113. You Know It’s Not About You… So Why Does It Still Hurt? | Coaching Call with Cordelia (Part 5)

Have you ever told yourself “I know this isn’t about me”… but still felt completely hurt, triggered, or thrown off by it anyway?

In this fifth coaching session with Cordelia, we get into what it actually looks like to be in the middle of healing when real life hits. When something happens that brings up old feelings, unmet needs, and that familiar frustration of “why is this still affecting me?” We talk about the tension between what you know logically and what your body feels emotionally. We explore how to stop judging your reactions, how to move out of shame spirals, and how to start getting curious about what your emotions are actually trying to tell you.

You might want to listen if:

• You keep telling yourself not to take things personally… but still feel hurt when something happens
• You feel frustrated that you “know better” but your emotions still take over
• You tend to judge or shame yourself for having emotional reactions
• You’re stuck in cycles where people hurt you and you’re not sure how to change it
• You want to understand what your emotions are actually trying to tell you instead of pushing them away

Want more of Cordelia’s story? Check out her previous coaching sessions below.

• Part 1: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2253591/episodes/18288326 
• Part 2: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2253591/episodes/18457312 
• Part 3: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2253591/episodes/18576189 
• Part 4: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2253591/episodes/18729603 

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