What's the difference in being meek or being weak?

0:00Hello and welcome to the Hot Pot Line. It is a wonderful Wednesday and I'm hoping and happy you are here with us. Tracy is moving about so you just totally distracted me all my word I didn't like seeing the little wires that was bothering me bothered me all day you could see the wires in my right corner I couldn't see the wires I could see the wires sounds good to me how's everybody Dylan I'm done excellent wait so good so good the sun is shining we have longer days I know I'm very tired but I'm very happy I know I slept in today yes not me I set my clocks I

1:08slept set my clocks forward right around three o'clock on Saturday went to bed at the appropriate hour I've been fine I still hate it you're an amazing human being I love it getting up and the sun is out I don't like it six o'clock in the morning I literally woke up at six I agree and I was like I can't do anything it's dark outside right so you're back to sleep till seven exactly what I did I'm not kidding you but you know what I hate is when it's 6 p.m. and it's dark out right to do outside at that time I rather have longer days I can find so many things to do at 6 p.m. outside I went to I went grocery shopping look at that I normally don't I know what happened in Stegart but there was still so much like like daylight out there I'm like I'm like you want to go to public oh my gosh it's the day is young oh my it is weird when I'm like how was it

2:08already seven o'clock at night I have a little bit thrown off yeah I mean I'm not I'm not hating it completely it just prefer one or the other I heard that I prefer the other I heard that though I mean who was it at my house recently that was saying to me they were sad about it you're husband he said it at her time Sunday oh yeah well I think it was Tommy he's been dramatic remember he was like I can't stand it he said it tonight he's a night hour oh that's why he likes the dark we all like I mean my whole family maybe not Norma we're all Dracula's and and she is a bright morning star she is the sunshine person I'm not saying she's a sunshine person now she is not a sunshine person okay okay but not sunny at all it's to be one in the mix I mean if anybody is and I mean it's it's it's like not even I'm pushing it when I say this it

3:10would be Taya and that's pushing it because Taya ain't a son shiny person either no it really doesn't depend like I will say this like there are certain people that walk in the house and they're always like and that's like friendly or something that is none of us that walk into my house that not one person yeah like if you saw Drew Drew's probably always going to be like always always leave end hi yeah that's a sunshine person okay nice yes so yeah everybody else no you're dreaming you wish you wish it's not gonna happen you can't you can't carry it that long long enough you know life life all right I'm gonna do the sponsors really quick and then I'm gonna have

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8:17into her and of course we're on tiktok so we've got all the different options for you to follow um pastor tom has his two pages we definitely follow those and he's takes somebody off uh oh on his most recent on the tiktok yeah that was the red shirt one it's eternal security whoo hard up man okay i'll have to check it out i like i like when tiktok gets mad i don't like when instagram gets mad i just i don't yeah tiktok i feel like it's a while while less nobody it doesn't like for some reason doesn't like catch i don't know it doesn't end up in the other stuff instagram ends up in our Facebook and in the things and blah blah so anyways but yeah so foundation chip foundation worship there it is um we are also on there as well so you'll want to follow all of those um this week we've got christian hall coming on friday so she'll be here at 7 p.m. tonight 30 p.m. and on saturday um march 14th from 10 a.m. to 12 30 p.m. definitely want to come

9:19definitely want to hear what she has to say um hope do you have anything specific that you want to share about you'll regret it i was we're not taping it so it's not even live streamed right like no but you will not want to miss it that's for sure yes because you think you know but i mean literally it's the difference between uh i'm not i'm not trying to be dramatic here or something even though it sounds dramatic but it can be as big a difference between being arrested and not being arrested and if you are arrested how do you make sure you don't go to jail i mean it's literally that's good smarts i mean it's that's skilled of information across the board so you're crazy if you don't come yeah and because and the other thing is like there's a lot of information up there right now and like what who do you trust you know what i mean like that's why i love pastor tom's podcast because i know if i listen to him he's not pulling from something from a third party person that we don't know it's like he's

10:23getting the real information and he's backing it to the bible and he's spirit led and so she's a believer she's a constitutional attorney she's studied she's done all her things um like kind of you're getting it from the source yeah um i always love that i feel that's the efficiency inside of me instead of like having to hear a tick-tock and then having to go see if that actually is true or not you can sit under somebody that you can actually trust which is ideal and this world action where nothing is really trustworthy anymore um okay next actually let me small i'll do this one first fine um it's time to start sharing our service so if you go on to our social media page or if you come live on a Sunday we have invites and you can get those at the merch store is there anywhere else they can get that i just i think the breeders i think are supposed to be passing them out okay um yeah i saw them at the merch store so yeah the breeders are passing these out um if you if you missed it for some reason they're at the merch store you can just grab a few um make sure you're praying over them and make sure you're handing them out don't let them get like lost in the car um but really do this because you never know like that one

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12:24andria what are you excited about for crave i feel like everybody can worship in their own way without having any eyes on them any judgment it has a different um five to send it mornings and i'm just really excited because i think we're gonna have a great hey dad what are you excited about for crave i am most excited about the body of christ getting together and worshiping in one heart and in unity and in one voice i'm forgetting now Josh what do you say about for crave i'm just excited to see how many people show up because it gets bigger every time we got to pack this place out ayo kasey what are you excited about for crave uh let's see here great people great music uh cameras with god and just a fun night ayo kyle what are you excited about for crave i'm excited to play some crazy piano with our worship leader i could have i could have i could have guessed what basically every single one of them that i have like some form of relationship with i could have guessed like how that was gonna go down like the only person that surprised me is christine

13:28i was expecting her to do something wild and crazy and she was so i know you're black right now yeah well it's the crave thing it's okay there okay crave a night of worship here i'll put norm on there okay there it is so yeah because we're still talking about crave and so yeah talia i mean uh christine was the only one i was expecting something crazy from her but she was so serious they put that that camera in your face and then you're like supposed to say something they interviewed me on Sunday exactly exactly i i was nervous too why Vanessa you were nervous so many there's so many bloopers what yeah i forgot the english language well it is your second so there might be a reason for that i promise i'm not retarded i know no judgment here

14:30oh did you see me Vanessa you know what i'm doing huh i'm zipping my lips that's it and i'm throwing away the key right because of yeah i beg to differ you zipped your lips oh that's all i'm going to say you grabbed the key i unzipped it she didn't see it so i hey hey hey yeah very good i mean but why are you nervous to talk you talk in front of people like why would you be like right now i don't know it is different when there's like a camera like literally like this in your face now go and i'm like oh my gosh he just broke out in song oh my gosh okay last one so crave is coming up don't miss that um and then we will not have podcast next week friday we will be here so don't don't like not show up but next week

15:34we're not here so that's that's all i offer today that's that that works for me okay i was like this as a fun board we'll say you leave maybe as much as bored as the rest of all of us are i mean announcements they have to be done they have to be done we got to know what's going on they have to be done we got to have people showing up because i don't want to hear i didn't know right which is what we normally hear now i didn't remember i didn't know you can't say set an alarm i've got like five thousand on this thing oh my gosh even people forgot that it was spring forward that's crazy that's crazy it's twenty twenty six people yeah we would have people that would show up late yeah it was it was definitely lighter very early on but it definitely filled up again so i'm wondering if people they forgot showed up a little bit late that's right okay but how can you forget like your phones they immediately do it right yeah unless you're not putting an alarm on right i know oh maybe that's true i'm like because i was thinking same but if you didn't put

16:37your alarm because you're used to your body clock i don't trust my body clock i mean i never do the normages that hurts does not exist i do not trust my body i wake up at the same time all the time i just i'm afraid that one day one day i won't pass out yeah because it has happened to me that one day has happened a few days i know a few times yeah i don't like it i don't either hate that feeling especially when you think you said it oh yeah and then you find out you didn't said it because you find out you didn't wake up or you said it for six p.m then that's a way times done that so many times that was not fun so i always triple check yes yeah all right ready to go into the topic let's do this all right so i thought i prayed about like i was well i don't know if i prayed or i was just talking to the Lord let me see that shirt you get on there really quick oh my gosh okay that's yes go and stand so people can see it that is so

17:4180s 90s listen i graduated high school and the day of my last day of high school i wore a vest sweater vest very similar to that we have a picture of me going leaving for school my last day of school and it was not with a t-shirt underneath it just the sweater vest like that that's why i was like women at what it reminds me Rachel of friends that's what i thought when i saw it yep right i'm gonna find it yeah there you go now back to more serious business although that's very cute thank you that's girls if you guys watching this right now sorry oh wow i'm sorry that's how we work so i so i told the girls uh yesterday i said we're gonna do the podcast on biblically like a lot of times people in modern Christianity think that the biblical uh way to handle things is to be weak not meek and there is a very big difference between

18:47meekness and weakness and we're gonna find out what that looks like because um there is a definitive difference between the two and weakness is like being a coward i liken it to being cowardice whereas meekness is strength with self-control very different the two are very very different um i'll get out i'll read some of the things that i wrote down many people think being a good Christian means being passive quiet and never confronting anything but the bible never calls believers to be weak never um if it did then it wouldn't say that the coward we're not will not inherit the kingdom of heaven and being weak is again a form of cowardiceness depending on what the serenario is that you're in um let's look at what the scriptures say um Matthew 5 and the

19:52amplify classics as blessed on the meek and if you look up the i'm not gonna dive deep into it but if you looked at what that word blessed means and it's broken down man you would want to be meek when you know the b attitudes which is blessed are those who and it lists all the things and everyone starts out with blessed uh to find out what that i mean it tells you your reward at the very end of the the things that it says if you are this then you will reap this reward but the blessed part is pretty powerful which you know i never paid i never paid attention to it until i did this study i never looked at the word blessed and i was like holy moly like it's so powerful i almost left it in but i was like that's not learning so i'm not gonna keep it but it was so good it's like it's a power pack punch at the beginning and at the very end okay of how good God is

20:53for those of us who who walk these these traits out blessed are the meek and the word meek here is the mild patient long suffering for they shall inherit the earth so meekness is controlled strength submitted to God in my opinion that would be a great way to define it it's submitted it's it's submitted strength controlled by God or controlled strength submitted to God control strength submitted to God um it's not the absence of strength it's you are strong but that strength is submitted to him uh hold on let me read i want to only hit some certain parts right now do you guys want to say anything or keep going yeah i heard that it like we always said strength strength restrained so yeah you

21:54have your strength and it's restrained by the Holy Spirit did we and that's also what were we talking about last week because that was also uh oh yeah of the very same thing because i i said the same thing it's you're strained mm-hmm when silence is more spiritual so we were talking controlling the tongue yeah controlling the tongue not having your opinion but keeping your opinion to yourself knowing when to give your opinion and when not to give it yeah and most of the time you don't need to give your opinion most of the time which true last week's was very difficult for me i'm way better than i used to be yeah but yeah and in being fully transparent mm-hmm that that's uh if you are anything like me you may be on the other side of of learning how to not give your opinion on everything but in the midst of getting to the other side of that it's dagum hard i can imagine what do you mean you can imagine because i like

22:57saying words so like sometimes just not like i don't have to always say what i think so it's not always an opinion but there is definitely times where i like want to say like oh yeah yeah and like i have also have an example it's not necessarily opinion but i have words so i i is that and that's hard for you on that side of things yes like because i'm like oh oh like it's pops into my brain and i want to say it because i like relate to you or i have like an idea so it's not necessarily opinion but i i can it's you know you words and you want to say them oh gosh so many yeah that does apply to so i mean that's the reason why i says like your words be few but yeah i never thought about it like that because i probably am like that too yeah like i have examples that right like they pop into your head as somebody's talking and all the time yeah and some people feel like it's like you're being disrespectful it's taking away from what they're saying the important yeah yes and you're bringing the spotlight to you right and really where you are like i just want to relate i want you to know that i know what it feels like to be in that situation because of this

23:57one story but it's like no and then sometimes i think you're one-uping them too right like you're not you're just like yeah it's stealing their thunder yeah yeah so i have to just listen when you should just listen whereas you can listen to a someone's story and then ask questions and be curious about their their first their perspective of what that story is and then i'm the very and you can say well you know something similar happened to me right that's how it's using tact mm-hmm yeah it's knowing when to say yeah that's another problem i've had in life i know a lot of problems are had a lot of problems just for fun it's for finding my mom used to say to me when are you going to learn to be tacked yeah i'm like i don't know i think she was saying that to me in my late 20s early 30s yeah right yeah makes sense oh yeah with me yeah because like i can say anything and i move on right right it's the person i'm saying it too yes yeah there's like

25:01a filter that's off yeah right yeah there was no filter okay there wasn't even a filter that was off the filter did not exist okay that's part of the problem and those of you there are people that are listening to this right now and you don't think it's you it's you you get your delusional you like you just need to own it yeah that's what a lot of people and then once you own it please do something about it right i hate when people tell me things that they realize about themselves and they do squat just like that's just who i am that's just who i am or they're like they won't even say that this is who they are they'll acknowledge it and that it needs to change but then they don't change and i'm like that's worse because that is worse it's better for you not to know and do nothing then for you to know and do nothing yeah i agree i hate that yeah no i agree literally hated i cannot stand it yep oh everybody's everybody's going over there for you you got your peanut

26:03peanut gallery both sides hold on i'm doing this one this one okay okay tell everybody what that one means because i didn't know what we've added this was our old one this one this is well it's still the same right so same this is silenguage for for eight yeah for eating so when you say something that's pretty like like mic dropped worthy like you ate that and you left no crumbs no crumbs nothing on the table i don't trust i don't do that very often doing i get one of these it's gonna it's gonna be really good otherwise we're just doing the right then this one is like one like a degree lower you know like multiple that was good but it didn't it was like we like that yeah it was good but it didn't eat you clap clap you left some crumbs you left some crumbs but it's okay clap it was still my drop yeah yeah yeah exactly i love it okay okay and you know another thing is is i love this because it reminds me of my husband

27:05about because i think he's a very meek person in a lot a lot a lot of ways yes um you know like he this is where i think he defines meekness is when you have the ability to retaliate yeah but you don't right and it's not because it's not because you're afraid and it's not because you're unwilling it's because you choose righteousness over yes retaliation correct and to vindicate yourself you're allowing the lord because he said he would do that and revenge is his vindication is his and when you don't do that and you are meek in those situations and you don't retaliate yeah man that's a powerful thing it is strength reserved meek strength to train with strength restraint okay strength restraint it's so good meekness is also describes as a horse that is trained really the horse because the bride is all of its strength right but it's disciplined

28:11okay interesting okay it's it's not weak it's controlled it's not yeah uh-huh that's good because it's powerful uh that is a beast man yeah horse is powerful right i see why that would be a great mm-hmm and you know Jesus was also extremely meek because if you definition of oh yeah well that's true he's the fruits of this he outside of the Holy Spirit he's just modeled it because like in the midst of everything he could have he could have called foul he could have called angels in like um what was the number of angels it said that there were a multitude i guess it's right um he could a legion a legion of angels when he was going to the cross or when the devil was trying to when he had been fasting for the 40 days and he could have in the midst of all these things that came his way he chose not to he had authority over him and he still didn't call

29:18them in and a lot make them submit to his authority and take him out of the issue or whatever the situation was so more than 12 legions of angels which would have been 72,000 angelic warriors oh my gosh not crazy right and i think it was Psalm 91 that um the devil was was um telling Jesus about um in the in the wilderness um i'm trying to he used the scripture yeah he's Psalm 91 to go to go against Jesus about how it said that he could call the right yes i yes i believe that's true i believe i think it's that Psalm yeah but i'm not hundred percent sure a thousand may fall at your side no wait i don't think i'll find it oh yeah here it is um if you say the Lord is my refuge and you're you make the most high your dwelling place no harm will overtake you know disaster will come near your tent for he will command his

30:18and his angels concerning you to guard you in all your ways thank you thank you for finding that yeah yeah yeah he had access to angels and he didn't and he did nothing that's i mean yeah and he could have avoided the cross yep at all costs and he did not which is so like if we truly understood like the power we in authority we walk in and the tools that have been given to us in order to help us walk in the power and the authority along with the great examples i have lists of great Bible characters that we're going to go through at the very end that exuded hmm these traits are meekness for us to be able to it's like all different things these uh strong and mighty people of the Lord did when they could have retaliated or they could have gone a different route they chose to be meek in in that situation and we can look at that and

31:21you we can use that for us and say i can do that right he did that i can do that um because a lot times people will use Jesus well that was Jesus right well i yeah i get it but he said we would do greater works than him so like but he was also a hundred percent human right to you know i mean like he holy spirit slash human yeah but he was a hundred percent man and a one hundred percent god like he second Adam yeah yeah so i don't know Matthew 2653 and the new living translation says don't you realize that i could ask my father for thousands of angels to protect us and he would send them instantly yeah and the thing is is for you it's not really much different if you find yourself in a situation where you're going to have to strap on that fruit of the spirit which is to be meek you need to understand that really you could be eradicated or extracted out of that situation by asking the Lord you mean we all do we have angels that go before us and that are with us there are

32:26certain situations where you could say Lord i don't want to go through this help me and that particular situation could be eliminated for you but is that the best situation or do you just like need to take on that situation and be meek through it and when you get to the other side of it you are so much stronger there's so much faith because a lot of times people can't handle what they're about to walk through so they'll go either side step it or they'll go backwards so they don't have to face it just face it head on and you be shocked at what God would God will do for you let's see in 2nd Timothy 224 and 25 says the servant of the Lord must not quarrel but must be kind to everyone able to teach and be patient with difficult people gently instruct those who oppose the truth so like i said with about Tom he's very meek

33:31even though he doesn't retaliate he can be meek without retaliation but that's because of righteousness and that is right there the same thing you you can confront without losing righteousness you can be meek in the midst of all these things without like a lot of people don't like this part gently instruct those who oppose the truth okay you can be meek in doing that and a lot of people that's where they find their weak because they're too afraid to to uh instruct gently instruct those who oppose the truth most people don't want to tell anybody the truth about anything i just was talking to somebody uh several days ago who is having to tell somebody that they love dearly that spiritually speaking they are very wrong and it was going to be a very tough situation they they obviously did it and and are going to do it but

34:34how they did it would show how meek they are and uh because a lot of people like to confront and be aggressive when they when they have to instruct or rebuke incorrect and sometimes people will take you there like you're going to have to like really stand your ground but there's something to be said there are scenarios where it's a gentle instruction that you don't won't be received i don't know how to explain this no it's true i don't know how to say what i'm trying to say the difference between the two but i think sometimes the underlining thing i think what i've noticed is with people when they do have to get into a place where they have to you know go against the situation if there's any insecurity in the way that it might out like the outcome might come it sometimes

35:36comes out aggressive because it's like you're not a hundred percent sure i've noticed when we do apologetics that um sometimes when we're doing the role play thing sometimes when the ones like start to get like kind of aggressive they don't they're not a hundred percent sure so they kind of like get flustered and then the ones that are a hundred percent sure and they know exactly where they're going next they like smile they sit back their demeanor is different and so i do confident super confident yeah and that that leads to meekness because you know like at any minute you can like attack if you need to but you know you already know what's coming next you know the next question that's coming you know the rebuke you're gonna get you know they're gonna be upset but you already know how to like unfold that and you're going towards salvation like you're gonna try to see if you can get them saved so and when you do it so much there's that confidence that comes from it and the position of your heart that posture oh my gosh in why you're rebuking that person matters too true you know what i mean if you're doing it because you want to prove it you prove yourself right or whatever then you might it might come out more aggressive than if you're the

36:40if the main goal is is for that person to be restored like you would you would approach it differently you would communicate in a in a way that they would receive from you and not like close the door well you know i think too it really it shows how strong your character is by how restrained you are in responding fleshly or carnally do you know i'm saying i do for sure because i think there is a time where you have to like stand your ground and you have to be sure but i do think made a whip but i think for the most part it's like let your words be few which is really where we're supposed to land most of the time i think we're supposed to land most of the time on meekness which really shows the strength of your character and like your

37:44carnality doesn't win your flesh doesn't dictate right like how you're going to respond is that's that's one of the reasons why like i am so impressed with tom a lot of times because i'm like man like you could like when people are really nasty and rude and mean like he could literally pound them into the ground and he just doesn't do it but i also i think being a cop and knowing for so long that you know they don't matter it's not that the person doesn't matter it doesn't matter what they're saying yeah yeah exactly that does the end of the day just not worth it it's not worth your peace it's not going to change anything anyway yeah it is not worth your peace so yeah yeah honor like honor yourself i guess yeah probably 1632 says better to be patient than powerful better to have self-control than to conquer a city and self-control is another fruit of the

38:49spirit it is sure and anyone can explode react or defend their ego ochi mama but meekness requires emotional restraint spiritual maturity trust in God's justice that reminds me of a story that Jeff shared recently where it was it was brought to his attention that this one person like cheated the company almost eight thousand dollars and it was it was revealed to Jeff and once later they're sitting at the same table they're at the same conference sitting at the same table and Jeff had an opportunity to like like give him an earful absolutely and Jeff chose not to and he sat there and turns out that person who cheated Jeff of eight thousand dollars or cheated the company

39:54not Jeff personally that year it actually cost that person's company over a million dollars he lost a million dollars because not because of cheating right but yeah so he's so some bad fruit or bad seed yeah you're reaping so and so that's just shut like don't mess with God's people oh my gosh all the time oh man the thing is they're crazy because you're gonna get you're gonna get seven times back whatever stolen from you yeah right you lost a million dollars that year I know I'm not surprised I was like it's wild the stories that I hear when people do certain things to Christians I sit back and watch when I hear about certain things and it hasn't the the the um the Lord hasn't moved in that direction yet but I sit back and watch when people have been done wrong I sit back and watch and wait and see how God vindicates them it makes me nervous for those

40:56people like I know I know yo yo like if you only know if you only know they don't you don't want to go down that road yeah you just don't and and and going back to this about going well here's the thing I'm not gonna even go back to it if you look um you look at that situation like the self-control holy moly but you he just proved to the Lord right like he just proved to the Lord spiritually speaking how much he trusts in the Lord right and and like God fights our battles you know like overwhelming victory belongs to us the the the word says and so if we know that to be true and we really like read our word and take it and believe every single thing in it like you don't have you don't have to fight your battles you don't have to be the aggressor because God's got your back the war

42:01is not yours the battle is not yours no that that's one of the reasons why I love when uh Norma or the worship team sings this is high five my battles yeah it's because that song is so true like if you really think about it it's if you focused on worship praise rejoicing and you allow that to be the thing that fights your battles then you when you do those things then you know that you've given it to the Lord it's not even yours so you're not all you're doing is focusing on him and then he takes care of the rest it's such a life of peace it is it's crazy like to not worry about things to not be fearful about things but a lot of times here's I'm gonna be honest with you a lot of times people who are fearful are weak people they are yes weak weak people

43:03they are controlled by their fears and their fears make them weak yeah and they're tossed to and throw like they have they're not consistent double minded and they'll they'll basically tell you it's not true but it is true 100% Proverbs 29 20 25 says fearing people is a dangerous trap but trusting the Lord means safety so that I mean you just got to know that you know that you know that the battle is not yours like meekness like if you're meek and you're handling it like Jeff did like when somebody comes and is in your face and they don't touch you and you know you could pound their face in and you just kind of are like Jesus was with the devil literally I'm just gonna give you the word dude I ain't buying what you're selling I'm not falling for your crap I could I I could have this dealt with in a different way I could take care of this myself

44:10but I'm not going to I'm gonna let God deal with you it's powerful but the reason why people don't do it this way in their week is because oftentimes their fear is rooted in rejection it's rooted in fear of conflict right because they're not they're too afraid to confront if they're fear they're afraid of people which is what this proverb clearly states and guys that is not good because weakness will bow to people but meekness bows to God and like that's good it's that was good that's good good one liner yeah I mean I'm not going to bow to a person it is never gonna happen yeah you guys have proved it too true you proved it over the years uh-huh yeah mm-hmm uh-huh it's true and like like right now I don't feel like I'm you know it's so funny because you're always dealing with something

45:11and it's always different right to the degree in which it is but like right now I feel like Tom and I are kind of walking through something um it's not bad or anything it's just like and then having to trust God to get to the other side and it's all it's all based on other people's decisions which affect it wouldn't kind of affect our future although it looks like it could affect our future but other people's decisions like affect could affect if we allow it our response yeah to growth and what God's called us to do things like that and I sit there and I'm like and this isn't meekness but this is just trust yeah like but if but the thing is is Tom could have bowed to people and it would change the results for him and he will not do it he will not do it but

46:14if God has said something he's going to do it and there's nobody that's going to stand in the way and even though you don't see the results that you want immediately or in the manner and time that you know you should be getting it that's again where you got to do what Jeff did and you have to trust it's not your job you got to walk by faith and not by sight literally because there always will be another thing always think like once I'm done this then like then I'll believe because I saw God no they'll have arrived right heart yeah that's crazy but yeah if you think that you're no matter how old you are it doesn't matter there will always be something because if you have people in your life like you said there's going to be people in your life especially if you're a ministry people make decisions and you have no control over it and it will affect you sometimes outside but still like if you love people it's going to affect you so you just yeah you just got to stay the course stay the course and just know that you know that you know that you know and the rest of it just doesn't matter yeah like and you can't like even though you want to like

47:19yell at the roof yell from the rooftops they injustices and stuff like that it does nothing I know yeah so just let God handle it because if it was going to do something he would have said that in the word like go to the rooftop and start screaming a lot as you can it would be in like John that's not to the new church but it's not he's God says I got it with sticks let it go instead he says now fix your thoughts on what is true and honorable and right and pure and lovely and admirable yeah think on these things and then and then the God of peace will be with you yeah amen yeah I like that it's so true and there's and here's the thing being on the side of this I will not let anything or anyone steal my peace and you guys that do let people do that to you you're crazy why allow someone or something have to have authority over you right you're the

48:22righteousness of God increase Jesus like that's insanity they people allow people to control them right and take up like space in their mind don't do it no don't do it because you that's how you don't walk in peace but that's like you're letting you I don't know I don't know how people I like myself too much right I like myself too much and I have the ability to yeah allow or not allow certain things in my life yeah why would you right like yourself more to say they don't deserve that I'm not giving that to them yeah so I I'm in a unique position where I know what peace feels like and I know what anxiety feels like and I much rather peace and I guard it you have to because I there is no going back to the way of life that I used to it's not good

49:29it's not good thank you it's not good but then people literally and it's not even it like anxiety is one thing holy moly I don't even know I couldn't live in anxiety right it's not my makeup first of all so it's not my nature to go to that direction my nature is to kill still and destroy okay I have to control that to permit what yeah exactly like I literally have for the right back in the day not let people not not to destroy them and like because they irritated and tick me off so much right yeah right to allow them to have that much authority in my life that I would go to to great lengths to hurt them make them feel a certain way to belittle them and then I didn't really care about the other parts of it like I I live rent free I I usually

50:30didn't walk in offense but there are people who do walk in offense so all of them are bad anxiety is bad yeah feeling like you have to be this destroyer and you have to like like anything that comes in your path you got to like make sure that you protect and guard yourself and make sure nobody hurts you that's a whole nother thing and then a person who walks around in offense like all dangerous stuff none of it is from the Lord and none of it is a fruit of the spirit not one true there's nothing good that comes from it and you're giving something or someone authority when you do that and if ain't God it doesn't belong right it's as simple as that um Galatians 5 22 and 23 it says but the fruit of the spirit is love joy peace long-suffering gentleness goodness faith meekness temperance against such there is no law the world offers two extremes

51:31I'm going to list you the the the things that I think that the world offers it offers aggression and passivity aggressiveness is where you dominate that's what I'm talking about okay I was referring to myself all these things right here are what I was referring to that's who I was I was aggressive I dominated I canceled people out and I retaliated without hesitation I was a very angry hostile not nice person at all and it felt good to do all of those things to be perfectly honest with you it felt good to do all of those things because I allowed heart that was done to me to allow me to have a hard shell and to to make sure that I protected myself instead of protecting my peace I protected myself instead of letting God do it I protected myself so that I would never get hurt again yeah I just a dangerous place to live but a lot of people won't walk in meekness

52:38because of these things passivity that makes me want to throw up there are so many passive people and here's the thing I'm going to talk to the passive aggressive right now that's a whole another level I cannot flip and stand passive aggressive I could sniff it out so quick too yeah yeah mm-hmm because a passive person is not the same as a passive aggressive not all person no a passive person you stay silent you avoid the truth and you appease yeah okay not attractive just so you know a passive aggressive person does all those things and then has something to say with a negative response and so they really want to say it but they don't have the balls to say it so they put it through a passive vein of speech which is they'll say

53:39something passive then they'll say the the aggressive thing that they're afraid to say and then they go that's just kidding yeah yeah or if you tell them to do something or yes or you tell them to do something or you ask them about something and their response is very caddy very much like oh okay and then they'll they'll oh okay it and then they'll say the aggressive thing behind it sweet women why don't you just start with the the second part of that sentence let's eliminate the first part which was sweet and acted like everything was okay and then your aggressive part behind it I can do without that yeah it's one of the other it's either you really mean the front the first part of the sentence right are you really mean the second part of the sentence which one is it because I'm not taking both you can't have both but that's what a passive aggressive person does yeah I I asked chat for example please I have a bunch of my head but they're too

54:45specific okay I don't have any in my head okay I can't stand past my person wow you actually did a great job this time that outfit is brave I can never pull that off I like it you're so confident to wear your hair like that that's what I think that's what I said to tell you but I told her that I was gonna wear the same okay what else I want a good one sure take your time it's not like anyone else has to do anything well that's more that's more of what I'm talking about things like that right there must be nice to have that much free time it's mean yeah that's pretty much it do you have any I have a time but I can't I don't know if I can say I'm just specific I have to deal with it's always a narcissistic behavior like a person

55:47that is so narcissistic that the world evolves around them when they're passively aggressive so for example yeah yeah for example so if somebody's like excited about something and you know but you haven't said anything so this person just out of birthday party and you're like and like you're set up to fail and you're like yeah why didn't you tell me because it's not my birthday party and there's always this like like they're just waiting to get you and it's not like they really want to know if somebody had a birthday party and it's not like they really care enough to be invited to the birth but something about it they got hurt because they saw something on social media or they saw something that was big and grand and they weren't a part of it so the the response is always super passive aggressive so I like I just I know somebody very specific that I have to deal with through somebody else and it's never to it's never

56:47to actually like find out information it's never a question it's already they already know the answer to it but they want to beat somebody up because they weren't told first so we deal with that a lot that's rough yeah that's rough that sucks passive aggressive instead of just saying like oh wow I saw somebody had a birthday party did you like where did you go how was it it's never at that it's always like what about me oh yeah what about me like but it's like oh yeah like yeah you know what I find too is if this is what if this is what I find a lot if somebody correct somebody on something mm-hmm how do I say this because this is an example that's been given to me so let me figure this out it's not so like like when I say correct somebody I mean like a person

57:50corrects family or something right so let me if somebody corrects a family member on something okay then that family member as soon as the person that they corrected or that corrected them does something remotely similar or I'm trying to think of a great example because I can't pull one off in my head right now if so I'll just say it like this say because I think it'll be easier if I explain it and it pretends it's me because sometimes I don't explain things greatest the greatest let's say I correct somebody okay now tell me if you don't understand what I'm saying okay okay I see this a lot I mean I don't personally see it a lot because I can't stand passive aggressive and if I remotely think if you speak to me in a progressive possessive or passive aggressive way I will ask you I'll ask you was that passive aggressive I don't care I don't want

58:56it I'm not taking it and I'm not receiving it and if the person says yes which nobody ever has because they're shocked that I asked them I think or if in for some reason they say yes I'm gonna I'm like you don't you don't need to talk you don't need to ask me like that or you don't need to tell me like that we can communicate without that right right if they but I don't think anybody ever has because they always say no I didn't mean that and then inside I'm like how could you not have been not always but literally almost every time I've been like your explanation makes absolutely no sense as to what you're saying to me but I will say this for example if I were to go and say to a friend if I was to go and say to a friend listen this wasn't correct that what what you did wasn't correct and here's the reason it wasn't correct and then you tell them why and then later on down I mean it could be a year from now they feel

1:00:04like I've done the very same thing and we're talking about the scenario they use your words that you said to them and they're like well you know we can't do it because of whatever you where do you used does that make sense I use and against you in a passive aggressive way to make sure that you know that they know you're doing the same thing that you corrected them off yeah and they're not letting you get away with it even though the scenario probably isn't the same way but they're still harbing bitterness yeah towards whatever do you yeah I'm making sense correct it's the position of God thank God I've seen this so much and the bitterness thing is huge because I'm like why how do people even remember stuff from a year ago like my brain I'm like over it but there is a bitter root which I don't typically struggle with bitterness and if I do I try to reconcile it because I don't I hate that feeling I hate anxiety I hate bitterness so I usually try to deal with it immediately if not like I cool down and then I deal with it so if you

1:01:05are like that and you struggle with bitterness like deal with it right away yeah or like pastor Tom said either talk to the person or let it go let it go if it's not worth it no let it go especially if your very couple your very couples do this all the time though they are so passive I know I mean oh my gosh you don't do that if you're a married couple married couples are so passive aggressive with each other because it's tit for tat tit for tat I know I know under the guys of I'm just kidding are you kidding though are you really kidding because I've said at dining I said at tables like I I'm so glad Tom and I don't go out to dinner with hardly anybody anymore don't thank you all to dinner with every all the time person that walked through that door if they asked we did it yes if they asked us we always did it oh my gosh it was I can't even get it at dinner so often it was torture because people and their marriage marriages are so bad and they would just and I'm like it's they're so used to this behavior that they don't even know that they're

1:02:09doing it that this is uncomfortable this is embarrassing and you should shut up they don't even know it though because they're so well this is how we are yeah uh you shouldn't be yeah but marriages are very passive a very true I find very true and that and they wonder why they're not happy right why would you be yeah or they pretend they are and they do what Tom always my beautiful bride and it's like now you guys are nasty to one another you just don't even know do you think that's what marriage is supposed to be like those are the people that say marriage is hard yeah right sorry it's not it doesn't have to be doesn't have to be it can be awesome I'm going to finish this up yeah um and then uh well let's talk about marriage next week let's talk about gaslighting oh my gosh should we let's keep talking about passive aggressive I've got plenty of a guy on Friday okay okay okay okay I'm it I'm all in okay okay I'm all in here's what the

1:03:11kingdom says about there's a third way okay I gave you the the world's way which is two ways which confession I can write the first one with aggression very easily I mean it takes nothing for me to figure out what the aggressive person is going to do okay I got that one down passive person yeah not so much but I do can't I can't stand passivity like if you're a passive person you're probably not going to be my friend and that's the God's honest truth I can't stand that because oftentimes I always wonder am I getting the real truth from this person yeah are they really telling me what I want to hear are they really telling me what I need to hear right there's a difference yeah yeah but the kingdom offers a third way and I'm gonna in I mean and the thing is is we are to operate in the kingdoms way right everything we do I say this and I maybe I don't say it enough but we should be kingdom minded okay when you think about what you're going to do it should be

1:04:17kingdom minded it should be it's easier for me to say that than God minded or because it's kingdom minded is the Trinity right yeah meekness when you are going to handle things meekly it's truth without being cruel okay and that was a tough one for me truth be told authority without being arrogant and strength without being hostile yeah yeah yeah yeah if you can't if you have a hard time listen I've gotten way better on all those things but I'm still not there yet okay I'm working for blessed are those who are meek they will inherit the earth I want to inherit the earth okay and in order for me to inherit the earth I got to tell the truth and not be cruel while I'm doing it I have to show authority without being arrogant while I'm doing it I need to show strength

1:05:19that's God strength okay that's righteous strength not the worlds without being hostile while I do it and we all know the difference I will show well we'll show some I'll share this really quick on Friday who was kingdom minded at the Bible characters because I'm telling you right now once you see them you're going to go I will use that for the rest of my life when I get it into a situation that might be similar that's how I'm going to handle it because all the other times where we are like I don't know how to do that but if you have an example you absolutely do because you can use that example that's what the Bible's for so with that being said we have almost five minutes over you guys want to add anything getting two cents to get hold on my thoughts till Friday gas might have to come with a bomb we're just talking about gaslighting on Friday okay let's do that seems to be like that's part of the path of aggressive behavior it's it's more trendy now too I don't know I know exactly what I was going to say it seems to be the thing to do nowadays yeah for sure

1:06:28mm-hmm it's not cool not cool not cool I wouldn't be friends with people who do that you're not doing it sometimes it's like family members you can't get away from it yeah truth but there's but there's a way to handle that yeah there is and there's a there's a godly way yes a kingdom minded way yes it reminds me of when I say it like that because I I love that way but it's reminds me of what the river does which is kingdom business mm-hmm mm-hmm and you really that's such a great term yes for how we should conduct everything in our lives kingdom life kingdom minded kingdom mind a kingdom life yeah yeah yeah so I love you guys see you on Friday where we're going to gaslight yeah