Awkward Tuesday: Fantasy Fail

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4:10oh nice or your parents just told me i'm like the child they never had or i think a j's a way better back street boy than nick ever oh my god how dare you well one of our listeners admits he managed to ruin a long time friendship with one single sentence he can't believe he said it but he's willing to do anything to take it back even come on our show and risk nationwide humiliation can we save his failing friendship we're gonna find out in a brand new awkward Tuesday phone call next it's awkward it's Tuesday it's awkward Tuesday phone call have you ever said something while you were under the influence that came back to haunt you hey boys hey how you doing as brookwood say what is duh yeah the thing is most of the time people

5:12will forgive you for your stupid drunken words but what if they were so bad they actually affected your friendships with people oh yeah that could pose a problem and it's why one of our listeners Joey has reached out for help today very interested to hear about this Joey welcome to the show hey thanks for having me uh oh Joey were you were you the drunk one with dumb words you know i didn't think i was too drunk i thought it had most just a little tipsy but yeah definitely an awkward night okay well good to know that it actually gets worse than what we're about to hear and i don't know what was said or where you said it or who you said it too so set the scene for us like what happened well i was at a friend's birthday party last weekend you know at a bar and there's probably like 30 people there and you're most of them it started going way past midnight okay everybody's having a good time yeah we shut the place down nice i uh i saw my good friend Vanessa there um we've never been involved with each other i should say that up front

6:16okay and from from what i can remember it was just a really good kind of heart to heart talk oh okay yeah when does the make-out start no no nothing like that just more of like a shoulder to lean on getting out of a bad breakup and just talking to her about it or shoulder to balance on when you're losing it because you're so intoxicated yeah whose breakup was messy yours or hers uh hers hers okay okay so she's confiding in you i mean that's a good friend yeah she's been a good friend to me over the years too and i i remember thanking her for just being so consistent over the past few years yeah i remember being a nice conversation okay okay but clearly you're reaching out to us because it wasn't that nice or it sounds like somebody else remembers it differently maybe yeah yeah apparently because i didn't think anything of it and the next day i get a call from one of my buddies who tells me someone heard me talking to Vanessa and they heard me say that i had fantasized about her whoa no don't you send that to her face not like i have a crush on you

7:21like i fantasize about you yeah i i started freaking out man that is great dude is there a way they could have misheard you like they were the drunk one yeah well that's what i had hopes because between us uh it is true but i can't believe that i would have said that oh it's it's true yeah okay just going just going to like six or seven details about the fantasy so that we know uh no i think i'll pass on that one okay you're no fun all right you gotta say like i don't know if this is true for Alexis but for me like if a guy said he fantasizes about me it's like icky it feels like it's crossed a boundary especially a friend and if she's not into him it just makes it a little like borderline creepy yes yes that's why i couldn't believe that i actually said that so i i texted her and i i asked her if i actually said that and oh you just straight out asked her i just asked her oh honestly good for you we didn't know if it was true well yeah wow

8:24i figured if i couldn't remember she would yeah and what was her response well she did remember and she said yes that i did oh yeah hopefully you didn't go into detail right i didn't get that far i just immediately started apologizing and she told me to just stop okay yeah so this it's not something that you actually wanted her to know it just accidentally slipped out and that was embarrassing i feel terrible i mean okay one stupid comment the friendships ruined and the time it couldn't be worse like she just went through this terrible messy breakup the last thing she wants to do is deal with another guy you know like you were supposed to be her friend in that moment and that was the opposite of what you were yeah i i sorry i feel like i'm piling on and i didn't mean to yeah you're a bad guy and you're sweeping all your friends out what's wrong with you i get it i get where he feels bad about it yeah what is your goal here just to salvage your friendship yes a hundred percent i i'm not trying to have anything romantic i i just need help getting

9:28this back to the place we were before that's actually good news because you're never going to get back to her romantic talk with her but if we can totally get a friendship back totally it sounds super easy be like i'm not attracted to you at all okay well why do we even need to give advice when Jeff's here with that yeah yeah yeah that would be great just say psych and we'll hang up and it'll be all over with easy i hope that's at your actual advice because i really i'm trying to joke geez you're so picky about the advice that you want to get on this come begging but okay okay i'll think of something new so what are you trying to tell her i just want to tell her i'm sorry and it was a stupid thing to say and i was not in my right state of mind and i want us to stay friends okay so i guess that's why you need some backup support will all be like it's totally true he has zero interest in you romantically he just wants to be friends what if Jeff and i outcreep her so much it makes you look good that's an idea yeah but that that's not much of a challenge for me like you're right yeah i did it in one sentence yeah like a couple of

10:33sentences ago so it's really up to you though we'll come back we'll give you a little bit of advice get a female perspective that would help brook yeah that's our female sorry yeah there's a female in the room if she could contribute and then we will come back and let you make your awkward Tuesday phone call oh boy to your friend to be like i am sorry for saying that i fantasized about you oh man it's so weird we say the sentence more just one time though it was only once and never again we're gonna do it with your awkward Tuesday phone call right after this it's awkward it's Tuesday it's awkward Tuesday phone call this is a great example of why word choice matters oh yeah there's a difference between telling your friend years ago i had a crush on you yeah versus years ago i had a fantasy about you those feel very different it's funny because you could have a crush for a year and that's okay one fantasy for 30 seconds is like yeah yeah it just hits way yeah and unfortunately for our

11:37listener Joey he said that second one drunkenly to his friend Vanessa and i don't think he added the years ago yeah that would make it better actually yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah well i'm assuming it wasn't that night Joey right uh no not that night no oh yeah maybe a week before okay still a general term thing is he doesn't even remember saying it to her but it has been confirmed by multiple sources including her yep since someone else at that party overheard it and then word got around so no surprise ever since things between Joey and Vanessa have been very uncomfortable to say the least and joe needs our advice here on how to apologize and walk back what he said to reassure her it was just a dumb drunken slip up and all he wants is to be your friend so yeah Brooke what do you think Joe should do here well i think right now joe we need to concentrate on what you didn't do what didn't i do okay what you didn't do is you didn't inappropriately make a move okay you didn't pressure her to go out with you you didn't try to kiss her like you

12:41respect her as a friend you respect your boundaries and you just made a really dumb embarrassing statement very well said you're right i don't think i did any of those things i would love it if you would have said i didn't yeah he did all right yeah i thought you said you were tipsy yeah but it's a good like down yeah it's a good idea to be like well i could have kissed you but i didn't do that i don't know don't say that to you who rose to me that's a great good advice bro Jose what do you think well we all had a group cringe when you just said the word fantasize yeah and i think you should try to use the word fantasize in other areas of your life you try to normalize it thank you bro like for example you say hey do you have any lunch plans because i've been fantasizing about this salad it's just a verb you use all it's all yeah what's the big deal i hate that i love this advice joe what do you think uh if i'm being honest i kind of feel like the more i use that word the more it's just gonna make her think about me saying it

13:42oh man i've been fantasizing about that advice for like two songs oh man i might never use the word fantasize a very good okay maybe that's a promise you can give to Vanessa if we're able to get her on the phone here so i'm gonna dial her number you have that advice in your back pocket but hopefully she picks up and we'll let you make your awkward Tuesday phone call you feel ready i think so all right oh boy we're here to back you up if you need us but i'm dialing the number right now here we go hello hey Vanessa it's joe oh okay what are you doing oh i'm i'm calling you because i don't want things to be awkward between us um i mean it it is though and i don't even know if we should be talking right now listen we've been friends a long time and it was a dumb thing to say but it was just one dumb thing

14:51it was just words i i i didn't try to kiss you i didn't do anything inappropriately i didn't make a move or anything like that it was just a dumb thing to say yeah and just by the way i i didn't do any of those things right okay fine no no thank god you didn't okay well you don't have to go overboard about it i mean if that would have to definitely crossed an even bigger line well are you hearing what i'm saying i i really feel bad about it i i mean i'm i'm losing sleep over here it's not good okay look just really did not know what to say in that moment and it really caught me off guard especially because i just pop out of a relationship it just wasn't really something i was prepared to hear i don't want to picture you picture me that way and you know put yourself in my shoes here i mean i'm i'm trying to

15:58that's why i'm i'm trying to get things back to how they were and saying i'm sorry about saying such a dumb thing okay i know but not only did i just get out of relationship but i mean come on we're also related what what related yeah yeah she's my step sister oh wow that is a big important it makes it okay it's okay to fantasize about your steps and it really depends when the parents got married what is happening right now i'm so confused yeah my co-hosts are justifying why it's okay to fantasize about your steps siblings but what we're doing is called an awkward Tuesday phone call oh my god it's really awkward yeah don't did not tell us that you were his step sister no i didn't think that it was important to mention to you guys you know it's not like

17:02we lived together she didn't become part of the family to us already out of the house it would have been a good piece of information for us to have going into this call no wonder she's weirded out yeah honestly that's very important piece of it but it also makes sense while your parents are attracted to each other bro the one standing up you're from Idaho so i get it very justified in a little he was an adult when his dad or mom married the other person i don't know oh my god yes in my mind but probably the most uncomfortable phone call i have ever had by advice to him was almost like why don't you pursue it so now i'm going wow i mean i was really going back to fourth on apology and she still has that stance i don't i don't oh my god i'm with book it's not that weird to just think it it's weird to act on it maybe but it's not to just think it's weird to talk about it too i don't know i never had step siblings but if i

18:04say stepbrother is an adult i mean yeah look out exactly oh my god we we need to get back to the problem at hand the whole reason that we made this call Vanessa is because Joey feels terrible about what he said he does not believe that right joe yes i believed it once but not anymore he's he's not interested in you romantically in any way at this point in time and he really shouldn't be when he said that i was kind of impressed a man said that on the phone but now yeah very low bar that we're trying to clear Joey talk to her please and this is a huge thing to leave out i just i didn't think it was an important detail i thought the main thing was just trying to tell you that i'm sorry and i never should have said it and i will never say it again can you forgive me yeah joe like i i forgive you but you know i'm not gonna completely cut you out of my life or anything i just i think i just need like a minute a long minute to really process this whole

19:11situation brother it is a different level of it yeah yeah i totally get it's a process i mean if it was in my family people would be making fun of you Joey for like the next 10 years of your life maybe your whole life like it would be an on running joke in our family for sure that's true you know maybe something we'll laugh about in the future yeah just treat this as a dumb thing that we said once and we yeah well me yeah fine me that i i said once and then we could go get lunch together because i i have been fantasizing about it salad it's funny how you think it's kind of still a joke i don't know eventually me i'll probably be able to laugh about it in the long future maybe all right yes all right well why at least see it Christmas i mean yeah i'm not gonna miss christmas you can't wait to see now okay oh yeah it sounds like you're gonna need to

20:14give her some space Joey and just let her process it and get over it on her own time yeah and i'd recommend no alcoholic beverages for you at any family functions in the future yeah definitely not at christmas yeah that's probably a good idea great okay all right i feel that this is a successful awkward Tuesday phone call that we've done yeah bring it family real together oh yeah oh my god my sister's calling me right now should i answer what do you think she wants to talk about why don't you fantasize about this is gonna be kind of crazy to say but i think we may have actually helped i think we did oh my god they needed they needed to talk i know and Joey was just going to keep digging himself a deeper and deeper hole if we didn't intervene and honestly if he would have told us it was his step sister would our producer of even pick to his email as someone to help i mean our producer does love chaos so yeah probably

21:19for us end of that i do love though better help at the end of the day was still like i just need time and i'll hit you up later yes that and also brook normalizing fantasies about family members so thank you for that brook they're adults when they got introduced to each other i mean come on yeah sure i have a few websites that you're going to love by the way brook if that's how you think like i said i never had stepped sibling so but you wish you did but you've watched poo with those yeah they fall in love at the end it's like the cutest ending that's a perfect point yeah no step brother i just you need to hop on the stepboard i know what's wrong with me i'm just glad that we're all good now and they're just going to take their time and let the relationship men naturally as families do but it doesn't happen all the time sometimes you need us to jump in and intervene and if that's where your life sat email the show we can help you with whatever awkward situation you're dealing with make sure to hit that follow subscribe button if you're listening to the podcast yeah like us rate us and comment something about your step sibling so weird ask some people like working twice as hard just to stay right where they are

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