076 SHANE DORIAN | Spanking, Modeling better behavior for your kids, How little league sports can bring out the worst in us, and Parenting each child differently

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Today's guest is none other than legendary big wave surfer and world class dad.. SHANE DORIAN. Shane has traveled the world, chasing the biggest swells and pushing the limits of what's possible on a surfboard, but as we talk about today It sounds like being a great dad and husband Is the biggest adventure yet. We get into a lot of good stuff today.. we get in pretty deep early on talking about spanking. Shane talks about why he did with his kids and how he approached it, and I chat about why I've chosen not to, and the real reason for that. We talk about letting our kids choose their own paths, and not projecting our own visions for them onto them, and how insanely hard it is to be rational when our kids are competing. We talk about paying attention to how we respond in moments of anger and frustration, and how important it is to model the behaviors we want our kids to learn. I enjoyed this conversation so much. I really love getting to talk to guys like Shane who's kids are a little older, so he's got some real dad mileage under his belt. Shane is such a good dude, its no surprise to me now after getting to kick it with him why he was recommended as a "must get" guest for the show from a previous guest of the show. Above it all Shane is an incredible man, husband, and father, and it was an honor to host him on the show

DISCUSSION POINTS

• Born and raised in Hawaii
• Growing up in the 70s
• Raised by an all-star Mom
• Falling in love with surfing at a young age
• Moving out as a child to pursue surfing
• Spanking kids
• Apologizing to your kids
• You’re kids are learning from you all the time 
• Don’t yell at your kids to not yell
• Whisper discipline
• Where Shane was in his professional journey when he met his wife
• How strange it is to have your son be a professional surfer with you
• Living up to dad’s expectations
• Competition between his son and daughter
• Shane’s perspective on parenting
• Helping your kids set their own goals
• Not projecting your own dreams on your kids