forgiving your cheating partner

0:00I had told my husband from the damn at him that if you ever cheated on me, God was with me. I felt strong. I felt like peace in my soul. God said, I'm with you. I'll take care of you, but let's wait and see. God began to deal with me about forgiveness. He said, I want you to put this scripture on the wall. And it is the verse from the resurrection of Jesus. Why are you looking for the living among the dead? He is not here. He is risen. He said, this is a new man, Rebecca, because he repented. And I could feel the spirit of God. And I was weeping in my house. The father was weeping. And he said, I have my son back, Rebecca. I have my son back. And I want you to forgive him. And I said, Jesus, I cannot do that. You knew that's the one thing I couldn't forgive. I said, I would be a fool to forgive him. And he said, then I'm the biggest fool in the universe. I forgive all humanity, Rebecca. I forgive them all. And I was like, oh my God. And he

1:00said, this is the highest level of Christianity. He's forgiving those wrong. And I went, oh, Lord, but you're asking me to take him back. And he said, given my chance, all I'm asking is give him a chance. And if he doesn't turn his life around, you can leave. And one day I was walking through the house in that robe. And I saw a sketch of a man laying on the floor. And the Holy Spirit said something to me that was very profound. He said, Rebecca, that's Terry right now. He is flat on his face. He is despondent, but he's listening. And he said, call him right now. And we had that conversation about rehab. And that shocked me because like I said, I've never seen him be vulnerable with people, be open. And he's going to go where these people are going to know who he is. I didn't believe it. He came home a completely different person. You see what I'm saying? That's what I'm saying right there. This is why y'all should have God in your relationships. This is why you should have God at the forefront. Did you just hear

2:08what Terry Cruz wife said? That was on the look right podcast. I'm not going to lie. I'm sitting here. When I saw this video, I said, man, where these women at? I'm so serious. I'm like, oh, where where these women at? Yeah, I met one. Y'all know who exactly who I'm talking about. You know what I'm saying? Yeah, yeah, I'm talking about living through eternal wisdom. Yeah, I said, yeah, I just get to say who he is. But I think he is that you got to understand this. Now let me pick about what I mean by wisdom. Wisdom is a woman that will actually sit there with you. You could be having a bad day mental health problems or anything. She was in church. She just sat there and encouraged you. She was like, I understand. You know what? She will uplift you. She understands you. She won't touch you. She'll uplift you.

3:11And there's many other nights that I saw there. I know what to do. I said, I don't know what to do man. I'm just, I'm just out of it man. I'm just, you know, it felt like my opinion didn't matter in my head. It couldn't be versus me, right? So it's me first. Some days, it's just like, I don't know what to do. I don't know what to say. I just, what can I do right here? Do you give me out of this funk? Do you know what? I felt like the Lord told me, call your home with wisdom. I said, oh no, she going answer. Every time I go every time I try to call them home, every day, she going, she going, she going, she going, she going, but low and behold, she answered. I never forget I was going to a breakout with them. I don't forget it's why I love my own. It's just why I love it so much. Yeah, I said it, I said it, you can be,

4:14I said it and I ain't going to take it back. It's why I love it so much because I literally was sitting on that phone, you know, and I just got done dealing with something. I think it was all snapchat or something. I was trying to talk to you. So I got up, I got off there and I heard the bad news because they're, you know, playing, but she wasn't going to make shit, but they already love it. I was very willing. But the thing is, I go and I'm talking about I was a pressed, and I'm not going to lie, man, it's okay to a special feelings because what I'm going to give you is something powerful. I'm depressed. So bad to the point where I was sitting there and I was like, man, I'm impressed. I feel like the whole world, I tried to use music, music, what you can help that feeling, because that feeling hurt is so bad because this person was in the same city, everything, you know, I mean, same state, everything, right? It hurt so bad.

5:22I said, this hurt so bad that I don't know what to do. The Lord told me, he said, I want you to call wisdom. And I'm like, Lord, why do I need to call wisdom? The Lord had a word for me, the real wisdom. And I was like, wow, I was like, the Lord didn't get worked. So I was like, man, all right, so I call them, we talk about it, you know, stuff like that. It's you always tell me, you know, deserve that right there. You didn't deserve that. And I was like, I was like, you right, you right, I didn't deserve that. She wasn't saying that in a bad way. So don't get it twisted, y'all. She didn't say that in a bad way. She was saying that because she knew my word. Oh, y'all, y'all see, you gotta go get you a woman that knows your worth and sees your worth. No matter how many times you cheat, she said, I don't care how many times

6:22you cheat. I'm going to forgive him because the Lord said so. That's what's wrong with people today. They feel like they can't forgive you at all. But she said, I can't forgive you because you don't need me wrong. This hurts. It's okay to, you know, get into our emotions and get into our feelings. But the thing is sometimes you can't. I want to hit this. Sometimes you be your own enemy. If you be in your own feelings, but you can miss something no good. Trust me, I know. It's plenty of times I miss stuff. But where I take this, she forgave me every day, every minute, every minute, every time I miss something, she forgave me that way. I was like, man, I said, Lord, I said, what's really going on? I said, hey, I did this. I did that. I did this. I did that. I said, this man, I didn't mean it night top scared that wisdom would ever feed me. I said, man,

7:25I felt like my word. I felt like I lost my business. I felt like I lost a partner. I felt like I lost something just like my whole world crash. And the biggest moment of my life was when just 2022 and when that separation hit and all my old two listeners, no, um, and that separation hit. And we took a work of months and she was going for six months or so. They really heard it me, man, because I was like, man, I was like, yeah, everybody else could, but they ain't like wisdom, because wisdom is the one that motivates me to the next level that gets me up on my feet, gets me out of my head. But she always would tell me, y'all don't want to hear this. She would always tell me. She said, the more you get depressed, the more you're going to be in your head. She said something like that. You know, I said, the more the more sad you get, the more you're going to be in your head. And I was like, all right, yeah, you right. So I'm sitting down like, and she ain't like that stuff. But the thing is, by me talking to her and God giving her the word to talk to me,

8:29made me feel better in that moment, because I said, man, I said, man, I felt so much better after that conversation. We get to kick you. I like, like we used to, I ain't going to say a lot of it and not say I don't miss that. I do miss that a lot, but I know we both are on ourselves joining. So, right? So it's just like, okay, I do miss that. I'm not sitting down saying, I ain't going to say a lot of it to you, like I know, because I always tell them she said, it takes two people to communicate. And I said, I said, you right. It's two sides. If you want to reach out to me, you know, my novel, if you want to call me, you know, my novel, call me. See, it works both ways. It's just, you know, one thing I can say about wisdom, she don't like nothing one side of it. Nothing one side of it. Like, I tell you, if it's one side of, she going to say, if you reciprocating some meanness, she's going to reciprocate that back to you,

9:30because she's reflecting on who you eat, she's showing you you without you even thinking, thinking, she being a butthole to you, but she hates, she really reflects that and showing you who you really are. This is, she said, this is you. This is how you act right now. This is how you act. I said, I have her midnight time. I said, I said, I feel like I like that. She said, yeah, you show dude. All right, you know, I'm like, damn it. You know what I'm saying? Is this playing tough? That's, that's like, tone of phone while I have apologize sincerely. You know what I'm saying? Midnight, midnight, midnight, I have sat there and cried every tear that I could cry on that phone. It has been a night that I had apologize for what I had to be because there's midnight time. And one thing I can say is that I'm never going to switch up on with some y'all could talk, could change my mind, but I gotta tell you this evening, if you did, I'm going to come up

10:31with something to tell you this. That's a woman of faith. That's a woman that don't put up with BS. And if you give her some BS, she's going to give it back to you. So at all, you don't know what I'm saying. But the thing is, the reason why I'm sharing a little bit of my testament in this episode, but let's get back to the topic of ham. The thing is that y'all should forget your partner. I know it's hard. You know what I'm saying? God always forgets, but I know we don't as people. And we just feel like all I don't want to do it because it's not right to me. But I love how she said that she went to God. And she said, oh, no, I don't want to do this. But he said, but then God was like, I love that part. Then God was like, then I'm the biggest fool of the universe. If you don't forgive him, yeah, he cheated, but you're not forgiven him.

11:38You're throwing that up in my face. I mean, with you me, you're not going to forgive him. Forgive him. This is a good man. I feel like in that moment, I mean, hearing that part was just like, wow, I mean, wow, I mean, he touched me, man. Ain't going to say it's like, man, man. You get a little tears right there. It is amazing how she said she wasn't going to forgive him, but when she talked to God, and God said, call him in the front gate. And she finally forgave her husband. Even though he did what he did, and he stood together, I think that I don't know how long the marriage is, but I know it's a long time. And that's why I tell y'all, no matter how many times he cheated down your wrong, no matter how many times she cheated and done your wrong, if they are good woman or a good man, you need to forgive because when God forgives, he forgives

12:44everybody. No matter what you do, God said, I'm still love you. I'm still forgive you. Even if you don't mean wrong, even if you were jealous, I'm still going to forgive you because God forgives the whole nation. Forgive the whole nation. The whole world is still going wrong. Presidents doing wrong. Everything is up in this mud doing wrong. But guess what God does? He gives every last one thing. You can say, I love you too much because you are my creation. I just heard that. I felt that whole spirit right there because you are my creation. That's what I'm saying. It's like in that moment, man, that's how she kept going in the relationship. And God telling her, this is good for me. I mean, he might do what he did. But one thing is, if you don't forgive him, you're not going to have a long marriage. But if you forgive him, you're going to have a long marriage.

13:44Man, I'm telling you, that's why I picked up all of this because it's just like me. That's some real stuff right here. No matter how many times they treat you, they can treat you like the raggedly. I mean, you just want to win something for it. They can treat you like the raggedly step child. You know what I'm saying? I can treat you like that so many times, but you can't sit there like, man, oh, man, I don't forgive because it doesn't mean wrong. And then sometimes, we'll be sitting there. We only give him three strikes and four strikes. But God said, God said, you are my creation. Why should I? You know, why should I let you do that and not forgive, forgiven is better than hurting people. Oh, forgiven is better than holding grudges. Forgive somebody is better than being a lost stuck in the brothers. Don't forgive somebody.

14:46Forgive somebody. That's my challenge. Forgive somebody every single day, every single chance you get to stop holding up that grudge. Stop holding up that thing that is holding back. When you forgive it, you release it. You let go, release let go, release let go, release let go begins. And we ain't got time like it's too short. You shouldn't be taking this type of angry spirit to the grave. That's why some people die angry because they can't forgive for what they done there. Come on, man, y'all gotta forgive people. I'm down right here, but what I'm saying, when you're in the church, I don't care how bad your husband indeed is you. If he's a good man, I ain't telling you now, if he's a good man, okay, if he's a good man, okay. If he's a man that all the other ladies didn't want, but you wanted him,

15:52you could yourself put Pinto in him. Y'all don't want food. I don't want to hear that. Do you solve potential in him? Forgive a good man. Forget the bad, but forgive a good man. I don't know the law speaking today. The thing is forgive a good man, but forget a bad man because a bad man going to have you in places that you ain't never supposed to be him. You're going to be like Atlas in the wonderland trying to figure out how to get back home. You're going to be like the Wizard of Oz. Let me follow the golden trail to get back where I need to get back to. Hold on, which which way home? Forgive a good man. Forget a bad one. And I want y'all to say that to yourself every day as I affirmation. Forgive a good man. Forget a bad one in fellows. I want you to say this one too. Forgive a good woman, but forget a bad woman. I want y'all to praise that every single day.

16:57Watch your heart, watch your mind and watch your world just change because you are changing. It starts on the inside, not the outside. It's always an internal, not external. It's in the inside of your brain, not the outside of your head. But like I said, I hope there's some courage to somebody today because I'm just speaking positivity. Dang, I ain't supposed to look this in a minute now. You know what I'm saying? I ain't supposed to look like this in a minute now, so don't play with me. But I felt this powerful message here. I mean, we should have shot a tab or something like that man. Man, that was the best of me. When I saw that clip, I said, yeah, I'm going to have to use this. I'm going to have to react to this and give this to people. Because man, this is just my explain. Anyway, I'll see you at the next time. You know, I'll go ahead and follow the channel, the 711 podcast. Make sure you follow the second channel, 711-WA2-8 podcast podcast. I'll do it with the lovely message. You can find that on Spotify,

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