Silva Neves: Heal compulsive sexual behaviours

Have you found the freedom to explore the rich landscape of your erotic self? Or did your childhood leave you feeling restricted and repressed by a sex negative mindset? 

In this week’s episode Andrew talks to Silva Neves, a psychosexual psychotherapist, about:

• Why people DON’T fully explore their sexual selves
• Why labelling people “sex addicts” is unhelpful, and
• The liberating mindset of sex positivity. 

Silva Neves works with couples experiencing a wide range of sex and relationship issues, including sexual trauma, infidelity, and compulsive sexual behaviours. He regularly appears in the British media and was featured on the BBC Three’s television series, Sex On The Couch. 

Silva is a COSRT-accredited and UKCP-registered psychosexual and relationship psychotherapist, and a trauma psychotherapist. His private practice is based in Central London and online. 

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Follow Up

Attend Andrew’s men’s retreat near Berlin in June 2026: details here

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Take a look at Andrew’s new online relationship course: My Best Relationship Tools  

Read Andrew’s new Substack newsletter The Meaningful Life, and join the community there. 

Visit Silva Neves’ website

Visit Silva Neves’ site on sex positivity

Get advice from Silva Neves via his Psychology Today blog 

Read Silva Neves’ book Compulsive Sexual Behaviours, A Psycho-Sexual Treatment Guide for Clinicians

Learn about the course Silva Neves teaches at CICS - an Online Diploma in in Compulsive Sexual Behaviour

Follow Silva Neves on social media: Twitter @SilvaNeves3; and Instagram and Facebook @silvanevespsychotherapy

Read The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel

Read The Men On My Couch: True Stories of Sex, Love and Psychotherapy by David Rensin and Brandy Engler

Read Andrew’s book Have the Sex You Want: A Couple’s Guide to Getting Back the Spark

Read Andrew’s blog How To Have the Sex You Want

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