Hypnosis for Confident Communication and Speaking Without Fear

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1:01and Monday by Celebrities CEO's and even royalty, Adam Cox. These recordings took place live from Evan's Vin in London's world-famous Harley Street. Share, get yourself comfortable and enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist. Hi, it's Adam here. And you're about to listen to a hypnosis session all about confidence speaking and feeling worthy to speak. And it was created for a client that when they were a child, they were quite shy and they were quite timid and quite often their mother and people around them would speak on their behalf, answer questions, even if they were directed at them as a child, the adult would respond on their behalf. And it's quite a loud household. So quite often, they learned as a child better to be quiet because it avoids conflict. And then when they're older,

2:02actually speaking and communicating, was a key drive for them. It's what they wanted to be doing, but part of them felt like it was dangerous or scary to speak up. And what this hypnosis session does, is it honors and acknowledges that positive intention, but also accepts that they are not a child anymore, and they are very, very capable compared to who they were before. So it's almost like an old operating system an old rule based on how things were, not how they are now. Now what's frustrating about this one for me is that it was a great session, but I didn't record it on video. I only recorded it on audio, so normally, you would actually see me and hear me doing the session if you're watching this, maybe on YouTube or Spotify video, but on this case, I've only got the audio, so it's gonna be, like my original podcast, for the first four or five years of the podcast,

3:02everything was audio tracks and there was no video, so it kind of feels weird to be doing an audio track now. I'm doing the intro as video, but the actual session is audio only, so you won't be able to see me communicating, but here's what's interesting. Most people, when they listen to these hypnosis sessions, they're listening with their eyes closed anyway, so it shouldn't make too much of a difference. If you like this session, then great, you can also get the original copy without this intro and explanation, and it will be available on my store, which is called thehypnotiststore.com, and there is a welcome code called welcome, and you can get at least two downloads completely free, so check that out. For now though, find a quiet comfortable place where you won't be distracted, or disturbed, relax, and enjoy the session. Take a deep breath in, and as you breathe in,

4:12breathe in that feeling of pure relaxation, and as you exhale, give permission to release, releasing any tension, any stress, any worries, and when you breathe in, breathe in for longer, then you normally would, and as you exhale, exhale, for longer, breathing in deeper, exhaling, longer, activating the diaphragm, as you scan your body for any clues of tension, and when you breathe in, breathe in pure relaxation, resourcefulness, and as you exhale, just release any doubts, any echoes, any historical thoughts that away out of date.

5:16Right here there's nothing to do and nothing to prove, just breathing in relaxation and exhaling tension, where each breath can take you deeper and deeper relaxed, and I want you to think of things that you used to do, you don't do them anymore because it doesn't make sense. Maybe there was an old mobile phone used to use, or a piece of software that once you couldn't live without, and then something changed, and what was useful at one point in your life became redundant at another, and what if a certain belief kept you safe at one time in your life,

6:26and now is just weighing you down and getting in the way, rather than protecting, it's impeding, and as you hold that thought, allow your shoulders to loosen and relax, you're jaw to just feel lighter, and maybe everything connecting to breath opens your chest, your windpipe, your lungs, your diaphragm, and perhaps that feeling of calm can begin to spread through the very center of you, almost like warmth, not dramatic, just present, and while you relax, perhaps you can become aware of something interesting.

7:27There may be a part of you, a protective part that has been operating from an old file, a file created a very long time ago, consider this file like a personal record. It could say things like, shy, not confident speaking, need someone else to answer, safer not to be noticed, easier to stay quiet, and perhaps there was a time, and some of that may have even been true, think back to a memory of you, perhaps a child, or you didn't have the experience,

8:30you didn't yet have the words, maybe then you hadn't built up the confidence to hold a conversation, to handle the disagreement or conflict or lead people, back then words were powerful, and you didn't have the practice or the opportunity to get good with those words back then, but what if something can be true at one point, and completely untrue at another? Maybe it was true that communicating clearly was challenging then, perhaps staying quiet did reduce exposure, stopped you being targeted, avoid it conflict or confrontations or losing arguments,

9:34and maybe all the way back then it did feel safer. This isn't self sabotage, this is a protective part, using an out of date file, to protect who you were, not who you are now, it just belonged to that time, but perhaps some deeper part of you can understand something, that the file is old outdated. Imagine someone evaluating your capabilities, based on seeing a CV, or a personal statement you left when you were 16 years old leaving school,

10:39they might look at that, and jump to a conclusion that you're not experienced enough, not ready, have insufficient capabilities, and yet they would be completely wrong, not because the CV was fake or false, it was true perhaps when you were 16, and can be completely untrue now. Time has passed, experience has accumulated, and capabilities have grown, and what airfuel protective mind has been doing something similar, looking at the boy who found speaking difficult, and using that version of you,

11:39to predict what the capable current version of you can do now, but you're not trying to speak, with the capabilities you had when you're a child, you have everything that's accumulated since then, hundreds if not thousands of years, can sometimes feel like a moment, all the books you've read, all the other people that you've experienced, you get to harness all of their years, into everything you've experienced, you don't have thousands of hours worth of experience, you have thousands of years worth of experience, condensed into that mind that is capable and powerful,

12:47and therefore, that experience with all of your years of learning and conversations, of venturing out of the comfort zone, on phone calls, presentations, teaching questions, answers, remember the times you got feedback, complemented on your communication, skills, abilities, capabilities, and how you just stream all of that recent experience, references, accomplishments, directly to the protector, so we can't perceive you as the child anymore. The protector now sees you,

13:48for what you are now, not who you were once, and when the protector notices, who is actually standing there now, let me know by nodding your head. And maybe there was once a child, who either needed wanted or just benefited from someone else speaking for them, and maybe the intention behind that was also protection, but what if every time someone else answered, the child was deprived of practice, of resilience, of the confidence that comes from experience, and I want you to imagine going back to that child,

14:49and telling that child that you can answer for yourself, and I want you to imagine what would have happened, all of those moments that someone spoke on your behalf, instead you spoke up, you articulated, confidently, calmly, in a relaxed way. If the question came to you, you would answer. If someone tried to answer on your behalf, you would tell them, confidently, I can handle this, and you would respond. And I want you to imagine condensing time, seeing perhaps hundreds of those moments, like a montage, moment after moment where you speak for yourself, you explain yourself,

15:50you make the decisions, you handle the conversations, and those moments where you avoided, see yourself stepping forward, a child with confidence that grew incrementally, and sometimes if the right words didn't come, that wasn't a devastating loss, that was just, an opportunity to go back, and think what would you have preferred to have said in that same moment. You either won or you learned, and the learning gave you the experience, the experience gave you the confidence, and the confidence created a wonderful self-fulfilling prophecy, that ripples through time all the way up to now. What if communication isn't the danger anymore?

16:56What if communication is now the very thing that makes you safer? The protective path thought, by you being quiet, you were safer, but it deprived you of the experience and practice to become stronger. But now you can ask questions, you can clarify, negotiate, set boundaries and explain and persuade, you can say no, you can say yes, you can change your mind. Now you can express what you actually mean. And what if the skill, that that protective part feared, has now become, your most powerful resource? What if you've already turned the weakness into a strength,

17:56but the protective part still considers it a weakness? So allow those old sensations to be understood differently now. They are no longer warnings about the present, from this point onwards, any of those fears, dread, hesitation, warnings. You will perceive them to be historical echoes, like hearing the sound of something, long after the original event has passed. An echo can sound real, but it isn't happening again. And when that old feeling arrives before a conversation, or a phone call, when someone suddenly speaks to you and you weren't prepared,

19:01rather than interpreting it as, I'm not capable. You perceive it as that old echo, old information. And notice what is true now. Your feet are here, your body is here, your adult mind is here. You have all of this experience, your vocabulary, your judgment, and your communication skills. And then just breathe out and allow the echo to leave and the present to answer the past. With this simple phrase, I can handle this. And there's no need to suddenly become somebody else. What if the relaxed, communicative, empowered version of you,

20:04isn't someone you're becoming? What if that is who you already are? And the dread and the anxiety is just coming from those historical echoes. If you've been weighed down, then you just return to your normal state. You know what it feels like to feel that way, to feel relaxed and talkative and natural, able to look someone in the eyes, able to respond without preparing every sentence, to be present, to pick up a phone and reach out, to connect. That wasn't fake. That wasn't an artificial personality. That is what life is like for you.

21:06When you are no longer controlled, by the old echoes, protecting you from an out-of-date file. This protective part, once was helping, perhaps for a while was neutral, and now is hindering, it still has a role to play, to protect you from genuine threats. But you being confident and relaxed and talkative is not a genuine threat. The more expressive and capable and relaxed and confident you are, the more resourceful and the more options you have. Relaxation does not remove control. Relaxation and feeling comfortable in your own skin

22:09improves access to all of the resources, particularly the ones you've forgotten about. It's still uncapable of doing. I'm not saying. Most people underestimate their capabilities. They've forgotten the things they already know how to do. It's only when they have to explain it to someone else they realize what they already know. And the karma you are, the easier words arrive, and the easier you listen, the easier you notice the other person. The easier you adapt, and perhaps the safest communicator isn't the most guarded communicator. It's the one who is calm and relaxed enough to just think, naturally, effortlessly.

23:17And as you hold that thought, I want you to imagine tomorrow, where an ordinary conversation begins unexpectedly, and even before that old vigilance that protective part can analyze. Something else happens. A really deep breath. A relaxed softening through the chest. And just a thought. I know how to talk to people. And you can listen and respond. No performance, no need for perfection. Just communication. Or perhaps a week from now you can imagine, the sales call. You don't need to become confident first.

24:18You just begin. Curious, relaxed, listening. With good questions. Allowing all the skills you've already developed. To just, naturally and effortlessly, do what you know they're capable of doing. Or maybe you can imagine yourself in a social situation holding eye contact and smiling. Or in a training call, a live call with many people. Leading, influencing, confidently. And maybe, that old protector starts to see what you're doing now with new eyes. Rather than worrying about what if something happens,

25:20it can update the file and see that you're doing it, that you're safe, that you know what you're doing. And every conversation becomes another update to the file. A new, capable, experienced, relaxed, communicative. That you are safe to be seen. That exposure gives connection and connection creates safety. And maybe six months from now, there is not some brand new version of you. There is simply you with less interference. Where you wake up and make breakfast. At plan the day and talk and make calls. And connect. And you hold that eye contact and you laugh more easily.

26:20And you feel positive emotions more freely. Because if you've been carrying something heavy for a long time, don't you feel lighter with more energy? The moment you can put that heavy thing down. The capability belongs to now. The fear is just a relic and echo of a long time ago. And from this point forward, your mind can evaluate you using current information. Not the childhood file and not the echo. The current evidence. You can speak. It is your mission to speak. You can communicate, you can handle yourself and you are far more capable.

27:21Then every part of you ever realized. It's time to leave this place. But you return with a feeling of new found resourcefulness and confidence and new feeling of relaxation. A sense that any dread or anxiety is just an echo based on how it dated information. And your natural state is to be relaxed and confident and enthusiastic. Like there is a fire burning there in your chest. Mission. Purposeful. Excited. So as we return to the present, take a deep breath in three or no's. And out three or no's.

28:22Wiggle your fingers, wiggle your toes. Connect and calibrate into the here and the now. As I now count from one to ten. To awaken you. Starting to count. One, two, three waking up. Four, five, six more alert. Seven, eight, open your eyes, open your eyes. Nine, ten, wide awake, wide awake. Wide awake. Thank you so much for joining me on today's episode of The Hypnotist. If you've enjoyed this episode or got some value from it, please give it a five-star rating and review. And maybe you know someone that would also benefit from this particular episode, in which case share the episode with them so they can also get the benefit too.

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