How other people control you

Quote of the day:

“When you believe without knowing you believe that you are damaged at your core, you also believe that you need to hide that damage for anyone to love you. You walk around ashamed of being yourself. You try hard to make up for the way you look, walk, feel. Decisions are agonizing because if you, the person who makes the decision, is damaged, then how can you trust what you decide? You doubt your own impulses so you become masterful at looking outside yourself for comfort. You become an expert at finding experts and programs, at striving and trying hard and then harder to change yourself, but this process only reaffirms what you already believe about yourself -- that your needs and choices cannot be trusted, and left to your own devices you are out of control (p.82-83)”

― Geneen Roth, Women, Food and God: An Unexpected Path to Almost Everything

My answer to last week's question of the week:

I’m a “C/D” personality type, I overanalyze, then get tired of things taking too long, and charge ahead, sometimes leaving a wake of destruction….or half done things….behind me.

Stories from real life/what I’m doing to create more liberty in my life:

Prepping for Teen Catalyst event

Homestead updates:

Piglets

Wild bunnies

Setting hens with different personalities

News/personal development article highlight/book review:

I’ve deviated from my reading list that I set for myself at the start of the year. I haven’t given up on it, but I’ve inserted a couple other books that struck me. One is called ‘The Purpose Driven Youth Ministry, the other one is the ‘The Case for IBC’.

IBC is the infinite banking concept, the idea of becoming your own banker.I don’t fully understand it, but I’m highly interested and excited about the potential I see in it to build generational wealth, and I’m trying to get someone on the podcast to talk about it.

Social media spotlight/podcast episode recommendation:

Check out the Fireside Freedom Podcast, a collaboration effort with fellow podcasters,a discussion on how to create MORE freedom in your life. 

Also, go listen to A Farmish Kind of Life, episode 205. I had the pleasure of chatting with Amy Dingman all about personalities. It was a fantastic chat.

Main topic:

Don’t allow other people to control you.

Set out to do a thing, and we over analyze it.

We allow other people’s fears to control us

We have a first instinct for the thing but end up listening to the voices inside our head or from other people telling us we can’t do the thing, we don’t have what it takes

Then before we even have a chance to get started and suck at whatever it was, before we have a chance to learn the lesson that getting started would teach us, we get derailed and quit.

If you go back to when you were a child, most likely you LOVED new experiences. 

You LOVED the zoo, and all the crazy looking animals. 

You LOVED going to the beach and picking up all the strange looking creatures and seeing how far out you could swim.

You climbed as high as you could up the tree.

You met and played with new people.

You LOVED trying new food….wait….what? No you didn’t. No kid likes trying new food.

You explored new places and tried new things every chance you got.

The fears you experienced came from the people around you. If your mom or dad was the fearful type, you too became fearful. If they were afraid of you being kidnapped, you too became afraid of every new person you saw.

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