How to Stop Saying Yes When You Mean No

The word "no" is two simple letters, but it's one of the hardest things to say, especially for women. We're taught to always be agreeable, accommodating and automatically say yes to anything we're asked to do.

That's why people can go their whole lives without actually knowing how to say 'no'. So our default answer is "oh sure" or "yes, of course" even if it's to our own detriment.

Our place of 'no' is already inside us, we just have to find it and vocalize it in order to release our genuine power. It might feel unfamiliar, and we may have to practice at first, but honoring our 'no' is the only way to truly own our space and stand in our power.

Why is it so hard to say no? How do we build our no muscles? In this episode, we talk about why we don't know how to say no, and how to make a place for it in our vocabulary.

 

Things You'll Learn In This Episode 

-Say no with no ifs, buts or maybes

One of the ways we try to compromise with our no is by saying things like "maybe" or "I'll try." What happens when we say yes to things we don't really want?

-Practice saying no

No can be a lot to say out loud if we're not used to it. How do we get comfortable with it? 

-No before yes 

A full body yes is an important thing we need to honor, but how can we genuinely say yes if we don't know how to say no first? 

About Your Hosts

Kathlyn Hendricks, Ph.D., BC-DMT*, is an evolutionary catalyst and freelance mentor who has been a pioneer in the field of body intelligence and conscious loving for over forty years. Katie has an international reputation as a presenter and seminar leader, bodifying the core skills of conscious living–authenticity, response-ability and appreciation–with conscious enthusiasts from many fields. She is the co-author of twelve books, including the best-selling Conscious Loving, At The Speed of Life and Conscious Loving Ever After: How to Create Thriving Relationship at Midlife and Beyond. Katie has been a successful entrepreneur for over forty years. She specializes in turning concepts such as commitment into felt experience and igniting new actions that emerge from the inside out. Her unique coaching and leadership programs have generated hundreds of body intelligence and relationship coaches in the U.S. and Europe. She co-founded the Spiritual Cinema Circle and the virtual Body Intelligence Summit. Katie has appeared on over 500 radio and television programs and traveled well over one million air miles as the ambassador for the work that she and her husband Gay Hendricks have developed.

 

Sophie Chiche is a seasoned coach and consultant who has traveled the world working with thousands of people and dozens of teams. With a passion for fully expressed living, Sophie coaches, and facilitates group sessions to help people and teams remove what gets in the way of them living their most meaningful lives.Not only does she work with clients to design the life they want, but she's also developed methods, mindsets shifts, and healing modalities to create it elegantly. Born in Paris, raised in Barcelona, and lived in LA for 30 years, Sophie now lives in the middle of nowhere Arizona, where she rides her Harley with her boo, Wall. And plays a lot of pickleball.

 

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