Alone and NOT Afraid

Alone and Ok -       For the first time in a long time, I’m alone at home.   -       Some kids are with darcy at a playgroup, others are out running errands, one, I’ve just dropped off at work -       There was a time when this would be a moment of struggle.  -       When I would fight, with all my might to stay clean through this time.  -       Being alone, with no one to catch me, was always a moment where my mind would offer me thoughts like,  “nows your chance” “no one will know” -       As a business traveler, I found myself in hotel rooms alone often.  -       It was a consistent pattern that I would end up, at some point, spending a few minutes at least and sometimes an hour or so, viewing pornography.  -       Having 8 kids, there have been very few rare moments where I was strictly alone at home -       So, on the road is where I would do it most often.  -       Part of it was loneliness  -       Part of it was boredom.  -       Part of it was the idea that I could get away with something and the only person who would know was me.  -       That last one is the one that really, in the end, made it so I stopped looking at pornography  -       Last night I had a conversation with a client who was telling me about his ‘accountability’ partners.  -       As he described them, various people, including his wife, he asked me, what my thoughts are on the software for accountability and accountability parnters in general -       He also asked if there were a permanent filter that I know of that is free  -       I told him, the only filter or accountability person that really ends up working, is your own brain.  -       That is the only way I know how to truly end a bad habit.  -       Is retraining our brains to no longer desire pornography, no longer follow the urges, and no longer ignoring our moral compass.  -       That process is what I coach people on, how I help them to get to where they want to be. -       That is how I got to the place I am now.  -       Alone, in my house. With no one to catch me.   -       Yet not even fighting with my urges in the slightest.  -       Because, I could look at pornography if I wanted to.  -       I’m allowed, by virtue of my agency to do so.  -       But I choose not to, because the person I want to be, doesn’t -       Not because there is a filter I couldn’t surpass -       There is no free, permanent filter available.  -       You get what you pay for -       That’s why I do the work I do.   -       I wish I had a coach that would have helped me through this process.    -       Because so many of us, feel like we can’t be alone.   -       We don’t trust...