You’re Not Lazy — Your Brain Has Been Rewired

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2:02and get rid of fears and limiting beliefs so that you can finally change a course of your life. So if you're ready to become the next version of yourself go to 2026upgrade.com and save your seat there. Today I'm going to be talking about why you're so lazy and I'm going to take a different route about laziness. Probably a route you've never heard somebody talk about with laziness. If you're lazy it's because you don't have energy and maybe the reason why you don't have energy is because you're not doing something in your life that feels like it's your purpose. Maybe you are completely out of alignment with your purpose in your life and you have to wake up every single day and force yourself to do something that you don't want to freaking do. And so maybe in some sort of way you're out of alignment with the universe. You're living a life that is not in line with your soul's purpose the reason why you were put here. Now I don't know why you were put here and you might not know why you were put here. Why don't we try to figure it

3:07out then see things should give you energy not take energy away from you. So if you come back at the end of the day from work and you're exhausted it's not for you and there's two different types of exhaustion right there's like good exhaustion and there's bad exhaustion there's like good exhaustion where it's like man you're tired but your heart's so full you're like that was amazing today was great and you feel fulfilled like after a really good workout you're like man that was really tough but I'm glad that I did it a bad exhaustion would be like you come home exhausted you're dragging you're tired you're thinking about having to go back to work again tomorrow and you don't want to do it and so it's a physical exhaustion but more they they else it's like actual mental exhaustion. I want you to understand that is taking energy from you. I said this recently on the podcast but I really want to hammer this home with people you know I teach a lot of people how to grow their businesses I consult with a lot of business owners and a lot of people

4:09want to build a business but they're like oh but it just takes so much energy to build a business I'm like yeah that is true it's it takes hard work to build a business it takes energy to build a business but it takes a lot of energy to do something that you don't love for the rest of your life like it takes I've worked jobs that I hate before and it takes a lot more energy to wake up in the morning when you hear your alarm go off and get up out of your comfortable warm bed to start getting ready for a job that you don't enjoy and then just take a shower and get dressed and have to look a certain way to go to the job that you don't enjoy and then drive and get stuck in traffic for 30 minutes and the whole time you're on the way to a job that you don't enjoy and then you get to work and you have to be there for eight or nine hours and you don't enjoy it and then you have to get in your car and drive home and be stuck in the same traffic again with all of the same people who also don't enjoy their joy their job and then you get to your house and you have what

5:13three four five hours before you have to go back to bed then there's all three four five hours you're thinking oh my god I got to go to bed and I got to eat and I got to do this because I've got to go back to work again tomorrow and then every one of those steps that I'm talking about takes so much not just physical energy more so mental energy because you're thinking to yourself oh my god I've got to do this for another 30 fucking years that takes way more energy versus putting energy into something that you actually love and so what I found is that there's like an intersection of energy and purpose I believe that the universe operates on the principle of alignment if you look at everything in the universe everything is like perfectly aligned it's crazy how like intricately aligned everything is from the stars in the sky to every single cell all 40 trillion cells in your body function optimally when it is in harmony in its in its purpose it's doing exactly what it's supposed to do and everything in

6:16this universe is made of energy it's the most important thing in this universe is energy and so similarly our energy levels are directly influenced by how aligned we are with what is our life mission or what brings us joy or what we feel like we should be doing so the way that I have seen and I've gotten from being around other really successful people that are fully in alignment with what it is they want to do and also being myself years ago when I worked somewhere I didn't want to and I felt completely out of alignment and I started feeling anxious and depressed and sad the longer that I stayed the longer that I stayed out of alignment I realized like when we're in sync with our purpose our actions feel more effortless and we're invigorated by the tasks that we have to do and so like I started thinking about this too when I was writing my book a couple years ago and I started thinking about like I've heard so many people say like oh when you write a book it takes years off of your life and I started dreading

7:20the fact that I had to write the book so I was I took a team trip and we brought my team members out to Sedona and we spent like three or four days in Sedona and then I decided to stay an extra week by myself and I'm house in Sedona that was looking at the mountains and I could go outside and I could write the book and the night before I started dreading oh my god like this is going to be so hard this is going to be so hard and I had this moment of realization and it was like no it's not like this is what you were made to do like this will be and I came up with this phrase it's going to be easy and it's going to be effortless it's going to be easy it's going to be effortless I kept repeating myself to me that's what I was what you're what you're made to do it's going to be easy to me effortless it's going to flow through you right it's not coming from you Rob it's coming through me I just got to make sure that I stay aligned and not get in the way of the message so I kept thinking that the first day I had the entire outline for the book done like every like part one part two part three every single chapter done like the outline of it I was like this is crazy

8:23and by the time I was done within a week more than half of the book was done so obviously I spent a lot of time editing and changing and researching and hiring a you know a neuroscientist to go through and make sure the stuff I said was correct but I felt so in a line with what I was doing and that this is the thing I was supposed to be doing that it lit me up and I had so much energy to do it and we will be right back hey showing up for yourself day in and day out and doing the hard things as what creates a better life and noon hydration helps you stay moving with the real deal activated hydration built to support you through those moments that challenge you noon hydration tablets deliver clean ingredients and optimize electrolytes that hydrate better than water alone especially when you're sweating or on the go the tablets dissolve quickly taste great and come in a single no mess tube that you can take anywhere noon is designed for people who value whole self growth community and the joy of

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11:33and when you're not aligned you have to come up with the energy yourself and that's why you feel tired and you feel unmotivated it's it's like swimming upstream in a river like no matter how hard you try you barely get anywhere and you feel exhausted and you feel demoralized and it's like this feeling of like we're barely moving we're just we're just wasting a lot of energy spinning our spinning our wheels and i've been there before so i want you to think about this for a second maybe the reason why you feel drained all the time isn't because like you need more coffee or because of the fact that you need another time management strategy maybe it's a sign that you are out of alignment with the reason why you're alive maybe it's the universe's way of like nudging you towards introspection and realignment maybe it's the universe's way of like being like how hard do i have to push you down for you to finally listen to me and so for you you might be

12:36in the place where you're like man this kind of makes sense but Rob I don't know what the hell i'm supposed to do with my life that's a great place to be that's a beautiful place to be because now you can discover what that is you have to find what it is that you love and so people always ask like well how do i do that how do i find my purpose and you know discovering your purpose isn't really a straightforward answer and more often than not what it really requires you to do is go okay think about this for a second in the life that i currently have right now i'm maybe you're 45 years old i'm 45 years old and i am completely out of alignment with my life purpose i don't know what my purpose in life is well what that shows you is that everything that you've done in your entire life for the past 45 years has shown you what is not your purpose so if you continue doing the same stuff you've always done you will never find your purpose so maybe what it's doing is it it's requiring you an asking of you to step out of your comfort zone to embrace the unknown and start doing something

13:41different do things that you've never done before until you find what's your passion about if you're unsure of what your passion is doing the same things repeatedly over and over and over again it's not going to bring you any more clarity you're not going to discover something new it's like you're not a you're not an explorer you're just following the same path you've always done you've got to kind of step in and put your hat of the explorer on and go well i'm going to do new things there's something out there that i love what is it and so what you really need to make sure to do is start becoming the experiment experiment with new experiences right try new things you know try to try to try to a new thing every single week make a pact with yourself every Sunday i'm going to take up a new hobby and just see if there's anything that i like for the next year 52 new hobbies i'm not going to keep all of them some of them will be like okay that was cool some of them would be like oh that's pretty amazing and then start using them to find something that

14:42you like you might like one of my friends super successful guy he sold his business and he was like sitting there and he's like i don't know what i want to do with my life he's like but you know like i'm going to start doing new things so he sold his business he's kind of hanging out he's bored he feels like he's lost his purpose because he's got no business anymore he's like i'm going to start doing new things we start you know going on boats and doing skiing and he started doing other stuff and then one day he played pickleball and he's like this is actually pretty fun like i really enjoyed what i did today so he's like pickleball is actually really fun so he got a pickleball court built at his house and then he just started having friends come over pickleball friends come over right and he had recently just gotten a divorce law friends come over play pickleball no he's really good but everyone's starting to get a little bit better they're improving their skills you're getting a little bit better he ends up getting really obsessed with pickleball he meets a woman who's a really good pickleball player they end up getting married and they are now in the process of opening up a huge place in Austin where they're going to have pickleball courts all in

15:44Austin he is obsessed with pickleball he would have never found it if he didn't go well i want to try some new stuff that's what i'm trying to say to you maybe you fall in love with pickleball maybe you find your soulmate at pickleball like he did maybe try pickleball and you're like this is stupid i'm going to try something else doesn't matter the point is just to try new things and see if you can find something that you love doing you know when you expose yourself to different experiences you start to find little teeny tiny things that start to resonate with your soul and so then what i want you to do is is make what i call a happiness blueprint which is make a list of activities that bring you genuine joy right now before you go and find new things and after you start finding things just add it to a list and this happiness is basically like your life compass if it feels good if it gives you energy maybe there's something behind it maybe it's guiding you towards some sort of experience that lines you with your inner self

16:45and you have to realize prioritizing your happiness isn't like a luxury it's a necessity for fulfilling life it really is and so doing this and make you happy is like hitting a power up button in a video game you should be trying to put as much happy things into your day as you possibly can so you might not have energy right now if you look back in the past couple years your life might be like yeah i'm just kind of forcing myself to do something in this life maybe the reason why is because you just don't have any purpose right now that's okay it's easier to take action when you know your purpose and so you know a really good thing is i can give you four journaling questions that will help you start to rediscover maybe what's your purposes and what your passion is as something that you might want to do it's a thing called ikigai you if you've listened to podcast for a long time you probably heard speak about it it's basically just four questions the question is what do you love so just write that down and just make a massive list of everything that you love it could be from ice cream to puppies to pickle ball

17:48speaking whatever might be self-development so what do you love next one is what are you good at the third one is what can you be paid for and the fourth one is what does the world need and then i always like to add a fifth one in there because i think it's not in there but it's really interesting is uh what are you really interested in learning more about or trying to do i think that if you find something that you you've kind of done but you don't really have a whole lot of experience you're like man i'm really interested in learning more about this thing that might be a little bit of a pull into the direction of where you should go and so i want you to understand because then you start doing these things and time flies whenever you're doing them you get lost in these activities you know the reason why you get lost in those activities is because the energy is there you don't have to come up with the energy the universe is giving you that energy because this is what you were here to do but it's also the reason why time moves really slow when you're doing something that you hate and you're dragging your feet and you've got to force yourself to do the next thing you have no energy it's the universe communicating to you through the thing that

18:52the universe is made out of which is energy it's taking your energy down so it's like do something different how many times do i have to tell you it's the universe telling you hey the same at man universe is always speaking to you the question is are you listening this is the reason why you can see two people who are 50 years old and one person could look 40 and the other person could look 70 because one person is just doing something that lights them up and makes them happy and the other person has just been forcing himself to do something for the past 30 years that they hate doing something that you hate something that's soul sucking is exhausting what a waste of life so what i hope you do is i hope you start to you know hopefully this kind of perked up your ears a little bit to think you know what maybe i should start finding something i love maybe there is more things that i can be passionate about maybe there is something that i could do and i can enjoy much more that's all i wanted to do try to find something that brings you joy and what you'll find is that you're not as lazy anymore it's easy to take action so that's all i got for you for today's episode if you love this episode you will absolutely love my free workshop

19:57that's coming out on march 25th it is called identity upgrade i'm going to be live with you and i'm teaching because after 20 years of studying and teaching self-development i've seen so many people try to change their life and see that nothing sticks because they don't change their identity first and so in this workshop i'm going to show you step by step how to upgrade your identity so you can change the entire course of your life so if you're ready to become the next version yourself go to 2026upgrade.com and register for free once again 2026upgrade.com and with that i'm going to leave you the same way leave you every single episode make it your mission make somebody else's day better i appreciate you and i hope that you have an amazing day Easter gifts quicker than ever this year with ups a how quick quicker than a walk around the park quicker than eating all the Easter candies quicker than finding a golden egg that you know is stuffed with cash when you ship ups air at the ups store your items arrive on time or your money back guaranteed at no extra cost exclusively at the ups store us retail locations send Easter jewel on time

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