Steve Harvey ( Strawberry letter)

0:00Hey, it's a strong berry wine, collect summary, Anderson. How y'all doing out there today? I hope everybody is doing well. If you're not doing well, let's find a way to get well, look well. And of course, you already know it being well. Right now we're going to let to the Steve Harvey Morning Show with the strong berry better. It's all about the relationship, y'all. So here we are with the strong berry letter and remember, I am not the strong berry letter, y'all. I am the strong berry podcaster. So tune in to the strong berry letter. But listen to her on Sarah Marie Anderson's podcast. So y'all have a good day and listen to that strong berry letter. And don't let it get your relationship all track. It's just a letter. Let's go. That's it.

1:00All right, thank you Steve. Subject, he needs to pay himself with everything, everything. You're Steven Shirley. I'm 30 and my fiance is 28 years old. We've been together two years and he proposed three months ago. I've held out on intimacy with him until I got a commitment. And he did not have a problem with that. The night I got the ring, I gave in. And we had sex that night. It was not what I expected at all. I'd seen him naked a million times. And I knew what he was working with, but I had no idea if he knew what to do with it. Our first time was such a disappointment. And I was left unfulfilled. We laughed about him being excited because it was our first time. He's quick and everything he does though. Since we met, I have teased him about eating and drinking too fast. We cannot share appetizers because he eats one after the other and I barely get any. If we're having wine, I may get one glass because he drinks it like water.

2:03I always have to encourage him to pace himself. I shouldn't have to be surprised when the same thing happened in the bedroom. I was brutally honest with him about the sex because I'm about to marry this man. I started having sex daily in hopes that he can get used to me and learn to pace himself. His doctor prescribed him something for mild anxiety. Now during sex, he will mumble the entire time or he will stop abruptly and ask me questions about how he's doing or how my day went. It is a total letdown every time. His doctor says it's a temporary problem and he will be fine once he's used to me. I am afraid this may not be fixable because it has been three months. If he can't figure out how to pace himself sexually, should I pace myself on getting married to him? Well, I say yes, most definitely you should because sex is an integral part of marriage and intimacy and it's a deal breaker in some instances.

3:07So if you have a chance to get it right or to fix it in your case, by all means do that, pace yourself when it comes to the marriage. You don't want to cheat or end up in divorce because of it and I can't express the importance of that enough. I mean, it's important. It sounds like it's not so much about pacing though. I'm getting that as it is about skill with him. Skill you can teach. You just have to be patient. You got to practice like you've been doing for the last three months and remember not to question, eco, you said you were brutally honest with him. You know, maybe come in a little softer, not so harsh and so brutal as you called it. I'm assuming you really truly love this man. Otherwise you wouldn't be marrying him. I think you want a relationship and you want it to work, right? Well, here's where the work comes in. You know, you got to talk about this stuff outside of the bedroom. You really got to get to know each other and what you like. I say don't give up on him if you love him and if this is what you really want, he can

4:11learn to pace himself, learn to eat slower and do everything slower. He can learn these tricks. You know, this is fixable but he's got to want to do better too and it sounds like he does. He sounds like he wants to please you. Steve? Well, I'm going to take a different approach here. This seems doomed. I can fix the top half of your letter and what I'm going to suggest on the bottom half of the letter, you're going to like, so here we go. Okay. He needs to pace himself and everything. You 30, he 28, been together two years. He proposed three months ago. I've held out on intimacy until I got a commitment. He didn't have a problem with that. The night I got the ring, I gave it and we had sex that night. Oh, no. Two years of anticipation.

5:14Yeah, but it wasn't quite what she expected. She'd seen him naked a million times and I knew what he was working with but had no idea if he knew what to do with it. First time was a huge disappointment. She said I was left unfulfilled. We laughed about it being exciting because it was our first time. He's quicking everything he tells us. So now let me fix this part of the matter. Since we met, I've teased him about eating and drinking too fast. We can't share advertisers because he eats one after the other and I barely get any. Y'all going to have to start getting too advertise. Fix it, shame, fix it. This part I can help you with. Y'all got to start getting too advertise. If we're having one, I may get one guy asked before he drank because he drinks it like water.

6:14Here we go again. Who bothers him wine? Now, you can sit over there and finish his fast as he won't and you keep sipping yours like the lady you are. I've always tried to encourage him to pace himself and so you shouldn't have been surprised when the same thing happened in the band. And I was brutally honest with him about the sex because I'm about to marry this man. So what did you say to him? He crushed him. Excuse me. Excuse me. Fuck a band, man, right, that's it. I'm a good band. Hey, Jagger the Bar. Oh, then what we've been to him. Quick drop, that's it. Hang on. Hey, it's speedy girls out. What you doing? Hang on. Part two. She's married. She's got a proposal from this 28-year-old guy. She's 30 that she's held out her intimacy until she got a commitment.

7:17He didn't have no problem. He bought her a ring after two years. Seeing this man neck at 100 times, they finally had sex. She was just supporting because his pace was incredible. He just too fast. But it's just the way he lives. He eats too fast. He drinks too fast. They order our dudes. He don't hardly get any because he went after another. I'm in suggested. Y'all need to start giving two or thirds next week. Order by the wine. She only give one glass. Y'all got to start on the two bottles of wine. Give him his own bottle. So you're going to be in a little while when the metabolism changed. You're going to be married to a bad alcoholic. Look like to me. Because he's eating everything in front of him and he's drinking everything. And he leaves me. He 20 years of metabolism high right now. As soon as he's slowed down once again, you're going to be married to a fat alcoholic. All right. And you've been carrying him to pace himself. So you shouldn't have been surprised. When the same thing happened in the bedroom, I was brutally honest with him about the sex

8:19because I'm about to marry this man. So you called him a bunch of names. To beat his $1,000,000,000,000. Run him. Something like that. How fast we're going to do this. And then what you did was you started having sex with him daily. And hopes that he can get used to you and learn to pace himself. And his doctor prescribed him something for mild anxiety. Now here we go. Just with the letters. Now I do it. He said he will mumble the entire time. And he will stop abruptly and ask me questions about how he's doing or how my day went. Right. What does that mean? He said it's a total leg down. Well, let me tell you what that is. OK. When a young boy can't control himself, the best thing he do is try to stop. He's just sucking. Get his mind on something else. Then go back.

9:20And he's going to count the downtime as time serves. Let me give you an example. So let's say you're all been added for a strong two minutes. A two minutes. OK. All two minutes. Oh, he got his three. Wow. So he just started mumbling. The mumbling is what he's actually making himself talk about. I got to fix my car today. Oh, no, my gas price. Sure. I know his shoes. All you can eat down the walls. This is the stuff he's doing to try to talk about. Then he'll stop and ask you how he doing it. Now, he going to talk to you for five minutes, but he wants to count that five minutes, within two minutes. And then he going to start back up. Oh, time. Now we have seven minutes. Mm-hmm. Because he's young and he's stupid. Now, the doctor says it's a temporary problem.

10:24And he'll be fine once he's used to me. Yeah. I'm afraid this may not be fixable because it's been three months. If he can't figure out how to pace himself, should I pace myself or get married to him? I think he should. Or else you're going to have to get used to the way I'm bound. Thank you, man. Right. Because that's all this video. No. You ready? Yes. How much you ready for the answer? Yeah. Okay. The comedian and me. Come on. Ready? I think it's wrong here. All right. I felt I think, I need to pick the pace up. For sale. Oh, okay. You take it too long. We ain't got all this. He got to go to work. You take it too long. You need to pick your pace up. Mm-hmm. You know, you, we doing the three minutes. Let's go. Let's go. Let's do it. Got no time for you all this long,

11:26like you for the being here all day. You need to pick your pace up. Oh, okay. Maybe that's the problem. See, sometimes you have to speak, speak up for weak men. Mm-hmm. Sometimes you have to give an adequate man a voice. Okay. That's what you're doing right now. I'm speaking for the inadequate men. I'm speaking for the men who don't have a voice. You're all this you. The boy. You're all this you. You, you, you too fast. I hear you taking too long. You too slow. You know, yeah. I'm too fast. You're too slow. Ah. You can't please me. You're here. You ain't all that children. So they're just arguing now. You know, just all this is you too slow. Oh, oh, oh. How about you to be? How about that? See now, I'm speaking for the men. So the all you to be and all that. Mechanism.

12:26Hey, please don't ask yourself, fellas. Is that your job, you? You're speaking for them? I'm speaking for the broken man. The man that don't have a voice. You're there here. A piece says you too small. Feel her, she too be. That's all. You got to fight back. Yeah, now it's a fight in the bedroom. She talked about UK last.