Rewire Your Brain & Get "Unsingle" With Amy Chan - 461

*Special Announcement*

Dear Shandy will be moderating Amy's Book Launch Event in NYC on May 5th, 2026! For more info visit: https://luma.com/unsingle

It's not every day we bring back a Hot Topic guest, but when Amy Chan writes a new book, YOU BRING HER BACK. Dubbed the “scientific Carrie Bradshaw” by The Observer, Amy is a relationship expert, author, and founder of Renew Breakup Bootcamp and Dating Bootcamp, retreats that apply a scientific, psychological approach to healing heartbreak and rewiring dating patterns.

It has been 4.5 years since we first had Amy on, and now with her new book, "Unsingle: How to Date Smarter and Create Love That Lasts" (April 28, 2026), she shares the science of rewiring your brain to actually find success in your love life. Today Amy chats your unconscious patterns, how being otherwise "high-achieving" is working against you, and at what leg in the "Dating Funnel" you're getting stuck. We promise you'll never see dating the same way again after hearing Amy's insights. Watch on to get "Unsingle"!

Our first episode with Amy: https://youtu.be/FRXrV7AXHwY?si=NRMBdTNNAKy1PwEg

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More Amy:

The Book, 'Unsingle': ⁠https://missamychan.com/unsingle

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/missamychan

Time Stamps:

0:00 - Welcome (Back) Amy Chan!

3:30 - Unconscious Patterns

6:44 - Does Being Otherwise “High-Achieving” Work Against You In Dating?

11:00 - The Dating Funnel

16:16 - Expanding Horizons

25:34 - The Experiment

27:37 - Age Gaps

29:13 - Over-Icking

33:15 - Chemistry

49:14 - Situationships

51:29 - People Pleasing

54:18 - The Grass Is Always Greener

56:39 - What You Can Do Now To Rewire Your Brain

58:52 - Final Takeaways

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