113. Why you Keep Saying, "Someday": The Permission Problem

The someday cycle isn’t a character flaw. It’s a specific pattern — Desire + Condition — and once you see its shape, you can start to break it.

Take the Free Unwaiting Audit- a short assessment that identifies exactly where in the W.A.I.T. Framework you’re currently stuck.

You have something you want to do. And you’ve attached a condition to it.

I’ll do it when the kids are older. When work settles down. When I feel more ready. When the timing is right.

The desire is real. The condition sounds reasonable. And the thing itself stays exactly where it’s been for months — sometimes years.

This is the someday cycle. And in this episode — week three of the W.A.I.T. Framework series — Holly Toscanini names the specific structure that keeps it running, explains why the condition is almost never genuinely the issue, and teaches you how to use two Unwaiting Method tools to start loosening the pattern’s hold.

In this episode, Holly covers:

• The Desire + Condition structure — the specific shape of the someday cycle and why the condition is chosen to stay just out of reach
• Three versions of the pattern: the moving goalpost, the condition swap, and desire dilution — the slow erosion of a desire through repeated deferral
• What’s really underneath the condition (and why it’s almost never about readiness)
• How to use Micro-Moves to bypass the condition entirely and start building evidence that movement is possible
• The someday-specific flavor of the Wobble — “Who am I to want this?” — and how to hold through it without folding
  

Next week: Episode 114 — Fear with a Planner: Is Your Careful Planning Actually Fear in Disguise?

Take the Free Unwaiting Audit- a short assessment that identifies exactly where in the W.A.I.T. Framework you’re currently stuck.

https://holly-toscanini-f50a.mykajabi.com/the-5-minute-midlife-confidence-quiz

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