Soft Men Are What's Wrong With This World | EP 022

In this episode, Phil criticizes the crisis going on in modern society about lost men. He expresses disappointment over men who fail to live up to what a respectable man should be. Phil points out how so many men lack commitment, discipline, and the ability to fulfill their responsibilities, leading to negative impacts on their families and society. He urges men to embrace discomfort, take responsibility, and strive to be better husbands, fathers, and individuals. The episode challenges men to level up and reject weakness, with Phil promising to relentlessly hold men accountable and call out behavior he views as damaging to society.

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Timestamps:

(00:57) - A Blunt Take on Today's Men

(04:27) - Confronting the Epidemic of Inadequate Male Role Models

(08:02) - Rejecting the Culture of Softness

(11:10) - The Misguided Majority

(13:55) - A Challenge to Rise Up

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[00:00:00] Do you know how many sh*tbag husbands there are in the world?

You know how many sh*tbag parents there are in the world that don't provide?

Because they're too f*cking pussy to do anything about it?

And they talk, talk, talk, but they never do, do, do?

Jesus Christ.

This is why so many people in this world are being hurt.

This is why so many people in this world are struggling.

Because these are the f*cking examples.

[00:00:30]

What's going on you guys?

It's Phil Bohol and welcome to the Phil Bohol Show, where we have real talk about family, fitness, finance, and everything that would hold you back from leveling up in every area of your life.

And more importantly, how I personally got through them.

Everybody else in this world wants to bullsh*t you.

I'm here to give you the truth.

Soft men are what's wrong with this world.

[00:01:00] Straight up.

I don't know what it is about men calling themselves men.

Straight boys.

I don't know what's wrong with people nowadays.

Is it really so hard to just man the f*ck up and do what you gotta do?

Like, does your word mean nothing to you anymore?

Is it so easy for you to take a step forward and immediately take two steps back because you're too f*cking pussy to commit to your life?

[00:01:30] Jesus Christ.

It's so sad to me to see grown ass men calling themselves men when we all know that you're a goddamn boy.

Jesus Christ.

When's the last time somebody's actually looked at you in the f*cking face and said, “You're not a f*cking man, you're a boy, you little bitch.”

So many people need to hear this.

So many people are just so f*cking lost right now.

[00:02:00] They don't even realize that they have nothing of substance to give to the world.

There's so much that's missing from all of these f*cking men and it's sad because now everybody else has to suffer being surrounded by a bulk of men who don't do sh*t with their life and all they do is talk.

The dumbest part about this whole situation.

It's so f*cking disappointing.

[00:02:30] It's so disappointing to, like, see somebody want to change their life, change their situation, and then immediately go to victim mode, immediately go to bitch mode.

Like, f*ck.

What do you see when you look in the mirror?

Like, literally, when you look in the mirror, and you know that little bitch is inside of you, what do you?

How does it feel?

How does it feel to know that you're a bitch?

Why does life have to be that way?

[00:03:00] What was so f*cked up about your upbringing?

That your word means nothing to you, your commitments mean nothing to you, that you have to be the softest motherf*cker you could possibly be?

Jesus Christ, thank God you were never in the military.

Jesus Christ, I can't imagine having to deal with your ass.

I don't think even men know what the f*ck it means to be a man anymore.

I really, I'm just at a loss for f*cking words to see all the weakness in the world.

[00:03:30] Fat, broke, f*cks, in this world, think that they're, what they say holds any truth, holds any value.

When their actions literally show the complete opposite, but these are the same people that think that they're winning in life.

These are the same people that believe that life owes them something.

Do you not realize how much of a f*cking bitch that you are like?

I I don't even know how to articulate this into words.

[00:04:00] Do you guys realize how sh*tty it must feel to live your entire life not realizing that you operate from a place of being a bitch.

Have you never had a man in your life, a cartoon character, to encapsulate what it even means or what it looks like to be a f*cking man?

It's so apparent why there's so many people losing in this world.

[00:04:30] And the reason why I get pissed off, guys, just so you understand, it's not just them that it's affecting.

It's not just you that it's affecting.

If this is you, motherf*cker, it's affecting your family.

Other people have to settle for you being that way.

Do you know how many sh*tbag husbands there are in the world?

You know how many sh*tbag parents there are in the world that don't provide?

Because they're too f*cking pussy to do anything about it.

And they talk, talk, talk, but they never do, do, do.

Jesus Christ.

[00:05:00] This is why so many people in this world are being hurt.

This is why so many people in this world are struggling.

Because these are the f*cking examples that surround people.

You got kids watching these f*cking pussies, like, operate this way, and then now those kids are like, “Oh, I guess that's what it should look like. I should basically say that I'm gonna do things and then just f*cking never do it. Because that's what that guy's doing. That's what dad's doing. That's what uncle's doing.”

You guys realize this is a plague?

[00:05:30] Is it because like everybody's too afraid that they're gonna get f*cking cancelled?

Are they afraid that if they actually like man the f*ck up and actually operate, that they're gonna have less opportunity for themselves?

Like can somebody fill me in here on like why the f*ck this is normal?

When did men become snowflakes?

[00:06:00] When did it become normal not to do the hard things so that way you can earn the life that most people can only f*cking dream of?

What is happening that - can somebody put in the comments and tell me what's happening?

Can somebody like tell me?

Why the world?

Is it the shutdown?

Because I went through the shutdown.

I lost my job, too.

Oh, it's because you come from humble beginnings?

Me too, motherf*cker.

I came from the Philippines.

[00:06:30] I was poor in the United States for a very long time, my entire f*cking life.

So what is it?

What has happened to man that you can be such a bitch and still feel like it's okay to be a bitch?

Where's all the real men at?

Where's all the savages?

Like, if you're a savage, come on.

Like, f*cking, roger up, because, Jesus, it feels like it's harder and harder and harder to see real ones.

Where are my real people at?

Where are the real savages at?

[00:07:00] Where are the real men at?

F*ck, man.

Like, is it just good now to just be fat, unhappy, drinking all the time, drinking all the time, drinking and drinking and drinking all the damn time?

Smoke something.

Do some drugs.

Break your word.

Is it just good to be a sh*tbag nowadays?

Is that what it is to be a man?

F*ck.

How about we like, stop all of that.

[00:07:30] How about we go back to what it is to actually be a man.

To practice disciplines.

To take the hard path, to find different ways to level up in every area of your life so that way you can provide.

To be the best husband, to be the best father, to be the best human you could possibly be.

And the only way you find that is through discomfort.

To like actually give a f*ck about how you carry yourself, how you feel, how you operate in the world as an example.

[00:08:00] Is that like so much to ask?

I think that, like, the world has gotten to this place where, like, soft men are invited.

Soft men are these people that people are like, “Oh yeah, thanks, finally, Jesus Christ, a soft man, oh. Now, we can predict what the soft man will do and not do, because he's a bitch, so he'll never actually do anything.”

Controlled.

[00:08:30] But what happens when a real man steps up, that actually has a f*cking opinion, that says what the f*ck's on his mind, and doesn't give a f*ck if any of the other pussies in the world are like, “No, no, no, that's wrong!”

It's because you can't control that motherf*cker.

You can't silence that motherf*cker.

Because he's always gonna speak the truth.

It just is what it is.

Too many men call themselves men when they're simply just boys.

[00:09:00] Too many men try to defend this f*cking position, these f*cking snowflakes, and act like it's okay.

You're part of the problem too, motherf*ckers.

Straight up.

There is a time, even in the military, there was a very specific way that we bred each other, and then Mothers of America f*cked it all up.

And then everybody became soft.

What happened to this world?

This is why it's so f*cking easy to win nowadays.

[00:09:30] It's easy because of the competition.

There is none.

You got the top 1 percent and you got the 99.

And the 99 are just gonna bitch, moan, and cry.

So it's not really like competition.

So the top 1 percent are kinda just like, “Hey, I guess we're just taking our spot here. Thanks for being a sh*tbag. The world needs losers too. Sweet. I'm glad that's you. Cause I'm just gonna keep doing my thing. I'm gonna keep winning.”

It's so f*cking disappointing.

[00:10:00] So disappointing that you can listen to this and be like, “Hmm, yeah that guy, I think he's onto something.”

But it's you.

You're the bitch.

You're the person that's not doing what he says he's gonna do.

You're the person that doesn't plug in.

You're the person that doesn't commit to the path.

But you watch, and you watch, and you watch, but you don't do anything about it.

Jesus Christ, how many people need to be failed?

[00:10:30] And the worst part about it is that there's so many of these people in the world that are gonna be like, “Phil, you're so wrong. So wrong to say that you have no idea what people are going through.”

Blah, blah.

You're the f*cking advocates of this weakness.

And what happens is those same sh*tbags, you go back to their family and their family suffers and you have no f*cking idea the suffering they have to deal with because of that sh*t bag.

Yet you defend them because it's the right thing to do.

[00:11:00] It's just a f*cking just, “Don't be mean, Phil!”

Ah, Jesus Christ.

What has happened to our world?

I am just, I'm at a loss for words because, at least for me, I thought that there was something to be proud of to be the best version of you.

[00:11:30] I thought that people genuinely understood that by seeking the best versions of you, by taking the hard path that nobody else is willing to take because they're just not strong enough to handle the path, I thought men genuinely sought that out on a daily basis.

How stupid of me to have believed that.

That it's actually far fewer men than I even realized.

[00:12:00] Because most men are the biggest f*cking fraud, pussies, bitches in the f*cking world.

And all of them are going to show up in the comments and defend each other's position.

Do it.

Prove my point.

Prove to the world that bitches will continue to protect the other bitches and snowflakes of the world.

Prove the point.

[00:12:30] And if you're a real one, and if you're really a man, you don't have to defend yourself.

You don't have to say anything.

Just go f*cking do your job, do your duty, and level the f*ck up.

Stop with the excuses.

Stop with the victim sh*t.

Stop with the snowflake, the bitch-assery, all of the sh*t.

Where you look yourself in the f*cking mirror and you're not happy with what you see back.

Enough with it.

[00:13:00] On a daily basis all you gotta do is prove to yourself who the f*ck you think you are.

Because we all f*cking know it's just thoughts.

You haven't even been proven yet.

You haven't even done anything to deserve that.

You don't rate that sh*t.

You haven't proven sh*t.

Go f*cking prove it.

Then we'll talk.

But the next time one of you motherf*ckers actually allow another f*cking man to be weak, you're part of the f*cking problem.

You're breeding weakness.

Just understand that.

[00:13:30] It's a f*cking shame to see that in the world.

It's a shame to see that people think that that's f*cking normal.

That's not normal.

That's the stupidest sh*t I've ever seen in my life.

And I'm going to make sure here's my commitment to all of you and the world.

I'm going to call that sh*t out on a daily basis forever moving forward because that's the stupidest sh*t I've ever seen in my f*cking life.

Level the f*ck up, because it's not about you.

[00:14:00] There's so many f*cking people that depend on you to rise the f*ck up and become a better man.

And every single time you act like the b*tch that you are, you're failing somebody else.

And all of you other snowflakes who want to defend that motherf*cker just realize, they're not the ones that have to suffer.

That wife, those kids, those people that they're responsible for are gonna suffer because you f*cking snowflakes protect all these other snowflakes.

[00:14:30]

Dumbest sh*t of my life.

Square your sh*t away.

If you think it's normal to operate that way, oh my god, I cannot wait until your wife f*cking leaves you.

I cannot wait until that family is f*cking grown enough to understand what kind of a sh*tbag dad you are.

What kind of dumbass you are.

I can't wait for your family to see who the f*ck you're not.

Then maybe one day, when it's too f*cking late, you'll realize how stupid you were for listening to all the f*cking snowflakes that are losers in life.

[00:15:00] And now you just wasted the one f*cking shot you had.

That's the show.

Don't just listen to everything I just said and do nothing with it.

Take everything you've learned, go out and execute.

Send it.

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