Vault: She's Determine To Reverse Roles With Her Husband

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1:00In app only. The bird show. Alright, Teresa wants to be on the voice disguiser. Good morning, Teresa. Good morning. How are you guys? Good, how are you today? Good, good. So Tracy told us that you have something that you've always wanted to give or do for your husband. Yeah. But you're not sure you're going to pull the trigger on it just yet. Yeah. Yeah. Okay, you seem nervous. Yeah, I am a bit nervous. It's kind of a life-changing game for him. And I just kind of... Yeah, I've been married for eight years. And we're like high school sweethearts and everything. And I'm married when I was 20 years old. But I never went to college. And my husband had started college and everything was a lot. I got pregnant and he couldn't finish because we couldn't afford it. And he works for the landscaping company. He doesn't own it. He just works for them. And he's been doing that for a while. And he just really bummed out. He wants to go to college. And so anyway, I've been working administrative assistant job.

2:03And for the past four months, I haven't told him. But for the past four months, I've been training for promotion. And I don't even want to say like the job or where I work if that's okay. I don't want it. Sure. Okay. But they offered me a position. A huge significant raise where he could actually quit the landscaping company, go to college, finish, get his business degree, all that. So it really, really is a huge gift for him. And I'm excited to tell him, and I couldn't tell him this weekend, but the problem is that he's very traditional. And he kind of has a thing with the woman being the breadwinner. And you know, he wants to do that for our family and lead our family like that. And I just, I don't know how to tell him. And I'm nervous because I don't want to, how did he go? You know, I don't want to give a blow to his ego, actually. So this is good to do. This is definitely a question for you guys. Yeah.

3:03And how you would feel about that. But it's for him to go back to school in order for him to, I'm just wondering if that is. His mentality may be different because this is, you're doing this for him. For the family, right? For him. Yeah. And he's going to be trying to do something else, right? Yeah. And that's kind of what I wanted to do. And I have to tell him today, I mean, I have to tell him today. I don't think we, we may want to just throw this out to women that have had to go through this with their husbands that knew that their husbands weren't going to be okay with the woman being the breadwinner. Because I just, it wouldn't matter to me. Stacy was making more money than me, but it was all going into the same pot, bringing the money into the house, man. We are a teller. I couldn't care less if she was making more money. It's not more money at the moment. It's like him going back to school essentially is her working him not working. Is that changing? I'm still, I personally would be okay. Like I think it would be great. I'd be fine with it. Okay. So if you weren't working Jessica, it was the only breadwinner. But here we are. I mean, your situation is going to be a little different because here you,

4:05you know you have a husband that this is going to bother. And you're asking Jeff and I and we, the place we come from, it doesn't bother us. So we need to find some virtual listeners that have got, had to go through this with our husbands to give you some advice on it. Or maybe guys like you guys who didn't think it would bother them, but then it did. It did. Right. Bring it all into the house and then all of a sudden she's making more cash. Because there's a, and it really was bothering you. Yeah. There's a study that just came out today talking about how men's identities are so closely related to their jobs that, you know, they did a study on guys that I guess in this economy lost their jobs and found that they lost a sense of identity because they weren't working. I think I would struggle more if I had to be totally honest with you guys. I'll share some ugliness. The ego part of me, like if Stacy had a show and we were out all the time and she was the one getting the notoriety for the show and she was the one that people really wanted to meet when she introduced me. Sometimes people cared. Other times people didn't care and stuff like that.

5:05That would bother me more than the money situation. Yeah, I think it's the ego part of it. The ego part of that would bother you. Yeah. The notoriety. It's cash. I don't care. It's all going to the same place. But does he talk about going to college like almost every day? Or is it just like once in a while type thing? Because I know he kind of suppressed that because he knows the reality of it right now. It's just too hard to do it. But I think he wants to do both go to school and provide for the family. And it's just too hard to do that, especially business school. Hey, Kristen, you're on Q100. Good morning. Hey, I went to this exact same situation about five years ago with my husband. And it was difficult to approach him because at the same time he has actually always been the breadwinner. I got a great job. I went actually to school myself for a little while. Got my associate and got a great job. And I knew that he really wanted to go back to school. And when I approached him, I said, this would benefit us as a family by you getting your degree.

6:08And then in the end, he did get a better job. He worked. I worked and we're living great. And it was so for him. It's for the family. It's for everybody. It's not a bad thing to approach it that way. Okay. All right, that helps. Thank you. Yeah. Hey Pat, good morning. You're on Q100. Oh, yes. I just feel like that if you explain to him, honey, this is, you're going to school now to where you can make a better living where when I stop, where you get done, I will be able to stop and stay at home. And you'll be the breadwinner again. So you're actually further in our family by going to school and let me take care of things now. Yeah, that's kind of what I was thinking earlier says if you present it like it's a training, like him going back to school is training for him to be a better provider than that might ease it. And I forgot what you guys said. Do you have children? Me? Yeah. You do. Okay. We do with you. It's still going to be hard for him to give up work and go to school.

7:09Like he's still going to work even if he goes to school. It's so like hard for guys who want to work and provide all the time, like my dad, like he wanted, he wants to work. Like that's what he wants to do. He wants to provide. It's going to be hard for him to give up his job to go back to school anyways, no matter if he wants to go or not. And I would just check and double check to make sure that you, this isn't a situation where he's mentioned a couple times that I'd like to go back to college. And you, like you've made this, this big dream of his, because if you come out and wave, I'm going to give you the opportunity to go to college and give us a better life than what it sounds like. Yeah. Sounds like a provider now. Yeah. You really got to play ego here. It sounds like with all the advice coming in. Yeah. It's all about stroking ego here. Yeah, it is. It is. And just being delicate. It's been a very delicate. Hey Heather, you're on Q100. Go ahead. Hey, my advice is that if her husband's going to get back to school, he doesn't necessarily have to quit his job. He could work a part-time job or he could even keep his full-time job and go at night

8:09or on the weekends or online. Is that a possibility for you? Yeah, that is. It is. I think it's just he values being with his children too. So we might have to work through some time management. Yeah. Actually, yeah, that might be good both worlds. Well, you have any resentment towards him if you came at him honestly and said, look, this is the opportunity in front of me. And he said, no, I don't want you to take the job. At that point, do you have any resentment that you're sort of working under this glass ceiling in your own house also? Yeah, I don't see how I can't take the job. I don't see how it's going to help us at all to progress. Yeah, there would be a big problem, I guess. You got to be honest with him telling him what's in front of you guys. Best for the family, best for you. It's a no-brainer. Okay. Okay. That was good. All right, good luck. Thank you, guys. Let's try that again. Yeah, let us know how it goes. Okay, I sure will. Sometimes don't you think too when you know you're significant other so well. It's about timing.

9:09Yes. When to approach them with that kind of conversation. Oh God, yes. Don't do it right when they lie down for bed. Don't ever. If they are in bed, don't talk to them. Like if it's, you know, if you can tell they're not in the greatest mood today, if he's, you know, her husband's on the greatest mood today. Maybe just wait till tomorrow. Yeah, you know. Test it. There's a problem with her. For sure. Tyler Reddick here from 2311 Racing. Another checkered flag for the books. Time to celebrate with Jamba. Jump in at JambaCasino.com. Let's Jamba. No purchase necessary. BGW Group. Boy, we're prohibited by law. CCNC. 21 Plus. Sponsored by JambaCasino. Hi, this is Alex Cantrowitz. I'm the host of Big Technology podcast. A long time reporter and an on-air contributor to CNBC. And if you're like me, you're trying to figure out how artificial intelligence is changing the business world and our lives. So each week on Big Technology, I bring on key actors from companies building AI tech and outsiders trying to influence it. Asking where this is all going. They come from places like Nvidia, Microsoft, Amazon, and plenty more.

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