
About this episode
At the heart of many family estrangements lies a mystery. Adult kids insist they’ve told their parents why they’re walking away, while parents say they don’t understand. Why is it sometimes so hard for parents to hear their kids? And how to get through?
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- Learn more about Becca Bland and her work with families and people surviving estrangement
- Learn more about Joshua Coleman, subscribe to his newsletter Family Troubles, and read his book New Rules of Estrangement
- Learn more about reporter Kim Nederveen Pieterse
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If this episode resonated, you might also try:
- Yaroslava Can’t Go Back Home (grieving relationships that have changed in ways you can’t undo)
- Is It Time to Break Up the Band? (when a relationship is stuck but not over)
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