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Until your strengths, yes, I promise you by the end of the year, you're being a totally different situation.

But I can't want it more than you. You gotta make that choice.

Let's see what you do, bro.

A fucker, if a person walked a day in your fucking shoes, they would fall the f*** apart.

Do you know the strength that even takes to take one step forward as you?

And how easily you discount the weight that your life carries.

People love to judge from the side lines, but if they were put in the game,

they would strike out on their first try. And I think that because I carry that pain,

it makes me weak. That pain does not make me weak. It is a sign that I am strong enough to carry it.

You are doing just fine. I promise who you are.

And I know it may feel like life's kicking your butt right now.

And it very well may be. I mean, let's be honest. It's not easy.

But it doesn't change the fact that you're still here. Start living like a savage who deserves success,

abundance, happiness, security, prosperity, legacy, meaning fulfillment, significance,

purpose. What you find out is most people don't really want it.

Most people are scared to go all in. Most people are scared to sacrifice themselves.

And then I realize that man, there is no shame to admit that you're afraid.

And when I made peace with that, it changes everything in my life.

Whether you're a fighter, an entrepreneur, or whatever, it's with the preparation.

The more well you prepare, the more you will build up your confidence.

You're still kicking. And with all the other balance battles you've had to fight just to get

to this point here, it says a lot about you. You should give yourself some credit for that.

And if no one's told you in a while, I'm proud of you.

I admire your strength. And I mean that with everything in me, my friend.

I think the first thing a person needs is they need a dream. You got to have a dream.

I don't know how people survive in life.

With any kind of peace or happiness or fulfillment without having a dream.

A dream needs to be something that there is a possibility of fulfilling.

Otherwise, it's not a dream. It's a fantasy.

But you need a dream. And don't be afraid to dream big.

You know, the saying is that if your dreams don't scare you to death, they're not big enough.

Your dream needs to be bigger than you are right now.

There's a specific person that you've got to get out of your life right now.

It's the person that wants to remind you of who you were.

It's the person who wants to remind you of how you used to be, what you used to do,

how you used to do it. That used to person's dead.

Anybody who wants to resurrect that person cannot be in your life.

There is nothing more important than getting people out of your life.

They want to pretend you're the person you were yesterday.

They want to act like you're the person you were yesterday.

You're evolving, you're growing, you're advancing.

You need to be focused on you right now and anybody that wants to bring you back,

anybody that wants to pretend you are the same person that they knew one, two, six,

seven years ago, get them the hell out of your life.

Trajectory.

Focus on your trajectory.

You can't keep living in this all or nothing mentality where you have to do the perfect set of

perfect things in the perfect order just like that guy you follow on Instagram does.

That guy's full-time job is personal development.

He gets paid to sit in a cold plunge.

You don't. You are going to make mistakes.

You are going to mess up.

So if you have that all or nothing mentality, when it's not all, it's going to be nothing.

You're going to be the guy that gets one flat tire and then gets out of his car

and slashes the other three simply because he doesn't have four perfectly inflated tires.

Makes no sense.

The measuring stick is not am I perfect?

The measuring stick is did I get closer to who I want to be or did I get further away?

Am I moving in the right direction?

Am I going down the right path?

Focus on path over perfection.

You're doing this for you.

And this is something I've only realized rather than recently, but

after a certain level of material comfort, the only person that you need to do

this thing for is you.

Your conscience knows when you're being honest and when you're not.

Think optimizing to make that person happy, that conscience happy is a really good idea.

What if what if problems were always gifts?

What if every single problem really was a gift in your life?

What if every problem you ever had was life happening for you, not to you?

What if everything in our lives has guided?

What if everything in our lives was divine time and everything even the pay?

What are you going to do when no one's watching?

Are you going to operate to your standard?

Are you going to cut corners?

I can tell you this, dude.

I try very hard to operate in my standard all the time, 24 hours a day, even when no one's

watching, especially when no one's watching because that's when you actually gain more of the

discipline, the strength that you need to uphold those standards.

I think every single human should have a set of core values in a mission statement and a

vision for their own lives.

And most people don't.

Most people just go along with the flow.

They swing into someone else's vision and they stay there for a little bit and they

swing into someone else's for a little bit.

And then they get to be older in life and they're like, why is nothing worked out for me?

Well, the reason nothing's worked out for you is because you don't live what you say you're

about.

You don't have a plan for yourself.

You don't have a mission statement for yourself.

You try to cut the corners when no one's watching.

Bro, that you'll lose that way.

That's just it.

It's always harder, case longer, and cost more than you think it will.

It makes sense because if it did it, then everyone would have it.

And if it would have it, then it wouldn't be worthwhile.

And so if it's hard, that's amazing because it will make you that much harder once you

conquer it.

And it will also make it harder for anybody else who wants to follow in your footsteps.

And so the higher up the mount you climb, the thinner the air gets.

And the rarer, the climber or explorer must be in order to get there.

If you can survive temporary pain on the other side of temporary pain,

you will meet another version of you.

Every time I wanted to quit, I didn't make a decision to not quit the rest of my life.

I made a decision not to quit for one more day.

One more day just don't quit.

One more day hang up.

People who win are disciplined about winning.

They don't just casually take a look at this.

They don't just casually try something.

They jump in with both feet because they absolutely intend to win at it.

And that's going to require discipline and consistency on your part.

As you start to study, you're going to learn things.

You're going to learn the skills that you need.

That's going to require discipline on your part.

All of which, by the way, you can learn any of these skills.

You can learn anything, but you're going to have to be disciplined.

There's this revered master who everybody wants to study under.

And it's almost impossible to get to him.

And so he's interviewing candidates.

And the aspiring samurai comes to him and says,

how long will it take me to be a master?

And he says 10 years.

And so then the young samurai eager to kind of prove himself.

He's like, well, what if I work twice as hard.

And I work day and night to become a master?

How long will it take then?

And so the master sits back and looks at him and says 20 years.

The young samurai is like, wait, how can I take twice as long?

If I'm working harder, the master replies,

if you have one eye fixed in your destination,

then you only have one eye left to find your way.

But I think what's truly important is the ability

to detach yourself from the outcome.

It is one of the most important things

that I have adopted in my life.

Set the goal, know where you want to go,

know where you're aiming, and then let it go.

Because it's possible, in fact, it's probable and likely,

it might take you longer to get there.

And so what if it does, if it does,

you're still making forth progress every single day?

It's really important to be understanding

that better is not always visible.

You can be getting better and it not be public.

Because very often, private victories will

precede public accomplishments.

Most people never pick up the phone call.

Most people never ask.

And that's what separates sometimes the people

to do things from the people that just dream about them.

You got to act.

And you've got to be willing to fail.

You've got to be willing to crash and burn,

you know, with people on the phone,

with starting a company, whatever.

If you're afraid of failing, you won't get very far.

You need discipline.

You need personal discipline.

There's times when you don't,

you don't feel like doing what needs to be done to get this.

And but you've got to say,

feelings has nothing to do with it.

This is my dream.

This is what I'm going to do.

And I'm going to do the things that I don't feel like doing.

I'm going to do the things I don't want to do.

I'm going to do the things that don't come easy to me,

that do not come natural to me.

I'm going to get up and do it.

You can't live your life on feelings.

Loneliness, it's a feeling we all experience,

though it's rarely something we talk about.

When it creeps in, it can feel overwhelming,

suffocating even, as though you've been cast aside,

forgotten, or left to face the world alone.

But here's a thought.

What if loneliness wasn't something to run from?

What if instead it held the keys to a deeper understanding of yourself?

Loneliness is often misunderstood.

It's painted as emptiness,

as a void that needs to be filled with people, noise or distractions.

In reality, loneliness isn't the absence of connection.

It's the opportunity to reconnect with yourself.

And in a world that's always pulling you in a million directions,

solitude is a rare and powerful thing.

We live in a culture that glorifies being busy, being surrounded, being plugged in.

We equate a full social calendar,

or an endless stream of notifications with a full life.

And when that quiet moment comes,

when the noise fades and the distractions stop,

loneliness feels like failure,

as if being alone somehow makes you incomplete.

That's the misconception.

Loneliness isn't about what's missing outside of you.

It's about what you have yet to find within yourself,

when everything else is stripped away,

when the spotlight dims,

and the crowd disperses.

You're left with the one person who will always be with you,

yourself.

And that's where the real work begins.

There's a reason so many of life's breakthroughs happen in the quiet.

When you're alone, you're forced to face the parts of yourself that are often buried under the noise.

The insecurities you try to ignore,

the dreams you've been too afraid to pursue,

the questions you've been too distracted to answer.

Solitude gives you the space to reflect, to feel, to grow.

It's in those quiet moments that you start to see yourself more clearly.

Not the version of you that you present to the world,

but the real you.

The one with doubts and fears and flaws,

but also strength and resilience and untapped potential.

Growth doesn't happen in comfort.

It doesn't happen when you're surrounded by constant validation or external noise.

It happens when you're willing to sit with yourself,

to embrace the discomfort of being alone,

and to use it as a chance to understand who you are and what you want.

Silence has a way of bringing clarity,

of stripping away the distractions and revealing what truly matters.

In solitude, you can hear your own thoughts without interference.

You can tune into the voice inside you,

the one that gets drowned out in the chaos of daily life.

What is that voice telling you?

What dreams have you put on hold?

What truths have you been avoiding?

Loneliness doesn't just leave you with questions.

It gives you the space to find answers.

In those answers,

they're the foundation for the life you're meant to create.

Instead of seeing loneliness as a problem to solve,

try seeing it as a tool to use.

Use it to reconnect with yourself.

The ability to be comfortable in your own company is a rare and powerful thing.

It means you're not afraid of the quiet,

of the stillness, of the moments when it's just you and your thoughts.

It means you've built a foundation within yourself

that doesn't crumble when the world around you shifts.

When you learn to value your own company, loneliness stops feeling like a burden.

It becomes a choice, a time to recharge, to reflect, to reconnect.

It becomes a reminder that you are enough exactly as you are.

Here's the reality.

The time you spend alone is never wasted.

It's where the most important growth happens.

It's where you learn what you stand for, what you value,

and what kind of life you want to build.

Loneliness can be painful, yes,

but it can also be transformative.

It can teach you resilience.

It can help you find clarity.

It can show you that your strength doesn't come from the people around you.

It comes from within.

If you're feeling lonely right now, don't run from it.

Sit with it, embrace it.

Use it as an opportunity to grow, to reflect, to reconnect with the person you're becoming.

This is your time to build something extraordinary, not outside of you,

but within you.

Loneliness isn't the absence of connection.

It's the space where you rediscover yourself.

And in that space, you'll find everything you've been looking for.

You

Crossing that river of change from the old self to the new self,

there's a neurological, biological, chemical, hormonal,

a genetic death of the old self.

But if you teach people there's something on the other side,

they won't give up on themselves,

the ones they start getting beyond themselves.

And that magic starts to happen.

And then I have no idea, I can't predict what's going to happen next.

So it's usually pretty exciting.

I'll give you one, because this one is profoundly impactful.

You're more likely to believe something negative than you are something positive.

Now think about how that can echo through your life.

Each of us has to realize that all of the beliefs that we have in our life

are choices.

The scary part about the most important beliefs in your life

is most of them are invisible.

No one's going to do anything for you.

Couple rules of being a real leader.

You need to take responsibility for your own life.

Nobody owes you anything, but you owe other people everything.

That's what a leader does.

You take responsibility.

You know exactly right now what you're not doing.

You know.

You know exactly what you're afraid of.

You know exactly what you've been avoiding.

And you've got to make a decision to change it.

You know exactly what it is.

Don't be us anybody.

You know what you need to do different.

You know the changes you need to make.

And if you can do that, you stop kidding yourself.

You can win.

You can overcome your fear, overcome procrastination.

Whatever that is.

Complain all you want, vent all you want, you just aren't that.

But at some point, you're going to have to stop feeding the monster

and putting poison in your own mind.

And you're going to have to teach yourself how to start

to find milestones that are positive,

so that you can become healthier,

so that you can change how you think.

But most of us take the choice that makes us feel good.

Means I want to check off every single box of all the possibilities

of what I'm supposed to be in life,

leaving nothing to question in my life.

What I think about internally, the thing that warms my soul

is I think about the people out there that are extraordinary.

They could do something amazing with their lives,

but they won't because they don't believe in themselves.

Figure out what that thing is, that huge goal that you have,

why you want it?

Because chances are that you're going to be able to do it in smaller ways

along the way.

If it makes you feel heavy,

don't you terrify to pursue it,

because you're obsessing over the end goal,

it's some traditional marker of success,

money, a big company, whatever,

and not how you want to help people,

then it's just a matter of reframing.

If, on the other hand, is because you think you're supposed to want

that thing, but you don't actually want it,

and so the idea of pursuing it and all you would have to do to get there

is just horrifying to you?

Then yes, you've picked the wrong goal.

Just remember, don't chase something because people have told you

that you should want it.

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My son's laughter, the smell of rain.

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Literally just look at what gives you more energy than it takes.

You need a pathway.

You need to know, you need to have a map,

and you need to know where you're located on the map.

And you need to know how you're moving forward.

And that gives you hope because you're moving towards goals

that you regard as worthwhile.

And it stops you from being anxious

because you're not entirely directionless and lost.

And so learning how to manage your tide is useful.

And you could start with a calendar.

You could start with simple things like you can put in,

well, when you're likely to go to bed

and when you're likely to get up

and rangulating that's useful,

that should be relatively ritualistically consistent.

In nobody changes until they change their energy.

And when you change your energy, you change your life.

You just disconnected from the energy of your future.

You've got to be greater than the conditions in your environment.

You've got to maintain that state of being.

You've got to be greater than the habits and emotions of your body.

And you've got to sustain it for an extended period of time.

So when you no longer are identifying

with your body, your environment, and time,

that's the moment you're pure consciousness.

So then if the brain can change,

then the mind doesn't change.

The brain is the brain in action.

It's consciousness that changes it.

So when people begin to disengage

and get beyond themselves,

you are at your absolute best when you get beyond yourself.

They reach that generous present moment

where they just feel connected.

It's one about the reasoning.

You can do anything you like,

but it's why are you doing you?

You have fat supports.

We have financial supports.

We have relationship set points.

We have these set points that we become accustomed to achieving.

And then all of the supporting evidence,

the stories, the themes, the plot lines,

the perceptions and behaviors,

all must match the set point.

And so you can ask yourself two questions.

Number one is, how did that set point get there?

And then how do I change it?

So how it got there is through all of your conditioning,

through what you've read,

what you've done, what you've experienced.

You've been told what you've seen all of that

has created based on your story.

And so the first thing to recognize is the set point can be changed.

And the question is, how?

What drives behavior more than anything else?

It's not skill, it's not knowledge.

Skill and knowledge is potential power,

but what does drive behavior more than else is beliefs.

And so if there is a belief in the brain that says,

yes, I think I'm capable of achieving double-minded.

But there's another belief that opposes that.

That causes what we know is as neural dissonance.

So it creates a chaotic vibration

in the brain with the conscious and non-conscious mind.

So the key is to get alignment between the new goal,

which is a conscious pattern of thought

that you can choose in an instant

and a non-conscious part of the brain around that goal.

You, myself, as the weakest person on the planet Earth,

my goal in life was to, in my mind, believe I'm the hardest man alive.

And that's why the whole thing is, can't hurt me.

That's what it's about.

It's about whatever you think you are.

You have to make that dream a reality.

But that's where the hard part is.

It's making that dream reality.

But that's where the hard part is.

Is make edgy reality.

So how do you develop a belief?

Right? So it's a pattern.

So if I gave you a sentence

and you said that sentence one time,

you probably, it'd be a sentence like when I was hearing a line

in a song one time.

But if you heard a line in a song repeatedly 20, 30, 40,

50 times, and you had other associations with that

to reinforce that pattern,

then you would start to develop a non-conscious pattern through that.

So we know that using, let's say, visualization,

you're actually bypassing the conscious mind

and you're accessing the visual cortex of the brain.

It's a non-conscious process, the visual processor.

And so if we take words and we affirm them

and we feel that and we visualize

or repeat them 100, 200, 500, 1000 times,

now we start to create a pattern

the non-conscious level that basically reinforces

a conscious desire.

Can't hurt me.

I want people to have that mantra in their life.

Take that with you.

Take it everywhere you go in life.

If you believe that and you work towards that,

cows in your mind, straightening yourself,

can't hurt me as strong.

But you say that enough to you,

false motivation becomes real motivation after all.

And the problem with all this is that when you do it habitually

or when you complain as just a default mode

and you don't realize how much you're doing it,

you're allowing your mind to filter the world a certain way

and you're allowing yourself to live in existence

where your own thoughts are poisonous.

Life in society made this big world with all these

endless possibilities.

In this possibilities, my life made my possibilities

this big because it made me afraid of all these different things.

So all this stuff trapped my mind is shackled my brain.

It made me a prisoner within my own self,

saying this is all I can do because why?

I'm afraid of this.

I'm insecure over here.

I got sucked out over here.

That behind me, good, whoa, who knows what's behind me?

I'm gonna look behind me.

So your life is this big.

Versus of being like, I can do all this stuff out here.

If I start to break down this ball,

you know, these different walls and barriers.

Because I was afraid.

But you overcome those fears.

Guess what happens?

The whole world, you unlock this door

and everything opens back up again.

As long as we are on this planet,

you're going through two things.

We're going to recovery and discover.

Recovery of our past,

recovery of what we're dealing with right now.

And then discovery, identity is a key.

Because if we don't know who we are,

we're going to be chasing our identity for our whole life.

And so I believe that when you find out where you came from,

who you are and what your purpose is, you cannot be stopped.

And it's this whole idea of

you've been born in an original Donta copy.

But my challenge was,

is that what my true identity was, was not true.

In the next few minutes, I'm going to talk about you.

I want you to just think about you for a moment.

I want you to think about your life.

I want you to think about how you're living.

Versus how you'd really like to live.

When you set goals, when you have an intention

on something that you want to change about your life,

your brain helps you.

What it does is it opens up a checklist.

And then your brain goes to work trying to remind you.

And I say that word purposefully, the skill of knowing how to hear that

in a wisdom and that intention kicking it.

And leaning into it quickly.

I could not undo these things.

Isn't that why it's so difficult for you to make changes in your life?

Because you think that things can't be undone?

The fact is, any excuse that you come up with, you can undo.

To wish and can be reimbursed, apartments can be leased,

plan B can be invented.

So I got up, I repacked that u-haul, and I drove out of town.

I let myself make a U-turn in life.

God, aim at something.

It's like otherwise your life is meaningless.

Well, what should you aim at?

Well, I don't know.

Well, pick something, pick something, aim at it.

As you move toward it, you'll get wiser.

Then maybe your aim won't change.

That's okay.

But at least it'll change in an informed way.

It's like discipline yourself in one dimension.

See what happens?

That's exciting.

And I think that's something that's open for everyone.

You can do that.

I shouldn't say that because I don't believe that.

I think you can find yourself in a situation that's so dire

that you don't, there's no escape from.

But that doesn't matter because it's still,

this is the hero myth might not be

the best we have might know it always work.

But it's still the best we have.

And the fact that might not work doesn't mean we should throw it away.

It's still the best we have.

I mean, everyone dies and so we fail in some sense.

I used to love the little things.

My son's laughter, the smell of rain.

But then depression happened.

And while my antidepressant helped,

I still didn't feel like I used to.

So my doctor recommended adding rec salty,

rec spit Brazil.

Rec salty could provide a boost.

When added to an antidepressant,

rec salty was proven to significantly reduce depression symptoms,

more than antidepressant alone.

Elderly people with dementia-related psychosis

have increased risk of death or stroke.

Antidepressants may increase suicidal thoughts and actions,

and worsen depression in children and young adults.

Call your health care provider right away

to report new or sudden changes in mood,

behavior, thoughts, or feelings.

Or as she develops suicidal thoughts or actions,

report fever, stiff muscles, and confusion,

which can be life threatening,

or uncontrolled muscle movements which may be permanent.

High blood sugar can lead to coma or death.

Weight gain, increased cholesterol,

unusual urges,

dizziness on standing,

falls, seizures,

trouble swallowing, or sleepingness may occur.

Learn about these and other side effects at reccelty.com.

Tap ad for PI.

Here's to the little things.

Could a boost help you build on your progress?

Ask your doctor about adding rec salty.

With its two juicy beef patties and three slices of melted cheese

topped with tangy big arch sauce,

the big arch is what happens when you start making a McDonald's burger

and never stop.

The big arch, the most McDonald's McDonald's burger yet for limited time.

The fact that it's simply the end doesn't mean

that it wasn't worth listening to.

If you ever find your gut battling your head,

save yourself the drama.

I guarantee you your gut is right.

Guarantee you your excuses can be undone.

And I guarantee you you can make a U-turn in your life

right now if you want to.

Desire is there.

Again, it's about how do you go for knowledge to action.

So the first thing in this story that's important is realizing

that the answer was indie.

And my mind was telling me pay attention.

Because remember, your brain is wired to stop you from doing things

that are uncomfortable or uncertain or scary.

It's your job to learn how to move from those ideas

that could change everything into acting up.

Everyone visualizes whether you realize it or not.

Visualization is one of the great secrets of success.

That's where we build a picture in our mind.

When Van Gogh was asked,

how do you do such beautiful work?

He said, I dream my painting and then I paint my dream.

Well, that's where it works.

Solomon said whether there is no vision, the people will perish.

That doesn't mean they're going to die.

It's easy to lose their results.

They're going to get weaker and weaker and weaker.

And they're just not going to be making a happen the way they want to.

Everyone visualizes whether he realizes they're not.

Visualization is a great secret of success.

And it intensifies your wisdom and enables you to make use of

advantages who formerly fail to recognize.

I think if everything starts with a thought,

I mean, everything that you do in your life,

you have to have a thought before you initiate an action, right?

So if you believe that your thoughts have something to do with your destiny,

like any great leader in history understands that,

the first thing you have to do is you have to decide,

are you going to be defined by a vision of the future?

Or are you going to live by the memories of the past?

You know, it's harsh that the rewards of life are indiscriminately distributed,

but it doesn't help to become bitter.

Most people wake up in the morning and your brain is a record of past.

It's an artifact of everything you've learned and experienced to this moment, right?

It's a memory bank.

So most people wake up in the morning and they start thinking about their problems,

and those problems are connected to certain people and things at certain times in places.

And the moment they start turning on those circuits,

those memories are actually causing them to think in the past.

Every single one of those memories has an emotion associated with them,

and emotions are the end product of past experiences.

So then the moment they recall the event or they recall some problem in their life,

they start feeling unhappy, they start feeling discouraged, they start feeling anxious.

Now thoughts of the language of the brain and feelings are the language of the body,

and how you think and how you feel creates your state of being.

So we could say that most people's entire state of being

when they start today is in the familiar past.

Well, if you live in the familiar past,

then it makes sense you're going to create the predictable future.

There isn't a better way to live your life.

There's no right way and wrong way.

There is only the way that gives you more energy.

There is only the way that gives you fulfillment.

When you have those things, when you're fulfilled by what you're doing,

and it's giving you the hearty pursuit, it's giving you more energy,

you're on the right path.

As the Greeks would say, say the Lotharomo, which means you're on a good road.

And that's what I want people to understand.

But I don't think that it is a universal path.

And so the only universal path is to do the things that give you fulfillment and energy.

So if spending time with your friends gives you that,

then you should be spending more time with your friends.

If dating gives you that, then you should be dating.

So you don't need to want to be the best in the world or something.

You don't need to want to make a lot of money.

You don't need to want to be an entrepreneur like all of them.

They're literally just stand-ins.

They're proxies for fulfillment and energy creation.

That's it.

So those are the punchlines of what's the meaning of life and all of that stuff.

It is to do something that makes you feel a deep sense of well-being,

which I'll call fulfillment.

And something that gives you energy,

where you're literally excited to attack the day.

I start with identities because I think that's the root of all our challenges.

It's starting at the root, not starting at the symptoms or the superficial or the surface level.

And let's go to the root.

If you're paying a role, if you're wearing a mask,

if your dress includes that are not yours,

then you end up living a life that's not yours.

Because guess what?

When you fate being someone for so long,

you think it's your reality.

And that's what happens to all of us.

We play a role at work, we play a role at home, we play a role with our family,

we play a role in our friends,

and when we think that role is us,

and we lose ourselves,

and to me that is the core reason why we're chasing things that are not important to us.

A lot of you that are running from things,

instead of running too things.

And that's a huge difference,

running from something versus running to something.

And so I want you to think about that for a minute.

Because you don't have to move across country a change your life.

And you don't have to do something drastic to experience drastic positive change.

And here's the thing about running away

from your problems.

Running away from your past.

Have you ever noticed that when you run away,

it tends to follow you?

All we have, which everybody talks about,

is this moment, this precious second right now.

So the more I could be here right now,

the more I'm living, you know,

the life that I want to live.

Too much about the future.

Too much about the past that can use those as something to, you know,

hope for in the future as a guiding post from the past.

But right now is the moment that every one of us has.

I never really aspired to happen,

because happy is usually determined by external factors.

I go for the joy.

Because when you have joy at home,

when you have joy inside,

it don't matter much what's going on out here.

You understand?

You got your joy.

And you can come home to your joy no matter what is going on in the world.

Far too many of us have our happiness, our peace,

our joy, our value, our worth,

hooked into some external stimulation.

And then we wonder why we're stressed out and overweight and gang sleep.

You have those scars and your brain from life.

But what we don't do is we try to hide those scars.

We don't want to go back and revisit it.

So I started realizing that my life was causing the whole bunch of scar on my brain.

It had to go back and really break open that scar and let it bleed.

And that was a very painful journey for me to go back.

Who are you letting everyone in your dreams?

What's scorecard are you judging yourself by?

Screw that.

This is your time.

This is your opportunity.

This new world that we live in with access like you listening to me right now.

Access to so much knowledge.

We have access to information.

This is your time.

There's no better time.

There's no different time.

This is your time.

The only way it'll happen is if you change the story in your head.

If you say change the scorecard, change your desires, find your passion.

Don't when people tell you stop dreaming.

Tell them I'm sorry you gave up on yours.

I'm not quite there yet.

That's the response you need to ship.

Every day I'm winning the other voice in my head.

So I'm very, and I'm at peace with myself.

The things I do for fun are like me bettering myself.

We'll also love accomplishing in overcoming myself every day because every day is about

every day is about it because your mind wants to choose to path at least resistance every day.

But you don't become better by by ever doing that.

You become normal and I don't want to be known.

So it may not be a life for everybody but I find a lot of peace and not being normal in my life.

Dream without goals are just dreams and they ultimately fuel disappointment.

Goals on the road to achievement cannot be achieved without discipline and consistency.

As Shakespeare noted, there's nothing good or bad but thinking makes it so.

There's nothing good or bad, right?

There's just stimulus and then there's response.

But people think that it is objectively a certain way.

So now because they think it is an objectively a certain way, they feel they are supposed to

react based on those emotions that are getting kicked up in their mind.

If you want to always be moving towards your goal, you want to be optimized.

You got to learn to get control of your emotions.

You've got to learn to understand to tell yourself a narrative that isn't predicated on necessarily

identifying what is objectively true because I don't think that we experience the world that way.

It's identifying what's going to work to get me to my goal.

Your joy, your sadness, your happiness, your misery is determined by something or somebody

around you. The chances of you being joyful in your life is remote.

Is it true that human experience, joy or misery, agony or ecstasy,

madness or sanity, everything is created from inside?

At least if you're a manager.

If you're going to be a manager, at least what is happening from within you must happen your way

because essentially management means having situations the way we want it.

Yes, management means what? Having situations the way we want it.

Well, if the world is not happening your way, at least this one must be happening your way,

otherwise what kind of management is this?

I want to convince you that the human brain is a naturally creative instrument.

It is designed for making connections between ideas for envisioning DEF and beyond.

It wants to go in that direction.

Creativity is not a function of some freakish genetic wiring that occurs in the brains of a few people.

It is instead the function of awakening and exploiting the natural creative energy we all possess.

Well, highly creative people have both.

They have the knowledge and the experience plus the mental fluidity,

which gives them the ability to see more possibilities in the world around them

and to maximize, to realize to its fullest the natural connecting power of the human brain.

You know, it's really identifying who someone is at their core and starting from that place,

it can be really confusing. I think it's always the discovery process, but I think we have to

define moments in our life. You know, that's kind of a helpful framework is to figure out what are

the times in our life when we felt completely connected and in the moment? When did we feel like we were

rooted in what I would call spiritual experience? That wasn't outcome based. That wasn't based upon

making a bunch of money. I was based about being in this beautiful moment and going, gosh,

I'm exactly where I need to be and this is who I am. So I find it's helpful for people to first

figure out what are those moments. And that starts to create a framework for someone realizing,

okay, those moments I can kind of describe who I am.

Is it terribly obvious to me what you are working on, what skills you're trying to develop,

what projects you're trying to complete, to stretch yourself, to grow yourself,

or is every day another reaction day? Because listen, if every day is another reaction day,

you are in a fixed mindset. Write it down. If every day is another reaction day,

you're in a fixed mindset. You stop believing in big projects that would require you to schedule

stuff out. You stopped thinking, what skills must I master to grow? Because you're just trying to

handle all the problems. Remember, you're stuck in one single of problems. Challenges are what really

grow us. You know, your life is a great story. Every person's life is a story. The question is,

some people's stories are warning, some people's stories are an example. Right now,

your example is growing and expanding. And you have a chance to have this be the most incredible

life. But it won't be a life without challenge. And the challenges we're facing right now,

give you an opportunity to grow like very a few generations. If you want to great movie,

if you read a great book, you know, the size and the power of the hero, how much you become as a hero

is defined by how tough an obstacle you face, how difficult is the bill and the opponent. And so

sometimes when I've been to the toughest times of my life, one of the questions I've had to ask

myself or note to myself this, ah, I finally have a really worthy opponent. This is steering the

hell out of me. This is challenging here. This is making me crazy. But I also know I'm I got into my

soul that if I can push through it's just like you've done in these years, you push through a tough

time. So I'm sure many of them, but as you push through those, you become more, as you become more

something magical happens. You don't just grow. You expand in your spirit and your soul and your

capacity and your skill and all of a sudden fear becomes less and less a part of you.

If you're going to be uncomfortable, your reward has to be big.

So if you're going to be making a change, ask yourself, why is what I want to achieve so

important to me? Why am I willing to, you know, use my new willpower persistence? Why am I willing

to go through the discomfort of change? Why am I willing to, you know, listen to the negative

talk that I have or the emotion that I have and still do it anyway? And if you don't have a big

enough reason, the first time you have a chance for an excuse, you'll take it or they say, you know

it, I'm not happy my relationship. And you know, two weeks later, they're back with the same person

or they find another person just like the one that they left or people are afraid to leave their

jobs because they don't like the discomfort of change. Well, the only certain thing in the universe,

the only constant is change. Everything that's the only constant in the universe, it's oxymoron,

it's like how can change be the only constant, the only stable thing? Because everything's changing.

So why not acquire the skill to be comfortable and change? The meaning that I give,

remember I said you have to reframe things? The meaning I give things now is when I'm uncomfortable,

I'm changing and I'm growing and then so we go through these waves of comfort and change,

comfort and change and that's just like the waves of life.

Moment of willingness in the moment of trust in the universe. Like people talk about rock autumn.

I mean, that's just a moment, you know, like you could always go lower.

Near rock bottom is the moment of being spiritually deflated, defeated,

essentially hating your life and I can always go a bit lower. But there's always a window,

I feel like the universe from my experience creates a window if you do want to change,

if you do want to help a window is created. Now it may not be the window you want and it may not be

this fabulous, great set you want to open up, but there'll be a window because all of a sudden

your mindset is believing there's a window and it believes that you can change and I just think

there's always that open. Courage comes from the courage means to take heart.

It's the awareness that life is on your side, that love always wins, that peace always wins,

that joy always wins because the higher frequencies are way more powerful than hate and this

interest and resentment and animosity and pseudo-control of false authority. Love always wins

in the universal scheme of things. So with that we take heart, we have a level of courage

and we have to have the courage to opt out of the old paradigm. You have to ask yourself on a

regular basis, what am I doing as I'm opting out of the old? What am I doing?

I want to take the calculated risk to dream and to build, to fail and to succeed. I refuse

to live from hand to mouth. I prefer the challenges of life to the guaranteed existence,

the full of fulfillment to the still calm of utopia. I would never call before a master nor

then to any friend. It's my heritage to stand erect, crowd and unafraid. The face to

wear a bow and say, I did this. I did this. This is my dream.

When I'm talking, because I ask them to ask themselves those questions and that's the answer.

Well, what's meaningful? Well, I have a meaningful relationship with my father. I have a meaningful

relationship with my wife. When I commit to something and make sacrifices, you know, if something's

valuable, you make sacrifices to attain it. That discovery of sacrifice, I think that's what

separates human. It's one of the primary factors separating human beings from animals.

Because we discovered that we could let go of something we value in the present and we would

gain something we value even more in the future. We acted that out dramatically in all sorts of

strange ways, over thousands and thousands of years before it was formalizable psychologically,

but it's a massive discovery. I can forego gratification in a particular way and benefit in

the future. So I can share the proceeds of my hunt and I store up future food in the form of

reputation and the favors I've owed I'm owed now by other people. It's a massive discovery.

A lot of us dream big. You should dream. They dream big support. You know,

some of us will be doctors, lawyers, dentists. So you have this big dream you can see it's so

clear like it's right in front of you. You can go out and touch it. But the thing about it is so

where you can dream big enough so we're down that journey that dream becomes a nightmare. And what

happens is that nightmare so they have all these questions like you may start to fail tests and all

these questions start to flood your mind. Why am I here? I'm not good enough trust me. I know all

about the questions. They will flood your mind. If you do not have the answers for them, you will

quit. The answers lie in the repetitions. You must not forget the repetitions you put into trying

to dominate the crack that you're in today. Always, always embrace the suck, adapt the suck.

Being on the calls to make yourself unstoppable to get out of your mind the polluting negative

thoughts that's causing most people to go through life being stuck because of volunteer victims.

Somebody said that many people died age 25 and don't get buried until they're at 65 because they

got so much garbage in their mind. Question is what do you believe? Do you believe that you are

worthy of happiness? Do you believe that happiness, success, abundance, comfort, fulfillment,

peace, joy, love is a part of your birthright. Is that what you believe or do you believe something

else? Because you will manifest the life that you believe. It's successful people. Whether they're

taught it like we teach it or they just know how to do it automatically, they do it. They feel fear

and then they release that fear and they take action anyway. So they can turn their fear into

fuel is one of the things that we teach people how to turn your fear into your fuel and when you turn

your fear into your fuel in a calm, centered way. The underlying increased supposition there is that

in our phenomenological landscape, so that's the world as we experience it, complete with emotions

and motivations and dreams and so the full range of human experience, including the subjective

and the objective, let's say, can broadly be broken into two domains and one is the domain of

things that are beyond our grasp and reach and that's the unknown. The unknown emerges when the

unknown emerges, you tend to experience anxiety and then there's the known and I define the known

very specifically and very carefully, the known is the place you are when what you're doing

produces the results you want and I say want because that brings motivation and motion into the game.

So you motivate it to pursue something, you pursue it and what you want happens. You don't only

get what you want but you get validation for the structure that governs your perceptions and your

archers. Here's what do it anyway has done for me. The idea that I just do it anyway has pushed me

to realize and to recognize that there are a lot of moments where there are things in my life that

I really want to do, I need to do, I should do but when the moment comes I don't feel like it

and so I pull out this idea of you know what I'm just going to do it anyway. It's raining outside,

I said I would go for a short run, I don't feel like it, I'm going to do it anyway. It's six o'clock

in the morning, I'm tired, it's cold, what do I do, I do it anyway. When you start to say to yourself

I'm going to do it anyway, what happens is something really cool. You acknowledge that there are

feelings that you have that are trying to swoop in and hijack you, you acknowledge them and you

basically say guess what, I'm going to do it anyway. But we don't understand what's happening,

you think on frequencies, now this has to do with goals. When you set a goal you have to flip your

brain onto the frequency that the good that your desire or that you need for that goal is there.

So you, you, you, more people don't make the decision because they don't know how to get it,

you don't have to know how to get it, you're willing to do it, you're going to make the decision,

you don't make the decision when you've got enough money or when you've got all the resources,

you make the decision. When you make the decision you flip your brain onto a higher frequency

and then you're on the frequency you begin to attract everything on that frequency, then there's

a lot of attraction from you. I think that the people that are on that are discovering how to

unleash their greatness are people who have the mental resiliency and the courage to face failure,

that you will fail your way to greatness, that most people allow their fear of failure, 80%, allow

their fear of failure to all the way their desire to succeed. When you're willing to fail again

and again and again, when you make up your mind to become unstoppable, when you make up your mind,

to become a no matter what person, then that will then give birth to a part of yourself that you

don't know right now. No one's coming back to help me. So it starts with that person and that

you have to realize you are on your own now. And whatever else you believe in, I don't care

what you believe in, but on earth, it's a very lonely journey. It starts with the accountability

mirror of looking at saying, hey, all these things are coming back. I have to face myself

and you have to own all those things that people may have done to you. Now it's yours.

You got to own it. It's yours now to fix the problems that people did to you. It makes no sense.

It's not fair. I get it. But if you live in that what was the mentality of guess what?

My dad did this to me. My mom just did to me. People who bully did this to me. You're going to

always live right there. You have to figure out ways to move forward because you're not coming back.

Indiscriminate. Only when your attention and involvement is indiscriminate,

does the universe open up to you? Because life is happening because of its openness.

This is a fundamental difference between death and life is. People are thinking it's just

breath or right on one level. That is also openness. Whether you allow this to happen or you don't

allow it to happen. Whether you did it consciously or unconsciously, but it's happening, isn't it?

Openness is on every subatomic particle. It's in communication with everything. That's why this

is going on. Breath is happening. So much is happening in connection with everything. It is only

in openness you rely. As you close doors, you're dying in installments.

If I live within my mind in a place of inadequacy, let's take one that's very common for people.

I can not enough somehow, right? Like I'm not young enough. I'm not fast enough. I'm not pretty

enough. I'm not thin enough. I'm not wealthy enough. Whatever it is, I'm not good enough.

Then that becomes like this sort of linguistic prison that somebody lives with it.

Now that is going to create frustration, dis-ease, the absence of ease. And then that cascades

into the physicality. So the subtle level is the mind. And then that manifests in the body.

Like I am depressed. Like it again, it's inaccurate. It's I know that's how they feel,

but it's not who they are. And so I like to create separation so that you can sort of

distangle yourself from these deepest seated beliefs of inadequacy, insecurity, and scarcity.

So that's where for me, most people are doing everything they can to obviously have a vital

life to be well, to be healthy. But if you don't change the relationship you have with yourself and

your subconscious in your mind, it's all for now as far as I'm concerned. Like a best you're

going to get transitory relief. You know, you're basically becoming the best version of your limited

self. The problem with passion, you know, people gave me the same bit of advice. Do what you love.

Thank you. Thanks. You know, find your passion. Thank you. Like what I'm supposed to do with that

advice. You know, and what I learned is that passion like profit is a result. When we commit

ourselves to some higher purpose, some higher cause, passion is a result. When we work hard for

something we don't believe in, it's called stress. When we work hard for something we do believe in,

it's called passion. Passion is not the entry point of the exit point. So the question is not

to find your passion or find the thing you're passionate about. The question is, what do you believe?

The question is, what are your ideals? What are your values? And where are the places in which

those people, those organizations share your values, share your beliefs? Who is articulating a

vision of the world that you would like to live in? Push yourself in those directions. Be

around those people, you know, align yourself with those organizations and what you will find is

you shut up every day with passion. Not the type of guy who sits in my house meditating 24 hours

a day and expect things to come to me. I'm a pragmatist, a practical person. I'm going to take

value and information. I'm going to apply it and see if I can gain more value from it. So

the message is not to sit and meditate and just receive universal love and do nothing else

because my message is to not disengage in life but to fully engage in life. That's my message.

The only way that you're going to overcome that stuff is to go all out every day knowing that

it's going to take a long time. But the only way that that dream is going to come true even

over that long period of time is if you're going all out every day. So literally a mantra in my

life and I can't, I cannot stress this enough. This is a cornerstone of why I've been able to achieve

at the level that I've been able to achieve. Every day, everything I'm doing, I'm asking why

can't it be done faster? Why can't I accomplish more right now that it's not okay to put something

off even till tonight? I need to do it right now. Now you need to get very good at prioritizing

because if you're trying to do everything right now you're going to accomplish nothing and if you're

trying to be gimmicky or do shortcuts all of that's going to fail because none of that is playing

the long game but if ever you're allowing yourself to slow down because you simply are acknowledging

that this stuff takes time. I'm telling you it's never going to work. You've got to go all out.

You've got to create more momentum.