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In this episode of We Talk Back, AJ Holiday and TamBam catch up after low-key weekends before debating rising grocery prices, the cost of eating out, a wild DoorDash accident story, and AJ’s experience volunteering through the Be My Eyes app. During “SINS,” they dive into a shocking Canadian sperm donor case involving a father and son who allegedly fathered more than 600 children, raising concerns about donor regulation, genetic risks, and people turning to informal Facebook groups to find sperm donors. They also react to the conviction of Duane “Keefe D” Davis in the murder of Tupac Shakur after years of public statements surrounding the case, before unpacking viral scam stories involving a woman accused of faking her way into Duke’s physician assistant program and a man who allegedly impersonated a San Francisco 49ers player to scam 26 women out of $1.3 million.
For the main conversation, “Till Debt Do Us Part,” AJ and TamBam tackle the uncomfortable realities of lending money to friends, family, and romantic partners. They debate proper repayment etiquette, whether paying someone back in installments is acceptable, how loans can complicate family relationships, and the warning signs that usually mean your money isn’t coming back. From setting financial boundaries to deciding whether some loans should simply be considered gifts, the hosts offer plenty of laughs and relatable lessons about money, relationships, and accountability—before sending one final message to everyone with an outstanding debt: if you owe somebody money, send it.
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We're just two unapologetically black women within the opinion.
We talk back.
What's up, y'all?
A.J.
Holiday.
What's up, Tambam?
Y'all is me, Tambam.
I love y'all.
I do that.
You think they get tired of your next day?
And we?
Oh, boy.
I love y'all.
You got to have a uniformity.
You got to have uniformity.
Okay, give it a go.
To make sure we do all the parts.
Speaking of that, how was your weekend?
My weekend was great.
I didn't do shit.
Wow.
All I did was, like, spin money, circulate money.
Excuse me.
I circulated a lot of money this weekend.
What'd you get?
Just how shit food.
Yeah, grocery shopping is very... is much more expensive than eating now.
They need no I was just saying that I was just saying like my mom was like I don't see you cooking them all
I was like cuz it don't make no sense that my I'll cook sometimes, but it's just the same price to eat out
But you at least you at least get a few meals out from you know from cooking home, but the price of the groceries
It's fucking crazy. Yeah, but then I gotta eat
The same shit a few times
I hate
I feel like that might be like one of the cheat codes losing weight like eating the same shit every day
Like you just got your rice starch vegetable, you know, you're protein and whatever like eating the same shit every day and helps
No, you want that I don't want that, but I probably should start doing that. I'm I tried today
I didn't order any food. I didn't do it. Actually, they think that
You need restaurant so yeah for me. I saw somebody posted
They ordered door dash and they realized like the person was taking a long time to come and then the the driver
Message was like I got into a car accident
You saw that post and he pulled up to give him food. I said I'm $20 too
He put his cash up on there. Shit man. I know how once you wreck your car
Especially as a gig worker
Like that's a lot of money probably out his pocket at this point that he can't work probably his regular job plus the gig job
Job putting no car. Yeah, you gonna need them a couple dollars
That was nice of you
little hot 20
She'd be getting me like that all the time especially if it's late at night
Like I said I just hit some money. I know probably didn't get to who it really deserved to go to
Thank you
No, you just paying into the universe girl. I gotta get my chia
I'm I look if you finesse I'll be the dumb bitch
Cuz I still win
I got this website on my phone y'all can't I mean that website a app y'all can download it too. It's called be my eyes
And it's like blind people all over the world are on this app and you'll get a phone call
And they'll be like can you tell me
Whatever this is I can't see it, you know, and you can read something you can read recipes for them
You can do all this so the guy I'm only had my phone ring two times um and
Cuz the ring I didn't know what it was. I like the fuck is that cuz I forgot I had downloaded that and it was this man
And he wanted me to sort help him sort his laundry
So I was like that's color. That's why that's color. That's why you know
And that was all he wanted really yeah, so I'll be down low that I know it's so cool. It's gonna be my eyes
Do they do they screen the people though cuz what if the people can actually see and they see they want to call you
Right me some bullshit like that
Yeah, never for me wait, I thought you could say Ben
I don't want to feel you through the phone
Yeah
Y'all try that it's cool. What you had going on this weekend
What did I do this weekend?
I really honestly I can't really spend any money so I stayed in watching um
Tyler Perry uh
Beauty beauty and black the new season came out. I stayed cuz I I'm planning my sisters my sister's having a baby y'all
So I'm planning her baby shower in my mom's 70th birthday party back to back
I got no money for nothing leisure until after these are done right so
I did that all on your sister
She is like five months her she's due Christmas day. Did she have her agenda reveal cuz you know
It's like they do the two things now gender reveal plus a baby shower
You know, I she is all right. She is Miranda from uh states in the city when it comes to
Like she said conservative
Extremely conservative like she don't want it. She don't want no gender reveal. She did like a video and send it to everybody
Like a toy story AI video and send it to everybody for the gender reveal and I was like
I don't want to do anything too much. Let's just see if we can change the color over the city of Charlotte and like any
Clock on a certain night. She was like yeah, that's far too much
Like
Like a viral
Right, I thought that was dope idea cuz you know they
You know some lights turning all those all those lights who's doing right they put the gay lights up
They put the rainbow up while we can't get the boost some blue lights or some red pink lights right
I think you might fuck right to have a boy, you know like my mama got three girls. Just like your mama got three girls
And somehow these niggas be popping up
I
Feel like I don't know what I would do with a boy, but I think she might fuck right have a boy me too
That yeah for sure
Hmm he gonna be super spoiled
Geez, he's gonna be so spoiled
Hmm it ain't been a boy in our family like
Hundred years. I know for real. I mean, I do have a nephew though. I don't have nephew just nieces
So yeah
Only boy
My nephew popped up out of nowhere for sure looking just like my sister
Like what the fuck?
So I watch Beauty and Black and I just want to say no, I'm not gonna spoil it for y'all just in case y'all want to watch it and I'm spoiling it
but
I'm a pair of be going too far sometimes like
And they get nuts. Yeah, so ninjas on that shit and I'm just like we don't see ninjas like real life ninjas girl
Like I just
Start be going too far, you know like what the ninjas got to do with it. I don't even know what the premise of that show is
I've never seen it
So I don't I couldn't even begin to understand where the ninjas go at the ninjas don't go nowhere
That's what I'm saying like they just is a very black story and a very black place and then all of a sudden some ninjas like
Black ninjas or
Asian ninjas and like the ninja outfit like
You can answer the street with and it's just like what?
Tell the period be doing so I think tell the period be smoking like the best shit
Yeah, and man I got you might be on shrooms at the time
Yeah, he mentioned around shut up the show. I know she'd be good
But that was what I mean we can let's get this in
So I saw this article
Online it's actually out of Canada, but I can see it definitely happening here
I know we've had some cases where doctors
Have done this in particular, but so there's a father and son duo
Who have allegedly been banned from donating sperm after fathering hundreds of children
So I'm trying to figure out is there like I one of America has like a lot like you can only donate sperm
Ten times and if the women like here the women have to pick you
Right to father the kid like they get a booklet. I presume or online or whatever look at the person
Yeah, so the people keep picking them. What's the problem?
So it says the father and son were banned from doing it from donate sperm after the peer allegedly fathered over
600 children total which experts said could pose risks to the children and their families. That's too much
Uh, because it can't be like especially y'all come from one community. Yes
And now all these children are gonna have like kids with problems because big brothers and sisters
They don't even know it you know right and says according to the lawsuit and court documents obtained by a cvc
Quebec superior court temporarily and
And stated a ban against a man and his son for donating sperm after they allegedly fathered
450 and
160 children each
That was cool. Yeah, it was careered
Spirited
It says although the lawsuit did not specify which man fathered more the lawsuit was reportedly filed by a woman who had three children using sperm
From one of the men and a fourth would sperm from another man
She accused a pair of breaking and agreement in which they could not father more than 25
and
More than 25 and ten children each light weight what okay? I do know
So my my homegirl her friends
They got their sperm off of Facebook
These black people what should we a lesbian married couple
Got their sperm to make their baby off of a Facebook group
Is niggas in a Facebook group
Is said his sperm and bitches is really using a turkey baster to get pregnant
For real
In real life I say in the sperm because how you keep it alive? I thought it died. I
Guess freeze it
You put it in a cooler. I don't know. I don't know how they doing it, but it's a it's a real thing. See yeah
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Our town is small taders by most standards right but to the people who grew up here it's everything
What happens when a quiet Tennessee town becomes the front line in a battle over the future of America
Developers with right wing ties have purchased hundreds of acres of land in the area
The first thing you see when it pops up is high nears and apple etchum
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That's cheaper
Then you know going to get it done the other way but yeah and and the girl actually conceived they now this gay couple now has a child together
But if your baby
No, what we talking about what else we talking about
Yeah, that's that's crazy is hell man. Oh, I don't know like
Is the supply of men that like they must have been fine both him and his son must have been fine. I want to see them
Why that many bitches big y'all
Yeah, I don't it doesn't sound like it's a sperm being used it sounds like
This is some Facebook shit possibly
Cuz how you mean they had an agreement cuz a sperm bank would probably take you out of the options after so many
Yeah, like why why are all the women choosing these two guys like it can't possibly be a sperm-big situation
Now you're right. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know how that works
I'm gonna never be looking to have a baby by my damn self to where I need to random niggas sperm
Yeah, family more than anything
What phager said what you will know is that the man you're having a baby by
Needed $15 for a pizza so you could have a baby and some bullshit she said you know check that
Loha hey mercy where what else
So a 30 year wait for justice in two pikes killing ends with a murder conviction and under three hours
I know y'all heard about key FD as
Getting exactly what he deserved oh
No exactly what he asked for
And deserve cuz what you start at like you pretty much telling people you committed a murder
Uh-huh, you need to go to jail. What you thought just cuz it was 30 years ago
Yeah, he tripping so it says Las Vegas
It took close to 30 years for someone to be arrested in the drive-by murder of rap legend two-poshy core and
Extraordinary stretch that turned the young singers 1996 killing into the stuff of legend and conspiracy
By contrast it took less than three hours for a jury of 12 Clark County Nevada residents to convict
Duane key FD Davis a former leader in the Southside Compton Cripps a first-degree murder less time than it took close-in statements in the trial
So
Yes, so key FD has written a book
Okay, over these past 30 years
He has spoken about how he and whomever else killed two-puck at nauseam on different platforms
He even uh, he was on Vlad tv
Also talking about how he killed two-puck as well
So he's really just getting what he asked for and I feel like maybe he didn't actually do what I did here like in the past that
A nephew of his who's no longer with us actually did the shooting right, but I think he's gonna try and
Yeah, I think he's been trying to get clout
He's been clout chasing for the last 30 years. He wanted recognition for you know
Killer of the shooter. He wanted yeah, that's that's really what it balls down to and now you're asked going to jail at 63 years old
Like that is too old to begin time. So he's getting life in prison
Essentially, yeah, yeah, so I also read somewhere where he
Um had had a federal immunity
Me think about the state
Because the state of Nevada is who evicted him evicted him convicted him yeah, yeah, yeah, this nigga is nuts
Well, he's stupid people slow now. He can just be the ledger. He want to be in prison
I think we'd be forgetting that you know like
Everybody remember like the kids in that class
Right those kids grow up too
Mm-hmm and they be in society
They make me
I see one of my not my classmates, but somebody who was in my
He was not in like LD directly. We call it LD in Charleston learning disability
But he he um had some classes. He had some other slow classes, right? Mm-hmm
I seen his ass go viral online because he's in Charlotte between Charleston, South Carolina
Finestined people acting like he's a maintenance man
John Jackson
And the news lady came to know he was like oh my god
Somebody should have been like I just want to say that I remember him from school
He was in the mail be clashed
We was all in the comments like because you know he had he has one of those names that you just don't say the first name
His name is John Jackson like I'm Ashley James
What somebody talks about me?
So you don't just call him John like what's up John Jackson like it goes together so everybody in a calm is like
What the fuck look at John Jackson
Ain't maintainer shit
And I'm like he had clients. Why don't you really do the work instead of scamming them
He was really making money had a brand new pickup truck on the news. All is like what
Just retarded he been retarded
You know what that's really that brings me to the next story like
What's going on in the world? I know you saw the girl who um
Says she went to Duke she was in PA school at Duke University
And then turns out she never and she's been doing this for years and getting dressed acting like she's going to class
Talking about how tired she is and she's creating content based around this identity that does not belong to her
whatsoever
Even up to graduation
More fuckers that go to the school is like who is this bitch we have a few her day in our life
This is the metaverse you get to be who you want to be
And it's just where that people are like they don't they hate their regular lives
You get to create a character now
It ain't just GTA
And get paid she was making money on it you know on social media. I'm gonna take talking shit
Yeah
They look speaking of identity theft
The man who fake the lifestyle like he was an NFL player for the 49ers and scam 26 women out of 1.3 million dollars
Allegedly targeted white and Asian women women according to the victims
So this story popped off like what almost two weeks ago now a week and a half ago or so. Let's see if I'm wrong
I know I know about a week
Yeah, I popped and then now I noticed like over the weekend people was like oh he was scamming. Oh, okay
Okay, nothing to see here
The thing people don't realize is that this would have never been national news if it was black women
He was scamming so that should have been a damn hint right there that it wasn't black women first of all
We're not giving it with you Mike. Oh baby daddy might get a piece of the tax check Mike right
Money you want what?
I thought you boy for the 49ers how you want my money
But I'm gonna give a damn how much it was tell me I have friends who will say yeah girl
He played for such and such and I'm such a pet detective
While they talking I'm googling like he's not on no one's roster who told you that I have had friends
Who have allowed men to lie to like they didn't get money out of them, but just meeting me and in lion first
And then now you spewing the lie to your home girl. Yeah
Like a
Girl no, he don't
Rasta pasta
Helmet everywhere they go with
Like this big athlete him in so many pictures just holding the helmet like it's a purse
Yo, it says federal prosecutors say 35 year old Dijon
Lebrier I guess that's how you pronounce this middle name love you don't trust no nigga if I don't know
Loves is real last name or fake but we all loves to always scammers remember a little boy running a clinic in Florida
Last name doctor love okay
Diddy
Is this love allegedly built an elaborate fake lifestyle by posing as a San Francisco
49ers where and wealthy investor while scamming at least 26 women out of approximately
1.3 million dollars house weight
According to investigators love met many of the women through dating apps beginning in 2020
2022 he allegedly wore 49ers gear
displayed luxury cars claim to be an NFL wide receiver and portrayed himself as a successful investor
He's alleged his alleged accomplice 18 year old Taylor Jamie Chan
reportedly posed as loves finance 18 year old who's kid is this
As loves financial advisor they help convince women that the investment
Opportunities were legit several several women were allegedly persuaded to send thousands of dollars or even take out personal loans
prosecutors say love would often cut off communication when victims stop sending money
Or we get questioning the investment the FBI believes there could be many more victims now additional women are speaking publicly about the about their experiences
One victim was reportedly has a report he claimed that love specifically targeted white and Asian women
However that racial targeting allegation has not been confirmed by federal prosecutors and the criminal complaint or justice departments public announcement
Federal authorities have only publicly stated that the identified victims were women located across
California Oregon, Washington and Idaho because you the whole
He know he knew he could scam with that shit and who he couldn't I don't even think it was like racially inclined
I just think these are women that was going forward
You remember that post I sent you just the other day about a particular and I I'm still debating if I'm a cloud chasing not off this nigger
In the situation currently at hand, but
Looking at his ex-girlfriends posted on tiktok it made me think like did this nigga think I was a lick
When he hopped in my deans like do I look like a lick tell me tell me I look like a lick you don't look like no lick to me
But you be lickish sound like
I asked niggas for money
I'm trying to figure out why and I was like I asked niggas for money
You know you take it too long to ask the so because he's the first
And I be so perplex like I look like a sicka moment like I look like a bitch who a given niggas money
Now granted I have
Given a man money before like but thousands of dollars
Are y'all okay?
Right and then did you see the video where he was like telling let me tell you who I am so you don't have to ask these questions
We started talking about that nigga just spew up bullshit so easy and we all three Gucci's a sweet and I'm the king
Yeah
Yeah, we got a throw Gucci up about a street next year
That's like he got like that's a zaxpies
Yeah, he's just throwing up a chick filet like nigga. This is Gucci. We talking about
Not they franchise in the Gucci. Yeah, let me go put what over here
Bitch, I want a balance the august so I can lie like I want to balance the august franchise and now because
You just throwing up a good anyway, he's starting showing shoes
And yeah, look at this bill. I got this belt. There's a fair gum mobile. I got it
These is Gucci shoes these are not a Gucci shoes
Like what kind of nigga who got money is doing it?
Do you follow Justin blue on Instagram? No, I don't know
He had a very good point on his uh, he made a post and he was like could these women that he scammed
Be opportunist themselves
You see what I'm saying like you you you thought you were finesse in an NFL player like yeah
I'm an invest in his little thing or whatever like or like you this is an opportunity for you to make money
So that's why you so eager to do you you are not researching this person or this investment you just sending
Money I got I have a ex friend who was just like that and that bitch is super duper
Opportunistic and she would always get bid and ask every time giving a nigga money
Well, I think women are attracted to men who have resources. He presented himself as
Someone who who could have resources, but why would he ever need your resources if he has
That's the part that's when you're in so they were investing in business
Exactly why why you need me
You got all these please hotels pay for gas hotels and gas
Thought you said in private jet. I read that one girl he told one girl to take out a business loan
To go basically like pair to pair bills and like to travel the world with him
And you thought that was a good idea
It'll so like I he has to have dick
That's all about me. I know this you to dick. He must got dick on him too
Because there's no way like you finesse in these bitches just straight off the tongue
With an 18 year old. Yes. I'm seeing it that you have
42 million in this account and there's
You know maybe
What if that the what if the assistant is just like a um AI assistant
Or like you know how you can get like these people from India to do like you know, I'll push it for you like
What if that's what it is
Hey, I ain't no telling but who was the being his security like why was y'all starting up and then you had niggas like hold the pants
And you a contract for the 49ers and signing it like I had a contract on video for somebody's recording you do that for us
And then you see niggas was happy about
Let me get you down. There's like y'all was singing that shit awesome
Where all my screaming is me
Well there you go right there
Here's the thing if you can be finessed unfortunately, you're going to get to get finesse and you probably should be finessed
If you are finesseable, I'm not finesseable
See that's it just if you thought you weren't you know like these girls maybe thought they weren't finesseable
Now I talked to you a valuable lesson how to move
Going forward. That's too much money. You remember just uh, this is last year sometime
It was a girl on tiktok doing a story time of how this uh, European guy she married he married her all is shit
How he finessed her out of
Thousands like how do y'all what type of credit y'all got maybe I listen I bought a pair of sneakers some Nike's and I got on that plane
And I got home back to England and he was taking pictures with another bitch
And then she was I bought up I fell super finesse and then she was $85 I was like I can't I kill
I kill about my 85
Did you have a cousin's ass out about that? I didn't speak to him for years
But dude, I mean not speaking, but did you did he ever get cussed out about you guys super cussed out?
Oh, right there in the halfway house
Super cussed out this
Played my 85 motherfucking dollars bit
Yeah hell no
I'm like
I need you about the pretend like I just got thousands to give a nigga like what are y'all bitches doing for a living
Yeah, y'all can just well excuse me. They were taking our loans
So they probably just have decent credit and I just feel bad from cuz you know some of them might have just been good
Hard at people that he took advantage of
I've seen that happen to girls that I know they're just
Look think they in it with somebody who in it with them. No, they thought they were investing in stuff
This like somebody coming with a business opportunity and you're investing in it
That's most of most of this most of his finesse and was that they said one person gave him 87 thousand dollars
He's an NFL player why he need your money? All right, why would he need your money?
And he hasn't spent no money on you
You ain't seeing no real money out of him at all, but he asked me for yours
Just
Just dumb I don't know man. I don't know
Dick and bubble gum dick and bubble gum. It's funny though y'all stay safe
I feel like I went to like I might dress up as him for howling. I don't know
It's a money in the hell
Put some money in the hell me bitch
Shame shame shame
I look speaking of fucking scammin
We're talking about us lending niggas money or excuse me people not niggas is not lending niggas no money
But lending money and not getting it back. Okay. That is what we are talking about this week when we talk back
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So he's talking about
Run me my money here. Yeah, this is
This topic today
His home for me
because
Run me my fucking money if I give you my money
If I loan you because I didn't give it to you. Right. It's a difference
If I loan you my money
I shouldn't have to ask for it back. I expect for it
Like I have calculated it into my total balance that it will be coming back to me
Yeah, what's the longest someone has owed you money and are y'all still speaking to this day
To this fucking day like sometimes it costs that money to get rid of somebody
So bitch, okay, you only cost me 500 to get rid of your fucking I bought you that's what I say I bought you
I bought you for 500. I mean usually when somebody owes you money that's usually like the end of the relationship
I had a friend whose kid is I won't even add that extra little detail, but I had a friend
um, I
Feel like she thought I owed her money
Mm-hmm because I I'm gonna go ahead and say I she assigned me as the godmother her child
When her child was born I had a lot of shit going on in life
I had a fucking tool praying to see at the time myself, right and I just wasn't as attentive, you know
And then I moved out of town
So yeah, like I got a couple great, um, not grandkids a couple um, my kids don't you?
So but the god parent is like something happening you I'll come pick her up, right?
So that's what I thought god parents are, but I feel like the bitches is like no you like no kids you got extra money
I'm gonna be damaged to just buy shit for my kids. So anyway, I really felt like she thought I owed her something
So it was never any money exchange. It was just the fact that she wasn't financially
She asked me to mind you. This is a married woman. Mm-hmm. She borrowed money from me
And like immediately ghosted me
That's something like see she felt like I owed her like in my mind maybe yeah, that's in my mind
But what the fuck is that and you never got your money back? Never and it was like this like three four hundred dollars
Yeah, I want my money. I want my money back. Yeah
So this I you know, I came up with this because it wasn't a situation of
I loaned somebody money
It was where we all agreed to pay for something and then I fronted the bill and then you never sent your share
That's the same thing as you owe me fucking money, right? That's a real because if I got to come up
Come out of my pocket with some extra. Yes. Yes. Yeah, that's I feel away
I feel a way
And then every time I see you at Tom Mahawk Tuesday
Getting the motherfucking Tommy Hart for the cruelty bone in bone in bitch
See me my money. Where is my money? That's just inside cheap
Boy with somebody owe you money you litter it like they can't if you don't want to see them having fun
You having fun bitch, right? And you owe me my you smile it
I ain't got my 75 dollars that's the $2 for 50
You better look like you struggling every time I see or just mute me bitch don't let me see it though
Like if you just don't want you know to pay me don't have me seeing that you on vacation or that you at Tom Mahawk Tuesday
It's somebody I love really really I like I love them a lot
And they just be doing the most and they credit bad over here. Yeah, but I love them
And it's just like don't call me asking to borrow money
That's the thing if you call me like hey, I got such a such going on. I need such a much
Mm-hmm, and I give it to you. There's no expectation that you're giving it back
I have now deleted deducted that from my total balance
You call me and say can I borrow I'm expecting that money back or what about
So during the holidays I tried to like give back a little extra
And you know I had someone reach out and they was like I need some help
And then I was like okay here. I can give you this and they was like no
I don't want you to give it to me. I want to pay you back
I'm like no it's okay. There's like no I insist that I pay you back
And then never pay the back
That's for them though in their minds then when they took that money from you
It was just they just wanted to trick it's psychology and for their minds right
I didn't just take money from time. I actually borrowed it
But then somehow later on down the line they'll justify why you don't need your fucking money back
I'll put the watch you more than you pocket one
I offered it to you and you insisted that you pay me back and then never pay me back
And then talking about how you going on vacation with your family and that's mental illness and I'm fine
And I still didn't mention it so then there's a thing like
I
Asked in people for your money back. It's so uncomfortable like that's an uncomfortable conversation for me
And it's like why am I carrying shame about the money that you borrowed from me because you know they about to shame you
But your low money your look that
There go right there. Hey, hello money man
You coming at me for low five hundred a little it wasn't little without you needed it
You know saying so hey your low money. Yeah, that's I don't want to ever be a bill collector
Like I feel like that's the wackest job in the game like we live in America with a whole country is in fucking debt
Right, so I never want to have to call somebody and say hey, where my money at I probably just don't fucking with you
Because I don't really loan out money that I can stand losing anyway
So if I give you something that was something I had to learn because I would fuck around and
Give somebody what I couldn't afford to lose and then I don't get it back now
I got to call somebody and borrow money right
I literally was just talking about this shit this morning with somebody like dude
You cannot do more for somebody who you know if you are need they can't do shifters. Yeah, the people I'm doing
Shifu are the people I know that who I'm coming through for me in a clutch. Yeah, I'm not like I don't like liabilities
Yeah, yeah, sometimes you hear somebody's story. They'd be like they'd be real good at like you know
Sometimes ship it was shipy fuck nothing you'd be like
If you want to run they would figure it out what I don't like is with them up for you like let me get $20 still tomorrow
You just wait to the mar what have you doing with the $20
You can wait until tomorrow. That's such a small amount. What do you have to do with $20?
They just want your money instead of spending theirs. Tell me I want to get some wings
You got food in the fridge even eat that
All right, y'all so we're gonna play like I guess is it a game
Yes, I kind of so you we're gonna decide rather the person is truly struggling
um
Oh, they just ain't trying to give you my fucking money back. Okay. Oh, they just playing your face for real. Okay
All right, so first one
Uh
O's your $300 but it's collecting $75 for a birthday section
So they they bad with money. Yes
Because that's not necessarily broke. I mean $300
I don't know that's both ain't it
Because if you also like $300 and you can't pay that bad. That's kind of broke
I think it's like almost like uh, you can compare it to being like a clipped-on maniac like people who
still shit
That doesn't mean they don't have the money. They just don't want to use any money to and it's like the excitement of stealing
It could be the same thing with somebody barring some money from you like I just don't want to use my money
So let me get this bitch money
Because I mean I what like you fun raising because should you not have a birthday celebration because you owe me $300
No, your priorities is fucked up. It's okay to skip this bird obviously your finances is fucked up if you just need a low
300 okay, so you need to skip this birthday this year so you can bar hard next year. I don't skip a lot of birthdays
Okay, yeah
I get it. I get what you're saying because I would too, but I mean if everybody put them $75 then it's not like you spending a lot
Because everybody know you broke and they doing it because you broke
And I'm cool. What are you gonna get my 300 back today?
Yeah, cuz I don't want someone not to celebrate they book if I see you
All right, if I see you bawling out for your birthday, then I'm like, what about there?
But if I see you ask everybody for $75 then it's lying. She's still broke. Let's just celebrate her
You know, I don't want to see you
I don't want to see you know, I want you
I want you not to have a birthday girl if you fuck it 40 fuck that birthday
No, you turn it for you. Okay, maybe 41 fuck that birthday girl. You owe me $300 fuck that birthday and any plans you have for it
I can't imagine like I wanted to go to dinner for my birthday. We grow you got one birthday and that's a day you born
So now here you come and you big grown ass 38 year old and you ain't giving my money back yet, but you
I came to you and I was like
Yeah, the party but I ain't gonna go nowhere cuz I got it
I just wanted to give you this 300. Yes, thank you. You would take it in that moment
If I'm in there like this how long you gonna need that 300 back really when people got a bar money from you
They don't have to borrow again. So it's like I'm a savings account for you
You mean they not though. Hopefully they don't have the bar again. I don't know like if it's a bitch birthday
I feel like I might why are you trying to shame me and taking your taking my money back from you because it's your birthday
Why you wait to your birthday to give me this money back
You owe me this money for the last six months
That's the fact. Yes, and now don't try to play on my emotion. I'm a shock your ass and take my
I don't know if I can do it. He just depends on who it is
Okay, orders food every night while sending you $10 payments. I hate an installment bitch like I told you
I don't mind installment. I hate it install me especially if you got door that money cuz that's high
You know absolutely the actual fees that you paying you could have paid my money back right
Uh, bought concert tickets during the repayment period
No, you're not going to see usher and Chris Brown for seven hundred right and you that's a problem. Yes, that's when it happens for sure
I see your uh, Facebook eat cherries out of uh usher hand and you owe me three hundred dollars
The fuck my cherries bitch
Not just a business before repaying the start of money
No, I don't feel like that's bad. No, not at all
Like hopefully is the business is successful. You can give me my money back. Yes. Yes. Yes. Absolutely. Oh before it started
So did you did you loan them the startup money? That would be that's what it sounds like
I mean that seems like that's supposed to happen afterwards right uh post-illuxury staycation caption much needed
Is that gonna help you like come up with the idea to give out fucking money back?
If it is then okay, that's fine, right?
Cuz you know people mental health be fucked up sometimes, so yeah
I feel like sometimes is like it is good mental health to spend money
Like you do it just does something like your endorphins behind
Mendo understand why the fuck we like go to TJ max and do these treasure hunts with all this shit like
It's gonna we can get a bunch of shit and just feed that thing in us that needs to spend a couple dollars
Yeah, I don't do that. I'm an Amazon girl. I have you going crazy in the card
I like to touch the yeah, I like to see the things I you know because sometimes they just have these like items that
You know you know you can only get it today and it's not gonna be here like yeah
um
sends you motivational videos instead of payment update
I don't see nothing wrong with that but stemming you know send the money to with the video and trying to get
They mind right okay, so yeah, maybe you should try to manifest like yeah, I'm gonna send you some shit as a matter of fact
I'm gonna send you some manifestation
Videos you can try to manifest my god damn money
Hey claims cash app is broken book collects crab boy money without a mission
See I gotta get racist
She raises her hand cuz it'll fun
That's very
Nigger related
Nigger adjacent
Um since sixteen dollars or 42 cents toward a sixty dollar balance is as a hundred try oh shit
six hundred dollar balance and says at least I'm trying all right listen
You don't want to stop me so I don't that's what I was about to say don't see that you're a change
For some in 42 cents she just spent money somewhere and she sent you to change
Don't do that to me. No definitely bad spending happens. Oh
Look it's so funny says things people say when you're not getting that money bet. It was the first one
I forgot about you
I forgot about you now
My fuckers or always like as I owe you you never be broke. No, that's a family thing. Mm-hmm
So is that money hit you know I'm good for it
You know I'm good for it don't do it like that baby. Yeah, why are you making this weird? Yeah
I'm making it weird
You really tripping over that little bit of money. Oh, huh?
Girl, I was just about to call you
Yeah, exactly that's that's a problem
All right, what immediately makes you realize you probably never get your money back
Like if you talk to somebody all the time you give me this money and now you out on talking more like
Communication just started dwindling dwindling down. Yeah, and then I actually okay like if you say hey
Can I borrow this and I'm gonna give it back two weeks on this day
Once is one day after that day
That's when I know I'm not giving money back one day after the day you said the deadline
Yeah, cuz I it's a burden when you owe money I owe taxes. It's a fucking burden on your soul
Oh, yeah, I don't like I don't like only people shit, especially an individual. Yeah, you know, I'm saying
I'm gonna think about that shit forever
Give people they fucking money back. I just and I know this is a payment plan. This sounds terrible to admit and y'all
Don't judge me. I'm just a girl
But I always
Side our women who want to borrow money who are having sex girl
Is that fucked up? I'm like why are you I challenge the bitch. I said listen everybody you fucking call him right now get a hundred dollars
And either they gonna give you $100 and the $100 ain't shit
Yeah, so I'm just putting the price on you oh cheap ass
Call him and if you fucking three niggas, let's even get $300 right now. That is a small amount of money
If these niggas can't either they go and come through and give you $300 or they gonna get ghosts
My ass be like 5,000
That's actually three niggas the other cool chees it's you and you need to go take some of that 300 and guess the line of sand right
But even they want to bring the even they won't bring you the money. Oh, they gonna get ghost nine times out of ten
They're fucking on you because the pussy's free
They ain't trying to pay for it. So you asking for money like bitch your tripping
Yeah, I don't write that yeah, like I I I root because now I gotta suck my boyfriend dick to give you $500
Like where's your boyfriend like I do
I don't want it to sound like
Women should be transactional with their bodies
What why you making every I don't want like I don't want to suggest that that's
That's what we should be doing but I just feel like if you are in
Diary knee of money sex should be the last thing on your mind. I was your food. You wet. Oh, I want to know the signs of that
What pussy is
Dropers don't match
How did that work? It is not even about you know, golding and like men would say it's just about
Having some type of security if something were to happen even if you never asked this person for anything
If something were to happen you can
Like it's just something about a woman having sex and can't ask for help. I don't like it
But you feel comfortable calling your friend or sister. Oh, it's ego too women
Have ego and they be like I don't I don't need nothing from me. Yes you do. Yes you do. Yes you do
Yes, the fuck you do. Well, why you needed for me the fuck
So you just need everything from women. I just feel like you'll be supposed to do
or so I'm living here with something like what the fucking uh
Nate it's called me Nate
I'm joking. I'm joking. That's so bad. Are you? But this all right. This kills me too
You see your mother fuck it out. They owe you money. Yeah, right. I forgot about
Yes, the fuck you did
That is classic. Yes, that's fucking I forgot about you and the myths of partying right? Yes
You have my money right now. Why not just not drink it all that tequila and just give me like you don't even have to pee
All of it. I just want to know that you are doing it something in good faith. Yeah, but I don't even like installments
You want your home money? I want my whole lot because when it comes back in installments I pay I spend it
So you never got it back. Yeah, I'm like don't do that. What? All right, forgot about your face
That then okay, so if you don't want installments when they give you installments you just put that I didn't give it to you when it's
I take installments
You charge interest have you ever charged somebody interest money on money that you loaned me? No, but I've had somebody give me back more than they borrowed
Yes, they're very nice thing
Yeah
I have extra interest on money that I loan because they were using my money to make money
Okay, so I feel like if we make it money off my money
Well, I'm not gonna make no money off of it. That's fair. You want me back the same money. Yeah, no, no, okay
I'm kind of dealing with that right you using my money to make money what type of dealings was it?
I don't know
You see that you ask too any questions
There wasn't anything shady it was like a party or something like that
They were using they needed some money to throw the party and I wanted some money on the back in
Yeah, I feel like yes, that part. I mean the longest is just like a you never get it back
I mean, I mean, I I mean I'd tally up on family
I do tally up and mentally on family
Like I know how much money I'm getting in my mind my mama. She will literally keep the like the the deposit slips or
Receipts for an embankment
She got a fold on your ass
Like you really don't ram your tab up. She got to start keeping the receipts. Oh you for real for real
Oh, yeah
I um when it comes to family
With family and money
That can be very dangerous because you don't want to fall out with family members of high money. So typically
Most of all I tell them like let me be the final resort when you've exhausted all options
I say that you know go through everybody
Did come to preach if you if you go to church
You need to be asking them for money before you ask me especially if you're a tether
Yeah, but yeah go to somebody and then circle back and if you can't view it and then we'll
I'll ask you to list the options that you go through and then if it all else fails I'll give it to you
And it's family. I don't be really wanting it back stressful. What the hell?
What you know, I think people only call the people who they think I'll say yeah, so you surprised them when you say no
He thought we'll say yeah, no, I'm not this time bitch
You know, I don't ask from I remember I asked this is like
Might have been college. Mm-hmm
And at the time I wasn't dealing with this guy
But I had to call him an ax and he's like the pet deposit
For my dog and my apartment. I can't stand for a man to ask you why you need the money
If I you don't feel like that's a legitimate question. I'm not asking you for $2,000. Yeah, I'm not like and that's
I mean, I might be considered a lot of money for some people
I might ask you for a large some but some of money. It was probably like two three hundred dollars at the time
I'm in college
I am working and this unexpected bill comes up
I don't want to have to answer 21 questions about this $200 man. I need it for my you don't mean no
You want you to know what it was? Yeah, you don't have a fuck about me on my dog
You better put about a porch
Media cut off. Yeah, no, that's fair because
It's $200 but I feel like if you ask me for when I want to know what it's for I don't and it doesn't matter
What it's for just a dude it depends on the amount
Because what if I've seen people borrow money from a friend girl to get a nigga out of jail that ain't shit
you took my heart earned money
And bail somebody out of prison who been beating your ass. No, I need to know what you're using my money for because now I'm mad
Now I'm mad. Well, maybe not asking what the money's being used for can avoid being upset about it
Yeah, you said not asking I feel like if they really plan on paying it back. Why does it matter what I need the money for
But do they really plan on trying to gauge how important it is before you give them the money
Yeah, cuz my money is always important to me
So I need to see how important your shit is to me
No, I don't know how you just you know, it depends. Yeah, it just recently my knees asked me to help her with her tuition
And I'm like why you got a balance?
You got this let me let me see your awards letter. Now I did ask her
Make sure you ain't trying to spend my money on some bullshit. Yeah, so that's the similar. Yeah
It just it depends on who it is
The amount and who it is because you know people who that are responsible with money
You don't need to ask them what it's for but if it's your little crazy cousin who always is a bullshit
What you need? What you need 500 dollars for right now. Yeah, so
And I you know and this might be bad, but I don't I don't let men borrow money
I'm not giving a man money. I don't even know male bums money
I think like that when I said that I wanted someone to back in that was definitely a guy
You know wasn't a girl
But I don't really have me and I don't know a lot of men that would ask me for like a lick to some people
And I'm actually a gold digger like I want something from you. Mm-hmm. I don't know if I look like I have had a
Good enough men ask me for money to why I had to question what I look like to you
So I'll make that ask for money
And I really don't I just have expectations right? I really don't be asking people for money
I just expect that we together like for you to do things for me. I'm gonna do stuff for you
But I have had men ask me for money. I just want to know like what I look like
Really guys don't ever like is very rare that way I had asked first
Yeah, that's how I do homeless people too where they walk up I asked their first hey, let me get a dollar and before they can even ask me get a dollar
Let me get it. Hey shit. I'm gonna buy one fucking let me get that first
The only in that lander cuz it's just overkill there like you'd be the give up so much money
So in that lander you gotta ask them first
Yeah, but I want to know like what's the what is the how do men call and ask a woman for money
You obviously don't care how you look to me
Yeah, commented that commented at reg recently on Instagram like
If a man doesn't care how he presents to you he doesn't like you for real
Like if you don't if you know about how I see you advice to you like fuck up above whatever
I feel like this is like in the beginning
But if you've been dealing with somebody and you know them and they're just in a fucked up situation
Then that's different. I have no you in a fucked up situation. I'm offering. Yeah, yeah
You wouldn't even I know when somebody is in dire need and need something you wouldn't have to ask me
But I'm talking about just so fucking just you know, I don't know we had a few good conversations and I look like a lick
I'm confused. That's how niggas do and if they fuck your good shit
I have a niggas
Feel right about the fuck about some head before yeah, I happen to me. Yeah, so no that happens a lot
They'll take your car keys and go pick up another woman in your car
After dropping dick off after dropping dick off. I ain't no dick that good none but you don't know you don't
Baby boy remember he would take even that car. I'll be back to his but other baby mom house
I still ask the I stole my car
Yeah, you gotta steal your own shit
But how do you handle a defensive
Uh
borrow e
Like when you call them and ask them back for your money and they get nasty with you
It's time to fight right yeah, I get I
um
What's the word I'm looking for I reciprocate the energy. Oh, okay. Yeah, I definitely reciprocate the energy because why are you mad
About my money? Why is it little I hate that part when they say it's a little your little change
I'm gonna get your little change to you next Friday
You gotta start soon, bitches
I think that's the only way you start to play little civil lawsuits on these old and put a lean on their damn pussy
What
Next time you use that pussy, I'm getting paid
That's another thing but what about you do you I've never had anybody like
Well, I have had people get a little nasty, but it wasn't like bitch fuck you in that money
I never had that kind of energy
But I did have people get a little honoring
Like but people being bears one people
So it just depends on who it is because I try to give grace because people are prideful
And they don't nobody likes asking for money, right nobody
Really wants to come to you. They know they could finesse you though. I feel like you don't care about me
I don't know not everybody's trying to finesse you though like some people really just being
Uh, a barn for real and they need some help, you know
And people who have pride and you know like being able to present a very successful
Successful financial front
It's hard for them to come to anybody and they could be real fucked up and don't want to ask nobody
So then I try to give people grace in that element and then if I have to come back for to you about it
That's hard for me to do right yeah, cuz I'm I'm just not a bill collector at heart. That's yeah
I'm not
And so that's hard for me because so I imagine it's hard to tell someone why you haven't honored your agreement
Great. So I try to give grace depending on who it is, you know, I listen by the bars and money one time and I
Exclusively explicitly told them like hey, I'm gonna give you this
But I really really really need my money back. I really need my money back
And they still they not give me out they did not give a they're so hurtful. Yes, you don't give I feel like you don't care about me at that point
If I say hey
Mind you because I had already let you borrow money a bunch of times before so if this one time like hey
I can't afford not to get this money back
You don't care about me you asked me for this money knowing you couldn't pay me back. They didn't give a fuck
How I was gonna put me in a hardship you know, yeah, yeah, and that's the messed up part or sometimes people
Have good intentions about getting you the money back and they just can't dig themselves out of that hole
And instead of being coming to you, I'm like I ain't forgot about you. They just don't say shit
Is he planning life? Yeah, asking you if you think this nice. No, I don't my money would be nice. Yeah, I don't think that looks nice
Now see that's why when they come to you for asking you about how to spend they money
That's next level now you just disrespect right because sometimes people be forgetting or they think oh
Or you don't forget when you owe somebody you definitely like they they got the half of God because how
Or they feel like you don't need it. She's a she don't need it. She's a working on it. She worried about it
Yeah, I don't think people be forgetting I had a
I'm not even talking about that. I just assumed you forgot because they know where you are here just spending this money
It is a burden on your soul you especially if you love the person even it's just because you owe the person money
I doesn't mean you don't love them you just you still haven't gotten your hands on it to
To not fuck up your bottom line and to be able to give them your money back sometimes why you should not have borrowed that sometimes because sometimes people just selfish
They have already like made up in a mind that you won't get this money back before me anyway, so right you straight you ain't got no kids
Oh
I really feel like I do not like kids think that people with no kids have excess money for their fucking kids
That part really that's the same that's what I was saying about this girl and the goddaughter shit like yeah
You you count on my pocket you think I can afford to give you this money and I couldn't at the time. I mean
Yeah, you could
Why you can't my pocket? Yeah, cuz you don't know what I need to do right or who else I need to help you know exactly that part
Yeah exactly
Yeah, I think that people with kids and they they really be and I'm gonna tell y'all
I feel like mom is mom's come with a loaf of bread all my homegirls with kids got a bag
Maybe having more money than me somehow. I guess cuz they have
How do you do that without the fucking
Everybody look good
I know you're super here. Yeah, we be fucking up the bag
When you're having we've been a little we'd be a little bit
More irresponsible with our money, which is why we don't have extra to give you
You
I already plan how I'm gonna fuck my damn choose why we wish I'd adore that 17 times this week
You think family is soon that money doesn't have to be repaid back cuz they family
Sometimes sometimes I feel like that's why I say with family if you give family money is better to
Not expect it back just so you don't ruin that relationship because I've seen people
Not talk today brother assist for 10 years over money, you know, so if you
Just a word of advice if you can't afford to lose it don't loan it especially when it comes to family. Yeah
Wistam movie
When you know like with big mom big mama house and all that what's the name of big mama's house with Martin? No
I know that's the name of his movie, but it was like big mama's house. They were so full
You'll be knowing the movies. Yeah, so for remember the one family member
I'm pretty sure you know the characters. Oh Terry Terry had the money Terry was responsible
Terry's like no, we sell in this fucking house cuz that it at it up cuz I'm the only one paying the tax
Yeah, and it was like we can't sell me mama's house. Yeah, the one family member to everybody like I don't
I I be you know, you got to have gratitude, right? So
I do like I like to be able to help
Um, I think you should have gratitude of your position to help your family, right? Right? But then people will take advantage and sometimes you be in the way of somebody's fucking karma
You know, I'm saying you probably wasn't supposed to help this motherfucker. This was the situation
That was that God gave them to figure it the fuck out so they can get to the next level so now you don't get you can't be in the city
Yeah, exactly. No, sometimes you gotta let people fucking drown so they can learn how to swim
Okay, I agree with that. Yeah, so I don't I think that Terry was being taken advantage of in her family
And then at the end like people were called they could have called her selfish and then that cousin fucked her husband in the house
The family fucked my husband
Because of Evan the anus
No, Evan he was replaced. Oh, she fucked her. I didn't that bitch my name
Who doesn't be the host of the Joe cuz of flow
Evan these beholes not all
The biggest holes you know Thomas the name was Evan Eowa
All right, what's your last last then we did we there. Yep
You know
Like we both said you're not let anybody borrow anything you can't stand losing
Okay, and I really feel like if you give somebody's my give somebody some money just go ahead and deduct it from your
Bottom line just just already assume that you ain't gonna get that shit back
Yes, I agree and what's my last last
We outside of what the fuck you said
Yeah, that's it whatever she said
Did you want to find a better way to segue into the end?
What your last you like what's your last last we had a whole something we've been talking about with your last
You had something else off of that conversation, but we could have like segueed a little better. I guess
Okay, like all right, we can do it. We can cut this cut and go back into it. We go meet us just like it is
I want to offer a last last give me so second time we can cut
My last last is if you watching this and you know you owe me some money
Go ahead and fit in that shit
Sin that shit
Talk about it
See that shit over okay, that's my last last
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