Why These Men Make The Best Husbands

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3:01of our farmers from farmer wants to listen to incredible, it's incredible farm and sitting between us right now is farmer map from season three and we are going to kick it off and wait, can we just wish him a happy birthday? We can. Right. Thank you. Tomorrow. He's going to be 32, which is amazing because I turn 34 the next week after that. Oh, so we're just all celebrating birthdays here. How about you? How about you? 28, 28. I'll be 29. I'm always the oldest one in the room. Oh, it happens. Maybe I could give you guys some advice. Okay. So on with that in mind, something really interesting to note here is that farmer wants a wife is the biggest dating show in the world. One has aired in 32 countries and resulted in 226 marriages and after I finish, it's going to be 227 and 565 babies with four more on the way. Again, I'll pass on that.

4:02None of those are mine. They must be doing something right. So let's go. What do you say? The furt those numbers are incredible and their bananas and I don't there's a part of me that doesn't really believe them. I feel like maybe they're they've added those. Those numbers to make it seem nice to think that too, right? Well, we'll get you a roster. Okay. Yeah, I would like I would like a name by name, experienced by experience. So you were on last season and first of all, like did, okay, did you really come on the show looking for a wife? Yeah, absolutely. Well, there's, you know, being 32, I'm going to my 30s, I would like to be with somebody. Sure. Yeah. I, you know, at the time they approach me. Yeah, but to choose like, yeah, I want to be with someone. So I think I'm going to go on a reality show and I need someone. I mean, I get the same thing, but why are you giving them a hard time? I'm just asking. I, it just seems like because you're young and that just seems like a, like an interesting

5:07step to take. It was. Yeah, I'm glad I did it. It wasn't something I sought out. They approached me. Okay. So you didn't consider other dating shows? Yeah, I never did something like that in my life. You know, I don't really watch a lot of reality TV, but I would, you know, have seen clips not for me. So what did your family? What did your family say? They're so excited. My parents actually were fans of the show before I have ever been heard of it. Okay. So when I got reached out to my whole family, it was very excited and kind of forced me to do it. And how, how was that experience? You met someone on the show, right? That was. Yeah. That was wild. I mean, yeah. One of the things that I tell people about this show, probably different than any others, there's a lot of things, but they film in your home. Uh-huh. So we're here on Sean's ranch today. I mean, the girls were living here, which is wild. Right. He's normally fly off to some tropical location, which is a little bit nice too, but it's weird to have like a huge film crew and all these women and everything in your own territory in your home. That's not common.

6:08Okay. Well, and this is a very interesting representation of a farm. Like this is not. Yeah, this is. This is pretty badass. Yeah. It's, I could live here. I'm not a farmer at all. Yeah. I'm not either. I grew up in New England and it's just not represent any kind of farm. I grew up in. Yeah. No, this is gorgeous, but it's, it's fabulous. But I want to know. I want to get back to your family. So what kind of family did you grow up in like when it came to your parents relationship? What was your example of marriage? What were you looking for? It couldn't have been any better. And I think in some ways, when I was younger, I didn't realize how good I had it. My parents have been married about 46 years. My grandparents were married 50-something years. No pressure. Yeah. I know, right? I have three siblings. They're all married with kids. And so, you know, in our family, there's just, there isn't any divorce or any of that. And so I had such good examples. But these days, things are a little different out there. And so, you know, it's, again, then let's circle back to and then you took the risk of coming and doing it here. You were like, yeah, it's, I'm not like, the representation of relationships in my life

7:09has been pretty strong. Yeah. I'm going to come on a reality show. I feel like this is going to be where I find my, my partner for life. I like to do things a little different. Do you believe in love at first sight? No. I don't think so. I think you can see someone in me. Dammit. My days have been ruined for me. For me, I'm interested. I mean, my change, my mind. But, yeah, it's a wild thing to do, but I will say I did my research on the show and my parents had seen it. And this show is different than any other dating show. I think a lot of the, you know, in my opinion, 85% of the cast, whether it was girls on my farm or the other guys was, we're all actually there for genuine reasons, which I didn't really expect to be honest. I know there's to be a lot more of people there for the cloud and all that, but you would assume that everybody's showing up. It's that part of like, I want to be on a show and I think I wanted to make something of this. A lot of the shows that we see are like that. Right. And so this one's not that way. I think it's pretty genuine and it is pretty real and a lot of the cast, you know, I would say majority are faith-based people who are really there to meet somebody. I mean, I was pretty shocked. I would say almost all of the girls that I had selected were very genuine.

8:13So what was your, what was the trait? Obviously, you're looking for a woman who, you know, wants to move here and be your wife and give you 26 children. But what was the trait? 30 children. I was just accounting for maybe, you know, the slow start. What's the trait? The underlying trait. Obviously, you want protein. You want attractiveness. You want smartness. It would be a great mom and all that. Now give me something else. What's that hidden trait, that hidden gem that you're looking for? I think in today's dating climate, it's pretty rough out there. There's the people's morals are just not what they used to be and people are there for a lot of other reasons. I think it just comes down to loyalties, a big part of it, but just really how someone operates out other than being with me. Not just about us. Like how are you as a person in general? True. Yeah. What are you doing? No one's looking. I'm sure. But someone's always looking. It's usually, yeah. I find out that. Yeah. Well, especially when you're on a show like this.

9:14Yeah. Yeah. Everybody's looking. Yeah. Wow. What's your biggest turn off in dating? I'm writing a book here. I need to know this. Yeah. Well, I don't know. A lot of things. I think it's how you treat other people because I've dated girls in the past, maybe to me, they're great. And it's all fun. But then you see how they're talking about their friends or how they interact with the family or a waiter or whatever it is. It's smart. I like that. So you got to keep an eye out for that. Is that your biggest dick? I would say that's up there. Yeah. Someone mistreating someone else. It's not how I operate. Wow. Hmm. Well, now we have to get down to the, so I'm, I'm single in dating. I am not. I am not. No. But I'm working on him. She's, she's trying to get drinks in the all morning and I'm like, no. So are you open to dating divorced women? Are you open to dating older women? Tell me. I mean, you are. I'm relentless. I'm relentless. Are you talking about somebody specific on the couch, which is really, and I could sit closer to you. Let's make sure we get pretty even right now.

10:15Let's. Yeah. I have dated someone on the past as divorced. I had children already. So it would be open to it. You know, it just depends on the situation. I mean, you forgot the second part of the question. Older women. Oh. Don't answer. You don't have to answer that. You don't have to answer that. I didn't say me. I'm just going to take the heat off of you right now. I want you to feel comfortable sitting on this couch. Um, okay. Can we. So this. So this was brought to our attention earlier. Um, can we talk a little bit about Chelsea? Is that okay? Sure. Who do you want on that? Sure. I was. So, um, that. So Chelsea is who you ended up with. Yeah. Um, and I heard recently that, uh, that you guys. That you no longer, uh, follow her. You don't follow on Instagram and she doesn't follow you. And there's no limit to the number of people you can follow. So spill. What happens? Yes. You know, in a nutshell, um, we did date for a while after the show.

11:16And, uh, I think we liked each other. It was just it didn't pan out and not for any particular reason. So we're not even friends. Oh, I won't use that word. She's a, she's a great person of nothing. Not a single bad thing. Where is she from? She is from Texas. I thought so. Where? Yeah. Uh, small town. What do you mean you thought so? Cause I get around. Oh, okay. Where is she from? Texas. She doesn't tell us. You're not going to believe this. I know her. Really? No. Exactly. Exactly. You said you're not going to believe this. I just want to see you squirm and it worked. Yeah. Wow. So are you into square dancing or line dancing? No. You don't dance? No. They try to get me to do that on the show. Actually, one of the episodes and I refused. You cannot do it. I'm more of a free dancer, you know? After like 10 drawings, maybe I'll get out there and I just kind of take my time. Like in a circle. Like it. Yeah. And you're in and everybody's cheering. So you're kind of moving and killing over. Yeah. Okay. You could say that. Not a big choreographed dancer. All right. So I'm asking for a friend. If a woman is a bad kisser, is that a turn off or something you can work with?

12:20Oh, boy. You know, it's a lot more about a lot of other things. That's it. Get out of here. Come on now. No. Kissing is a big. Kissing is a big one. I think there's chemistry with somebody, you know? There is. There's nothing that takes you out of a situation. Yeah. Wait a minute here. Keep talking. Then bad kissing. Yeah. A bad kisser? You're right. Yeah. Of course, because it pulls you completely. It for me. It pulls you completely out of the moment. There have been times where I thought, ooh, this is really. This could be something. And then the kiss was bad. And it's like breaks. What if she was great and bad? Doesn't matter. Well, you don't want to eat cheese. The show is this. This is eye heart, man. This is how we're doing here. I told you. It's eye heart. I am on the dating scene. I'm getting it. I'm using you guys to get all the information. Well, okay. Yeah. I'm just a small humble farmer. Oh, Jesus Christ. Are you dating now? I don't kiss and tell. Oh, come on now. And you guys can kiss and tell me. Come on. He doesn't dance. I mean, who the hell wants to date you? Oh, well, I didn't say I didn't dance.

13:21You grow avocados. Come on. There's got to be more than that. Yeah. Are you dating now? I seem to be in quality. So I've dated around a little bit. Okay. Are you like an English major? It's a yes or no. Are you dating now? I have been dating. I have been. I have been. Like, let's use the commusa subjunctive. I would date if. Yeah. You know, this whole year has been a world winnance. You get to imagine afterwards. Oh, Jesus. Yeah. And so I'm just trying to make sure I'm in a good position to be with somebody else because there's a lot. One thing you don't realize maybe is there's a lot of stuff that comes along with being on a dating show. Yeah. For some reason. The pressure all of a sudden, I'm sure when you go out, people go orange. Well, that. And then, you know, someone got to see you, you know, eat a bunch of other people and set as their family and all that kind of stuff. So it couldn't happen to anyone. Morally, how was that for you? Having so many women and going through that. I tried my best to dating them all at the same time.

14:22Yeah. That was weird. It was harder than I thought because I think I didn't realize how real it was going to be. Yeah. So then a lot of people were really invested emotionally. Were you invested emotionally with more than one woman? Yeah. I think I knew it was going to be Chelsea from the beginning. I don't know from the beginning. There's such a whirlwind. There's so much going on. I think probably halfway through I realized that that was going to be the case. Wow. And so. How long does the season last? Like how long are you filming? Yeah. The filming was about five weeks, but it felt like six months. Yeah. It's an intense. Like it was. I think we had ten intense five weeks. I think we had two days off in the five weeks and you're filming all day, 9 a.m. to 10 p.m. sometimes. And are they picking all of the activities and the things that you do? They let me have a lot of creative freedom with like dates and that kind of thing. So they would kind of like set things up around what I wanted to do or things I like to do, which was pretty cool. That's great. Yeah. What was your best date? What were you doing? I mean, best date. What were you doing? Good one. What was I doing?

15:22Can you get your mind out of the gutter by a five and a half? I cannot. You're the one that said it. It wasn't me. Like what were you doing with your question? I was talking about your question. You weren't specific. You were throwing a saddle on a horse. Yes. I was feeding a baby goat, picking an avocados. You weren't specific. It was fun. It was really fun. Like the group kind of dates with all the girls because we'd be out like. I shot myself in the fiddle and that one. You know what I meant. I did. It was a blast. I mean, we're out there on my film. And these girls are all picking avocados. I was going to say on my show group date sucked. So just carry on. Yeah, that was a blast. And I really liked all the girls even besides like in a dating way. It was fun having them all there. There were neat people. I'm friends with a lot of them still so. So what's the biggest misconception then about farmers from? Just farmers in general. Across across the board. I mean, I would say farmers that are in this. I would assume that like a peanut farmer is very different. Yeah. There's a really big range. Like me and some of the guys got a lot of hate afterwards.

16:23I'm like, you're not a real farmer. Right. You're not growing correctly. Well, people think of a farmer and they think of a small town midwest. Like hardworking guy out there on a tractor all day. And that is the case with a lot of people. But like for us, we don't operate that way. We can't. We have to have labor crews and different pieces. So it's more like management and stuff like that. Sitting at this place absolutely brings that to light. Like, oh, this is, there's not one guy running all of this. This is like, you have a crew. Yeah. And he's making coffees. Yeah. There's a big range. That's what he does now. Yeah. I do. I really love making coffees. You want to bring them back. You're all about the coffee. And you're all about the vodka. Between the two of them. Listen, them's fighting words. You and I are going at it. Let's just settle on an espresso martini. And you know what? Matt. Now you really do want an older woman because that's one of my drinks. Oh, boy. Oh, boy. Okay. I have a question that people ask me all the time. I was on Golden Bachelor and Bachelor in Paradise. Did not find love on either one because what are you looking at? Look at how your ring figure will succeed. Oh. Oh.

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22:33Did you change? It's like a multifaceted question. Do you think of yourself differently? All those things. No, I don't think of myself differently at all. It's been a really amazing experience. I've made a lot of good friends out of it, which is really cool. I think I am now going through all this stuff and all this. I'm just like, okay, I know what I want, like, I'm not going to- What do you want? Uh-huh. What do you want? Oh, I want to be with my wife now, you know? What? I don't know why, whoever that may be, but I am really looking at someone's morals at this point, not just, you know, not just looks. The fun, the heat coming off of this end of the couch is, like, unbelievable. Let me just tell you something. Thank God this is an air conditioned room. Yeah. Let me just tell you something. I will get you back. This day is not over. No, it's not. It's going to be a long day. Yeah. Yeah. So, okay, so you really are seriously looking- I mean, because I'm a mother of three and you're a little younger than my youngest child, so I could adopt you or I could date you.

23:34Yeah. One of the two. But I would say, you know, 32, you could, you could, you could shop around for a while. Good. I don't want to though. Yeah, I think after all this experience, there's a blast obviously getting attention from girls' Norse thing, but I'm really looking, I get fooled before a lot when I was younger on looks and all this, you know, having fun and all that, but I think you come to realize that if you're not with someone who respects you and has the same morals and cares about your family and all that, it's just not going to work, it might be fun for a little bit, but- Oh, I love it. I'm serious. That as a mom, I love hearing that because that's what you want for your children. You want them to realize that there's so much more. I was married almost 46 years before my husband passed away and marriage is an easy and so I love hearing you say that you're- No, I mean, there's going to be a lot of tough stuff you go through no matter what, and so you don't want someone that's- I don't know, somebody's good looking at you. How tough can it be, really? Well, it's going to sound like one of them.

24:38It's not about that, though, I'm going to say, you know, I'm looking way past all that stuff now. All right, so I have one more question for you and then you're taking it away, because I know you have a lot. What advice do you have for the farmers from, you know, from Braden and Sean and Brent? Season four farmers. I'm excited for those guys. I got to talk to Sean quite a bit. He called me before filming a couple of times during and after, and so I try to give him as much information as I could possibly advice that I had, but I would just say, you know, have fun with this. This is at once on a lifetime experience. Not a lot of people get to do this. Had you ever met any of these guys before this? No. Not at all. I reached out and they were like, hey, you were on this shot. Like we need just a little inside information. Yeah, you know, to expect a man's crazy and they don't give you a lot of information going into it. Right. And they give you an idea, but you don't know how it's going to be day to day. So mostly just have fun with it. It's really easy to get like in your head and get like, you know, locked into this whole

25:38thing, you know, but just have fun. I think the real dating comes after the show. Like once you choose that girl, everything kind of fades and the cameras are gone. So how did it change for you? Which part? When you say, I agree with you, not that I would know, I've never been chosen, but there's my times coming. Yeah. It's there. Look at that. But seriously, I imagine being in that bubble, how is it so different when you come off the show? Well, it was wild. Like me and the other guys were traveling around the country, generalists, press and media stuff. We're going to these big events and there's girls that are chasing you around and asking for photos and lots to happen. You know, you get kind of caught up in it for a second or like, this is pretty fun. But besides all of that, that's just not going to last. You know, it's a fun experience, but it's nothing to do with a real relationship. So I think, in my opinion, the show gets you to the point where you can learn enough about these girls, where you can pick someone that you think it's going to work with and then from there, the real process starts.

26:38It takes time. You start really dating. You're not dating here. No. I mean, you're getting to know somebody, but in five weeks, I mean, there's a lot more to learn and it takes time. You know what? I've just got a brilliant idea. I'm a producer at heart. When these guys, they've chosen, apparently, I mean, the season's going to start airing. Why don't you find out who they didn't choose? You've got, you have 27. No. No. No. Okay. Just thought it. Oh, those are, you know, try to be respectful here. No, sloppy seconds for this guy. Right. No. There's something to that idea though. I think that's a good. Like, I think there's a, there's an after the show show kind of. I think there's a lot of aspect to that that could be fun. Yeah. There's definitely like, it happened. How was it for you going from being on a farm and having a very sort of simple life to all of a sudden being within this tornado, because that's what these situations are. I mean, you shoot this for five weeks and then you go back home and then all of a sudden

27:39the season airs and you're back out doing all of this press and all of this stuff. Is it just insane? Yeah. It's a roller coaster. I mean, you're living your own regular life at home. And one day, like 30 people roll up and bands and all this equipment and all this stuff. And all of a sudden you're doing all this crazy stuff and then you're on the today show and then you're flying around with all these Fox folks doing these different things and it's, you know, it's like a real high, high. And then you come home the next day and then you're sitting there by yourself. Right. Yeah. Yeah. What just happened? Yeah. You're doing that kind of back and forth for a while. Yeah. You're on the red carpet one day and you're shoveling out of a barn the next. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. And then we're going to the red carpet at the same awards. And we're going to our photos taken. We're next to like all these, you know, Alan Jackson and all these like famous guys and we're like pinching ourselves. And then we didn't get the right credentials for some reason. Someone messed up or whatever. And then we leave the red carpet and they wouldn't even let us into like the event. They like to know we were. I'm like, I swear I am fun. And that is like we're like out in the slides and the lowest lows.

28:40And I'm like, I swear we're just on the red carpet with the guys performing. Please let us in. Make sure that when we're taking, it's me, you saw, yeah, I don't wear these boots just anywhere. Yeah. Okay. So now that you are, now that you are becoming an older man at the right age of almost 32 gone from give me for saying this. What's the birthday plan? What are you doing? You know what I'm trying to do this year? Usually go out and throw a big party or all stuff. But I'm trying to. Yeah. Either tomorrow. No. I have nine nieces and nephews. I'm going to try to take them all camping. Seriously. That's cool. That's cool. I thought that would be a cool memory. Women will love that seriously that you are take care of your. Men will love that. Like that is not. He doesn't want men. No. I'm not saying because he wants men. I'm saying like, that's a cool my, my son, my who just turned 12. That's like he wants to go camping.

29:40Yeah. That's something like. Well, I just didn't get him in on the birthday party. It's a, it's a destination thing. Yeah. It's an experience. I, I, that's cool. Yeah. I mean, I've done all this really cool stuff. Crazy experiences. No, I'll ever get in my opinion. That's, I'd rather be doing that. You know. So you really are a family guy. Yeah. For sure. It's the simple things. That. Yeah. You're at the right place. You're on a farm. Yeah. I like it here. I might see if Sean will let me move in. Yeah. That was amazing having you here. Thank you. Farmer Matt. How does that feel? First name being Farmer. Now, we talked about this before. Yeah. You know what? I'll never live it down amongst my family. But you've embraced it. I haven't embraced it. Yeah. I'll take it. So we're happy to be invited back. We're going to spend a day talking to some other farmers, some other people from the show. Yeah. We're going to talk with farmer Brett and farmer Braden and farmer Sean. And we're going to touch notes with them. Don't take it easy on them. Oh, no, no. I live to take it easy. Yeah. Not really. It'll be like putting wrestling and stuff like it'll be all sorts of things.

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34:43Okay, so we're back. Brian and Kathy sitting here with Brett, another farmer. We're so excited to get into it with you here. So, I want, first question for you. What was it about the show that made you want to take the leap of faith compared to other days? Compared to other dating shows that are out there. I would say the main thing about this show is that you have a major wholesome component to it. It's not just about being promiscuous or seeing what you can do or how many times you can take your shirt off. This one's more so about you're bringing people into your hometown and you're trying to find the right person that fits in with who you are as a person. And going from there. So, you know, I don't think I would have done any other show other than this one. Really? Wow. So, Brett, you were a bull rider. Did you ever break any bones? Yeah. Mostly concussions, but broke ribs, tore ligaments, my forearm, my wrist, and got my leg stepped on a line.

35:49I'm about six inches too tall to be a bull rider. Can I just tell you, I rode a mechanical bull once and that ended my bull riding career. Just say it. It's not the riding. It's drinking too much. It's drinking too much. It's the falling off it. Yeah. For sure. So, I'm curious. You mentioned finding the wholesome relationship that this is a wholesome show. So, I'm guessing that you come from a wholesome family. What kind of wholesome family? What kind of household did you grow up and tell me a little bit about it and your parents' relationship? Because I'm guessing that helped inform what you were looking for. Yeah. I mean, well, one grew up in a Christian household, and that's a big part of it. And then two, you, I mean, I think for all of us, actually, you kind of model what your parents do is as, you know, your path to a good relationship, especially if they have a good relationship. So, for me, it was pretty much just seeing how my parents treated each other and how they have been in their marriage, my whole life.

36:49And you kind of learn from them and use that to go on. Wow. True. That's true. Many times you feel like you've been really in love. And I know love changes as you get older. So, now at this point in life compared to in your 20s, how is it different? I mean, how many times have I actually been in it probably once? One where I, you know, I was like, you know, that's probably going to be it for me. And I was young, but the older you get, like you said, it changes. And you kind of understand more about relationships and how they're supposed to feel. And it's not just what I call being love struck when everything's great at the moment. And then it turns out not to be so great. Like you think you're in love, but six months down the road, you know, it changes. And so, when I was about my mid 20s, I had a strict three-month rule. So, after about three months is when you start seeing true sales come out and relationships.

37:54So, I always gave it three months before I decided if that's somebody I actually wanted to date or if it's somebody I didn't. Yeah, smart. I learned recently that, not learned recently, but I really understood the concept of it recently. People always talk about the honeymoon phase in a relationship. I honestly think that the honeymoon phase is how long you can fake it. Fake being the person that you think the other person wants to be with. But then after a while, of course, you're going to get stressed out. You're going to have a tough day that all of a sudden that mask comes off and then it's you. And then that honeymoon phase is over because now you guys are seeing who you truly are. And sometimes you don't like who you see. I think it's important to start off without that, like to just jump right in and be who you are. Yeah, no, I mean, I do too. And that's a big thing about this show that I went into it with. And I told the girls on the first day, I said, I don't care what you look like we make up on.

38:58I don't care who you are when cameras are rolling. I was like, I want to see who you are when there is nobody around. Because that's what you're going to be because that's what you're going to get. And so for me, I wanted to make that a point from the very beginning to where be yourself around me because I'm going to see who you are around each other all day every day. So I'm going to figure it out eventually. So it's better just to do it now. And then it's kind of like the dating apps that I know a lot about. When you go on a day nap and you go to meet a guy and they're like 20 years older, 50 pounds heavier. Like did you think I wouldn't notice? Yeah, I would. You think I wouldn't meet you exactly. And so you are like somebody said here earlier, say what you mean. You say who you are because that's ultimately what you're going to follow my words or not. It's lasting, man. That's right. You've got to be. You've got to be yourself. Okay. So those are really, really important things for relationship.

40:00And I admire you that your age you have figured it out. I'm really impressed. But now I am from Texas and I do like tequila. Yes, ma'am. So I know that you do. I don't know how do you like that? I was such a great. That was a great second. Okay. So I do love tequila. Yes, ma'am. And there's nothing better than a tall tequila soda and a little bit of lime. But you do own a tequila brand and you did say you're going to send me a bottle, right? I'll send you. Yeah. It's now been on the podcast. So it will happen. Yes. You said it publicly. You said it publicly. Yeah. I'll send you a couple cases. A couple of cases. Wait. Wait. They're in the sales or category. It's not a bottle of tequila. A sales or category. A drink. I don't care. That's what I'm saying. I mean, but it's not saying. It's like cans. It's less for me to mix. I love it. Okay. So, here's my question. Yes ma'am. What to go with that fabulous tequila soda seltzer? What is your favorite romantic meal to eat while sipping on one of those seltzer's?

41:05And who's cooking it? Yeah. Um, I mean, a salsa in particular, I don't, no, I'm just joking. Yeah, no, no, no. What's your favorite romantic meal? Favorite romantic meal would probably be, I don't know, I love Italian food when I can get it. And if you have, what's your favorite? Real Italian food. Like what's your favorite Italian food? I mean, anything, anything Italian is my one of my favorite. Well, like there's chicken paccata, there's spaghetti bolognese. Chicken paccata's way up there for me. Look at that, huh? Well, too bad you're already taken or maybe already taken or it could be taken. Again, Italian food is the best. It's just so simple. Yeah. And it's so good. Even like the crappy Italian food I can still deal with. I can give you the red neck answer and say fried catfish. But can I just tell you, Brad, fried catfish is not Italian. No, it's not, but it's Southern. It's okay. So your most romantic meal is Italian.

42:06Yeah, I'd say so, I'd say so. While drinking tequila. While drinking tequila? Yeah. Why not? I agree. Really? I do. What's your, what's your romantic meal? Oh, if I'm having a romantic meal, it's going to start with oysters because they are affidavits. Oh, yeah. So let's start with that. And then who cares what you have to do it? Yeah, that after that. Wait, you can't eat them, Brian? Oh, I can't. So I'm not big on them either. What are you like? Not after hearing about them just being sponges. I just don't, it's, they're not. You know, like slippery stuff, huh? Well, and it's, it's like salty and it's a weird, like, you taste the ocean. It's like, I don't know. I'm not, I see a point. Thank you. Thank you, Brad. I like that. My fiancee loves them. I'll watch her eat them all day long. So true story here. I never had a muscle. My husband loved oysters, muscles, named some other things, clams. I used to look at them the way you're talking, like that is disgusting. It's slippery. I know it's where it's been.

43:07It's hung out. Literally. Raffery died. I thought, well, you know, everything else gone to hell. Let's try a muscle. And I love them. You take this thing out of losing a partner. You really do. Yeah. Yeah. Such a way with words. All right. So Brad, real, real quick, last question. Yeah. You're the oldest farmer on the show. Have you ever gotten close to getting married before? I mean, what is it that makes you feel like you might be ready now? Yeah. I mean, the closest that I've gotten was when I was 20, 20, 21 years old. And like I said, that's, you know, that really young to be doing something like that. But I don't know, man, I don't settle. And this isn't, this wasn't me going in desperation trying to find a wife or anything like that. It was more so of, you know, what, this is a good opportunity to meet some people that I'm never, that I would have never met.

44:07And, you know, if something great comes out of it, then it's a win. If something doesn't, I'm going to go right back to doing what I was doing. Right. No loss. Yeah. There's no way to lose here. Right. So you wait. You're saying you're a different, I mean, obviously you are, but you're much more different now and looking for different things now than you were at, let's call it 21. Yeah. Because at 21, you're just looking for the hottest thing or, you know, something that's fun at the time. And you don't really understand what. You don't really understand what you actually want, because you change throughout your 20s. Yeah. And like who I was at 21 and who I was at, and who I was at 30 is a completely different person and they're looking for completely different things. So and I think that's why a lot of people get in trouble nowadays where they feel like they got a settle and jump on the marriage trend early and they end up getting divorced by 27, 28. And it's, I mean, it's just because every, it's the, it's the shiny thing in front of

45:09you, right? I jumped on it early too, because my father by the time he was 24, he had me and he had married my mom who already had three kids. Yeah. It was like, I'm like, your father was 20, 24, he married a woman that had two kids and had me. Yeah. I mean, in my parents got married by when they were 21, 23. I got married a lot of time. And he's like 29. I was like, I got to get like, what am I doing? Are you from around here? I'm from North Hollywood. Okay. And it will so, and I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm, I guess it's some more similar, but like in the south, like it's, that's, you know, one of the things you do, you, you get married young, have babies and I got married when I was 20, 10 days after I turned 20. I got married and everybody I, and I'm from Massachusetts originally and everybody thought I was pregnant. Shotgun when it wasn't, I didn't have kids for eight and a half years, but I think you're right. Yeah. And seeing the south, that would be a normal, a married, normal marriage, you know, but for me, I'm just always the type not to settle for anything unless I'm 100% sure about

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