
#76. The Critical Three-Month Dating Rule (I'm single again)
About this episode
So… I went through a breakup last week. Which means, we need to talk about The Three-Month Rule - aka that moment in every relationship when the dopamine wears off and you may start to see the person you've been swooning over a lil differently.
In this episode, I’m breaking down the arc of my post-divorce dating, the absolutely feral things your brain does when you think you’re catching feelings, and why my therapist Deborah (we love her) is absolutely correct about the three-month mark being a turning point. I’m walking you through how I got back into the dating world and the patterns I keep seeing in myself - and maybe in you, too.
I also read you my list of qualities for my ideal man, directly from my Notes app. It’s giving “manifestation with a side of delusion,” but why bother living any other way, honestly. Plus, we’re talking about the honeymoon phase and how to tell if someone’s actually worth the emotional labor of a hard conversation.
Whether you’re dating, healing, avoiding Hinge like the plague, or just here for the chaos - you are so welcome. Love you, babes. I’m glad you’re listening. Let’s keep figuring this shit out together.
✨ In this episode:
- I cry. Just kidding lmao
- I explain why three months is the magic number (and not in a cute way)
- I roast my dating history and read you my "ideal man" list
- We talk boundaries, patterns, and how not to ignore red flags (again)
- And I give you permission to get a rebound. A hot one.
🖇️ Check out the full article I reference in the episode: https://amiethedatingcoach.com/why-relationships-end-at-3-months-and-what-to-do/
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