Ep. 20: When the Betrayer Plays the Victim

What happens when the person who cheated on you starts acting like they’re the one who’s been hurt? Adam Nisenson, The Betrayal Shrink, takes on one of the most infuriating dynamics betrayed men face, when the betrayer flips the script and makes themselves the victim.

Adam unpacks how emotional role reversal works: how guilt gets weaponized, how shame becomes a distraction from true accountability, and how you can find yourself caretaking the person who betrayed you. This episode is a wake-up call for any man walking on eggshells, consoling the betrayer, or losing himself in the name of keeping the peace.

You’ll learn how to set clear boundaries, stay grounded in your truth, and reclaim your healing without carrying what isn’t yours. If you’ve ever felt manipulated by someone else’s remorse or blamed for their pain, this one will help you stop the cycle and choose honesty over appeasement.

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