About this episode
In this episode, we explore what it really takes to create meaningful change — especially in those seasons where everything feels hard, familiar patterns keep looping, and no amount of “trying” seems to make a difference.
We talk about the inner environment required for real change, and why self-compassion isn’t the opposite of accountability — it’s the foundation of it.
You’ll hear about:
- Why we default to shame when we feel stuck
- The myth that self-criticism leads to better behaviour
- How shame overwhelms an already stressed nervous system
- Why being on your own team is essential for honest self-reflection
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00:00 Introduction 04:13 Why Self-Judgment is So Common06:32 Understanding and Validating Anxiety08:49 The Role of Self-Compassion in Growth11:58 Isn't Self-Compassion Self-Indulgent?
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