The Gary Null Show - 9-9-26

0:00Hi everyone, I'm Gary Null. Nice to have you with us today. I'm going to do a brand new essay today on how you can take back control of your life where it might be out of control or where there's someone else in control. I think you'll find an event interest and I'm going to break it down step by step and we're going to post that on Gary Null's sub-stack because it's long and I've got something more important to share with you. We're going to be playing a clip from a psychiatrist, medical doctor. And she's going to do a little 15 minute clip called Why Women Get Away with Narcissism. But she's going to open a door that all bet no one in the thought is, I certainly didn't understand how common certain behaviors are and what's behind those behaviors. Wow, please share this. She's done a really good job. So Hannah, Dr. Hannah, thank you for this.

1:00And let's see if we can relate to it and how it informs us that we've got to stop all this hatred. We've got to stop this objectification. We've got to stop all these nonsensical ideas that everything's a microaggression. Even how you might look, how you might dress is a microaggression. And people then use all this as an excuse to be extremely negative, extremely toxic. And see if you agree with some of her comments now to the clip. And I say certain because the narcissism reveals itself in the type of labels, the type of diagnoses they seek. No one wears clinical depression or the plain anxiety as a badge of honor. Instead, the favorites are ADHD, as we've talked about before, autism, as we've talked about in the ever-expanding category of trauma responses. Notice how they are neurodevelopmental.

2:03I was born this way or trauma-based. Something, someone did this to me. And with that, they placed the origin outside of the self. It offers conveniently no concrete route to treatment and also conveniently shifts the burden of adaptation onto everybody else. So schools and workplaces must accommodate partners. They have to just adjust and therapy becomes an endless program of validation, safety and self-care rather than meaningful change. So a woman who's simply neurotic and sensitive to rejection because of that, she'll attribute every interpersonal wobble to a trauma response, easily done or complex PTSD. She feels anxious after a conversation, she's triggered. Terms like rejection, sensitivity are such bullshit,

3:04in my opinion, because they flatten an extremely painful early environment that causes us to feel sensitive to rejection because we were being rejected. So of course, your body, your bodily memory, being wise as it is, is going to alert you to anything that could instigate that original feeling of wounding. Another woman who misses deadlines, she, you know, says with this curious pride that she has ADHD brain or she has executive dysfunction or my favorite, my brain just isn't wired to be on time. No joke, that has been said to me. We have ADHD. Of course, we're always running late. I forgot my phone. We have ADHD. We go to a room and we forgot what we wanted. Or someone who dislikes unpredictable plans,

4:06get much more likely caused by anxiety and neuroticism, but she can say that she's autistic. And the entire vocabulary is designed to recast to implement as injury and injury as identity. Now, this isn't to say that every woman who use these labels are narcissistic, but this is to highlight how vulnerable the modern mental health landscape is to being hijacked by female narcissism. I just went for a checkup and now I have a diagnosis of autism. Like I'm not mad about it. I wanted this. I asked for this. I just didn't see it coming. So do I. My name's Ash. I have ADHD and autism. And when that hijacking appears, we want to be prettier than we are now. And there are certain signs that appear with a remarkable consistency. One of these signs is that if you gently

5:06prop the narrative, just gently. Something as simple as suggesting a calendar or a different routine or simply a behavioral treat tweak, something that worked for you, you will instantly be met with irritation, the defensiveness. You will be told in no uncertain terms that you don't understand or that you at worst, that you are dismissive, God forbid. And so what you've done, you haven't threatened her well-being in any sort of way, although that's how you will be made to feel. But you have threatened the status she extracts from this label, from this diagnosis. I've been diagnosed autistic in ADHD, which finally explains why I've struggled so much with life up until this point. We're all a little bit on the spectrum, but you don't have real autism. Don't start acting differently though now, just because you've got a diagnosis. And the diagnosis has become a psychological asset, which means that any hint of improvement would, of course,

6:09devalue it. And this is where the narcissistic mechanism reveals itself. So because we have made victimhood a form of social currency, the most important social currency, really, if you think about it, the psychological move is that I'm not just struggling. I'm the most struggling. I'm the best victim. I'm the best at being small. So it lets narcissism hide in this performance of vulnerability. And this, of course, secures the benefits of status without having earned it, without having to work for it. Well, of course, I'll tell you how awful it was to go to the different psychiatrists from having to fill out forms like this. When they diagnosed me with ADHD, they were like, OK, perfect. You have really bad ADHD. Don't know how you've actually gone this far in life without diagnosis. Kind of crazy. Here's 50 pages of paperwork you'll need to fill out. You'll need to book two follow up appointments today. OK. And you need a laser from your GP. You need all these things. And then we'll discuss medication with you.

7:10And I was like, what? Like, really? Like, you don't have another method for me. You can't help me at all. Like, you know this is getting done. And the status of victimhood will then invite social admiration for their hardship. And this hardship, I'm sorry, it's wildly out of proportion to reality, usually. It's just a way of gaining moral superiority. And this is especially important for women because evolutionarily, we are rewarded for appearing kind and appearing self-sacrificing. Nobody likes really an ambitious and very confident woman. She doesn't have a lot of friends. And now she can do that by out competing others in perceived suffering. The second example. And now it's getting a little spicy. Just prepare yourselves. This is the, this is where I'm going to go out on the limb. But this is the diagnostic labeling of children

8:10as a sort of maternal, maternal identity construction. And there are, there's no doubt that there's a rising number of mothers securing highly specific diagnoses for their children. For example, a child that struggles with transitions. He is immediately described as neurodivergent. The mother will then recount the ordeal of securing an assessment. And this is so telling. We had to see three different specialists before someone finally understood him. So this is going to be the journey it took me to get my youngest daughter tested for ADHD. You know, as though the difficulty itself confirms the child's uniqueness, you also have the mother who'll describe the child's refusal to participate in group work as him being bored because of his giftedness. And she'll then position herself as the one

9:10who has the rare task of raising a temperamentally extraordinary child. And then from her friends, she'll receive admiration, sympathy for dealing with the system, with the institutions who didn't help her enough or appropriately who isn't giving her what she needs. And no wonder it's like that when you have to wait that long. And some of the very first things that I would do if I was receiving an autism diagnosis for my child for the first time. Now that I know all the things that I know and I've been an autism mom for years, if you're new here, my son is 13. He has a level three non-speaking autism. He's got six other disability diagnoses, but I'm going to focus on autism today. The first thing I would do is I would find myself a therapist and I would make sure that I have a very good community around me. And here too, you'll see the narcissistic element. If you lightly question the diagnosis, you'll be met with disproportionate defensiveness.

10:13Even a suggestion like, have you tried less green time? It will be a direct attack on the mother's self-concept, self-image. And this is where it gets interesting. Now we're getting into it. A lot of people will confuse this with munchausans by proxy or say, oh, this is that, but it's different. So where munchausan by proxy is where a mother will induce or fabricate symptoms to get medical attention, her goal is to get into the hospital to talk to a nurse's and doctors. Her goal is to medical attention. Whereas with a narcissistic mother, it's quite different. She doesn't want emotional strokes. You'll see that the narcissistic mother deliberately seeks out diagnoses that don't really require that much treatment, at least not invasive. And it will always be sort of treatment or therapy that she chooses when and how, or she can say,

11:13we don't want to do that. It doesn't suit us. It doesn't work for him. So your kid was just diagnosed with ADHD and now what? First of all, take a deep breath. It doesn't mean there's anything wrong with your child. It simply gives them a label to help better understand where they're coming from. They don't really demand medication. Don't force change. Alicia has, she'll always have the control to implement change. But it will be diagnoses where the responsibility shifts onto schools, institutions, clinicians, systems, and the prescribed therapies or doctor's notes. They will be used as tools, as leverage to acquire such, to acquire accommodations, to make people do what you want them to do. But all the while, she can remain exempt from change. So that's the difference. Even if you've seen a lot of mothers who refuse to, they reject Ritalin for their ADHD child wholesale.

12:13And I think that's good. I don't think that children should be getting Ritalin. But that's another reason. Her reason is that the medication was never the point. The diagnosis was the point. So contrary to the Monshowsen by proxy mother, the reward of the narcissistic mother isn't medical attention, but easily earned social status and control. Dominance through why aren't you compassionate enough? Why don't you understand? Can't you have some empathy? Don't you see his suffering? We've been through so much already, and now you want us to do this too. Now we get to the third example. This is the gentle parenting, as a sort of stage for a narcissistic theater. When you look at the modern parenting culture and I'm talking about the gentle, the hyper attuned feelings burst variant, it is the perfect stage for female narcissism. If you don't know me, my name is Kelly. I practice gentle parenting and have done for almost two years now.

13:17Jesus. I show the highs and lows and everything in between a gentle parenting. There's no judgment here. If you want to do it, do it. If you don't, that's cool too. But let's talk about the word sorry. If you are wanting to do gentle parenting, here's why it's important not to force the word sorry. And it's because it's relational. Their dominance is relational. They're excellent at emotional manipulation. And because this form of narcissism looks like the very culturally encouraged virtues of compassion and understanding, it fits very neatly with this parenting philosophy that is built on attunement of reflective dialogue with a three-year-old and endless emotional literacy. Right. And be all done yelling. Because mommy is getting very frustrated and very upset just like you. And if mommy is frustrated and upset, then I can't do a good job calming you down.

14:18And I mean, for this mother, this parenting style is just irresistible. Irresistible. She gets to be the enlightened mother, the exquisitely attuned, the more elusive period, obviously, raising a child with an emotional intelligence that lesser parents could never hope to match. So this for a woman who self-esteem is just depends on social prestige. This identity is a gold mine. But inside the framework, the child's emotional life stops being about the child a normal developmental moment of frustration and or boredom or refusal or anger. It will be experienced by her as narcissistic injury that she isn't doing something properly. Wow. She made some really profound insights.

15:20So it allows us a better understanding of what happens when people can extremely self-righteous and mind you, take what I had suggested in earlier things of how you do one thing it's important like is frequently how you're gonna do the same mindset, the same intensity, the same bias, the same judgmentalism, the same accusations, instead of looking for the truth, you want the whole world to believe your truth is the only truth. So you can comment on this and I've got dozens more of clips from women from around the world talking about the toxic side of feminism that we must now acknowledge that it's been generational and propagandizing and conditioning is to believe something that we should have been more tempered, we should have been more standoffish, look at the facts before you make a decision. I'm trying to do essays based on what we really need at the personal level. I don't look at the outside of a person's life,

16:23what they've achieved, everyone masters different things, how they try to control different aspects of life and it's difficult when you have teenagers who think that you're not as smart as them and you're not as hipers, attractive, whatever it might be and you have to adjust to that because they're just young and naive and they'll grow through that hopefully. And what about, I do still have the passion in your relationships, do you still look forward to creating each day, do you look forward to going to work? Or are you doing things because you feel you have no other choice? Things are just out of control. Well, the world is sometimes looking like it's very bleak. In fact, there's the potential threat of a nuclear strike coming and we hope it doesn't happen but we don't seem to have a council of wise men and women anywhere in our society that says, hold on a second, what you're doing is not gonna get us to a place we need to be.

17:23So I'm doing this on how to take back control of your life. It was Mark Twain who said, I'm an old man and I have no great troubles but most of them never happened. Fear is a primary reason that people don't progress. I talk to many people who read good self-help books, see counseling, tend workshops and seminars and it remains stuck in their problems. Fear in all of its manifestations frequently hides behind the door we refuse to open. And nothing changes until they break through their fear. Sometimes fear is justified but most of the time it is the result of a illusion. I'm gonna try to differentiate between the two types of fear, real fear and illusionary fear. And right now almost everything for the past 40 years that we've been conditioned to accept or believe

18:24or tolerate has been based upon the illusion. Like with AIDS we were told everyone came being infected in diabetes. And if you are infected, if you have the antibodies that are positive you will die. Therefore you have to start on anti-retrobarals and one at one time was AZT when the toxicogs ever. All that was non- not true. It was lies. Was it lies out of innocence or lies out of just, well I'm in power so I better make some statement than look at what they did with COVID same thing. And so I'm going to show you several ways of dealing with each. You can approach real fears pragmatically. Illusory fears need to be eliminated from your mind. How do you do that? The distinction is not mine. It is the oldest piece of practical wisdom in the West possesses. 2000 years ago as I've mentioned Seneca's writings on many occasions

19:26he wrote to a friend that we suffer more from the imagination than in reality that there are more things likely to frighten us than to crush us as what he said. And that most of our torments come from anticipation of evils that never arrived. For 20 centuries that was philosophy. Recently became data. Research at Penn State asked people with generalized anxiety disorder, the champion warriors of the human race to write down every worry as it occurred for a month. Then track which ones actually came true? The answer was 91.4% never happened. And the few that did most turned out better than fear. The most common score for an individual warrior was 100% false alarms. Better still the patients who reviewed their own ledgers

20:28and saw the evidence with their own eyes recovered faster. So Seneca's insight, it turns out, is not just consolation. Checked against reality is his pure arithmetic. And there is a second thing philosophy knows about fear. You should carry through this essay. The Danish philosopher Kertegart noticed that what he called anxiety is usually not about danger at all. It is about possibility. He called it the dizziness of freedom. The vertigo you feel when you look over the edge of your own life and realize you could choose definitely it should have. That is why the fears in this essay cluster around freedom's doorway. Speaking up, being alone, being out of control, changing, beginning, the dizziness is not a warning to step back. It is the sensation of standing somewhere that matters.

21:31Are we doing thing that matter to our well-being or are we just on a regular routine? Oh, what day is it? It is Thursday. Oh, so are we supposed to have a shrimp cocktail? Yeah. Well, we've done that every Thursday for the last 20 years. Everything becomes original and it shouldn't because where's the youthful spontaneity, the curiosity, the interest, the kind of courage? I'm going to do something for myself. Well, hold on. You can't do that because you're going to have to feel guilt and shame and we're going to remind you if you've been doing something for us that we could do for ourselves, you're going to do the shopping. You come back and make the meal. You then clean up the dishes and then you're tired but we've already gone on with our life because we expect you to do that. That's our expectation. Don't you dare change. You change. We're going to be angry with you. Wow. So my answers are not the only solutions nor are they necessarily right for everyone. Rather, I hope that it will inspire you

22:34to think of answers that are personally meaningful. In addition, my question should help you generate questions of your own. Some thoughts will appear immediately whereas others will come later. So this section will help you explore what you're afraid of and analyze how you manifest your fears. It will encourage you to think about ways of letting go so that you can live a more full and vital life. So let's begin with a simple question. What are your afraid of? Many factors can cause fear. See which of the ones I'm going to share with you right now are important. How about fear of losing self-esteem? You lose self-esteem when you fail to live up to your image. Athletes who lose a game, posture themselves in a humiliating fashion before the public. Head down, voice softer, you know, the whole, the whole idea is just a game.

23:35It's not your life. It's just a passage. They don't say to themselves, it's just a little bit of my life. I'm not going to lose any sleep over it. It's not that important. I can learn lessons from it. And that's where it should end. These people take themselves seriously and take losing to heart. You're either a winner or loser in America today. It doesn't matter that you're both pretty much equal and at any given time one or the other could win. Look, I'm a competitive athlete. I'm training right now. But I also am aware when I show up at a race, there might be 30 people in my age group who are as equally capable of winning as I am. So I go in with a relaxed mind and I think to myself, I know how hard I had to work. I'll bet these guys worked this hard and what if some of them were even worked harder than they're more likely to win? But I'm not going to compete against them. I'm going to compete against myself.

24:36And therefore I'm going to try to raise the bar and that's how you end up winning and winning well. And when I finish a race, if I should be lucky enough to come in first, I immediately go and congratulate all that people came in after to let them know is great fun, great race. Now maybe it wasn't fun to them because maybe they tied everything to winning. I got to win, I got to beat someone. You don't have to win by beating other people. This whole idea that we are competitive at everything we do in life. And therefore we deserve it. Seed at the table for that moment in time. This nonsense. Psychologists now distinguish between self-worth that is contingent, staked on outcomes, appearances, you know, the people's applause and self-worth that rests on your own values. The research much of it by Jennifer Crocker at Ohio State University shows that contingent self-esteem is an rented house.

25:37Every game, every promotion cycle, every glance in the mirror is a landlord who can evict you. People whose worth is staked externally suffer more stress, more conflict, more depression. One of my very close friends at the very beginning of my career, I hired from this car magazine. He was a publicist. I think he was a top publicist. In any case, after working together for three years, he decided he wanted to go to California. He wanted to bring some new insights into marketing. And so he said, can you lend me some money? I said, I don't lend money, I'll give it. Because this way, if you can't pay it back, you don't avoid me. We're still our friends. So I just do that all the time. I don't give a loan. If someone needs something and if I can help them, if I have the resources, what is the point of succeeding if you can't share your success? Anyhow, he went out there and over time, he became extremely important. And quite simply, one of those important people in Hollywood.

26:39He became an agent in a public relations representative in a manager, then a producer, putting his own money, back he put his own money into one film where the star won his only Oscar, very famous actor. And but in the process, everything depend upon a film opens on the weekend. And then everyone is stressed and looking at the results on Monday to see how did it do because your future, whether people would open a door, write a check or green light, a project, depending upon your previous success. So the more success you had, the more likely you would be able to get into their good graces, think of the Steven Spielberg, think of George Lucas, think of the people that his directors and producer had a lot of good success and allowed them to have a good future. Now think of what happens when you put everything into something and it doesn't work. I think if you just are one hit wonder, you have one thing and nothing else, then the door closes because there's a long line in light,

27:40a people at every job in every career who are wanting to grab that golden ring and they're willing to sacrifice everything. The downside was my friend sacrificed an awful lot as family, et cetera, and as hell. So understand something, you're gonna have more stress, more conflict, your whole life's gonna shrink down like you're in a straight jacket, you can't move, you're gonna be more depressed, not because you fail more, but because every event is a verdict on your self-value. Well, I realize you won, you know, 18 games to get into the Super Bowl, but you lost by a point, you're a loser. We lost by a point, so what? Well, so in America, you either win or lose and we don't have any respect for losers and that's what we think of you. That's the mindset and it permeates, win or lose. All right, the fear of losing self-esteem is really the fear of a repossession

28:41and the cure is to stop running the house you're in. Where in your life do you strive to maintain an image of for fear of losing self-esteem? You may feel bad about not getting a promotion, for example, or about not being able to appear responsible. Then we have the fear of being out of control. If you're like most people, you're terrified by the possibility of your life getting out of control. And look at, we have 105 million acknowledged by a federal government, people without work. They once worked, they had a quality of life, a standard of living, now they don't. Imagine what it's like mentally, wake up in the morning knowing that that might be the last day before your apartment condo or house is repossessed, before your car is towed away, that you can't go out and buy the things you normally would, that you need, like food or medicine.

29:42So when was the last time you really played? Because you're not gonna be in a mood to play when you're losing things that are out of your control. So my first thought about this, I began to share it in some of my lectures. The people I was describing were the baby moons, then in the thick of their careers. Now I'm gonna share some things and see, does any of this sound familiar? Where every minute of every day is purposeful. You work too hard and never have time just to enjoy yourself. You'll get to it, you say. You promise are the people. It's been that long, is it? A year since we've been in touch, had dinner? Yeah. You became successful at doing things, but not at just being. I mean, a lot of people like this, they always feel the need to be responsible and productive. They can't spend the weekend just hanging out and having fun. They always feel the need for doing something important.

30:45They're afraid of losing control. Even their vacations are played out and planned in time from beginning to end. They'll go to Cancun and spend a half hour playing tennis and a half hour scuba diving, an hour after arriving, then wondering if they could make a deal on a condominium. All their meals are during meetings. I regret to report that this disease did not retire with the boomers. It jumped generations and got a technology upgrade. The smartphone turned into a hammock and to an office, surveys now find a majority of American workers checking email on vacation. Many of them concealing the time off from employers altogether. There's a name for it now, quiet vacationing and hundreds of millions of paid vacation days go unused every year. Meanwhile, the psychiatrist, Stuart Brown,

31:47who spent his career studying play, concluded from thousands of life histories that chronic play deprivation in adults shows up as rigidity, joylessness, and smoldering low grade depression. That play is not the opposite of work, but a biological need. And its absence has a clinical signature. The fear of being out of control has never been more enabling. It has also never been with a clear diagnosis. When I go to a resort, I'm nowhere to be found. I'll be on a hammock somewhere, just resting. And just enjoying the music, the aromas, the sun, whatever it is. I go away to rest. I don't want to do business. When I go on a business trip, it's business. When I go to relax, it's relaxing. When I take a day off and I don't answer the phone,

32:47I don't turn on the computer. That's by intent. I don't want to do any business. I don't want to think. I just want to relax and play. Being out of control asserts that you're different and independent and not just like everyone else. Allow yourself to be out of control. Be creative in a way where you do things spontaneously and completely out of character. Let yourself go and use being out of control is a way of growing. On a societal level, being out of control can have positive implications. I constantly work to break through barriers in order to make people aware of their alternatives. Years ago, I sit on television in national debates, several national debates. The AZ team was hurting AIDS patients and that the alternative therapies were helping people stay alive. I was out of control in the sense that I was saying things that other people

33:48would never dare to speak out. Never raise my voice. Never got angry, never accused anyone. Even when I was up against in one national debate with Lear on NBC, the people I was on the opposite side of I treated him with respect. By the way, on that day, they did the same. So they were in control of a situation on what they said. They were talking points. They were using. I didn't have talking points. I was simply telling the truth. Unlike them, they're not in the health field. I am in the public health field. I'm certified in public health science and human nutrition and diatetics, and everything else that I needed. So I was working with thousands, two thousand AIDS patients at that time. And so I knew what worked. We had the proof. When people come in with the severe Cobosis arcoma, pneumocystis, and three months, six months, nine months, a year later,

34:49they have none of those. They balance in, they feel great. They want to tell everyone their success. 18 of those two thousand people was on a very advanced protocol and reversed all AIDS 100%. We had all the blood and work up. We had everything proving it. So that's being out of control. When you're willing to take a truth that no one else would say and say it, that's when you're stepping out of the boundaries of controlled dialogue. And by the way, that claim deserves the same honest audit. I've given every day other claims in this essay because the returns are in and they're humbling in both directions. On the narrow point, the record completely bears me out. The early practice of giving 1,400 to 1,600 milligrams of AZT alone, that caused 325,000 American young gay men to die.

35:51Giving pregnant women AZT because they tested positive for an antibody but never showed they had the virus, that caused the death of many of those babies and parents. That was a failure. The drug of those doses was brutally toxic. And the large Concord trial published in 1994 found that starting AZT early by itself did not lengthen light. They ended up with all these symptoms. So saying out loud when saying so was heresy was legitimate. But how often do people in the mainstream say something out loud? Say it with honesty. What we're doing, what we're being told to believe is wrong. We saw that with AZT. Most journalists will not risk being out of control. They have too much to lose going against the system. When I first wrote this, I named Mike Wallace and Tom Brokeau, men bound by fear in my opinion

36:54of losing their jobs, their power. And as a result, these losses, their self-esteem. Both are, no, I think, I don't know, Wallace died in 2012, but Brokeau retired and after a half century. And the gatekeepers they represented have largely been replaced by algorithms. That doesn't mean they didn't do some good work and important work they did. I wanna acknowledge that. But on the important issue of AIDS, no, no. And the average journalist when it comes to COVID, same thing. So here's what that experimental taught us. The fear survived the technology. Anyone on Earth can now say anything to anyone and yet self-censorship did not disappear. It changed masters. People no longer fear the network present. They feared their own audacity and their own audience,

37:56their own side, the pile-on. The bottleneck was never the broadcast tower. It was always the psychology. Think of what would happen if more people didn't play by the rules. We could progressively move forward as a society until enough people break those barriers. Fear will keep us trapped. What about a fear of loss of place? You may fear losing your place in different areas of life in a relationship, for example. You become jealous and envious. And hurt if your partner tells you that he or she has met someone else. Understandably so, but I think that's a great thing when someone can simply say, whatever we've shared, that's over and I'm moving on. And then you have the right to say, well, thank you for the moments you did appreciate and we shared together. And I'm glad that you found someone

38:57who can share other experiences with you that I couldn't. And let it go because you're free now. You're free to be with people who are going to share more with you, maybe more authentically and for a longer period of time, more happiness, more joy, more creativity. There's nothing worse than a stale piece of bread with mold on it and that's most people's relationships. If I were in a relationship where someone didn't want to be with me anymore, I'd feel fine about it. Don't have that problem at all. It wouldn't be a problem. I would get on with my life rather than feel hurt and betrayed. I wouldn't compete against anyone or fight for someone. I don't see the point of that. That's just barbaric. I've just moved on because someone's told you, we no longer share harmony, going with your life. I am. Instead we want to, well, I'll prove or I'll, no, just go on. There's no reason to fear the loss of a place

40:00and it's so much stronger than the pleasure of having one in the psychologist Daniel Cunin and Amos Toreski measured it, losing weight roughly twice as much as equivalent gains in the human mind. We're built, lopsided. A thing barely valued while held becomes precious the moment it might be taken. The job you complain about for years becomes unbearable to lose. Knowing the biases have to defense when the tear of losing a place ceases you, ask, is this place actually worth what I'm feeling? Is this worth the stress that I'm going through? Or is my accounting simply rigged? Often you will find you are fighting to keep something you never much wanted. As a student, you may have feared losing your place in school. People are put under a lot of pressure to perform well in school.

41:00Remember, the people who were always competing for A's, their lives were often imbalanced. They paid a price for needing to study that hard. They had to give up developing other areas of their lives in order to become a school smart person. There's a type of person who always strives for goals, but neglects the process leading up to their attainment. And that's sad. The person achieves something but learns nothing and doing so. Everything gain boils down to a trophy to be displayed. And it's only through the achievements that that self-esteem has manifested. I sit all the time. In my friend at the very end of his career, where he had helped almost 150 of the most famous people in Hollywood during the 1970s, 80s, 90s, and 2000s, he came to my office one night. I hadn't seen him in a couple years.

42:03And he said, well, I'm thinking about summary retiring. A retiring permanently. I said, keep it to yourself. Why? No, no, every, every, I'm just going to do some work. Listen to what you want. The moment the people you spent your entire life protecting and holding up to the public is being more than what they actually were, human beings. They'll never call you again. And they'll make some excuse. Oh, we'll get together and we'll have lunch. He said, no, no, you don't understand Gary. I held the one actor's hand to get him on a plane to go to the Cannes Film Festival where he won. I then had to go from there to Ireland with him because he was afraid to go alone. That's an award. I produced his movie. I put my own millions of dollars into his movie. That's not what me nothing, because you didn't realize what you were dealing with in the first place. Highly narcissistic, self-entitled, insecure people will say anything, do anything in order to be relevant

43:06in the next day's news. We see it all the time. Oh, that's not the case, Gary. You're wrong on this. I said, okay, I hope I am. Six months go by. And he announces that he's going to simmer retire, slow it down. Never got a call after that. And he said, I was absolutely right. He would meet someone in a restaurant, accidentally bump into him. Oh, we're definitely going to, no, we're going to get together. I'll call, never. And he came back and was very sad. He said, I just realized on my flight back to New York, I sacrificed my wife, my children, my health, my time. I've lived a lot. I said, that's Hollywood. Making people believe that something is real when it's not. So we also fear authority. And that's not good. But I don't have time today to go into that.

44:06I'll go into that tomorrow. And what happens when you feel authority, then it dominates you. That's why people, once they're terrified, they'll do almost anything. The authority figures a powerful people tell them to do. And that's a big time mistake. The entire essay is published and the entire voiceover. So you can listen to it where you can read it. It's on Gary and all of a sub-stack. OK? I'm going to take a break and come right back now. It's time for you to call in and share your thoughts. Our talk back numbers, 888-874-488. Back in a moment. Be safe. We're back with Gary No Live. But Gary, first before we go to you, I just wanted to announce that.

45:09I was going over the numbers that we have here and the different countries, all over the world. I'm going to take a break. I'm going to take a break. I'm going to take a break. I'm going to take a break. I'm going to take a break. I'm going to take a break. I'm going to take a break. Here in the answers at the South Island, the port of a type of mouse. It was on October 3rd 2020. A bit late this year while over July 2020 squared. We participated in 10LET's on the reason. Last year, frustratedity!* igu of June 2021, especially big handsome Suzell Re uh, JFK World has absolutely lost three wordtthens. That's why we only owe $400 out of 12 Danko. With the 6K coулける of our company and developed this new Poland, Switzerland, Mexico, just you know, obviously we have listeners we know and they're all over the world and it's great to see the statistics so we can see what's going on.

46:13I remember in fact we posted it on showing what I'm done in the last two years, more or less two years and if you want to go to Sub-Skirinol Sub-Stack you'll see it. I don't know what the posting is listed has but it shows you all the new books, the documentaries we have out the documentaries coming out like Brother Can You Spare a Dime. We have the newest documentary and the corporate science, an extensual threat, the essays over 50 essays this year alone and another fifth come new projects coming next week next month. So I just want people to realize that these are all selected based upon what people tell us they need in their lives. Right now what we need more than anything is clarity. What tools do we need in order to survive the upcoming transitions in the economic world with Japan selling off its bonds?

47:19Excuse me, something that didn't do in decades. A bond, I don't care what kind of bond it is, a corporate bond, a government bond municipal bond, a federal bond. These are IOUs, these are debts and while nobody under really average person didn't understand that the Treasury, historically since Brent Wiesen, 19, right after World War II became the reserve currency. So as long as you were a country and you want to put your money from your country into something that was considered safe, those were sovereign investments. China had the most of American treasures in the world. It's about to dump them. Excuse me. China is going to, supposedly getting rid of over $800 billion in Treasuries come November. They're also making all kinds of arrangements to disassociate with all business enterprises. Now this was mentioned a couple times and forgotten.

48:19And so we're looking at a country that lives off debt. In what kind of alchemy do you make an debt, an asset? You don't and you shouldn't. But with derivatives and credit default swaps and shorts and options and puts and everything else that they have, these are not building factories or contributing to jobs or quality of life or rebuilding infrastructure. These are purely immediately agreed from Wall Street and the banking industry. And to give you an idea of how how much we become aligned at a, literally at a sociopathic level is look at who was bailed out under Barack Obama. Only the people that created the crimes. They were all bailed out. In fact, they were excessively bailed out between the 23 trillion they received in the quantitative easing of up to $84 billion a month. They just bought up their competition. They created massive monopolies.

49:24The price of everything went up and the average person was not aware of this. They didn't have a background in business. They don't have a background in economics. They're just trying to survive. They're trying to do the best they can with the circumstances in their life. That's why I'm doing these essays. And most of them are adaptive supportive life energies, meaning in my opinion, they're the best of the best because the worker bees, they sacrifice their whole life to make sure that their skills can be applied with their mason or builder, a plumber to creating the buildings, creating our homes, creating the cars. Virtually everything in our life is created by these people and if they're treated with such disdain by more and more classes system. Excuse me. So I'm concerned that the mainstream media, the alternative media is not providing people with the information they need. They're providing headlines and slogans. That's why I'm doing this whole new thing on, yeah, women should have all the rights. We worked hard for that, but they should not

50:30have super rights. They shouldn't be considered better than, more moral than, more kind than, a man. This is insane. This is where all of our sense of historical reasoning is gone. Replace by someone who comes up with an idea that makes no sense, but suddenly they're politically active. They're on the media and now they have followers and those followers who have no sense of discernment, then they follow them. That's why I'm doing another clip tomorrow by leading African American journalist and broadcaster talking about within the African American community. Why is it that it's been allowed or tolerated by the mainstream, very productive, very constructive, African American groups? This is the fringe end, but the fringe end in almost all circumstances, in almost all cultures, have more control than what they should have or should have under any circumstances. So he's calling it out. Now there are thousands of other voices calling out.

51:34They're former feminists calling it out. What we did right and what we did wrong, the trouble is the wrong didn't stop. It metastasized. So now it's just completely acceptable to call every male you know, a pig or a racist or a scumbag. Whatever, whatever, vitro you want to use, you can do it without anyone saying, hold on a second, you're condemning all men than you're the problem. You're condemning, seeing everyone's racist, then you are the racist. I'm just calling out what is there and all of us know it. All of us know it. We know the lies we're living with and we shouldn't. It's time for everyone who has a voice to find it and use it. That's why I'm doing all these. By the way, someone sent me a thing on article one, Islam and slavery. I read it and I'm going to respond on tomorrow's program to that. So anyhow, thank you, Kevin. So we're heard all over the world.

52:35In fact, we were on Zeno and you can see it for yourself because the head of Zeno, the owner of Zeno said we have 15,000 broadcasters including Sean, Hadadian, Larring, and all these. And the Gary and all shows number one in the world. And you see a chart they have with all these tiny little measurements and there we are taking up one third of the entire chart. And we did that year after year after year. Ten May and Listening, Unique listeners. You see, here's what people don't understand. Media people play with numbers all the time they lie. So Sean, Hannity, may for example, and I'm just making this number up, but I'm sure it's not too far off. Maybe as two and a half May and listeners. But those are not unique. That means most of those people are going to be watching every night. Unique is when you're one of a kind. It's not a repeating number. And you look at David I that founder of Lycos and had the largest internet

53:36business station in the world and invited me on there. And I was on for years and sent me a letter. Look at the letter. Ten million unique listeners. Now we have 20 platforms. You add up the total number. You need unique listeners. It's a lot. And yet we keep a very low profile because what I never go on the media talk about is myself. It's stone do it. Never have. It won't. So I just want to share that with you. Thank you from around the world. And thank all of the people that you listened to me for 36 years, six nights, or six hours a week on KPFK. I did the best I could for KPFK. But there was a time when I felt that contributing in one case the last time I pledge form half, half of all their money coming in. But the audience and the management and I were not in alignment of what I believed. The Lewis Hill, the founder Pacific, amit by being a voice for the voiceless. I found too much politics, too much hatred. And that's when I said to Roy, you know,

54:42I'm not going to say anything. I'll just say goodbye. And I didn't miss say goodbye. The audience has just left. I'm sure a lot of people were happy, but they've never made a fund drive sense. They never missed one before that happened in B.A.I. happened in P.F. DeBio. So there's a time in life where you have to do the right thing even if it seems wrong by other people, especially people who take you for granted and people who benefit from you, whether people are being paid with my contributions, not appreciating that. We're I'm the only one who they forgot to write the check in 48 years, not a single check, though I had contracts for those. So there's times in life where you have to stand up for your own conscious and say the right thing even if the wrong people are going to reject it. Hope that answers that issue. And do we have any callers? No calls, Gary. No calls? Okay. I do want all for, by the way, Friday 9-11, we're going to do us

55:50five hour special from 9-5 pm. Progressive radio voices will do the most comprehensive in-depth investigation in the truth of 9-11. We have a whole the best of the best lined up to be on the program. So you're going to hear the voices that you wouldn't know or haven't heard before, but our own five hour special. Now I may have more material than five hours. In which case if I have another five hours, I may end up with 10 hours, in which case all of that will be on the Gary and all sub-stack for you to download and listen, give you real information. So Richard Gage is doing a really good conference right now, but how many people can come, very few compared to the people of the member who were hurt all over the world. So those people now can get the best of the best information on 9-11 in a special on Friday. That said, let me give you

56:52a special for the day, owned by the way. We got word from one of our audience, it's someone from my office wrote and requested a $1,500 donation. Not true, that's a scam. No one would ever call you from my office asking for a donation. If people feel that the station represents an important voice for them, then they can go to Progressive radio voices and they'll see a button donate and you can donate whatever you feel you can afford. And for those of you who are more tired, have good savings, if you're able to give a little more, that will help. Because we have a lot of new goals. We have our goal is 50 news programs before January. We already have some outstanding programs, new ones on now, and they're interviewing and Kevin and Peter are leading the way in reaching out. And some of the clips you see I'm inviting those people on as well to do shows. We're not going after political

57:57shows. We're not going to have any political shows on. We're going after shows that help people that actually empower you. That when you come on each week, they're not going to hear the same old thing and the same old rhetoric you're going to hear. Something new and fresh and vital. So those are our standards. But if someone's trying to solicit you over the internet, it's a scam. So don't support anyone who calls you or emails you. All right. You know how to do it. You go and just give whatever you can. It's certainly appreciated. All right. Because we are the voice for the voice list today. And we are the number one progressive radio station in the world. And so we're getting the message out. So that's taken care of. So all for all the good people in California, who used to listen to my show. I told you that you could now hear me on progress rated voices years ago, like six years ago. And so those people have come over. You are living in a challenging

58:59environment. I have great empathy for the people who want to do the thing or doing the right thing, even when they vote for voting for referendums that empower people and they're getting knocked down. The majority of the people in California are not voting for the right people, unfortunately. And so the wrong people, which is almost all the politicians out there, and you see the corruption, you're being victimized by that. The day may come when you simply say enough, it's not going to change. It's too entrenched. Quality of life counts. And you move to a state that you believe provides new, a new way of living. I live down here in Florida now permanently because of quality of life in this city, small, small city, where everyone is kind and friendly. You don't have all the rapes and beatings in middle-ale people. And now they have a new law that they're

1:00:01passing in this upcoming election, a referendum that the people decide the governor has decided to reduce property taxes by 85% with this first round and 100%. And we don't pay any personal income tax here. Could you imagine the savings? I would be saving 30,000 a year just for my property. So think of taking away all taxes at the same time, California is increasing your taxes and losing the quality that once existed. So good people are in a bad situation, and now it's a time to think about maybe changing. And finally, your special of the day is fruit and veggie stuff. Now for those of you who are new to the program, we've got a lot of new people. I create products based on what no one else has. They may copy my product because I'm not out there marketing. We don't have any sales team out there trying to sell the

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1:02:08diet, for those who have family members who just refuse to eat the right foods, ask them just to take one scoop of this in their favorite beverage. All right? You're not trying to change them. You're trying to help them. And sometimes the people who become of the most angry at you for trying to help them or your own family. It's my life, Gary. Keep your nose out of it. Oh, eat one. I want that's correct. And then when I see them in a coffin and they got the glasses on the little roof, don't they look good? No, they look dead. What the hell are you talking about? You know, why don't we put everything in the coffin? Oh, the alcohol they drank because it was fun, wasn't? Something burns your throat, tastes terrible. And for those who are more sophisticated and probably have a degree in some worthless class from Harvard, put a glass of wine in there. It's wine. It's special for people with, want to pretend that they know something that's not real. Wine is a terrible product. We try to make it something that's not. Wine tastes like X marathon socks right after

1:03:15a marathon smell. But people won't be honest about it. It's not the same as a glass of orange juice or grape juice. All right? But we want to make it like that. It isn't. It speeds up your death and all the sandwiches not just turn the whole coffin into, here's all you can eat and drink. To die faster. So you can have a root on your cheeks and make sure you look like you're just waking up. I don't think so. In any case, I just want people to live a longer and healthier life, even if they don't want to. At least they should know they still have the option. This is the option for those of you who want to make sure you get three servings of fruits and vegetables a day when you really wouldn't otherwise. That's who it's for. Maybe they will give it back to you and say, you eat this stuff. I'm eating my, my inner twinkies. That's fine. Let me eat what they want. But at least you cared enough for yourself and someone else to give them the fruit and veggie stuff because I don't know if any other product except my own cruciferite that gives you three servings

1:04:18of fruits and vegetables in a single scoop. And that's it for today. Thank you all for listening. And go to Gary and all the sub-stack because we get a whole lot of stuff for you to read, see, listen to. See you tomorrow.