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If you want to listen to the full episode (XYBM 141) from this clip, search for the title: "Ep. 141: How to Heal so you can build Healthy Relationships with James Harris” — it was released on October 6, 2025.

In XYBM 141, I sit down with James Harris — licensed mental health professional, Army veteran, and founder of Men to Heal. We dive deep into the ongoing journey of healing, the impact of trauma, and how childhood adversity can shape the way we move through the world. James shares powerful stories from his upbringing, his time in the military, and navigating his mother’s early onset dementia — all while breaking down what depression and trauma responses really look like for Black men.

We also talk about therapy: how to find the right therapist and why it’s so important for Black men and veterans to have spaces where they can heal and be understood.

This episode is especially meaningful to me because James was one of the first mental health professionals to support Express Yourself Black Man — back when we had less than 10K followers. So if you support us now, know that he supported us then. Show him some love and follow him — he wants to see you win!

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