Average or 2nd Best…Why do so many people settle for them

0:00Do you want to come second? Do you want to be average? Do you accept less than the best? And it's an interesting question. I have a beautiful husband who's a top-level world champion elite athlete, martial artist. And they have a great quoted martial arts that you don't win silver, you lose gold. And he will share with you passionately that when he trains, he doesn't train to come second or third. He only trains to win. Now he doesn't always win. But in his head space, he doesn't ever train to come second. Why do we accept less than the best? It seems that the world has accepted average as being something that's normal. And of course, average is normal because it's somewhere between the worst and the best. And that's what most people, that's how they live. But when I look at the four things that I study and passionate about, I talk about, I bang on about every single day, healthy, fit and strong, career or business that you love, financial freedom and great relationships. In those four major areas of life, why would you accept

1:05anything but the best? So why would you be averagely healthy, fit, strong, lean, energetic? Why would you want a body that isn't 100% fit, 100% strong, 100% energetic, 100% ready to go? And I always ask those questions. If you want 100% result, you have to put in 100% effort. Why would you exercise at 50%? That's like training for the silver medal. 100% effort gives me 100% result. So I get puffed and leave heavy at 100% effort. I put in 100% into everything I do because that's the outcome that I want. Now that's for my health and my fitness and my strength and my energy and the way I want to feel and be able to perform for the rest of my life. How about you? But what about your career or business? Why would you accept a job or a career or a business that's your second choice? Why don't we do what we're absolutely passionate about, that we really love, the thing that we love the most? And if you ask the people that are really successful in business, in their career, in their chosen activity for the way they make money, the ones that are

2:10really very, and that's the only success that I consider, they all tell you that they're doing it because they love it. There's plenty of people that make money, but they don't always love it, they end up stressed and angry, they have to work so hard and they're annoyed with their life, they don't love what they do. A lot of people share with me, but Rowie, I make a lot of money, yeah great, but are you happy? And I'll give you a very controversial statement which I have used on a fairly regular basis. Some people share with me exactly that statement, I don't love my job, but I make a lot of money. And there's a festival, there's a quote that says a lot of people waste their health to get wealthy and then they have to spend their wealth to get healthy, that when I'm dealing with men and I often do speak at conferences where there's only men, if a man shares with me, I'm not very healthy and I'm out of shape and I don't have time to spend with my kids, but I've got a lot of money, we make a lot of money. And in this one man in particular,

3:11he was very, very overweight and I said, excuse me sir, can I ask you a very personal question, how long has it been since you have seen, physically seen your penis, had a very big belly and he was very out of shape. And for me, and I'm not a man, but to not be able to see that most important part of your body because your body is so out of shape and I would imagine then it doesn't work and I've studied enough anatomy and physiology to understand if a male body is out of shape, it's unhealthy, it's unfit, you've got no energy that that very important part of life doesn't usually work very well. I'm sharing that because why would you accept that? Why would you have a body that's so out of shape that you can't have a great physical relationship with your partner or you can't play with your kids and go out and play sport and have a great time with your life, do all the things that you love to do, your body's out of shape, why would we accept that? So what's the point of having a great job making lots of money if you don't love it? And if you're doing what you love, is it possible that you make more money because you'll keep getting better at it, doesn't that make sense? Why do we accept less than the way we want to live

4:15our life? So whatever wealth means to you, financial freedom, financial security, why would you accept less than that? So if you need a hundred thousand dollars a year or a million dollars a year or twenty thousand dollars a year to live the life you want to live, surely that's the only thing you would accept. Why would you accept silver? Second best, less than that. So what do you have to do? If you need to earn a hundred thousand dollars or a million dollars a year to have the life that you want to live, why would we, why not just do it? Why not put into place everything that needs to be done so that you can live your life that way? And then relationships are really interesting. So many people have poor relationships with themselves, with their family, with their partner, with their children, with their team players at work, with their boss, with the people in their sport. They just don't have good relationships. They accept disrespectful, rude, arrogant, horrible people in their life. Why? To me, one of the beautiful gold medals, and to me, those things are the reason to live a life to the max, which is a gold medal in every area. Healthy

5:19fit and strong is a gold medal. A career or business that you love is the gold medal. Financial freedom is the gold medal and of course, beautiful relationships. Why would you accept horrible people in your life? But they're my family. But if they weren't your family, would they be in your life? That's always the question to me that's the most important. And everyone says, no, I would never accept this from anybody else. So why do we accept it from our family? And that great quote, we only get what we accept and we get what we expect. So if we accept that our family is treating us badly or anybody is treating us badly or in a bad relationship, we now expect the person to treat us that way. So we accept it. We expect it and it just keeps on going. And I don't understand that. So why would I don't want to have a life of silver? And it's one of my love wearing silver and I love a platinum day because some people call it gray. I much prefer to call it silver or platinum. But I'm not aiming for silver. I'm not aiming for bronze. I'm not aiming for just to be involved or to compete or to be average. I hate the word average.

6:23I'll share again, average is somewhere between the worst and the best. And it's interesting that the most successful people in the world will tell you they've never been average. The reason they've become the best is because they had the worst situation. They were broke or they had it terrible upbringing or a terrible childhood or a terrible something happened yuck in their life, which means they said, I don't want to live like this. I want the very best of everything. And that's the reason why they've become successful. If you live in the average and there's a really interesting quote for that, the biggest enemy of excellence is average. The biggest enemy of success is okay. I'm okay. I'm not too bad. When somebody says to you, when you ask them how they are and they say not too bad, I'm bad but not too bad. Why would you accept that? I'm amazing. I'm awesome. I'm fantastic. I love my life and I'm going to live my life to the max in every area. I choose to be healthy, bit and strong. I choose to have a career piece of said, I love. I choose to be financially free or I'm on track to being financially free and I choose to only have great people in my life. Is there any other way to live? And to me, and I'll share again,

7:28to me, they are the gold medals of living your life to the max. So will you live your life to the max? Super duper duper du, how are you? Living my life to the max. Woohoo!