21: Shani Silver on dating, intuition, saying no, self-worth, and please delete your dating apps

"I set out to change the societal view of singlehood."

"Dating apps can be a form of self-harm."

"The biggest thing I have manifested is self-worth."

These are the gems that came out of my podcast interview today with Shani Silver, a writer and essayist who is creating conversations about how society views singledom, and how we can change it.

Shani and I get deep into a bunch of stuff on this episode, and I was alternating between laughing hysterically and being on the verge of tears with her insights on dating, shame, self-worth, and why we can all be doing better for ourselves.

Shani and I talk work, love, and how fear and shame plays into both; why "single girls get the couch,"; our own personal development and dating journeys, highs, lows, and everything in between; the tools we have used to up our self-worth; and Shani answers three questions from Sunday Soother readers about dating, intuition, standards, and aging as a woman today.

This is a must-listen. If you don't walk away from this episode with an entirely new perspective on dating, self-worth, and what it means to really stand up for yourself, I'll be shocked.

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Resources mentioned in this episode:

• The Sunday Soother Patreon
• Shani's website & writing on Refinery29
• Essay: Single Girls Get the Couch
• Shani's podcast, A Single Serving
• Human Design Charts
• Lacy Phillips' site