Double or Nothing Episode 3 – I’m Not the Problem, She Is the Problem

0:00I am so fed up with that. I don't know, my husband and I are constantly fighting. I am not going to deny it. Ask Himalana if I am right. One right. The characters featured in the drama are fictitious. Any resemblance to real persons living or dead or to actual events is purely coincidental. Previously on Diya Mulana, in the story Double and Nothing, Shazya calls Mulana Khan to discuss the challenges she is experiencing. She speaks to Mulana about Zaid having borrowed money from everyone in the community for his gambling addiction.

1:04She also tells Mulana about the business she started with selling savouries from home. Shazya tells Mulana about the pain she felt when Zaid took the money she worked so hard to earn and gambled it. She has asked Mulana to come home and to speak to him. In today's episode, Mulana is seen visiting Shazya and Zaid at their home. Assalamu alaikum Mulana. Ma'am for the Takleaf. Wa a'alaikum salam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh. No worries at all. Is Zaid at home? Did you tell him that I was coming? Gee, I did Mulana. I am so embarrassed. I don't have any couches or anything as you can see. But please sit on this chair. No problem. We used to eat. You know, the address I used to sit on chairs like this. So it's fine. Assalamu alaikum. Assalamu alaikum. Wa a'alaikum salam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh. Alhamdulillah, it is so good to find me with you. Yes, I'm with you, Mulana. JazakAllah Khan. Now Shazya tells me that you have agreed to meet with me to work on your marriage.

2:08You know, Mulana, I don't believe in therapy or counseling. I told her Shazya and she feels this is what she needs to do. And she can go ahead and get counseling. I don't need to talk to anybody. I'm fine. I also told her that I hope she didn't tell you lies about our life. Zaid, how can you speak like this? Mulana is here to help us. You should be worried, Shazya. You think I'm not going to hold back? I'm going to shoot with Mulana all the bad things you do. Why don't you tell Mulana what the bad mother you are and how you're not running this house properly? I mean, look at this because of your lifestyle when I'm sitting on the plastic chair. Now wait, listen. Firstly, I'm not here to look down at any one of you. I'm not here to tell you how to live your life. What I'm basically here is to listen to the both of you and trying to find a way forward. The first step is that we need to ensure that we are not pointing fingers at each other. This is a chance for both of you to look at how you can improve yourselves. And then we can look at the other underserved issues that you have that is impacting your marriage.

3:10This is also a chance for you, Shazya, to improve yourself and to help Zaid help her with a marriage. Now a marriage can only work when the two of you or two people are willing to put aside the differences and to address the challenges on hand. Zaid, as a brother in Islam, I'm asking you, are you willing to do this? Are you willing to look at yourself and see exactly what you need to change about yourself? I've already spoken to Shazya and she's willing to do that. This is why she has called me here to discuss this. Again Mulana, I don't know what the Shazya has told you but our life is fine. She insisted I need to talk to someone because she thinks I have a problem. I don't have a problem. And honestly, I don't have a lecture from anyone about how I must live my life. And how it's important for me to take care of my family. I'm doing what I can for my family. I don't need anyone sitting here and telling you what I need to change about myself.

4:11Maaf. Zaid, what is wrong with you? How can you speak to Mulana like this? He's yet to help us and you need to be serious about this. If not for me, at least think about the children. That is all I do. I only think about giving them the best. I work so hard. I'm sure I double our money so that there's enough for the children and you. You just want to do your business and keep your money to yourself. Just because you started earning a little, you've shown your true colors. They've become very selfish Shazya. And when I ask you for money, you don't have to give me yet, you know, I'll triple it. And I'll bring it back for you. Look at her, Mulana. I'm sure she didn't tell you that she was hiding money everywhere. She's so stingy. That's why I was forced to sell everything. I was forced to give it back because of her behavior. And she just gives me the money. I can make more and pay off whatever debt I have and continue. But no. Everything must be Shazya's way because Shazya knows best. We are all just puppets in her circus. Look Zaid. Like I said, this is not the time to point fingers at each other.

5:14This is not the chance for you to air out your feelings towards Shazya or to let out the dirty laundry. Zaid, I am asking you. Are you willing to take the steps that is necessary to be the better man for this family? What do you mean be the better man for my family? I am the man for my family. I make sure the children eat. I make sure they have a roof over their head. When they open the tap, they have running water. Just open the fridge, Mulana. They eat food. Yes, it's not filled with luxury, but most days I give them the most. Yes, I agree. You are keeping a roof over your head, Alhamdulillah. And you are feeding them. But are you here with them? It takes more than just providing for a family to be a family. There's constant fights with your wife. The ups, the downs, from the money that you're investing. All of this impacts your family by. Your family needs you Zaid. You need to be present physically, mentally and emotionally. Zaid, Mulana is right.

6:16You have always been an amazing human being. That is why I needed you. But over the years, this obsession you have to constantly double money is causing major issues in our relationship. You have to understand Zaid. The path you are on is very stressful and unpredictable. It causes us great concern when you are stressed out in angry over not winning. You need to change Zaid for our family. You need to stop gambling. This is the fruit cause of all our problems. Oh, really? My gambling is a problem. But you didn't complain when I would buy your fence in handbags and whatever other things you needed. My gambling is not a problem. You are the problem. Instead of sorting this mess in our house, you are busy going and talking to strangers. Telling Mulana lies. How many other people have you told? Hey, and Mulana. Don't take whatever she says seriously. Just the other day I came home and found her talking to some venom guy. She is quick to say that I am the problem in the marriage. But she will not look at her own actions. When was the last time she was actually a wife?

7:17When did she cook for me? When did she make sure when I came home? She asked me how I was my day. Every day it's a fight over something or the other. Zaid. Maybe I'll have a brother. You don't have to struggle alone. Help is always available. Especially when you are around something like this. Look. Right now, you might not want to take my help. But yes, my number. I will always be available to assist you when you are ready. Mulana, let's face it. They first need to be something wrong with me in order for me to come and take help from you. But like I am telling you, I am fine. I don't know why Shazia is wasting her time. Besides, if she doesn't want to talk about the flaws in her problems. And honestly, I don't see what's left to discuss here. Zaid. It's not like that. You have to understand. A marriage is with two people. It is important that we address the concerns that both people are experiencing. If Shazia came looking for me for assistance, then surely there must have been something that she is unhappy with.

8:18Likewise, if you had come to me because you needed assistance, then there would be something that you are not happy with. This is why I am telling you. Let us use this opportunity for us to sit down, work together, to sort out whatever the issue is that you are experiencing as a couple, as a family. Because you must know this is going to affect the children as well. But we can only do this when you are ready to do it. Because if I am going to sit here and listen to you and Shazia grain at it, you are going to feel as though I am attacking you. But that's not the case. We need to understand what is the root of this problem, what is the root of your frustration. But I don't see an issue. There are so many issues Zaid. We are always fighting. Have you not wondered why there is so much beginning and conflict in your home? Don't you get frustrated with the constant arguments that you don't ever find a solution? Talking to somebody helps.

9:19I promise you. And let's be honest, you have children that are looking at you as an example. And if they are going to see both you and Shazia fighting all the time, this is going to build a lot of frustration for them. Because this is going to become a norm for them. Molana, I really do appreciate your time. But sugar, I am okay. If Shazia wants to keep coming to you for her guidance, that's good for her. She's out there, but I'm sharp. As you wish Zaid, again, I'm telling you and I'm repeating it. I will leave my number with you. If you ever need any assistance, any time, I am always there, I'm just a call away. And I will make time and sit and talk to you. For now, we have given permission to Shazia to continue her discussions with me, to assist her in the terms of counseling with your permission. And I will continue to do so. May Allah SWT make it easy for both of you. I will take your hijazata and I will leave.

10:20I know I wasn't much of a help, but listen. Do not lose faith in all mercy of Allah. Allah SWT is a turn of hearts. He will most certainly turn Zaid's life around. Insha Allah, amen. Habibi, you're awake. Is everything okay? G. Fatima Jan, I just got a text from one of the people I went to counsel asking for money. Oh no, may Allah the Allah grant Paraka to all. Are you able to assist? Unfortunately, this person has this very bad habit. That if I lend him, he's going to be as though I'm feeding his habit. That is difficult. May Allah the Allah make it easy for them.

11:21I wonder who could be at this hour. It's a voice from Zaid. Mylana, I messed up. I need your help. Singing before I do something that I can't come back from. What could be the reason for Zaid wanting to meet Mulana? Could he have had a change of heart, tuning to tomorrow's episode of Double and Nothing in our series, Dear Mulana, four stories, one guide.