093: Evolving Agreements and Self Growth in Open Relationships: Falling in Love with Your Best Friend’s Partner, Knowing When To Move On and “Decoupling” feat. CJ and Lana

In this episode, Vee and Elle chat with Slutlana (031: Opening Your Marriage, Throuples, and Falling In Love With Someone Besides Your Husband) and CJ about what might stereotypically be one of the biggest fears in the non-monogamous community: falling in love with secondary partners and decoupling with your primary.  How can this happen? How do you move on? How do you evolve for your next relationship? They touch on all of these topics and more in this juicy, deep episode!

Fear of Loss: Falling in love with your best friend’s partner. (1:42)

When do you know if it’s not working anymore, and that it’s time to move on? (11:06)

Healthy reasons and ways to be ethically non monogamous. (14:49)

Self growth and how it shows up in relationships. (19:31)

Approaching a new relationship differently. Asking for what you want and using your own self knowledge to communicate better with your partner. (30:26)

Human Design and Attachment Styles: how knowing yours can benefit communication in a relationship. (45:35)

Evolving Agreements in Non Monogamy: adapting to needs throughout your relationships, from exclusive to soft swapping to same room to open etc. (51:38)

Learning Moments: don’t assume. Talk about it and move on, don’t hold resentments. (52:56)

Last (sexual) Nuggets: Role playing spiciness! (59:50)

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