179: Situationships, 'Going With The Flow', and Why You're Still Single

What does “going with the flow” actually mean in dating, and why does it so often lead to situationships, resentment, and self-abandonment? In the final episode of the Clarity Series, Sabrina breaks down how passivity, fear of asking for more, and chasing chemistry over availability keep people stuck in almost-relationships. This episode explores the psychological and nervous system reasons we suppress our needs, tolerate ambiguity, and confuse flexibility with emotional safety. You’ll learn the difference between dating with intention versus dating from control or fear, how to identify your real non-negotiables, why situationships persist, and what it actually looks like to stop auditioning for love and start choosing yourself. If you’re tired of waiting to be chosen, afraid of being “too much,” or stuck in cycles of undefined connections, this episode gives you the framework to leave self-abandonment behind and date with clarity, confidence, and self-trust. If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  HERE! Get Ad free HERE!Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! ============================= Chapters 00:00 – Why “Going With the Flow” Is Quiet Self-Abandonment 03:20 – The Clarity Series Recap: From Rumination to Intention 06:40 – Why We Suppress Our Needs to Avoid Being Left 10:05 – Situationships: How Ambiguity Keeps You Stuck 14:45 – Chemistry vs Availability (And Why We Choose Wrong) 18:55 – Intention vs Control in Dating 23:30 – Non-Negotiables: What You Actually Walk Away Over 27:10 – Limerence, Fantasy Relationships, and Dopamine Loops 31:45 – What to Leave Behind and What to Bring Into 2026 35:10 – Tool of the Week: Dating With Real Intention Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices