
114. The Truth About Self-Sabotage (It’s Not What You Think)
About this episode
Why do you keep doing the exact things you told yourself you wouldn’t… even when you know better?
In this episode, we’re breaking down the truth about self-sabotage and why it’s not actually about discipline, willpower, or “being better.” I’m walking you through what’s really happening in those everyday moments… like when you say you’re going to go to the gym, start your routine, or get off your phone… and then don’t. Because what if self-sabotage isn’t you messing up… but you choosing between two very real needs?
You might want to listen if:
- You keep saying you’ll start something… and then don’t follow through
- You feel frustrated because you know what to do, but still don’t do it
- You find yourself choosing the “wrong” thing and then judging yourself after
- You struggle with consistency in your habits, routines, or even your relationships
- You’re ready to stop the shame spiral and start understanding what’s actually going on underneath it
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