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Brooke and Jeffrey — Second Date Update: A Whole New Girlfriend. Machine-transcribed; use the interactive transcript above to jump the player to any line.
0:00Hey, welcome to a brand new second date update podcast and we will talk real soft for any of our American Irish listeners who maybe drank too much last day. Y'all are so cool, gentle, gentle like that. All right, we do have a brand new one for you, but before we get to it, we do love your comments. Yeah, and Eden Levin said, I was singer of a swing metal band, Shubi Doom, from Germany. Shubi Doom! And when we traveled to shows, I forced my band to listen to new episodes Oh, my God. At first they ask, why did you put that on instead of music, but as episode continues, I hear them laugh and comment, oh, thank you for making our travel time stunning. And my band members annoy. Yeah, let's go. This is the most complex band that it's ever lived. I love it. I'm going to go look up your music right now. I hope it's on YouTube. We're also on YouTube if you're not there already at Brookings jeffrey. Yeah. What a great comment. We're going to get that brand new episode dedicated to Shubi Doom. Shubi Doom from Germany. Shubi Doom from Germany right now. Brookings jeffrey in the morning, second date update.
1:02Whenever people email us saying they matched with someone online, we usually assume it's on one of the big dating apps, Tinder, Hinge, Bumble, Grumbler, all the usual ones. But one of our listeners says he found a lady on an app that I've personally never heard of before, but the name of it intrigues me alone. Oh, I love a good, is it a pun? Tell me it's a pun. Let's find out more about it. We'll speak to Brian. Brian, welcome to the show, man. Oh, thanks for having me. Oh, I feel like there's just going to be one huge ad for a niche dating app that nobody knows about. Yeah, tell us about this particular app that you use. What's it called? Well, the app that I'm on, it's called Bristler. Bristler? Bristler. Yeah. Is it like, with a brist, like a circumcision sort of thing? Oh, well, no, I think I might be different, but more like bristful as in like beards. So it's for women that like beards, baby. Oh, yeah. That's a lot better than Beard O's. Yeah. Beard O's is cuter or beard old. I don't work for them, but I like it so far.
2:05Okay. So what kind of facial hair are you sporting, because I would assume you have to have some sort of requirement of beard or mustache to get on this app? Yeah, you have to prove that you have a beard at least. Okay, so a go-tere like a mustache wouldn't fly on this site? I mean, I've seen it, but I guess, well, I guess I haven't, because you know, I'm only looking at the women do not have beards. No, it's okay. It's okay. You could say you're perusing the guy's apps, too, just for ideas. Yeah, I guess this is okay. I guess the women don't have facial hair. I know, Brooke would be so popular on this app, she'd get so many stripes on her. Let it fly, girls. Let it fly. Okay. So I think we get the idea. What's the name of the woman that you matched with? I matched with Olivia. Okay. Did she hit you up first? I reached out at the beginning of the week and then to have made plans for the weekend. All right. So where does a manly masculine bearded guy like yourself take a woman for a first date? I like to go to Dave and Buster's. Hey.
3:05That's all right. Okay. Hey, little arcade. Little alcohol. Yeah. Oh, amazing flyters. That's my favorite. Yeah. So what was it like when you first met her? We were just polite at first and we gave a gentle hug. Oh, okay. So once we're done being polite, then what happened? Then they gave it a aggressive hug. Yeah. I get over here. Then put my hand in a fist and things got real. Oh, we just sat at the bar, got some food, then the conversations started flowing pretty naturally. Oh, good. Nice. Yeah. You get nervous. There's a lot of pressure on how your beard looks for this. Like since that's our thing, you know, did you groom it, you wax it? Oh, of course. I have all the oils and the tremors. Okay. Made it look real nice. That's good. Okay. And when you two were talking, what did you like connect over? How'd you bond? Well, we both bonded over just being down for kind of anything. I mean, and also how nice she was. She complimented me on like the way I looked, the beard obviously, and then thought she
4:07was adventurous. It's not a lot of girls want to want to go to Dave and Buster, but she was down for it. Did anything happen? Yeah. Did you help her hold the gun? Oh, I always think and he got too competitive or something, but I'm trying to figure out what we're wrong here. Yeah. Yeah. No, I cheered her on for the games. We were working as a team because we were trying to get enough tickets to get a stuffed animal. Oh, that's good. We're there a long time. Okay. But now I'm with Brooke. How did you mess up? Yeah. Tell us. Okay. So I know it's more of a second and third date kind of thing you drop on someone. Yeah. I told her I'm a Disney adult. Oh. Oh. Yeah. You guys know what that is. Yeah. We're like adult who's obsessed with Disney, maybe goes to Disneyland a lot for every vacation. Yeah. Names their children after Disney characters. Yeah. That's sort of thing. You quiet down, Dopey. Yeah. Shocked you on an app for that. That was a good point. Yeah. There should be a Disney dating app.
5:08Why do you think bringing that up may have been a weird point? You do have to tell someone not everyone's really into it. And she kind of was asking me about it. And I think she was kind of kind of like trying to get me to say like what that means for me. Yeah. Like what level is she working with here? I guess. Yeah. Like are you a fan or do you have Donald Duck bed sheets? Right. And so I told her it's like, well, it means like with a group of friends, I go like five six times a year. Five or six? Okay. You know, sometimes I go every week, so I'm going to be honest with you. I could see why like looking down the road. That would be hard in a relationship if you weren't both on the same boat there. Yeah. Did you gauge her love of Disney? Yeah. I mean, I asked her. I was like, well, you know, I really love Disney. Do you love this? And she said, I like it. I do really like it. I think most people after the Disney conversation, you felt the vibe change a little bit. I don't know if she's just being nice again about it or if she just played it off really well. But she was like, no, I like it. You know.
6:08And it wasn't as intense before, but it wasn't like a full on drop off. She was just like, oh, yeah, that is the newest formation. I guess. Yeah. But yeah, she's not getting back to me. I've tried to call in here. But you know, I mean, like you understand that in a relationship, if you date someone who's not a Disney adult, there'll be some compromise, right? You're a reasonable guy. Yeah. I mean, I'd like to think so. Brooke's going to be your fairy godmother when we come back. Oh, you're really good Mickey Mouse impression. Yeah. And we're going to do Cinderella style and ask to see her feet when we come back. And do a second date up there. We're going to see if that's slipper fits. I like it. Disney style right after this. Hold on. It's a little weird, but thank you. All right. We're on it. Hold on. Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning, second date update. It's a special fairy tale edition of second date update today. Where are listener Brian, who's a self-proclaimed Disney adult, is looking to find his happily ever after. Oh. And how does that happen? Well, in Cinderella, the prince brings a glass slipper from house to house.
7:11How do we do it on our show? We request feet picks to see if they match what we like. Brian, I'm not getting too creepy here, am I? I think so. Thank you, Brian. Oh, man. Yeah. I mean, and Jeff wasn't even going to tell you that it was your feet picks that he was hoping for. Yeah. Oh, well, I mean, yeah, if you think that's going to help, you're the expert. Yeah. I'll request those from you later, but the thing is, we still don't really know if Olivia actually got turned off by Brian's admission that he's a Disney adult. Yeah. And he goes to Disneyland five or six times a year. But my co-hosts think that could be at least one red flag. Yeah. It's just like two different lifestyles, right? It's like hard to imagine going there five or six times a year and yeah, Disney adults instead of going somewhere else, they just go back and back and back some people like going to the beach. Yeah. They have that too. Well, you like the hard while Disney World has mess beaches. They do? Yeah. Oh, that could be a good second date going to like a beach version of Disneyland.
8:13See her in a bikini. Disney hopping. We'll ask for bikini shots after the feet picks. Well, that's what Jeff asked for pictures. He did not say that. He's Jeff is very creative. No. Jeff is the villain. He's fully clothed at the beach then. Fine. You're really giving off Gaston right now. The hottest one. Anyway, let's just call Olivia. We'll see if she answers the phone and we'll see a chance to say here we go. Hello. Hi. We're looking to speak with Olivia. This is her. Hey, Olivia, you're on a radio show right now. We're called Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning. Hi. Good morning. I'm actually confused. Yeah. That's okay because we're doing a segment here. It's called a second date update and we're trying to help out one of our listeners that you met up with recently. A guy named Brian. Oh. Because he's not hearing back from you after the two of you hung out at David Buster's.
9:15Yeah. And it sounds like it was fun. Yeah. I'm sorry. How did you get this information? Well, from him because honestly, he's a little bit disappointed that the two of you hadn't had a second meetup. Okay. So what do you want and when you want to know exactly if there's a specific reason? Yeah. Like, are you trying to avoid a second hangout? Yeah. I mean, I just I don't really know if we were a great match. Okay. What made you feel that way? Um, I think that maybe our lifestyles are different. What do you mean by that? Um, just like our hobbies and our interests are a little different. Okay. We'll just ask. Does it have anything to do with his affection for the world of Disney? Are you watching? Yes. Okay. Okay. I mean, okay. Once he told you he was a Disney adult, and he explains that he vacations there five
10:16to six times a year, like what was going through your head? Yeah. I mean, okay. I've never met anyone who like loves Disney like that. Um, but I will say that I'm actually pretty open-minded. And so when he first brought it up, you know, I thought like, oh, this is just like a quirky kind of passion. Yeah. But then he kind of got like a little more into it and into it. Hey. So he showed me a picture on his phone of one of the trips he went on, and it was with him and like a bunch of his buddies, like a bunch of dudes. And they were all dressed up like Snow White Dwarfs. Oh. Oh. Oh. That's kind of funny. I've seen that where a lot of Disney adults will cause play. Yeah. Like when they go on the trip. What about him being dressed as a dwarf was unappealing to you? Well, I think I realized, like looking at that photo, so we met on this app. I have a thing for Beard.
11:18I thought he was attractive, you know, initially. But then I told his photo and all of the guys there have beers except one. It was dopey. Yeah. Oh, they're really committed. So you were attracted to all of the dwarves in addition to Brian? No, Jeff. No, it was just, I think I kind of realized in that moment that like a whole identity is wrapped up into being this kind of cartoon dwarf. Like, well, this isn't a one time thing. This is this thing. Wait, wait, wait. You're saying he's not a Disney adult. He is a real life door from the seven doors. Like a fanatic. Yes. Okay. Just because it's one trip, though. That doesn't mean he dresses like that all the time. Yeah, it wasn't dressed like that for your date, right? No, he was wearing regular clothes, but something else weird happened is he walked me to my car. And then as you're walking to my car, he was singing the high-hoes song. Oh, no. I know.
12:18I know. It's off to kiss. We go. Yeah. Oh, no. Was he joking? Was it a joke because of the picture from earlier? Yeah. I don't know. You know, I just met him. So like, this is my first impression. That makes sense. You're like, what do you do for a living? You're like, I'm a minor. Yeah. I'm a minor. Well, it is diamond. I just pulled out from behind you. Oh, now Alexis is interested. Oh, that's the truth. But okay, it sounds like Olivia, you were just kind of overwhelmed by how into Disney. Yeah. Yeah. It just kind of made me question things. We can all understand why you might feel that way. I'm curious if Brian does, though, because he is on the other line of this call waiting to jump in and talk to you. Are you serious? Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. You guys just told me this when I told you all this for me. He's supposed to yell high. Yeah. Sorry about that, Olivia, but yeah, he's there. Olivia, I get what you're saying there, by the way.
13:19I'm sorry. I had to go this route, but maybe I played into it too much. But no, I don't think I'm actually one of the seven dwarves. But the one I play, I'm bashful, by the way. Oh. I actually got him in good way. The sweet one. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. It's better than having for sure. Why me? Olivia, does that make it any better knowing which specific character he is? I don't really know what to say. To be honest, I just, like, if I'm going to date you, do I have to dress up? No, you don't have to. That's like, this is something I do with my friends. Of course, if you want to, like, that's a thing, but like, you don't have to. That's good. Yeah. I would think of it this way. It's healthy. He's got good friendships. He has a cool hobby. He has other interests outside of you, which means he's going to be, you know, not too clingy. Oh, for best gone on vacation. Yeah, totally. And he makes good money if he can afford to go to Disney five times.
14:19Totally. Totally. I mean, Alexis, would you be into him if you found out he was a Disney adult with that? Could I go to the beach while he goes to the park? I think that's a good compromise. Yeah. It's not quite a no. And you know, I, I probably should have waited to tell you this because I normally don't bring it up, but I felt so comfortable around you. And we're having such a good time that I was like, okay, you know, why not just tell you to see that's good. Sure. His passions. Yeah. I mean, it's definitely different than anyone I've stated before. I guess I could try it out, but I think it goes too far. It's not going to be for me. Well, wait. Is there maybe a Disney character you're more attracted to that he could try out? I, I got to explore the princess. Okay. Oh, there we go. All right. They have a lot of facial hair. You want to shave for that, I bet.
15:19How about a little chip in Dale? That's like, that's a great. Oh. Wow. So he's pretty funny with me. It's going to do whatever. But we'd like to offer. This is the Roger Rabbit. Oh, my God. Well, Brian feels like you two had an obvious connection. So we'd like to offer to send you out on another date and we would pay for it. Um, that's nice. Um, I wasn't planning to pay for it anyway. But. Well, it's all right. I work in a diamond mine. So. Yeah. It's covered. I'm sorry. I won't make those jokes on the. Oh, wow. Wait, is that a yes? Yes. Yes. All right. True love is possible in this world, not just in the Disney world. And turns out you don't have to ask to see a woman's foot and put her slipper on it to see if she's the one for you. What did I just call what dreams do come true? Dreams do come true when you're willing to change yourself as a man in order to fit exactly what a woman wants you to be.
16:19When you wish upon a star, Jeff. Yeah. Stars and galaxy science. Good job, Brian. Well, thanks so much. Thanks for the help. That's a present. That's a good point. We really are the fairy godparents. Yeah. Broken Jeffrey in the morning. I know I was joking at the end there by saying guys can change themselves to become whichever Disney prints a woman dreams that she wants him to be. I can never actually tell when you're joking or not. I don't think that women want you to change yourself. I just think they want you to be cool from the start. Oh, yeah. They want you to be perfect. Told Olivia did seem tentative about his specific Disney character choices and how deep his passion was. Yeah. I mean, for me, someone who goes to Disney once a year, he didn't seem that bad. There's literally just the real Disney adults like live at the park. Five to six times a year is every other month Jose. Two months. Totally.
17:19Well, my advice to Brian is don't change yourself. Be you. Just maybe wait till date three to bring your long floppy hat into the bedroom. That's not part of it, Jeff. Didn't you hear him? Oh, okay. Well, whatever it is. Just be you, Brian. Whichever Disney dwarf character you are, you be the best version of that you can be. That's right. And if you want some help being the best version of yourself with a little bit of with a little bit of an assist from our show, email us and we can call that person who's not calling you back. Go check out our podcast with our upon line wherever you get yours. Yeah. Apricot and Jeffrey.
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