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2:05I was a monster. Listen to burden of guilt season two on the iHeart Radio app. Apple Podcast or wherever you get your podcasts. Good people what's up what's up it's Questlove. So recently I had the incredible opportunity to have a real conversation with actress and producer Jamie Lee Curtis from routines to recovery, true lies, and a certain germane Jackson music video. Jamie's real and raw and something I really admire about her. I am so happy that I'm the head and charge at 67 that I have the perspective that I have at my age to really be able to put all of this into context. Listen to the Questlove show on the iHeart Radio app Apple Podcast or wherever you get your podcasts. I am not salty okay I am single and you should listen just to see what's going to happen next. The Fred show is I was humbled but maybe

3:07a year or two ago I tried to get into a pizza restaurant. I may have been drinking and there's a two hour wait and I didn't feel like it and I was hungry. Really it was more nothing to do with anything I was just hungry. I thought you know what I'm going to try I'm going to DM maybe someone listens and maybe they'll just do something nice. I'm not special I'm not important I didn't say that I was I'm just like maybe maybe maybe just somehow they got a table maybe you know what I mean yeah they roll me back you can wait a lot like everybody else. I mean a nicer way and a nicer like have you considered takeout I'm like well that defeats the purpose okay and no one needs to do anything special for me but I happen to know that I'm I've said this place a million times yeah on the radio so I thought well I'm paying and everything but maybe I don't throw me a ball and I'm starving. I've been drinking and I may I may stumble on an edible tube but anyway it doesn't matter. This place is like they they really gas themselves up though I called yesterday after the Cubs game. Oh the restaurant yeah or like I guess during the Cubs games I left early but

4:08I called and it was a three hour wait I don't believe you for a second. I think you're trying to I do believe it. That place is not good you guys are crazy. It's good. I mean it's good. We're trying to go there. I'm telling you it's not good you were trying to go there. I'm hating. That's not how I was trying to go I couldn't get in. So it sucks. That's like one of the guys hitting on you and he's like I wasn't being ugly. Well when we're talking about this off the air but like whenever I go to like a new restaurant or something and if maybe I know because yeah you know the you live in a place long enough you get to know some of the people that run these places or you know who's concept are and you go in there and the first thing I hear is about the list of people who thought that they should get in and why and then their expectations of free food and free this and free that and they're telling me all this and I know these other people there are other people like in media or celebrities or whatever and I'm just going I never want to be on this list. Like I never I never ever want to go someplace and have and be like oh you know to the other person like oh you're not going to believe it. That's why over tip I'm overly kind like I don't

5:11ever want anyone. I don't ask for nothing. I don't ask for nothing. I just know. And then you don't only buddy anything too. That's another thing. You know you just even you start to get stuff. You're these people to get free stuff. They're not just giving it to you. They won't even do something for them. Oh for sure. And there are certain people in town that if you I've learned the hard way that if they like hook you up then the next morning it's oh and by the way can I have to take it to meet Taylor Swift backstage and then sit on her lap and you're going like wait a minute. You gave me a free appetizer bro. I'll give you $12. That would have paid for the cheese. Right exactly like no you can't and that's like what do you mean like you know remember that one time like no I don't remember that one time. Not only will I pay I'll pay like a resort fee I'll clean the bathrooms like I don't care I'm trying to go in there. It is the Fred show good morning thanks for having us on the radio on the iHeart app live and anytime search for the Fred show on demand. So I have a couple of stories but the first one you know where we're at which point did we go wrong here at what point in the story are you would you say hmm hmm things to make you go

6:13hmm a woman has revealed how she met another man on her this is from the Daily Mail so they call it the hand night but a bad sweat party. Oh I love that. And invited him to her wedding before eventually divorcing her husband and marrying him instead. Now that's just one sentence but like at what point do we say hmm like for example I would say within the first 10 words a woman has revealed how she met another man okay all right that you never meet any man never never again never again you should you should never okay all right on her bad Fred party so you met a man on your bad Fred party okay that's concerning to me I have a lot of questions period but this could be a second sentence and then she invited him to her wedding period a bigger problem why does this random man from your hand party your hand night attending your wedding I could see a situation where you

7:14eventually divorce your husband and marry the guy who you met on your bad Fred party and invited to your wedding. This woman's name is Charlie which is a name I've not heard of before she's from Virginia she met her now husband Julio while on her bachelor ad trip in September of 2019 who is Julio it was Julio like the dancer on the hand night what's it like the hey what's he doing when I did back in college to make money that they all give him that SNL skit where they dare to express that where she goes out and she meets another guy what's his name Marcel Hernandez. It's literally the whole song yes also his name Julio apparently it invited him and his two friends to her wedding reception why which I mean just in random like you met these people and they're like come to my wedding it's your wedding and the 27 year old says that she and Julio barely spoke and she was shocked when he actually turned up as a guest at her wedding reception a month later so I would have a lot of questions as as the husband I'd be like wait a minute so you met these random people

8:20I have a lot of questions why did you invite them to our wedding and then if you barely talk to them then why did they show up this is something I haven't friends it's not like we all met together like we all you know I don't know Beyonce and bride we go on a trip together and we meet these other there's other fun couple and we're like you guys are great and hey you know we're getting married you guys you come you know we had whatever no so they after already having informed the other wedding guests about the funny story of how they met the trio when Julio entered the wedding reception he was treated like a celebrity so Tarley and Julio who now shared two sons had a photo together and exchanged small talk and the 33 year old was so popular at the wedding that he even danced with her mother and grandmother the bride so then six weeks after tying the knot in December of 2019 Tarley and her first husband decided to call it quits six weeks after their two year-long

9:21relationship just happened to fizzle out but it had nothing to do with this Julio man who came and danced with the mother and the grandmother of the bride week later Julio then happened to show up in her snapshot story and a pair headed off over messages realizing that they had a lot in God man my God so this guy shows up up stages the groom at his own wedding we've never even seen this man before well supposedly you didn't even talk to him now he's dancing with your mom right they've chosen his side he's a commercial fisherman he took Tarley I can't over her name so I've never met at Tarley on their first date and they've been a pair ever since so the wedding was in I'm trying to get the timeline you're exactly I want to say what I say September they was a bachelor at party and by December they're together yeah something tells me he hit it at the the tea party or whatever you call it the hand tonight the night bachelor I just want to be to two year relationship with a boyfriend she goes on a bachelor at party in

10:24September and by December she's married divorced six weeks married divorced and now with this guy yeah it's giving Lachona it's yeah the couple who now have two children got engaged in December of 2020 got married in April of 2021 Tarley admits that she had cold feet about her first wedding but believes that if she'd called off the big day then she and Julio never would have spoken so thank God she got married the first time but because without that without him being in a tendi at the wedding that's right and they never would have been able to cheat oh Tarley is a Jezebel this is crazy but hey Tarley saying that you know she didn't cheat this she didn't even talk to the guy it just so happens that this guy that she met in her bachelor at party who she invited to her wedding she never even spoke to the guy and then they didn't even speak until after she got divorced I want to see how all the her friends who are on the hen night like reacted to him too because if I'm the husband all the girls are like yo who yeah what's good or like whatever you know I'd be so pissed yeah I'd be like wait you guys

11:24were all together on the hen night and I was out there and now he's here with my mom they're making out in the corner like I'm like wait is this guy so popular it's my wedding who use this guy I'd be so he's out shining everybody oh Tarley says we went on to North Carolina for my bachelor at trip oh no if if I'm old boy Julio there is no bachelor at you're not going on a bachelor at no more hen nights for you we've had enough hen nights he's from Virginia went to North Carolina but she's having a hen night is she just born in the UK no she this is it's covered by a UK has nothing to do with it okay got it no the daily mail wrote it so it's written by a British person so it's they're using their vernacular no but I again I think if I'm Julio I'm thinking no we're all set with the bachelor at party we don't we don't need to have one of those remember what happened last time yeah I don't even know what else to say about this what's meant for you will always find you stop that so you think you stop that right now you know I mean as long as she didn't she

12:28like this is kind of a story this is going in the books because if like wait if Julio you know was a great time I just say he was like the bartender at the at the hen night party and he's you know doing this or that and it's a great time maybe he was a server I don't know what his role was in hen night but if he was a good time and I was a company wedding to be funny and then he shows up but he's dancing with my my mom and my Nana like that's that's fun you're fun time you're right he might be the love of her life I just I don't I mean I don't trust the timing here I did just so happens that this guy shows up to the wedding six weeks later the marriage fails and he just happens to pop in to your snapchat or something just right around that time and but you'd never really spoken before uh it's giving like that you know what's giving it's giving that that everyone you got married in the next day everybody was like Julio's great you should have married him kind of thing like what we love Julio that's what it's

13:29you're mom I'm sorry but if I'm the groom and I look over and the mother and the mother of the bride is getting down with old boy Julio and everyone's treating him like a celebrity like he's the greatest thing that ever happened I'm glad I think we have a problem on our hands on the morning of the wedding he hadn't we hadn't heard any updates I thought that maybe they'd just agreed to come but they weren't planning to do it then my friend was an Instagram and so that they posted a picture golfing at a local country club and we're like oh wow they're coming they want you to bet an hour after the wedding reception started also he even made a scene he was waiting to make an appearance this guy did yeah they were like celebrities we'd already told people that we'd invited these people that we met and we just thought that it was such a funny story Julio danced with my grandmother and then my mother and we all immediately ran up to take pictures with him Tarley says that she and Julio exchanged small talk at the wedding but it wasn't until her first marriage ended at the start of December they began messaging on Snapchat me and Julio hadn't really spoken when that picture was taken besides oh my god I can't believe you guys

14:32are here I went on my honeymoon after that about a month and a half later me and my husband at the time decided that the wedding was a mistake we were no longer into each other anymore yeah because you met Julio right you met the man to meet the legend the most interesting man in the world walking I want to meet Julio how can you possibly turn that down oh no Shane doesn't want you to meet Julio yeah Julio a week later Julio replied to a snapchat story of mine about a can of ginger ale I don't think Julio thought I was still happily married when he messaged me because we were friends on Snapchat when you break up with someone on your story you kind of make it obvious I don't think you thought I was still married I think it was pretty clear that I wasn't via your snapchat story I don't know man oh Tarlie I it's just I don't buy it I'm sorry Tarlie you know you you you marry I'm look I know people get married all the time that probably shouldn't

15:32get married I know it does happen where it's like we're doing it you know we we committed to this like it's playing I know I actually face I personally know someone who got married knowing they didn't want to do it but they didn't want to let everybody down oh I know a bunch of people who knew walking down the aisle that like it wasn't right that's so sad and they did it anyway because it was like well my parents invested in this and and and maybe it's just cold feet and you know maybe I'm just feeling the pressure of it but like we've got we've gotten this far you know perhaps we'll get married and it will work out I'm not saying it doesn't happen but the timeline here's a little tight Julio and Tarlie looking back I've had thoughts about whether I should have called off my winning when I had cold feet but that's my thing when did the cold feet begin after you met the man the myth the legend Julio after you met superstar Julio the commercial fisherman is that when the cold feet began Julio put it down yeah and our cold feet just like I don't want to do this because I feel like she knew she didn't want to do this you know I was calling cold

16:32feet anything these days even if we didn't meet on that bansard trip we didn't really speaker communicate so even if the wedding got cold off after that and there was never a wedding for him to show up as a guest to then we wouldn't have spoken either I don't think well when did you get his snapchat because I'd like to know when you didn't talk to him you all see is that the technicality we didn't talk right and you invited him to your wedding I don't you have to talk to do that but you say if we're snapchatting is that not talking I don't and by the way why are you seeing everyone knows what the adults you snapchat for okay right like she better not have exchange at her wedding which means she exchanged on the bachelor at on the head night I figured this whole thing out yeah I'm sorry guys I'm glad it works out you look happy in these pictures you know you Tarley and Julio forever yeah of course you can come on come on over come look at our friends they got a couple kids now look at that look at how happy they look look at this guy then Julio just look like the life of the party yes I don't know oh you too when was their baby born

17:32is it going I'd like to know the math on that too right yeah if they know each other for three years and the kids three then we have an issue on our hands that's a very good question and the kid I don't know I just this whole thing is it's us to me I think that my but that's why I read the first sentence to you and I'm like at which part of the first sentence would you be concerned it didn't take me very many words before I have a lot of questions as the as the groom I'm sorry what you hung out with a bunch of dudes at your bachelor party and now they're coming to the wedding you know I don't I yeah anyway I just wanted to start you guys out with a nice fairy tale of a fable you know it isn't that beautiful though it's a beautiful story I mean if they're in love then I guess they better be people make mistakes and and sometimes you know those mistakes I'm sure there's some sort of you know the line about it but you know the mistake leads you in the direction that you're supposed to go you know who knows never let your husband stop you from meeting your love of your life right right this is how it goes that's how it goes good morning

18:38thanks for having us on the radio on the i-heart app live in anytime search for the freccio on demand so a 34 year old woman is demand and compensation from her ex boyfriend who's 38 for what she says is stealing or I guess did steal he did steal her child bearing years this is from Fox and I'm not Fox News so don't worry I think this is it don't you don't have to stop listening from it's not that they would have anything to do with anything but I it's like as soon as they see Fox I think people are like oh no um Fox local 34 year old woman is demanding her ex boyfriend pay compensation claiming he stole her child bearing years after nearly a decade together she says her 38 year old ex ended things just as she was ready to start a family she said she put her career in her goals on hold believing they'd have kids and now wants to cover fertility treatments like egg freezing or IVF the story from the New York Post has gone viral sparking a debate some call it justified others say it's absurd to blame an ex legal expert say her case wouldn't hold

19:39up in court but it is raising some questions about love timing and who really pays the price when relationships ends so what do you think does she have a point okay so this is my question because this is kind of my demographic like uh come in my I guess mid 40s now I love how they and I say this every time but um what's the playing makeup I'm sorry distracted me oh okay I just didn't want to get in the way um I just look over and there's just mascara and I was oh well this is for my eyebrows very distracting to me is that not mascara no but I'll but what is it um it's eyebrow gel oh I see I don't know yeah pass it over here okay I got none I guess I guess me too then I guess I feel now I feel left out I need some I'm here I'll come over there and get some on you yeah because I can't move my arms so every time I say that management's like you know you shouldn't say how old you are like well I've been here for 16 years so like I don't know uh I feel like people can do the math I wasn't I wasn't 12 when I got

20:39here um but whatever so I you know mid 30s is sort of I seems to be that the appropriate age I think for me maybe people would say and I think that when I meet people who are in in their mid 30s if they want to have kids they're very understandably um I wouldn't say well in various states of eagerness I'll put it um but I understand why you know it's like people kind of want to know hey where's this going pretty quickly if they want to have kids and don't have any and it used to kind of annoy me but then I really set back it was like well no I understand like you there's only so much time and yes you can freeze your eggs there's other things but like just generally speaking and yes the people are gonna text me oh well you you can have a kid when you're 50 yes I know and people are gonna text me well this and that I'm not I'm not talking about the exceptions I'm just saying generally speaking um you know early mid 30s or before people like to have kids I guess and in and so if you're not sure then that could be a problem because what if you date somebody

21:40for two or three years four or five years even and maybe you didn't freeze your eggs and you get to a certain point where you're at an age where uh it would be more difficult to have kids safely and then I mean who's fault is that I don't think you you can't blame it on in this case the guy but I also think that a guy should be thoughtful about the fact that if that's something that you absolutely wanting to do and and and the dude if he knows in his mind he absolutely doesn't want to do it and he's not telling you that because he doesn't want you to go anywhere that's wildly selfish now should I have to pay for your fertility no but like let's say that this person brought up over the course of that relationship I want I want to have uh I I want to freeze my eggs and he's like no you don't have to do that well that's messed up too because like that might be the only way that might be one of the only ways that you could have a natural child and and maybe oh yeah I don't want the expense or I don't want to deal with the you know the process because I know when we even though it's the woman who who who endures most of that process I mean a guy can help

22:42but it's like as far as all the different things that come with that there's a dude a dude who says don't don't freeze your eggs because you don't want to deal with it is the ultimate level of selfishness in my opinion but um I mean does a guy does a man hold any level of responsibility eight five five five nine one one oh three five if he's dating a woman who wants to have kids in a certain demographic and and is not extremely vocal or extremely communicative about his intentions does the guy hold any responsibility perhaps not financially but morally or ethically you're saying no I almost want to say yes only because a man always your time if you let him and I'm big on that and I know yeah no that's very true that's very true but if you're a woman and you know you want kids or you know you want this I do think like in your heart like you have to decide if this is something that you're going to pursue or how long you're going to stay in this you don't have to like tell the world like you have two years but you can say like I do want children and like if that's not something you want or like we can do it by a certain time then like

23:46then this might not be for me this relationship just because I don't know I just feel like already like I'm a mom right I'm 33 I'm a mom of a one and a half year old and I personally like don't want children later I only want one but I also don't want kids later in life because this is so hard already I feel like a team mom some days and other days I feel like a Nana because it's just like it's the hardest most exhausting thing ever so for me if if Havi was like over here like well I don't know like I'm not going to let a man anybody waste my time yeah for me it's more nuanced than just like a blanket yes or no however if I do think of a dude is like constantly telling you that's what he wants and that's what the plan is then yes the same way that he would want me to respect him in that relationship I would demand or I ask for at least that respect in return of the second you know you don't want to do this with me you know you have to be transparent about it now if a guy is never sure if he wants kids then it's on the woman you're entering that at your own risk you know what I mean I agree with all I don't mean to say to you I hate the counter argument you know a guy's do this little soda girls I hate that argument but it is true I mean I've

24:48been in different types of situations where women are biting time dealing with things but they don't want me to go anywhere so it's like yes so I people do waste each other's time that and they do it in dating and they do it on the dating apps they do it in in all forms relationships marriage otherwise so yeah that's not you know but in this particular case yeah if a dude knows that he doesn't want to have kids or or in this case apparently he said to her this guy do his girlfriend he tells me he feels at 38 as though he still has a decade of enjoying his lifestyle empowering through with his career and is not ready for marriage and children but he knows that it's become a priority for me so he's off so he broke up with her as a result of it I guess and now you know she wants I guess compensation or something for this which I had to be honest based on that quote it doesn't sound like he misled her it just sounds it sounds like these she always knew that and hoped that he would change his mind and and and hedge her bets and now she's the position where

25:51it's going to be a little bit more challenging and and she's mad about it that's kind of what it sounds like I mean I think if a dude is like yep I want to do it I want kids I want kids I want kids I want kids I want kids and then you know four or five years later no I don't want kids that's his right but I think you would have a right to be really upset about it now do you get financial damages for that item I wish you should right like you should I feel like a lot of women waste their time in relationships and men may not understand how important it is that time window like you have your your child bearing years and you waste them with a guy who's just leading you on but it doesn't seem like this guy was leading her on it seems like he was clear about what he does well and what he doesn't mind you can't stick around hoping somebody's going to change their mind that's on you well then you can say well guys that you know you can know you can be Mick Jagger you can have kids until you're 80 years old you can but I suppose the same and here I go flip in the argument again which I really don't like that as as an argument tactic but I mean I could date someone for five years and and then wind it being five years older than I wanted to be having kids and

26:54then turns out we don't have kids and break up and now I have to start over which means a couple more years maybe to meet someone else and then get to the point where so now I'm five six seven eight ten years older than I wanted to be having kids now I'm a really old dad I mean so I in it's not physiologically impossible for a man but I still run the risk of it not lining up with with how I wanted my life to be and I can't sue for that you know what I mean tell me I hear you are so in each other yeah I just people stop wasting each other time so what's up Eric hey how we doing hey man so what do you think if a woman date a guy in her mid 30s wants to have kids and after years you know he decides you know what I don't want kids and even if he said he wanted kids previously and then they break up I mean does he have any kind of moral or ethical or financial obligation I mean I know this is kind of a ridiculous question but on the financial front but like I mean does he responsible in some ways for the position that she finds

27:56herself in late 30s and no kids no I don't think he owes her anything financially but you definitely morally if someone wants kids and you don't you definitely should let them know up front if it's a situation where the two just split and she feels that she wasted her time then it's her choice to stay in that relationship she definitely could have frozen her eggs I think a woman has the right to do that without asking a guy so she still had played a part in it as well yeah that's interesting I guess she very easily could have just gone ahead with that and yeah she didn't need him to say one way or the other whether she should or shouldn't do it unless she was expecting him to pay for it for some reason but yeah I mean I've dated people who are in the process of freezing their eggs who who did before did right after we I mean that's something you don't need me for that you don't need my certainly not even my permission for that either exactly exactly so

29:00so he definitely should just go ahead and do that if you want to but at the same time though I don't think he owes her anything financially but definitely guys don't hold up women yeah if you know if you want to have kids go for it and do it well Eric thank you have a good day thank you guys let me let you do I've walked from a lot of early situations that I never saw develop because the it seemed that the she wanted kids so badly and I was unsure that I thought it was unfair and so it's possible I could have changed my mind but again you know I'm respectful of the fact and aware of the fact that it only would become more difficult depending on your age so like I'm holding you up in some ways yeah that's not fair to her no but is it worth ending a relationship that could have been I mean it was I a little maybe oversensitive to it on your behalf or was I a little reactive to it in some string and I'm not saying I'm a hero by any means but I just mean

30:00you know did I wind up did we wind up not pursuing something it could have been great and that could have led to that because I was concerned with with you not meeting your needs and being resentful of me for it hey Jessica yes hi good morning final say what do you want to say I I definitely think that there's some sort of case for holding them financially responsible that happened to my sister she was with a guy for 11 years from 24 to 36 and he just up and left her but the whole time they had talked about it like she wanted multiple kids he wasn't really into multiple kids but yeah we'll have at least one kid yeah let's have kids she's like well she had some health issues maybe I should freeze my eggs dude like that sort of thing no no well you know we're gonna we'll get into that we'll get into that over and over and over again for years and then just up and left her and here she is now like 37 years old trying to start over again she still wants kids but now you have to start over you

31:02have to find a partner that you trust and like and all of these things and now because of those health issues is she gonna be able to have kids in what is now after 35 considered geriatric pregnancy so it's really a hard situation but it is hard Jessica I mean I really need to take that into consideration because Mary genuinely was on the fence and didn't want to I mean I'm not defending him I don't know him but maybe he was genuinely on the fence didn't want to lose her and and then you find yourself at a point of no return where it's now you look like a jackay but like genuinely maybe he really didn't know or maybe he hoped that he would come around to the idea I think we all take risks in dating and in relationships and on the dating apps and everything else and I think you know unfortunately this is a place that you can find yourself but I think that the key is you know and I'm not saying you're sister did anything wrong but maybe she should have just proceeded with some of these backup plans on her own um and and did not and not wait for him to decide what she should or shouldn't do or you know it's almost like

32:02creating a backup plan ahead of time by freezing your eggs right but some people I think miscontrure that backup plan as like disloyalty or you know or not having faith in that relationship and I think that's probably which is not right at all but that's probably what he would have thought and why he pressured her not all so much to not do those things because then he thought well then why are you making a backup plan for not being with me uh it's complicated Jessica thank you have a good day yep you do but yeah not a lot of time I got a date multiple well so that you want to have a kid going on worry you know who's kid it is you know who kid it is the one who wanted to have one but you probably wouldn't wait wait 10 years so we're just going to go spend about a while you know if you don't want to give it to somebody else I was about to say here we are not solving the world's problems and then Kiki says so we're definitely not solving the world's problems no way see my last hammer tire you don't stop that boy I like where to go yeah honestly I've

33:08had enough Sabrina Carpenter with that single espresso but Kiki you got what to that double express up baby hi so Fred show is on this is hard that to look good on a ball guy I don't know but my question is and I was wondering this all night how do you pee because the ball like some of them were form fitting all the way to the ground and so like there was a zipper in the back I assume but you're not unzipping that you do you like go to some random woman in the bathroom and say unzip me yes sometimes yeah I mean for wedding dresses they have a little contraption literally that you like it pulls the whole dress up so you can pee before but it's not easy sometimes you need help like you said sometimes we go down with it sometimes we go up with it it's a it's not easy I just don't pee the whole night that's what I was thinking I was thinking there are probably more people who don't pee then pee because I would think it would be too much of a because I know if you're wearing like a shorter dress you just can you can just lift it up right and then pee and then pull it down but if you have on spanks yeah I have on stockings or with the girls call them tight you know it's very hard to like unlistening and undoing like for me yeah I mean maybe I

34:18got stuff all in different places at that point so I'm not undoing all that I'll just hold it things are hard oh yes they get the rolling down yeah I was all I was thinking about the whole night I was like how I wonder how the like I'm gonna go pee and I'm going okay yeah it's not ideal like how how you can show us on it's day or go all right people are emailing over the weekend how would I tell you my stay or go story well just like that if you emailed us then you can tell us right there crazy how that works no you can we know that's fine or a French Radio.com you can DM us on all the different socials it's the French you'll find us there I hate Claudia good morning welcome long morning oh hi oh hi hi how you doing um so you know I have an obvious place oh boy someone's upset that you're upset about your scenario your situation here yes I'm babysitting that's all good so you um you were recently proposed to and that's very exciting congratulations

35:18but there's there's trouble thank you in the water isn't there oh there's trouble in the water I was I was super excited to get proposed to and I said yes um but I my friends kind of held an intervention with me after it happened I told them and I I really wanted them to be excited for me but they told me not to go through with it I said it was going to be a mistake um let's always inspiring you know you get proposed yeah like you know one of the best moments of your life and then only for everyone to tell you not to do it now why would your friends not want your little friends the little friends why would the peanut gallery not want you to do this I got to think if they all came together that there's a yeah a danger I guess I'm not surprised because I did tell them I told them about six months ago that I was thinking about breaking up with them because I got him cheating on me so yeah they they but but it was only text messages like he didn't

36:21like go anywhere but I just caught him like texting someone and so anyway it wasn't good but it wasn't like horrible horrible and I don't know I just he proposed and I I really want to get married and I really was really excited and I don't know what to do well who is he texting like if you need anything go anywhere like there's someone I there's somebody new obviously he was he was texting someone from work who I just I've been a little suspicious about before just the way that he's mentioned her was kind of that's kind of been suspicious and then I saw that he was texting her and it was just kind of like crossing a line and like just a little inappropriate a little inappropriate I'm just trying to figure out the sort of the depth of this year I mean he he violated your trust which is you know sort of I don't know if there's a level to that he he was doing something he shouldn't be doing but I mean we're certain that he it was just some low flirty texting or

37:22something like we're certain it didn't go any further I mean that's your of a matters but I'm pretty certain and the only thing is like they they went on this office retreat for a weekend that caused me a little bit suspicious um yeah I also wanted to office retreat it wasn't just the two of them apparently it was the whole office right they and did they want that they were texting a lot after that and so and your friends I'm assuming are just like he's not trustworthy or do they have any other issues with him or what's the deal they just are like if he's not trustworthy and if he's already kind of doing they they think that he's just doing so I can I confronted him about that right and he was pretty apologetic like he knew he crossed a line um and so I they think that he's just proposing to me so that I don't break up with him what was the nature of the sex messages

38:26was it like y'all you're cute you know on this office retreat or was it like I want to do you know like it wasn't full on that it wasn't like she said something about like she had she was getting a wax and she decided yeah she decided to tell him about why does he get a vote in the what no I did not get a wax I mean Caitlin does group chat us like you know what you know how should I would that was one time you guys asked me to stop like it just like hard or you know how should I do it but um no that's that's no that's wildly inappropriate that's not like that's why is she asking him about grooming or if it's not something that he has any any jurisdiction over like if he's not going like or even if he's not doing that she wants him thinking about that and that's not appropriate like that's not flirty that's like flat out let's now let me ask you this did well I guess he responded to it so I mean because people can't control the messages they get

39:30but if someone is that don't smell let me let me control the messages you get we're both thinking the same thing look look if if I'm sitting if I'm in my desk and you text me something the only choice I have is how I'm going to respond to it that being said that let me finish my if you text me something like that then that means that we have a level of comfort between us to where you think you can text me something like that absolutely but so I'm trying I'm not even giving this guy the benefit of the doubt I mean I'm telling you it's inappropriate but that's beyond that's not just flirty that's sexual the baby agrees with me the baby is like get out mom get out because it's your baby sitting so he's saying you were ready to forgive him and get married I mean it's definitely something that has bothered me but he he apologized for and he told me like what the extent of it which was it was just like some inappropriate text messages like he was she was kind of like leading him on like trying to get him to talk about this sexual stuff

40:32were you talking about marriage before this I mean I he saw my Pinterest board yeah but he doesn't hurt him that way he didn't seem to ask but I think when he thought maybe you'd leave him over this okay so eight five five five nine one one oh three five is the number you can contact the same number you guys I'd love to hear from everybody listening so this woman Claudia caught her boyfriend texting with a co-worker they went on a trip together an office retreat right and now she's asking about certain sort of um wax and yeah intimate some type questions and he apparently gets a vote in that kind of thing which the only time I've ever gotten to vote in in that kind of thing is when I'm experiencing that kind of thing so I don't know otherwise why anybody would be talking to me about that or they were trying to get me to go to that kind of thing or maybe the retreat was somewhere tropical and she just wanted to get her bokehny line ready or tropical even worse yeah that's that that is not a normal co-worker interaction and and especially if this is a woman that you don't know and you there's no context and I don't like

41:36any part of this and I don't but then again I mean people cheap okay people do stupid things people they they realize their mistakes they do ask for forgiveness and some people are able to change their behavior and realize what they did was wrong and hurtful I mean again I'm playing the other side of this I don't think I could get over it me personally but I'm also relatively unforgiving person and I hold grudges forever my whole life forever I'll never forget and and that's not healthy so I mean is there any way in which he can have redeemed himself over the last six months and into the future and then they can work this out is it is it absolutely he's got to go is there zero forgiveness is there zero room for error here we're not forgiving okay yeah yeah we're not I you guys know that I have a very hard time with that again that's my experience what I would do but I do feel like he is trying to marry you and I'm sorry Claudia because he's afraid that you're going to leave her or wake up and realize that this company retreat is not what you thought it was they were retreating all right yeah Claudia I'm gonna take some phone calls

42:42and and go through these texts here but I have the radio on and I wish you the very best I do thank you guys I'm sorry yeah I don't like I don't like it I don't know how you recover from this you don't you leave but again I mean there's there's people do screw up and people do forgive and move forward it's possible I think it's just you have to decide if that's what you want to do and if that's what you want to do then you need to commit to that and you need to actually forgive instead of just holding it against them for the rest of your life but none of her friends want her to do this they all came together and and in fairness I mean you can call up here about anything you want but she's calling us for validation she's hoping I think that people are going to tell her one way or the other what to do so I don't think she's sure about this either because if she were then she would just say look the guy screwed up you know there's there's more context here that you know the ups and downs of relationships he wasn't feeling I mean whatever his excuse is doesn't make it right but it's up to her to decide if she's going to forgive him it's not

43:42up to the friend group it's not up to us but she's still looking for someone to tell her to do it but did he change careers did he did he go to HR about the wax text like you know like he needs to leave his job or something if he's so serious about this because now you still going on the retreat I think I think you're right I do think some drastic changes like if you want me to commit to you for life then I think we're gonna have to do something where the exposure to this person who apparently doesn't matter right is a yeah I do think something and that sounds drastic but I do think something like that would be necessary oh yes also if you think like all your friends coming together again I know there's always that one little hater friend or whatever but if all your friends come together people who truly love you and are telling you on the same page they're on the same you know whatever being like this isn't the right relationship for you like don't get married to this man do not do it everybody everybody everybody hey telly hey what's up good morning how you doing stay or go go definitely you're not liking this office retreat are you I want to know who else was retreat

44:46I'm right and what is an office retreat exactly and I mean there are there is such a thing I've heard of these things happening wow I mean I've heard of couples retreat but office retreat like I mean was this thing in a hedonism in Jamaica or something like I want to know where you win I was this is a similar as I want to know where you win oh it does exist there are like off-sites and things where big companies go and do trainings and things like they'll do like team building it does happen now we don't have the budget for you like that I mean that would never happen here I mean I heard of like training you know but office retreat like come on they were really retreating themselves okay at the service I mean again 40 texts like I don't know but like the comfort to be asking about that kind of thing I that that really says that there's more here to this story thank you telly have a good day thank you think we're all very close around here and we know a lot of things about each other but I don't those those kind of text messages don't fly I mean Kiki's always asking me but other than that much different though hey Ariel yeah hey

45:53good morning there go what do you think she should leave she should start by leaving him as she can't even convince herself that it didn't happen and on top of that stop sharing your relationship drama with other people that are in a licensed therapist when you do that you then invite and paint their views of the relationship and you're not in a relationship with your friend so don't share your relationship issues if you don't want them to be painted always I'm mixed on that like I mixed because I do agree with you about like when you get in a fight with like a trivial fight with someone and then you go and you tell your friends about this trivial fight and you're bound to tell your side of the story it's probably not a balanced story because that's why you go to your friends is I mean for advice but let's face it most of the time when we're recounting us a fight we're recounting our version of events not the neutral version of

46:57events and then your friends they they their opinion of this person is becomes clouded because they're hearing what you tell them they love you probably more than the other person whatever so but but this is more than trivial like this is fundamentally bad so I mean this is wrong she can't convince herself that it's not wrong she needs to leave yeah more than that I don't care who she is you'd work more than that there you go Ariel thank you have a good day right there thank you fight no like if you get in little fight should people and then you run and tell your friends you know this stuff then that's going to cloud your friends opinions of this person that's not fair because then you know you may you may have told a more drastic version of events and then you get over it and forgive them and then your friends don't because they're more invested in you or his friends don't because they're more invested in him and now one's got this tainted opinion so I agree that like if you're gonna you can go to your friends whatever you want but you have to realize that when you're telling them things they're going to remember and hold on to them yep I've held on to things that my friends have let go of and I'm still bitter about it and I don't know that I have a right to be but but at the time the way the story was told to me my friend was

47:59violated you know but then they forget and then I'm supposed to just forget about it you know what I mean but like in a case like cheating or in a case where everybody's coming together and being like hey this is bad for you I think you have to trust that yeah that's where I'm in the middle on like how much you share with people because you may choose to move on your friends may not you have to know who you can go to like there are front there are friends that will not judge you I mean I'd like to think I'm one of those friends I would not be able to survive without my group of girl friends to lean on for support so I have to disagree but you can't tell the judgey person yeah I think it can be I think it depends on the situation right it can it can be hard yeah hi linda linda there's only okay I gotta go linda there's only one linda mom yeah yeah like we got a special number for you linda Jason's mom so it's there go and in this woman's calling because six months ago her boyfriend she caught him in some very inappropriate text message

49:04conversations with someone and now he's proposing wants to get married all of her friends are saying do not do this hey Jessica hi say her go I'm gonna give you the final word what do you think I think she should go okay why well when she was telling this all her situation right she mentioned that she would just wanted to get married she didn't emphasize that she wanted to get married to him which tells me she's settling for whoever's going to propose to her that is an interesting that is true she did say she just wants to be married so maybe she's in that phase where she's invested enough in this person and it's like I don't want to have to start over and write so maybe she's settling and she's accepting this poor behavior the issue is though she has friends are looking out for her it's better to get out now than to be stuck in a marriage where this person could potentially do this again simply just to say that he's her husband like why get married now even if you want to see together and work on it what's the rush to get married in my opinion you know well he's trying to see face like gonna look see I'm totally

50:09committed see so like I mean you know look see but you're like it's almost like you're throwing gas in the fire here if you don't work through it because it's just going to compound everything and make everything seem more intense it's like when people have a baby when they're fighting like I'm gonna let's have a baby like dude right that'll fix us like no yeah he needs to change it's just right yeah he needs to go get a CDN I don't know I think to Jessica's having two conversations I gotta go Jessica she's a very talented person she can talk to her coworkers talk to us a CDL that'll solve things yes he need to go figure out something nobody waxes on the CDL school nobody does that no I'm just he needs to change careers if he's so serious about you know moving on and moving to their future don't marry me go figure out your next career path and make sure you don't cheat in that one I bet truck truck driver's wax that's I mean that's that's what I hear CDL yeah that was our hiring it's the Fred show our next Fred show fly away Jonas Brothers in Las Vegas Dolby live park MGM shout out to live nation it's

51:12the whole trip the ticket the keyword today is mangoes jump on the iHeart Radio app tune into the station where you listen to us there's a little microphone there you can leave a voice note we call a talkback message and mango is the word so leave that word in a talkback message and you can enter as many times as you want every day the more entries the better chance you have to win the trip today's word for the talkback message on the iHeart Radio app is mango to suit Jonas Brothers in Las Vegas from the Fred show good luck so there's a billionaire who has a pickup line and he wants everybody to know about and I want to know if this would work what I really want to know is it's what what would work in 2025 as it pertains to I guess this could be online but you know yeah I suppose you could DM this to somebody but you know maybe in person but this guy's name is Bill Ackman he's a hedge fund guy now I don't know how I get all the money maybe was from hedge funds but his pickup line that he claims works is or did work I'm not sure

52:15if the guy's married I'm I he's older guy may I meet you may I meet you no thank you so he got mods online after sharing dating advice for young man on social media he's always 59 he's is that you know yeah it's giving I thought he was older actually but he's 59 and he suggested using the pickup line may I meet you before starting a conversation with women say that you almost never got to know when he was younger so this was a post on x I guess it's been viewed 26 million times and prompted thousands of comments and mocking memes people called him out of touch and joke the trying the line and getting a we'll get the police called on them one person said that women only said yes to him because he's a billionaire financier but he replied that he didn't have money back when he was using that line may I meet you now what is James mad about James says I'm supposed to stop throwing shade at you I mean apparently I don't know yeah I'm

53:15not sure there was no shade yeah I know I'm just I'm confused anyways man it was like I was confused I'm not sure no see right no she no tea you can say like you'll throw some shade not not our James it's a tax no no I know this is not our boss James actually he would like more shade and more drama if anything James yeah yeah man me to me to it absolutely not only in the dark I guess I think that sounds like one of those like African prince princess like you know I'm talking about like I need you like send you money like that's what it's giving oh he's talking about Bella mean by the way the cavities she has five cavities she told us that well she had six but she gets to take two out with her wisdom teeth I thought all of them had cavity I thought she'd have all the all had gathered that she had ten total or something was it two of the wisdom teeth where he gets four and it's four and two wisdom two so there were eight out she's wow or six anyway man me do you know you cannot meet me I don't like that at all I'm freaked out and he

54:22meet anyone and I literally the bars on the floor and that would still freak me out I would feel like you're trying to like you know something in a trunk or something if you said if I got a thing at the end I said may I meet you I would think it was like a scammer that's it's such an old time you wait to talk that I would think that it was somebody who didn't maybe have a mastery of current you know sort of phraseology yeah or lived in different country I thought I would truly think yeah cuz that's just not the way people talk and it's very polite and proper and whatever else someone asked if I was spoken for the other day in my DMs and I was like wow I haven't heard that since the police I kind of like it excuse me maverick you spoken for you spoken for right right do you have a dowry yeah well spoken for do you I'd like to know your dad's willing to pay do well yeah trade me out to get you to get you off the payroll right may I meet you hmm yeah but what here's the better the better question though eight five five five nine one one three five you can call and text the same number um what what would work like what do you want to hear

55:26from men approaching you is that because you have a boyfriend or because you just don't want people that you don't want to talk to me to talk to you at all let's see but like here's the thing it's a real period I know you're kidding kind of but you're not you have a boyfriend so you're probably not getting but like all and I should do all I swear a sweatsuit that says I have a boyfriend in the top and bottom you know well no I guess this person couldn't read because I can see it every single day I mean I guess this person take a time to when he asks if you're spoken for I'm like haven't you seen her outfit today great and every day but I you know you hear a lot where there's social media or whatever you hear people say that they women saying that they want men to approach them in the wild the problem is you know you all you also hear a lot of people saying they don't want to be approached in the wild or they make fun of the guys to approach them in the wild and so you can't have it both ways or you get on some app and you make fun of guys or you trash guys that that you know did the and I'm not talking about the guys who said like

56:29disgusting things or or very clever things like I'm gonna break every chair in the room so that you don't have any place to sit like one guy said to you now that is well highly inappropriate that is that is creative sometimes I take a step back and I go you know I'm not even mad like like I got it yeah I'm like I'm like I'm not I'm not gonna answer a room and with our no chairs but like I also okay you know every now and again I think you you could you could say something like that to the right person and they might think like you know if they have a little bit of an off sense of humor like we do you might they might sit back and be like okay but but nine times out of 10 that's not gonna work nine times out of 10 you're gonna wind up getting made fun of but so that's my thing is do you want to be approached and if you do what's actually going to work now of course you want them to be respectful and and that you know be gross and and whatever but like the key to this is you want to be approached if I'm guessing you want to be approached by the guys that you want to be approached by and and we as men don't know whether we're the guy you want to be approached by or not so we don't approach out of fear of all these other things so I guess

57:32if that's the case if you want to be approached by men or whatever I think we have to get to a place where we can kindly brush people off as a standard in society and then by the way once you're kindly brushed off you need to step off yeah you need to you need to leave you need to you need to leave she doesn't want to meet you bro and then and then you need to leave you need to not respond if it's in a DM you don't need to have some smart comeback because you were rejected you don't have to project you don't have to say something I didn't want you anyway which is what everybody does so much of this stuff that's my favorite people do it's anyone go out with me no well you know you think your hot stuff right dude you ask me a question I gave you an answer now you need to walk away yes now so so there's that so this isn't all on women this is on men too because men have a tendency to act like idiots I'm a fan of the like for both of both parties involved the like don't make it feel like you're hitting on me situations so like come up talk about something different make a joke point something out at the bar then feel my energy if I'm engaging

58:34or if I'm like oh my friends waving across the bar then we can both leave the situation either not embarrassed or you proceed hitting on me like I don't make me feel like you're hitting on me don't be like hello man you know I'd like to dance with you you know just let's let's just talk talk about the bar is it crowded you know do I have a drink yada yada okay and so no one gets embarrassed either way because then you could feel if I'm like like I got to go to the bathroom that's true yeah that's true take a hand like you know it's is the conversation flowing organically are you forcing if you're forcing to walk away yeah it's over then you're not in Paris and either my cakey how you know what well what why are you rolling your eye you're technically single but engaged because you're not married but when you were actually actually single yes how did you want yes he is what I'm talking about that's why I rolled my eyes I don't even know the rules anymore but how did you want to be approached so I want you to approach me and then just if I call the police on you doesn't mean it's I don't want you and then if I don't and my experience has been

59:35a good sign like and if I don't call the police we good you know like he talking that's the alternative arrest or nothing yeah because I am one of those women who I would hype me up like you got to approach women man you got to go out there in a while you got to shoot your shot man and then the moment you shoot your shot at me if you're not the man I want I'm like please get him see this is kind of what I'm talking about right because like as a guy like guilty I don't know I don't know like I you know it's like I don't want to wind it yeah if I walk up to the right girl the right time and I'm the guy she wants to talk to and then I talk to her then that's what she wanted and that goes well right but if I'm not then then a lot of different things could happen and so yes I guess I'm a little insecure about it but but then but then you say that's what you want but are you you know are as a society are we receiving that as well as we possibly could no you know what I mean like it's hard it's hard being a man because I don't think it's hard I don't

1:00:37I don't I don't think it's hard but no I don't think it's hard to be a man at all but this is a little tricky because it's like different age demographics are looking for different things and then sometimes you can be really forward and sometimes you can't and then sometimes you're not forward enough you know if you're may I meet you then that you may get made fun of but if you're like you know can I can I you know get up in you that's usually not going to go well but sometimes it does depending on who you're talking to and when and where I think it's some millennial girls that are like ill walk away from like I don't see that like my friends and I like we all like we want to meet new people regardless of if people have hugs but whatever you know we want to chat I I've heard from the younger generation because I don't think they want to talk at all they want to look at screens like they don't want to talk to you they're scared of they won't call a reservation oh there's this Ashley hey Ashley hi hi hi so this is great

1:01:39a guy walked up to you and he said what um so I was working and I was working at a bar and I saw someone order something that I liked and I stopped next to him I was like oh you got our um it was a Buffalo chicken salad and he just looks at me stop because I want to wear your skin on my face and I just kind of stared at him and he stared at me in the bar tender and it was almost like that homework since the meme were you like back away slowly yeah yeah and I was like back away into the kitchen and then the bartender kicked him out and grabbed a bouncer and he was not allowed back at that facility well that's why we're scared Ashley everybody knows the mistake that was made here was it's it's may I wear your skin on my face that's that's if only he had been more proper about it that that's that was the issue so I understand wow and it was like the consistent eye contact after I don't know what to do right now it was very scary and kind of funny though but it is my great-grandmother I hope no one ever tops it yeah say anyway how long

1:02:45have you guys been married but yeah it's very married um yeah didn't that work for me though okay actually thank you have a good day that's crazy Stephanie how you doing good morning hi good morning so this is an example of a guy objectifying you and it worked yeah wearing gauge now oh what do you but what did he say well I mean I just literally walked past him told him he had nice hands through the legs and just left and then the next time that I saw him at the store I looked at him I was like so did you go home and look at your legs and he was like I mean kind of wait a minute so you like you objectified him I sure did oh does he shave oh why are they so smooth yeah oh huh okay he has careless legs he used to be like a man fighter so we really didn't have okay

1:03:47a kind of like the hair on his legs from grappling and stuff so but they were really and they were really smooth and I was like shoot the shot let's go okay now honestly if he now does this is a guy that you're with but like if he had said something about your legs how would that have gone over well I would have been really weird because I didn't have any like shorts or anything on so if I had to use legs at that point time I mean yeah how would you know okay but nine times out of ten that's not gonna work right like we accept that correct okay correct so this is a perfect example of it worked for you guys but you got and if you're gonna if you're gonna make that if you're going to say something like that then I think you have to know in your mind nine times out of ten you're gonna get rejected but maybe one time it will work but I don't know like it worked for her it did work for you I guess yeah good for you Stephanie all right have a good day yeah hey destiny good yes destiny what happened to see the pickup line first of all did it work or did it not work oh it worked enough for a first date okay what happened I was dancing in the

1:04:54middle of a bar and someone randomly comes up to me shows me his phone I don't know if you know the game trivia crack it's just a game that asks questions and he's like hey you look smart can you answer this question agree so we end up playing trivia crack in the middle of the bar it turns out he ends up getting my number and then it went on a first date and he ended up telling me he's like just let you know I see you and like I had no other way of thinking about talking you so I downloaded the app and I went up to you and we end up playing that's cute okay but only one day it's gonna get I mean it's gonna get any farther but it caught my attention and I thought the confidence was but cute okay fair enough all right thank you destiny have a good day you're welcome you too I think we also need to get past the thing where we're we're I mentioned I alluded to this earlier I mentioned it but like we're proud of rejecting people to like are more proud of dating fails yeah like again if a guy has gross or predatory or dangerous or a cheater

1:05:55or stealing from you then let's expose those people right like we always should have but like the thing where we go on a date and we both took risk in going on the date and the date didn't go the way we wanted it to like that's how that's dating and I think it's even more risky when you're on dating apps because because again the days of of the only option that we had was to talk to each other and then gauge the vibe and the chemistry before we went out that's over so now the first time I'm getting any vibe from you whatsoever really in person is when I first meet you and maybe it goes well and maybe it doesn't but again I mean since it's not just in this era where you go on a date with someone and they may not call you for a second date yeah you know what I mean like this is nothing new the only thing that's different now is that you can go blast those people publicly and and get mad at them but again like it's since the dawn of time like men have been rejected women have not gotten second dates men have not gotten second dates like it is what it is right so you know short of you being a terrible person who's actually like a like because

1:06:59what what happens then is like maybe you maybe that person wasn't for you but they're for the next person but now the next person's not interested because they heard about some perspective from an anonymous other you know what I mean it's like I think technology all around is screwing this up the dating apps the message boards all the rest of the stuff because it's like look maybe maybe you maybe I could meet two people at the same time on the same day and you're not for me but the other one is and it is what it is and the same goes for you like when I go on days for people from dating apps I assume they're talking to five other people that's the game and so then if I don't get a second date I can be disappointed but like or if it goes to me I can be disappointed but it's I think it kind of comes with a territory right I think so too yeah man I go out with you you got a thousand dollars okay so that's it right I got a thousand dollars may I go out with you yeah you can see that okay he left that part out and he's a billionaire so there more Fred show next what is out as your urban dictionary name go again it was Kaylyn yeah one of the most

1:08:03attractive people of all time yeah I have ice in there it's and good music it's always high standards I'm one of the hottest people of all time there wasn't it yeah that's what urban dictionary says about Fred yeah Fred show is on okay my mom has a photo signed allegedly supposedly don't tell anymore her style well you know this one is coming to me and I do want to take it for my house it's Pope John Paul the second and it's signed now is it real or do you get an Amazon I don't know you're going to sell the Pope signature yeah you want it no no my kids guy want to college like how we gonna pay for that first of all I don't know if that's worth anything insectival I'm not profiting off the the Pope signature no I mean this is like really specials it means I love because you're gonna take it to a pawn shop I think this is what he would want me to do special to do this ever been left of waiting by the phone it's the Fred show a good morning welcome to the show how are you hey good morning guys how you doing doing all right man what's going on with this woman Mariah you know we're trying to help you out here on

1:09:07waiting by the phone you think maybe you've been ghosted after a date so we need the backstory how did you meet any dates you've been all we got to know about those and then kind of where things are now all right cool so you know we maxed on one of the apps uh and uh you know it was cool and I normally I'm like I'm with somebody on the app I'm just like whatever we'll just see how this goes but you know we talked for like for a while and it felt pretty good we exchanged numbers and then we agreed to meet up in person and we went out on a date and you know we worked out a little tipsy and that was pretty cool I really like uh I mean I want to see it again but you know I checked here a couple times and she kind of answered it back and I'm like I know I didn't do the thing too big you know like I mean I mean do we sure about that or yeah I do my best to keep track you know all right well um so really you're truly puzzled like you you don't know what happened you you you you really look back on this date into your recollection everything went well

1:10:09everything flowed well good conversation good chemistry why is this woman not responding to me to set up another date you're truly puzzled yeah like I talked to my best friend about it he's like did you do this she did I'm like I didn't do that I didn't do that you know I mean like I went to went over in my head like I mean I'm like I went around like writing the brain down to dumb stuff that I would say that I didn't say you know like I can't think of it okay well let's call Mariah and I'm going to play a song come back we'll call her you'll be on the phone I don't want you to say anything right at first we're gonna try and figure out what's going on and you know what we're always hoping for is we can straighten things out you know we're always hoping for is we can straighten things out you know we're always hoping for is we can straighten things out maybe Mariah you guys met you in a day recently you felt like it went really well and I know that you know dating on the apps can be it's hard to gauge that the chemistry and not every date goes great but this one did and you were excited to see her again but you have not heard from Mariah since the date and you really don't know why yeah no idea why like it went really really well

1:11:14but really well yeah well let's see if she thinks so too we're gonna call her right now good luck all right hello hi is this Mariah um yes is it she hey Mariah good morning this is Fred I'm calling from the Fred show the morning radio show the whole crew is here and I have to tell you that we are on the radio right now and I would need your permission to continue with the call can we chat for just a second you can hang up anytime if you'd like uh yeah sure that's cool okay well thank you so much for your time we're calling on behalf of a dude named Aiden who reached out to us and we just talked to him a second ago he described what he thought was a really great date with you after meeting you on one of the dating apps uh but he says he can't get a hold of you since the date and he's very confused so what happened um yeah yeah we didn't you know to any app and one on a date um yes it was going well with Aiden and then he asked me if he could ask me something and um I was like that's never a good sign but I was like sure and then

1:12:22he basically asked me well he's not basically he did he said are you trans and then I asked him if he meant like attorney's gendered and he told me that he did and I I thought I wasn't and like but there's there's nothing wrong with that obviously but like that that question kind of came out of nowhere um and then I don't know like he wouldn't take my words for it so like he just kept kind of asking me and then like asking to see um baby pictures of me really yeah yeah so I know was he asking because I want to be clear understand this was he asking because that's what he's interested in or was he asking because he was skeptical on the date I think he was skeptical because I mean like I definitely have some like nasty own teachers but I I'm not trans but there's nothing wrong with that but like yeah like I just I'm not and um I don't like I didn't really understand why you're just asking me I guess like I guess yeah he just needed more proof

1:13:26but okay that's it yeah I mean um well Aiden is here I forgot to mention that Aiden is here I'm sorry so Aiden you forgot to tell us about the part where you were asking her that like I mean exactly like you didn't believe what she was who she said she was or as advertised it wasn't that I didn't believe it it was just okay okay okay okay okay okay okay so yeah what's the thing that doesn't happen a small part of the and the only reason I really forgot now was because when she took my hand her hand was kind of like as big as mine and I was like okay she took hand and then or maybe you have small hands as well no no I'm maybe I do yeah but that's what that's the question I can ask and then I was watching you and she crossed your legs and she had kind of a long foot you know like like like too long and I wasn't sure she had a while foot that was too long oh right so then we immediately jumped to that no no no no no okay but there was

1:14:31other things there was other things I mean she beautiful she's beautiful but she got she yet she's like a like a big jaw and I mean I mean I mean I'm not I'm not saying I'm not saying that I'm not I'm not like down with whatever but I mean you would say why would I say no no no no no I wouldn't ask that I mean look I I yeah I I might I might not with him the first 45 minutes or hour of meeting someone asked some questions like that no I wouldn't at some point I'm sure that's information you need to have but I don't I don't know that you need to have it right away and and certainly not based on your Sherlock Holmes assessment of she had a kind of a big jaw and a long foot so let's jump into that I mean I'm not trying to be offensive I'm just saying it's like we don't say why would do that I mean I mix it I mean French kind of and she has kind of big and it was after the first hour so I wasn't in the first 45 minutes so I was

1:15:32really trying to be respectful and when I noticed it I figured as she asked just to see if she has baby pictures because really you can tell what people or the baby's address like because you could tell I mean I think it's okay I think we're done I know that I think it's unfair to ask that question at some point I at some I guess at some point but then then whatever the answer is the answer and I don't think that then crying with let me see baby pictures is can I see your burst certificate like I need you to prove it to me like yeah your feet look a little too long for me like I don't I guess I guess I guess it would we would have just left it there but I'm also not really sure if that's a question I don't I don't know that you're assessment and the reasons for you asking that question are valid I wasn't trying to expect her damn damn I wasn't trying to I'm just being I'm being I'm being I'm being I'm being sensitive that's the whole but I'm not gonna be okay I don't need to be with her she's a she's so so Mariah I mean you answered the world you weren't necessarily offended by the question you were offended by the sort

1:16:37of the the fact that he wouldn't take an answer yeah well I also just thought it was weird to ask anyone that like you were saying which I'm sorry minutes but um but yeah yeah the crying of it and then the baby photo was like okay no yeah so you go if we go on another date I want to ask a promise all right yeah I think I know how this is gonna end actually I know the I hate to spoil the ending for you but I I know already yeah okay look I will ask just so we can be certain um Mariah would you like to go out with Aiden again we'll pay for it there's no way thank you okay all right look Aiden I I don't I I don't I'm speechless I'm kind of speechless I don't know what to say really about this but you know she you asked she answered that's the kind of it and uh but we we didn't leave it there so uh and this whole thing was so thank you for your time Aiden good luck out there

1:17:38Fred show fly away Jonas brothers in Las Vegas Dolby live park MGM shout out to live nation it's the whole trip the tickets the keyword today is mango so jump on the ihard radio app tune into the station where you listen to us there's a little microphone there uh you can leave a voice no we call it a talkback message and mango is the word so leave that word in a talkback message and you can enter as many times as you want every day the more entries the better chance you have to win the trip today's word for the talkback message on the ihard radio app is mango to shoot Jonas brothers in Las Vegas from the Fred show good luck guys I'm a tic-talker a lot of people don't know that I'm a tic-talker I did made two in a row I made two tic-talks in a row in the same second days I always be exact same spot both times at least this time I was wearing a different shirt do you guys well here there are near a multi I should probably like organize my thoughts this morning but do you guys have house clothes yes yes I have I have clothes that pretty much only get worn in the house maybe if I'm going to get mail or something but like you know like a shirt that's been washed eighty four thousand times

1:18:41there are holes in certain spots of it that's a house shirt I have some other house shirts I don't iron house shirts do you iron a house shirt no because the shirt I was wearing in my tic-talk yesterday was very wrinkly and I I pointed it out but then of course in the comments people had to point it out to that to wrinkly shirt why said that okay I'm aware that it's a wrinkly shirt I'm not going to iron my shirt to make a tic-talk I'm not it was a house shirt that was in the house should I have to do I need a wardrobe now for these things no I don't think so no way but I was talking in yesterday or two days ago it was about if you run a marathon these are my deep thoughts if you run a marathon and you get that metal I think you can wear the metal as long as you want within reason but I think you could like you can certainly wear it around town the weekend over the race I saw a lot of that you know people like they just got it they're walking away from the race shirts around their neck and then later that I took a shower with a dinner different outfit metal still on you ran twenty six point two miles right yeah you train

1:19:44for a while it's not an easy feat go right ahead where you man I don't get where your metal and then like people wore to work yesterday you know good from all over the country they ran a Chicago marathon for example New York is coming up and then they got their metal and they wore to work because they wore their I saw a lot of like the gear that you can buy I guess when you're part of the Chicago marathon you can buy like I thought it was not that great looking this year but you know set every now and every day some years they have good looking Chicago it was very rainbowy and like it was very bright okay but again you can wear that for a week if you want to like if people should be able to walk up to you and say did you run the you ran a marathon yes I did now the bumper sticker this is twenty six point two in the back your car you know I feel about bumper stickers I don't know why we're doing that but you know the metal fine and then yesterday and what is my take-top Fred show radio I'm Fred show radio because I took it before anyone else did because someone else took Fred on air and then the show is the Fred show tick-tock right so

1:20:46Fred show radio's me and I said that there and then the Fred show tick-tock but that was that was an executive decision by our social media team AKA Kiki and Paulina to just start from scratch well Paulina's yes she started that she gave us I'm so waiting for the Fred on air guy to give me his handle because I want it back is he active no and that's why I'm like if you're not active someone yeah just someone being yeah but they had it for a while and yeah I don't know they'd be lying but yesterday was AI because I went to dinner with a friend over the weekend and he was telling me that he has a two hundred he has apparently there is a two hundred dollar per month membership or or subscription to chat GPT I wouldn't found it there is there's free which I guess gives you like someone explain this to me in my DMs yesterday one of the 13 it's like you get five inquiries a day and then it won't do everything it's just kind of it's just kind of like just a tip is what that is and then for fifteen dollars you get a pro account oh yes you do which gives you a little more and I don't know how much more and then for two hundred dollars I guess this thing is like you straight up this is a your companion so my buddy

1:21:51he's very successful guy is sitting there telling me that like he's been training and grooming he has a name for he has he picked her voice he has a name for her she interacts with him like she's a human being because he's been training her and she now knows to do things for him like from a business standpoint just on her own she just started doing stuff he didn't have to tell her anymore to do but he refers to it as her by her name and he's like dude you're missing it like you're missing it this makes my life so much better in all these ways I'm saving all this money I don't have to hire you know I can do like rudimentary law work with this thing like all this different stuff and I'm going dude I am obviously missing this Paulina been trying to tell you this for what's in his EM's last night yeah I had a full conversation oh no you had a conversation with you because it was like eight paragraphs and no it's very interesting she's been selling us I don't know what I was supposed like we maybe this conversation may not age well because I'm the same guy that fifteen years ago or sixteen seventeen years ago was on the radio talking about how

1:22:56iPads were stupid and it's just a big iPhone and it's dumb and why the hell would I ever need that and I have several of them now so like in like right I do too there's one in my bedroom my old ones in my living room I use one of the airplane I mean I have three of them yeah and all the times updated ready to go I'm loving the iPad honestly great products I wish that they would make like more advancements in all of their products like I don't know why we're buying the same base to the same phone over and over again the same but anyway it's a whole different rant um but well clearly I'm the one missing it like I should be AI could be doing all these things for me my problem is I don't think I even know where to begin like I got the fifteen dollar month subscription right yeah so then I'm just sitting there in front of this app like now what now what I'm taking us out one day time what like what now what so then I said to it like okay you plan a radio show for this target oh no it was terrible I am a rookie but it's back a bunch he's like well it should be topical and I know that like do my job for me lady you

1:24:01could probably tell it be for it and it will works I just had the very scary encounter with AI where somebody needed me to write a script in my voice and they had AI write it and said write it like key key and when I tell you this word for word sounded like something I were right it was it's terrifying okay but it didn't sound like you oh no it was everything that I would say in your like it sounded like you were saying it right now no no I had to read the script but it wrote it as if it was me whoa with no one had no assist from me wow wow no no it's not like two percent away from Pandora's Box being completely open and it's being really bad oh yeah oh yeah it's alright yeah but like I don't know okay so I spend hours hours and hundreds of hours whatever like teaching this thing how to think like me and then I don't what what's happening with that like where's that information going it's mmm but this guy's like yeah you know he looks at legal documents and it and I've got a scheduling meetings and it does this and then it just does it automatically

1:25:04she just knows to do stuff now she does these reports and all this and I'm going bro like I'm obviously missing it okay but I don't know I don't know even this morning I tried to type something into it I'm like this isn't helpful and then he's like what you're not doing it right you need to ask AI you need to work through your problem with AI like you need to say to AI like how should I ask you these questions to get the best result and then you sit there talking to your computer for an hour training it on how to think like you I look in 10 years we're going to run this audio and it's good well AI is going to run this exactly sounding like me and then I and I don't know we're all be working you know a target or something which is fine um that probably would be a lot more less stressful than this don't say I didn't tell you know that I was going to work a target no you've been saying that every day for you every morning every morning when I walk in you're like not yet huh that would be interesting because they haven't called me back that's why it's the only reason why they haven't called me back um but I'm I'm not here to I'm not

1:26:05here to prove it but I am here to say I don't I don't know how to do it and I don't know and I don't know how much I want to teach it because then it's like what do you need me for yeah you got to feed it you got to let it get to know you that is correct um surprise I knew a lot about Kiki but honestly to it it pulls a lot from the internet a lot from our social and I think we have out there it'll do that but you need to like go in with with a reason a purpose like you can't but all but open strategy PT and I'm gonna look at it like no like what do you want you like to do today do you do you want to buy the book right use it for a resource like that's what I do yeah like just use it as a resource if you need help with something like or an idea like it'll help me you're into this now too yeah I've turned the corner I started okay so what is it like give me the last example of how you I'm not creative right so like if you're like come up with a cool title for something right like I that's not my strong suit so I went in and I was like hey can give me that I explain what I'm looking for a title for with something to do with an event that we had you know spit out some titles so what started giving me like a list I was like no these soccer

1:27:07I need something more like fun sounding so it gave me another list of stuff and I was like okay that's an starting point but I wanted to sound more cool and so then it gave me like another like it like starts the creative yeah okay and what is your last use of it like recipes at last night yes so I was looking at recipes because I'm trying to be a better cook it's a whole thing if I've jason and semi one AI will give me one and show tell you exactly how much to like purchase I'm not overspending on like my groceries too because I'm good I'm I'll throw food away all the time like I don't use it it goes in the garbage I'm planning a trip for my friend to Vietnam gave me I don't know I think my Vietnam I keep hearing that one I keep hearing that one have chat GPT plan your vacation I keep hearing that yeah tell it where you're going and it will tell you like where to go but that doesn't Google do that tick tock does that for me I've never planned better trips than with tiktok found better restaurants better itineraries but this you could be specific to like we put in here like hey my boyfriend's friend went here and say that this hotel we want to be near this beach and with tiktok I put it all in this first

1:28:11bar I mean this that versus this is like three seconds but I'd rather see like a video of someone actually being there so I does like my plan my plan be my step yeah next step is I'll go to tiktok once tiktok gives me recommendations I want to go to the tiktok starting yes so we're starting point is AI then tiktok so it's just one more step now I don't say I didn't tell you guys that's the environment to somebody so bad for the environment learn so much and we've been doing this little fun fact thing long enough now that I don't even remember which ones I have done and which ones I have not done so just if you hear one I've done again just we pretend like I've done it I've never done it before like it's brand new information for you I got you back and this whole thing well we did this to make fun of someone and then or you know more than someone someone's and then it's become like then if I don't do it

1:29:12for some reason we have a serious problem yes so here we go did you know did you know that many mouse her name is not mini what many mouse's name is not mini it's Minerva Minerva yeah is that a birth control yes it sounds like Moderna Moderna Moderna is a COVID if you think what do you think it's stopping pregnancy wait what did you give me hold on you got a vaccine yeah wait I don't know you better be sure oh it's more marina it's marina okay I'm like Moderna will not but Minerva mini mouse is a nickname that was given to the character by Walt Disney mini's actual name is rarely used but her name is Minerva wow and it will not stop pregnancy for the record more Fred show next right here Tyler Reddick here from 2311 racing victory lane yeah it's even better with Chamba by my side

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