking for their person your lifelong relationship to meet each other and to embark on that journey so that's what I am all about you know I believe in relationships I believe in healthy relationships and I think there needs to be a platform that from day one people start off with the intention of trying to forge an alter relationship so that's the that's a short story. Okay and what led you to creating Mirrying America what led me to do so Kathy is whilst there are a plethora dating apps in the marketplace I saw a space where people were not coming to these apps with

6:34the same intention people are matching with people who don't have the same intention as they do I thought that a platform where people were joining and from sign up their intent is to find a serious committed relationship I didn't think that that space existed and I wanted to create a space where people of whatever background and situation and circumstances they may be in that they would know once I join this site anybody I match with they too are looking for what I'm looking for which in our case is a long-term healthy lifelong partnership relationship match. So what is it about Mirrying America that makes that different so that the intention can be more

7:39aligned with people and communicate more easily on your platform? Well what happens on our platform Kathy is that first off it's absolutely free to join number two you have access to a hundred percent of the features and three you get your first three matches free and we continue building on that by only allowing you to select five people per month to match with okay you can only choose to match with five people per month what that does Kathy for somebody who is receiving a match request from you it lets them know that you are no more than one of five for that third day period so you're going to look at that match request far more intently than you would if you're getting you know match requests from somebody you're not sure

8:46if they're sending that very same match request to 15 people to 50 people or specifically to you so it makes you far more willing to evaluate the match request than you otherwise wouldn't be on some of these dating apps and secondarily your inbox doesn't get overwhelmed with match request okay because to send a match request you're going to have to reserve a credit which means you're going to have to spend a money you're going to have to be willing to invest because if that person accepts your match request is going to cost you a credit is going to cost them a credit so from day one from minute one once you accept that request both people are financially investing in getting this relationship off on the right foot there is a financial commitment that has been made which is a credit that has been made to signify intent to signify

9:52seriousness and that's the difference between dating and courting dating in my opinion is about having a good time you know having some fun courting is with the intent of this process amounting to something serious something long-term something sustained so you know that's what I see the difference between dating and courting is you know courting you're looking for specific outcome with dating you're just having fun day-to-day and you know who cares where it leads who knows where it's going to lead in courting you know the intent from day one is for this to lead someone so that's how we like to facilitate these types of relationships to what we do that what you said about when someone sent a match that both people

10:54get pregnant but they were charged financially what if the receiver doesn't want that match do they still get charged no they do not if I send you a request I'm going to reserve a credit to send that request okay so it's going to be some sort of you know a credit is going to go into extra for me to send that request yeah if you choose not to accept my match request you will have seven days to evaluate my profile and decide whether or not you want to match with me if at the end of day seven you decide you don't want to match with me then that match request is rescinded it's automatically rescinded I get my escrow credit back and of course it costs you nothing

11:56because you you opted not to match with me so you know the only time the credit actually gets spent it's escrowed when you send a match it doesn't get spent unless that match is accepted okay so I even that my escrow credit is then spent and you're credit to match with me is also spent so both parties once they have a match they know that there's a financial investment there's a commitment that okay I'm serious I want this to move forward and I've made a financial commitment to making it happen I'd say okay okay it would when you share a few democrats but about marrying america is like when did it begin how many you've searched and do you have what's your geographic area well okay so here's where we stand okay mario america is just that

13:09married america meaning that no matter your race your orientation your your your abilities your disabilities what you like what you don't like no matter what it is that means you you we are 100% open to your demographic your your your your your particular place in life we don't discriminate we invite everybody no matter what their status is to um to see if they can find their personal on our platform because we are open to everybody um you know we we we encourage any and everybody was looking for their person to um to join the platform because again it's absolutely free you get your first three credits you know um just for joining so there's no risk there's no there's no financial commitment um initially and you know like I said we encourage

14:17whatever your status is whatever your your demographic is um wherever you fit in we encourage you to find your person and encourage like many people to also join to spread the word and say hey look there's this place where we can join we can get together and let's see if we can meet each other you know what I mean I love and and and going into it you're knowing that if you meet somebody they have the express intent of being serious about you you know I mean because we're not we're not built for people who are looking for the time we're built for people who are looking for a long time we're looking for you're forever um so we're built for intentional people so that's what differentiates us um and and and and and facilitates us um you know people coming together on our platform can you share how many you so cute and I bet that's nine well in broad numbers we are at you know in terms of use of these we're at five figures and of

15:24course intent is to get to seven figures are back um you know we're we've just started really a hard launch at this point and we're attempting to get the word out we know we're trying to to encourage people to get on board because again there's no there's no downside to doing so if you are on any type of dating platform right now um you know it's just as easy to join our platform you know there's no monthly reoccurring fee there's no ongoing expense so it's just a matter of getting out there and you can sit back and do nothing you can just trust that somebody's going to run into your profile they like what they see and they reach out to you so it doesn't really require you know if you don't want to invest any time in searching for people that's fine you can just be out there and they can come to you because again it's going to take your 15 minutes to set up your profile and once you do that then it's just a waiting game if you choose to play

16:26that way but yes we're trying to get the word out that look we're here there's no ongoing fee so get on board there's no downside to doing so and and um and you know we're hoping that some really good outcomes you know in the near in the near in the near term so that's what we're hoping for that you know people embrace the platform for what it is which is a serious website for people who you know looking for they're forever person um and again you know if you can put in as a little work as you want or as much work as you want but just know that you can't send more than five mantra requests every month that's it you get five so you know so it's a platform that's designed for you not to spend until a number of hours scrolling through profiles and in a sending your request and you know responding to requests and no it's not designed for that it's designed for a 10th intentional people who are looking to be intentional about meeting

17:29to your person but let me just add that you can only send five mantra requests per month but you can receive unlimited materials so if a hundred people like your profile and they want to send to a mantra request that month they can do so you don't have to decide of that 100 do I like any of them or do I like two of them do I like three of them so you'll get to decide how many mantra requests you you accept but you can receive unlimited mantra requests you just can't send unlimited mantra requests you can only send five but you can receive unlimited mantra requests so and that's why I say I mean I encourage everybody to at least put your profile out there and then sit back relax see if you know how many mantra requests you get and decide do you want to move forward these mantra requests are that it's just that simple and I've all realized that say it's a come wearing America in here based in America but you have to say do

18:36you know the demograph that's where you're more popular is it can they bigger cities or a particular region of the country well as it stands right now you know we're getting users from big cities small cities international you know we have users that have signed up from overseas because again it's American so you don't have to be you know you can be anywhere if you want to marry America then I mean you can be you can be in China you can be in Germany you can be in Australia you know but yeah we have several international subscribers who have joined and you know the user base right now is spread you know from I'd say more smaller cities

19:40um you know but we have we have we have users in bigger cities like New York and Los Angeles Chicago so it is very you know we're not sure we're gonna end up in terms of popularities it's gonna be the larger cities the smaller cities internationally we you know we don't have enough data at this point to make that determination but you know we have we have users you know across the board you know I mean every demographic every every every every sexual orientation um yeah you name that we have it is just no matter of of uping the numbers up in the numbers are you taking any particular metrics to attract users with disabilities and are you doing anything in terms of accessibility of the app well um it's not an app we're only we're only on the web okay we don't

20:48have an app because we decided that we don't want to get into the app culture you know so it's only web based so you'd have to be in a browser whether that's on your phone or on your computer your laptop you know your your your your iPad um so it's strictly web based um have we done any specific targeting to to the individuals with disabilities no we have not um you know but we are making it perfectly clear that we want any and everybody who is looking for your forever person no matter where in life you are this is a good place to be to be to be to to show up to at least have a presence um you know at least have a presence because you just never know who's gonna come you know stopping by um you just so you know and since it cost nothing you don't you know you don't like I said you have access to a hundred percent of the features you know um you know so it makes it's it's kind of a no-brainer let me at least if you are in any of

21:55these dating spaces um it makes it's a no-brainer okay let me at least put my profile out there because again there's no ongoing cost there's no reoccurring fee you know you know everybody will have access to your profile if that's what you want um and it's just a matter then I'm sitting back and going okay look I mean you know do I want to invest some time when we're looking for somebody or just have them look for me just have them look for me but yes we re-encourage everybody of any background in a situation in a circle of stands to at least have a presence you know on on the way soon and I know we need to be right back to him but as you know safety on the one is every get you what are the safety measures you've got to employ to send you try to read out to

22:57gmers or accounts that don't have real people adapt you've done fair question fair question and I mean that's an ever-evolving thing and I think the the the biggest thing that we have done yet to to to encourage those who would be inclined that way um to do it elsewhere is by limiting the number of people that you can send a match request to because if you can only send five match requests every single month if you are inclined to be a scammer if you're inclined to be you know looking for a good time sending five match requests per month isn't very efficient is it mean you're just not going to be very successful um if you're only limited to five match requests sending five match requests per month so I think that is probably the biggest

23:57deterrent that we have to people who are inclined that way we just don't have the volume in term you know we're not one of these apps or sites where you can send a hundred match requests on a Saturday afternoon you know we're just not one of these apps where you know you can be sitting around on a Friday night and you can send out you know two hundred match requests because that that's what you know you need volume in order to participate in in that level of bad behavior and and we have purposely designed our site to discourage people who are looking to engage in that type of behavior so you know I mean so that's our biggest deterrent in terms of people who are inclined at that way to come to our site because we want to limit it to five per month that's it so you know it wouldn't make sense for them to to spend any time on our site for one reason primarily the jury ate celebratory eight-year time and sharing with us about Mary America people were

25:10interested in joining how would they do so they were just going through the website marryamerica.com spend 10 minutes put together profile there's absolutely no downside to it there's no cost to do it and you just never know I mean you know if somebody matches with you then you know they're really interested you know that they know somebody sends their match requests then you know that person is legitimately interested so you know I would encourage everybody who's looking for a relationship you know anybody who knows anybody who's looking for a relationship to absolute a teller you know spend 15 minutes go to marryingamerica.com you know feel like a profile and I see what happens well thank you for sharing with us about Mary America cheering me in and good luck we're growing this site

26:16thanks death they really appreciate it