Tuesday Talks: The BYOB Guide to Swinger Parties

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1:01Talking Tuesday, we're thin and nice. How about that high note? That's perfect. Hey there, pineapple. People, and welcome to the Swing Nation podcast. We are your host, Northern Guy. And Southern Girl. And we are back with another rendition of Tuesday talks. We are. Talking Tuesday. I have a tip talk. I want to play for you. We're danin. We see. Hold on. It's like. I should have it ready. I should have it ready. Everybody. It's we see. It's like all the nicknames for Dan. Hold on. Um. Um. Dang it. Oh, no. You can find it. Hold on, listen. No, you can't find it. We're danin. We're danin. Dan the lion. Dan the lion. Dan the lion. Dan the lion. Dan the lion. Daniel. Daniel Daniel. Conquer Daniel. Instead of dan the man. Do it in the human. Redone Dan's armed and dangerous.

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3:04My Dan the. Kinda. What was that? I don't know. We're talking. Okay. So are we ready? We're ready. Okay. It says I have a question. And we are new to the lifestyle and wondering if a B. Well, B, what drinks do you take? And if you take a bag, what do you carry in it? How big is it? And do you take toys? And are you carrying this around all night? Just wondering. Okay. So. If I'm hearing this question correctly. They're asking several lifestyle events are B. Well, B. Yeah. Most of them are. It's very common for even clubs to be B. Y.O.B. Hotel takeovers to be B. Y.O.B. Most of the time. Most of the time when you're not going to see B. Y.O.B. is resorts and like vacations. So like bliss cruise is not B. Y.O.B. He does not B. Y.O.B. Now some hotel takeovers will not be B.

4:05Y.O.B. If the hotel has their own restaurant or bar. They want you to use that service. So, you know, so anyway. So, but what they're saying is for B. Y.O.B. Events. What alcohol do you take? How much do you take? How do you carry it? Let's just. Okay. First of all, let's say this. Don't over thinking. It doesn't matter if you walk in there with a suitcase in a rolling cooler. That's fine. You could walk in there with a bottle of Jack. And that's it. And that's fine too. Like, I think a lot of people when they're newer. Seemed to overthink a lot of this simple stuff. It really shouldn't be. Right. Okay. So, let's start. What drinks do you take? So, usually we take Malibu. Sometimes we take teetos. Sometimes Dan's been drinking Hanun slightly. So, we'll take Hanun's. We've taken Pinak, which is the pineapple liquor, you know. But literally, we've seen every kind of alcohol.

5:05Yeah, I've taken Captain Morgan's, Jack Daniel's, you know, anything, whatever your favorite drink of choices. That's what you bring. Yeah. Now, what does become important, though, is some BYUB establishments provide mixers. Yeah. Some do not. Yeah. So, you just need to find that out before you go. Obviously, if they provide the mixers, yay. That's great. You don't have to care about that. If they don't, then you obviously have to bring whatever. You know, if you want a Jack and Coke, bring your Coke. Like Malibu and pineapple. I'll bring my pineapple. And honestly, sometimes, like, I don't like, I only like certain pineapple. So, sometimes I'll just bring my pineapple, even if they have mixers, because I want to make sure that I had the pineapple I like. Yeah. That's fine too. You can also bring, so they're asking about what bag. So, a lot of people do those small backpack coolers. Right.

6:05So, if you have cans, I've seen a lot of people do that. They'll put some ice and then that in there. Some people just literally bring the box of trillions, or high noon, or beer, or whatever they're drinking. They'll just bring that box in. It also depends on where you're going, because some will put it on ice for you. Right. Yeah. And I think, you know, like, you're saying don't overthink it. And I think that is true. But there is some nuances here that I think do matter. And I think to us, some of it's automatic, because we've just done it so much, where I think if you've never done it, it might be confusing, right? But if you don't know, just get you a little backpack with some ice in it, and put your few drinks in there, and then just bring it. And then if they had ice, okay, well, next time you know, that's what I mean by not overthink it. Right. It's like, if you're unsure, just either ask, like, call the establishment and ask what they're going to do, or just plan, like, they're not going to have anything. And then you'll know for the next time.

7:06Yeah, because every one of them is a little bit different. And so I think, you know, if you're going into a club, usually most clubs provide mixers. Or have them to purchase. And your bottle, you either give it to the bar staff, or you keep it at your table. Right. So you, if you went to a club that provides mixers, you would bring your, just your bottle. So for us, it would be like Tito's and Malibu. And then we would either give that bottle to the bar staff. And they would mix it at the bar for us, or we would keep the bottle. Right. And so all we would do is just put a little bit of alcohol in the cup. We would go up to the staff. They'd put the ice and they'd put the mixers in there for us. That's pretty typical. Or the other option would be you'd have a cooler or something where you sit. And you would have everything. You would have your ice, your, your alcohol and your mixers. Yeah. Um, I would say keep it small. So I do, you know, can you bring a, a drag behind rolling cooler? Absolutely. Yeah. That's more appropriate if you're going to a hotel takeover.

8:07Yeah. And you're going to keep that cooler in your room. Yeah. Um, if you're going to a club or somewhere, I would stick to the backpack. Backpack size. Because you got to think your, your, it's small space. So at most, you're going to be sitting at a table. You might be sitting at a table with a dozen other people. Like how much room you have to keep your actual stuff is kind of limited. Yeah. So the smaller space is, is better. I know we have a lot of friends now that are starting to buy those pre-mixed drinks. You know, they make alcohol drinks now that have like vodka in it. Yeah. And it's in a, but it's in a can. Like the high news. Yeah, like high news. But there's other ones that are like fruity and things too now. So, you know, you can buy, even like, I think, I think you can even get like, you know, uh, whiskies and coax and stuff that are pretty. Yeah. You know, it's not a bad idea. You know, if you're going somewhere, you don't want to bring the alcohol and the mixers and the ice. If you can just back that cooler, throw some of those on ice, it's a little quicker and easier. Yeah. And then you're not trying to mix bottles and do all that kind of stuff. Yeah. But I mean, you'll see a little bit of everything.

9:07And that's why I say don't overthink it. Because like, for instance, one time I was on a diet and I was drinking titos and lemonade, diet lemonade from Chipotle. I literally went and bought me the diet lemonade from Chipotle and brought it with me. I bought it with you to trapeze and they kept it behind the bar and they mixed it for you when you wanted it. But then you also see people that do like the crystal light or the, you know, the squirt, you know, where the powders, they'll bring those. So you're going to see a little bit of everything. I think just like, pro tip, keep it as small as you can, you know. And you might have to go out and, you know, buy a small little backpack cooler. Or just maybe one that you can carry just so it's compact just for that reason. So they have Malibu, you need like a pre-mix melon. They do have it. They have a Malibu. It's called a Malibu splash. They're not my favorite. But I do like them. I just, I don't really like the salsari drinks, but yeah. So that would be my advice. And then they did ask about like a bag. So for us, we don't usually carry anything on ice.

10:07We just throw our bottle of alcohol in our bag. And so because most places, unless you're like even a hotel takeover, sometimes they have ice, but nine times out of 10, there is at least ice there minimum. So I'm not bringing like our bottom Malibu and then like some pineapple juice. But I usually just have a bag that I carry. And it seems like every couple has that like bag that they use. And for me, I just put like my lingerie, maybe a change of clothes to wear home. If I wore a trench coat, you know, there, that goes in it. Maybe a change of shoes. Yeah. And he asked about toys. Yeah. I'm a wand girl. So I always have my wand in my bag. But whatever toy you fancy can totally be brought in. And I just usually, and then like maybe some touch up my make up stuff. Dan usually has a fanny pack that he has his condoms and stuff like that. So that's kind of how we do it. A lot of times we might even have two bags because I tend to bring a lot of stuff.

11:07But we just kind of put everything in one and then and then just go in. And yeah. And a lot of things will bring cups too. That's not something that you mentioned, but definitely worth mentioning. A lot of places want to lid on your cup, which I think is a female. It's good practice to have a lid on my cup. So we have, you know, we've got designated like lifestyle tumblers that we've put like our favorite stickers and stuff like that on there. Those go in it. And we just pretty much cleaned it out and then just have it ready for the next time. So that's what we do. Yeah. And that's really, that's a club kind of set up. Yeah. And that's a club set up when they have the mixers. Yeah. So like really that what we do, the only thing we'd really do different at like a hotel takeover is we would bring that same stuff. And then we would bring the mixers and we'd put the mixers in the fridge in our hotel room. Yeah. And most of the time we don't bring like a cooler or anything to like the club area at a hotel takeover. We would just when we need to drink, we go back to our room, we mix the drink in our room and then we go back out.

12:08And that's that's pretty typical. Yeah. You know, usually you can find ice at hotel takeovers. Sometimes the ice machines do get like overdrawn and run out. So, you know, having bring, if you did go to a hotel takeover and you brought a cooler with ice and had your mixers in that cooler with the ice, that would be fine. And obviously they'll be a little safer probably. Yeah, like when we go to naughty in New Orleans, it's hit or miss. Sometimes you get a refrigerator and sometimes you don't. So we've gotten to where now we just bring like we have a rolling cooler. I just fill it with ice and drinks water, you know, our favorite, all of our mixers, which you have to buy the alcohol at, you know, they have bars there. But like if you want to have like, you know, drinking your room or anything like that or shot in your room. So stuff like that, I usually like to keep all of that on ice in a cooler in our room. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Same thing. You know, it all depends. You kind of have to, it might take you a time or two, like if you have a local hotel takeover. Yeah.

13:08To figure out, okay, is there a fridge in the room? Do I have to bring a cooler? Yeah. You know, does the ice machine work good or no? Should I bring my own ice? It's kind of trial and error. Yeah, some of that is going to be just getting used to the environment that you're in. I mean, there's going to be people that literally like say if you're going to a club, they're going to stop at a liquor store and just get a bottle on the way there. And it's, and they're going to show up with that one bottle and not see it. And so that's what I say don't everything. You're going to figure it out, you know, like somebody will have something if they, you know, like you might have to buy the, the mixers, you know, I mean, it just kind of depends on where you go. So, yeah, I mean, I think reading the website, checking it out, asking questions, I think is okay. I was going to say the best way is probably, you know, if you RSVP for an event and you start talking to couples ahead of time. Yeah. You're talking to a couple and say, hey, have you guys gone to this event before? And they're like, yes, no, I'll be like, oh, how does the alcohol work? Is there ice? You know, they have a good ice machine? Should I bring ice? Should I bring, you know, do they provide mixers? Do I need mixers? They can kind of answer all those questions. Or if you just don't want to ask anybody and just be over-prepared, then the next time you know,

14:10oh, well, we didn't need this, this, and this. So either way, it's fine. All right. I hope that answers that question about how to prepare for a BYOB event. It really comes down to alcohol, ice, and mixers, and how do you keep them cold? Yeah. And how much room you have to store all that stuff, if you have the room to store all that stuff. But it definitely is, I think, a learning curve and it's going to depend every event's a little bit different. Yeah, I agree. All right. So if you have a Tuesday talk question, we would love to hear from you. There's a few different ways to get a hold of us. You can email us at dswingnationatgmail.com, dswingnationatgmail, or you can call or text. And that phone number is 972-302-7716. One more time. 972-302-7716. We would love to hear from you. You can call, leave a voicemail, you can text us your questions, or you can even text us a voice memo with your questions.

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