DEENTOUR 123 - Getting to Know Yourself Before Getting Married

This episode goes beyond the romanticized views of marriage and dives into the reality that few talk about. We explore what it really means to be ready for marriage — not just externally, but spiritually, emotionally, and mentally. From setting realistic expectations to knowing yourself before knowing another, we discuss the beauty of love grounded in sincerity, responsibility, and a shared journey toward Allah.

Marriage isn’t a finish line — it’s a test of who you are when no one’s watching, and who you become when Allah puts love in your life as a trust, not a trophy.

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Intro - 0:00

Why do we start things with Bismillah - 0:35

Todays topic - 2:00

We’ve made marriage a cliche - 2:57

Marriage serves a purpose but your life doesn’t depend on it - 4:25

Making false promises before marriage - 5:51

Understanding your priorities - 7:40

The false image that society has painted of marriage - 9:21

The example of the Prophet o uh & Khadija RA - 9:41

Building a relationship for the sake of Allah - 10:19

It’s okay to have preferences but to be realistic - 12:28

Get to know yourself before knowing another person - 12:56

Understanding the position you must be in to take the responsibility of marriage - 13:44

The mentality you need when you’re ready for marriage - 15:49

Finding someone whos near you religiously & spiritually - 16:48

Advice for sisters when looking at a man - 17:58

Changing your mindset & perspective on life - 18:40

Changing the way you think about dua - 20:15

Thinking about every good deed as an invitation from Allah - 22:13

Everything we have comes from Allah - 23:05

Reflect on who you are & your shortcomings - 24:00

One thing that will fix your problems - 24:25

Developing gratefulness and treating each day like a big event - 28:47

Think better of Allah - 30:50

The reasons we should marry someone - 31:40

Building a bond on sincerity & communicating honestly - 32:41

Earning your rights as a spouse - 33:52

Be open about who you are and what you struggle with - 35:07

Showing mercy to one another - 36:36

Jannah is the #1 priority - 37:29

Embodying the Quran & Sunnah - 38:22