993. Q&AF: Building A New Identity, Work Vs "Me Time" & Progress Paralysis

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2:08There's also a book at Andy for seller calm called the book on mental toughness Great book We saw a lot of them if you like the ins and outs And all the nuts and bolts and you know the why behind everything's a great book Huge group of people starting 75 hard today actually, which I just found out about but So if you haven't done it do it and then what do we have oh we have a fee the fee is very simple Do us a favor and share the show. I think we're the only podcast in the world doesn't run ads nobody's paying me You're gonna get the real shit here and And we just ask very simply to help us share it out help us grow the show. So don't be a hoe share the show It's going on over there. Hopefully we're alive tonight on Monday Well, we all don't get snowed in to live you. Yeah, listen. We we're like the male. Oh Yeah, yeah, it's just it's it's happening no matter what it's no stop. That's right. That's right Yeah, big group of I just found this out

3:10But I'm really big group of people starting 75 hard on Monday. Oh, no shit. I'm excited about that Let me see it. Yeah, let me see it. Oh, yeah, man Well, let's let's make some people better today, shall we yeah, so what do you guys put out a cold water for me? Thank you. Who did that? Joe Gilman. Yeah ice cream Joe Thank you brother. Joe. Yeah, Joe No, that's just called being that's just called being courteous, bro Yeah Listen, Jones the guy hey, I come in here and shit is ready to go. It's appreciated I'll take it for granted. So these questions are hot too. Are they oh, yeah, all right good Like that. No, oh, you're fucked We're you drinking over there, huh? Oh, you know a little paradise punch we think of that one It's not an ad, but if it were one, this is the best fucking flavor I resisted dude. I ever resisted man. It's right up there with screaming freedom for me

4:14It's like you know, I keep thinking like okay like you know, dude the OG lineup came out right and I'm like there's no fucking chance He's like anything to be better and then it got better. Yeah, and then I'm like, okay Well like the new OG flame like there's nothing to be possibly and then this fucking thing comes out. Yeah, all right that things and You know, I do it. I'm I'm ready. Yeah, I'm ready. Yeah You know what's crazy when you get rid of that blue blitz the blue blitz is not my vibe We need to replace it with that full time. That's my time Yeah, I know this dude. I let that orange sit the other day on accident. I wasn't drinking it fast enough And so like the carbonation loss. Yeah, it was still fucking delicious. Oh, yeah, like it tasted like fucking OJ Yeah, I'm saying like some nice juice like some tang. Yeah, yeah Yeah, bro. Yeah, I know a little some some that support people shit right there, buddy It tastes it like orange drink Yeah, man, well guys, let's make some people better today guys you guys know how this goes. I got three

5:15We ready to roll you got three what three go was for you all right with all the meat. That's right and potatoes Open up Guys any question number one Andy I'm doing things now that the old version of me wouldn't even attempt better habits harder conversations bigger goals But internally I still feel like the same person How long does it take before your identity actually catches up to the life you're building and is there anything you could do to speed it up? Huh, all right look first of all White okay Consider this the reason you're moving so good is because you remember what it's like to be the old you That's not a bad thing Okay, when people fail in life whether it's a business or whether it's their personal development or whether it's their fitness

6:18They fail because they forget what life was like before all right We see this all the time in business people make money they get In a comfortable spot and then all of a sudden they're broke all right, so The reason this happens is because their identity changes from someone who is Being a hard worker who is thinking who is solving problems who is Innovating who's pushing themselves down the path to this place where they start to take it for granted and they assume that It's always going to be there which it will not and and the most common types of people that lose are not actually people that just never try It's actually people who won once and they win once and they attach their identity to that win and Then they lose all of the habits and all of the work and all of the discipline and everything over the course of time because they Identify with that win

7:20People who win long-term people who win over the course of their life over and over and over and over and over again They never forget Who the fuck they actually are? Okay, so it's this nuance that you have to learn to master Which is being grateful for where you're at being grateful that things are going good But also remembering that things are not going good because you're you or you're gifted things are going good Because the old you was willing to do things that produce the current reality that you live in and When you lose side of this and you lose the perspective that The current reality that you live in was built by someone who used to exist You want to keep them other fucker that created all this shit moving, okay? This is makes sense. All right, so a lot of people Completely fuck their entire lives up

8:20By thinking that their success is The result of them when in reality It's not the result of them. It's the result of the actions that the previous version of them have taken which have produced this reality Okay, so now you're in a reality of comfort. You've got some money in the bank. You're pretty fit things are going well And then you stop you stop doing the things that hungry person did you stop doing the things that fat person did to get the shape You stop doing the things that broke person did to fix that problem and then what happens the problems start to happen again Okay, and slowly and surely you go back down to who you used to be in reality not just in your mind so When we think about this, what is this problem, right? This is actually an ego problem, okay? And when we talk about being humble, this is where humility is applicable. We have to understand and

9:24Detach our results from our identity and Understand that our results come from the actions so What most people do is they go through this situation of life where like if you imagine a Bell curve for those of you who are listening on audio and you start on the left hand side of the curve and you don't know shit You don't know anything you are very willing to learn you are hungry. You are a sponge You're willing to do things that other people won't do you are willing to work harder you're willing to work smarter You're willing to pour into yourself because dude you're a blank slate and you know you're a blank slate So what happens is you start to move up the curve and things are going good and and you're Continuing these habits because they're still fresh for you and you're you're like, fuck yeah, this is working. This is going good And what happens is you get to the to the top which you perceive as a top which is not actually the top You get to the top of this curve and what happens for most people is they start to believe that the reason that they are at that curve is because

10:29They are great. No, you're you're not great. None of us are actually great We're the result of great actions over the course of time and so when your identity actually switches from You know, you're this hungry individual who doesn't know shit to I'm great because I breathe the air and I walk you know I'm the fucking man. What happens is you start Losing the perspective of what it took to get where you are and you stop doing those things and then you slide down the Backside of the curve, okay, and you don't notice that at first that first is just a cut corner at first is just a you know Mr. Workout a missed workout or you know a missed meeting or Something like that right and then before you know it your life's fallen apart and you can't figure out why and then you find yourself Back at ground zero, which people at this now what people call this part is it's no longer ground zero It's rock bottom. There's right. Okay, so now you're back. You're at quote unquote rock bottom and You have to start again

11:30So you get you get hammered so hard that you humble yourself and Then you're like, okay, well fuck. I got a I got to get back to this and then what happens the process repeats and you start to go up the curve and For most people they make the same mistake again when things start getting good They get comfortable and then they go down the curve so most people live in this in this series of curves, okay up down Down and the goal is for you when you get to the top of that first curve when everything is going good You're making some money. You're fit. You're kicking ass. You are the fucking man But you have to remember That the reason that you're there is because there's the actions that you took and if you continue to take those actions when you're at the top That's where you continue to escalate and the the mountain actually never ends You just keep going up and up and up and up and up and up and so this is the difference between people who When consistently and continue to level up and people who kind of like Live this up and down, you know lifestyle whether and this this could apply to any area of your life

12:32And it should apply to all areas of your life, right because success isn't just money money is very important But it's a bunch of different shit. So It's such an interesting thing man. I guess fun like now hindsight. I've you've I've heard you say this many times And I never really understood it but you're like, dude, I'm still a lazy dude. I'm still a fucking exactly But like that makes it man. Yeah, I think the thing too is like dude I can understand why a lot of people get in that because for a lot of people They're probably afraid of that old version of them. They want to get so far. You should be afraid of it Yeah, that's what should push you down down the road. They forget should read that's right Yeah, you should like I do I know like I know that 350 pound fat lazy mother fucker that I used to be is still in there He's still in there man. He's just fucking waiting He's waiting for his time. He's waiting for his opportunity to come out I'm aware of that because I'm old enough to have gone up and down that curve. Okay, so

13:32At 36 years old I decided hey, I'm fucking not doing this shit no more I'm just gonna stay on the gas and you know what's happened everything. I just told you I continue to go up And even you know my buddies who are successful. They're like fuck dude. All you do is win Yeah, because I behave like a broke person all the fucking time and You know people get around me and they're like, why is he so urgent? Why does he get so fucking intense? What is his deal? Why does he do this or that? Why doesn't he just relax because bro? I know what fucking happens when you do because I know who the fuck I am on the inside and I know My propensity just like most people is to be lazy as fuck To to waste my time to not be productive to not train and I don't want that So I keep it very very close and I let my identity be nuanced, okay? Like if we're having a real conversation and they say, okay, you know, like how do you feel about things?

14:33Fuck dude. I feel good. I'm pretty much the fucking dude. Okay. I've done a lot of shit Built a lot of companies built a bunch of podcasts two number one podcasts Fucking biggest mental transformation program. I've done a lot of shit, okay? But when I show up every day I Act like it's day one like I like all my goal is is to win the fucking day, okay, so You know I know what I am and I'm okay with that and I'm aware of that and I don't try to hide that and I let that drive me down the path And so when you say like when this person says well, when does my identity catch up? You really don't want it to if that makes sense, okay? You want to get to a point where you understand that the actions produce the result and you are you are Feeling good and proud and confident and you developed, you know, the grit and the fortitude and the mental toughness to push through

15:36But you also understand That those things have to be applied every single day to maintain or escalate from that point. Yeah, so what you was still there always is it always is Yeah, I love it man. I love it. Yeah, let's get to let's get to question number two This is why people that gain weight and lose weight go back and forth back and forth back and forth Because they're not solving the real problem, bro. This is why 75 hard and live hard such a big deal Everybody tries to make it about your your weight and your body fat percentage and your training and all this shit When in reality, dude, it's training your brain. It's getting your brain condition to be highly disciplined to be able to adhere to a plan all the time not just when you feel good, right and when you switch that When you switch your Understanding that everything comes from your mental toughness your ability to succeed in life every fucking area

16:38And it becomes a mental game It's just it's just it changes your life and anybody who's done 75 hard knows this This is why people who do 75 hard and live the live hard lifestyle continue to escalate up if they're doing it correctly I love it, ma'am Guys, Andy question number two All right, Andy Andy I'm the person everyone counts on at work at home and my family if something needs to get handled It usually falls on me. I chose this life and I'm proud of that but some days I'm exhausted and I feel like there's no Space left for what I want how do you keep pushing To win without resenting the very life you worked so hard to build I don't want to be selfish But it's like okay guys you guys are good. Yes. Okay. It's my turn now How do you balance the I guys get into that point of you talk about it in selfishness and selflessness, right? Yeah, where does that what does that cross? Well, you know look dude

17:45Success comes with real responsibility Okay, and when you start to win and you start to do things other people around you become Depending on you and you become responsible for their outcomes in certain situations and You have to understand that there's no world where anybody's built anything significant especially significant wealth Where the responsibility isn't much greater when they have it than it was before So this is a reality of becoming successful like this is just part of it other people are going to depend on you You are going to be responsible for other people and if you're not you won't be able to get where you want to go It's impossible because it takes more than just you so You have to understand that the reason You are in the life that you have is because you've handled shit so well for so long now I can understand what you're saying because I've struggled with this as well and I still struggle with this

18:46Okay, there's a reason that I don't travel all over the place. There's a reason that I'm not at every fucking you know big event And yes, I like to work and I like to create and I like to build and I prefer that over doing all that other shit But yeah, it'd be cool to be able to do some other stuff and I could do those other things and the reality of doing those things is as simple as You understanding that having time For yourself is a matter of being effective Or ineffective and if you have a company and you're making money and things are going well And you still don't have time for yourself and you still don't have the ability to Live a life You're not running your shit right. You're running your shit inefficient. Yeah, okay, and this is why the what I talk about the 24-hour game and the power list is so important Because when and by the way you get the power list podcast for free. It's called win the day episode 16 on real AF. You want to go listen to that

19:53It'll give you the the play to run But the whole thing is it's like dude you can only do so much in a day So if once you do your five five critical tasks in a day You the rest of your day is free for you to live your life. That's the whole idea of the power list system Which by the way all these other motherfuckers are trying to steal now and pretend like it's there Core five or whatever the fuck they call it look dude I've been running this system for damn near 30 years Okay, it fucking works and the reason I created the system was because I understood very simply that I needed to enjoy the process along the way so the whole point And by the way If you're in operator standard if you're in the operator standard app you understand you're starting to understand this very well We're playing a 24-hour game And there's only so many things that you can get done in a day and as an entrepreneur There's gonna be a list a mile long Whenever you choose to address it. It's gonna be there

20:56Tomorrow it's gonna be there the next day the list never gets shorter So you have to decide what a win is for me a win is very simple Five critical tasks a day those do not include my to-do's these are critical tasks that move my business forward my goals forward Once those things are done the rest of the day is Mine to to do with whatever I want now. I choose usually to like Continue to work and reinvest that time back but when I was yeah because because dude I like being here and I like being around the guys and I like doing the the things right But when I was younger, you know You know, I this is even when we were building the business like I I would do the five critical tasks if I got done by noon Bro, I'd fucking leave I'd go fucking do whatever I want drive my car or you know fucking whatever. Yeah, so You have to come up with a way for you to enjoy your life As you go down the process because here's the thing dude this this place that you're trying to get to where you're like When is it gonna be my time if you don't adjust?

21:59How you see your day? It'll never be your time. There will always be a list. There will always be shit to do There's always gonna be problems. There's always gonna be people and you have to Understand That true happiness is not this destination that you're trying to get to Enjoying your life is not this destination. Enjoying your life is something that you do on a daily basis Right, so this idea and a lot of people have this especially When it comes to winning and making money and shit or running a business, you know, once I get here Everything will be great, but dude you're never gonna get there And I'm not saying you won't get to your goals But when you get to your goals, you're gonna have new goals because that's what fucking winners do So if you're constantly stacking new shit on new shit on new shit on new shit You tell me when you're gonna live your life the answer is fucking Never yeah, and by the way your business should be built in a way where you enjoy it I was about to say you like the people yeah, you like the people you work with you like dude

23:03I love coming here every day honestly dude like I could be in the worst mood ever in the morning and once I walk in here. I fucking love being here. This is this is You should build your business Understanding that you are going to spend a lot most of your time there So you want to work with people that you like you want to do things that you think are cool You want to build things that you enjoy building you want to create things that you're proud of These are important things to being happy long-term and because money's not gonna be the only thing that does it Now I could promise you this you're never gonna be happy with no money Like all your friends are gonna say stupid shit like oh you're gonna live your life Well, how are they living their life? Oh, they're living it in the fucking basement playing call of duty or they're living it in a bar stool That's not living a life bro so You know you got to reframe how you think about it and you got to reorganize your effectiveness and make sure that you're looking At your life on a 24 hour basis and

24:05Just stacking wins win win win win win win and part of those wins every day is Being effective enough to have a fucking life. Okay, like dude really Um, if you're in a place right now where you're like oh, this is consuming me and I'm working 17 hours a day like dude. Yeah, that's sometimes you have to do that stuff Sometimes it lasts for a couple years when it through two three years, especially when you're starting But the reality is is that you have to build a life and a business that you enjoy Because that does become your life, right? Yeah, absolutely dude. I love it. Yeah, I love it dude I thought it was a tough thing. It is. It's a new one thing. Yeah, it is. It's a it's a fucking there's new Rats to everything in business and life and performance um But it's you know If you're a driven person, okay, here's the thing if you're a driven person like I said you're gonna you're gonna

25:06You're gonna get 90% to where you want to go and then you're gonna be have a new set of goals It's gonna be grow the business bigger. It's gonna be do this thing And that's the only way to win long-term is to continue to reset the bar, okay? Because if you become one of these people that just gets to the point and they say oh, I got it Now you're like we talked about in the first question Okay, because here's what you don't understand and a lot of people fail to understand this Everybody else is continuously moving forward. They're innovating. They're pushing. They're working. They're trying So the market is always shifting forward, okay? Advancements are always happening The minute you say oh, I'm good man. I got I got my you know $500,000 house of the lake and I got a BMW and you know, I got a bass boat or whatever to fuck you're into That listen you're gonna get killed because you're gonna stop right where you are and everybody else is gonna pass you by And this is how the game works

26:07So the only way to win long-term is to be like the first guy who's always stacking on top expanding new innovative Pushing harder getting bigger scaling out which means more responsibility Which means the place you're trying to get to is mythical. It doesn't actually exist It exists every single day and you have to be aware of that once you're aware of that Your life perspective changes and it becomes you know like because people are always asking me to be like well Dude, how do you balance work in life? It is my life like it's just my life You know like it's that doesn't mean that Work is my life or life is my life. It means it's all one thing. Yeah, you know what I mean? It's also a day-to-day thing like you said man like yeah, there's gonna be some days where yeah I did I did I had great balance today. Yeah, there's some days where like that fucking scales chip to the other side Yeah, it's just is what it is. Yeah, let's try again tomorrow. Listen dude. The balance is a macro balance It's not it's not microbalance. You know people people

27:09misunderstand like They they think they got to have a certain amount of time every day like you know At four o'clock, I got to walk out the door because that's this time. Well, if that's the life you want you shouldn't be an entrepreneur That's not reality That's never gonna happen and you're never gonna win in that in that situation. It's not gonna work you should be an employee That gets a job and comes in and goes home is happy with staying exactly where you are Okay, because there's three kinds of people There's the people who come in and you know, they they do their job and They get paid and then they go home Then there's the people that come in and they progress they improve their skill set They do more than to ask they anticipate needs they contribute to the winning those people move up And then there's the people who create from the ground the ground zero, which is an entrepreneur, okay? All three are needed all three of those things are needed and valued

28:09You have to decide what you want you want to be but you don't get the benefits of being an employee And the winnings of being an entrepreneur. It doesn't fucking work like that So you got to understand dude what you're signing up for You know, you're signing up for a different kind of life You're signing up to play a different game and all this shit that you see online and all these posts and all this Fucking nonsense. That's for other people dude. That's not for you You know that applicable. It's not I love it. Yeah That's real man. That's where we got one more question for you Andy guy guys Andy question number three And my question to you is I've been a general manager for restaurant for three and a half years now I started in the restaurant industry eight years ago and I've worked my way from a line cook to the position I'm in now. I'm only 25 years old and I have turned the restaurant I'm running now from a 1.3 million operation to a 2.3 million dollar operation in three and a half years I mean this with respect to the owner, but he is more of an investor. I am the

29:14Day in day out running the operation no exaggerations. I know I'm young But I have this calling of being great. I mean that with 100% confidence I know I can run a restaurant and make it successful My goal is to start my own restaurant due to the fact that my boss does not believe in raises I've not received one in three and a half years even with the growth of the company we're in We are about to open up our second location. There's still no talks of more compensation I'm in the position where I know I could be successful and do my own thing But I have paralysis that's keeping me from doing I'm not scared to fail I'm sure there will be some failures in my future, but one thing is I won't quit What advice would you give to a 25-year-old who has a wife and a newborn baby to get out of that paralysis And kick open the door then start their own thing and become one of the great business entrepreneurs in this country. It's very simple What you're going to life going to look like if you don't do it If you say right where you are and this dude pays you right where he pays you

30:17Which you clearly said he was going to and you stay five more years there What's your life going to look like? Very simple. You already know the answer. Okay, and by the way If you are who you say you are And you are one of these people that's called to be great And you are one of these people that has always known like I'm meant for something more I'm supposed to be winning I'm supposed to be doing this and you you feel that on the inside because no one's going to come tell you that like that's a calling How much money would it have for him to pay you how much money would he have to pay you for you to give up on that He couldn't even fucking afford it bro Okay, like if he came and said hey, hey, there's a million bucks a year And you truly have what you say you have it wouldn't be enough. I don't know Okay, so you're not this isn't even about the money This is about what the fuck you're going to do with your life And yeah, clearly you do know how to run a restaurant But running a restaurant isn't the end all be all can you create a brand out of the restaurant can you can you

31:19create a place Where it provides the financial outcome that you actually want to provide or you like Managing something and starting something for scratch are two different fucking things, okay You have a great perspective because you've grown up you went through the line cook you went you learned all the jobs Huge deal still not the same thing Still not the same thing is putting your balls on the line and and fucking writing checks not knowing if you're going to be able to pay him Okay, it's still it's it's not the same thing dude at the end of the day That guy who you say is an investor his ass is on the line yours isn't all right And that's why those people get make the most money because they can handle the uncertainty and most people can't What most people understand is that they're living in a situation of uncertainty anyway Because what if the restaurant fucking tanks? What if it get what if something happens? What if someone finds a mouse head in the fucking steak

32:20And it makes the news, okay, like you're like one fucking thing away From being unemployed you just don't understand that So How I would look at this if I were you is what's my life going to look like if I don't do this, okay Because if you are truly called to become What you say you want to become which is one of the greatest entrepreneurs and I'm assuming restaurant doors You can't do that where you're at yeah And every day that you fucking stay there is a day that you're not going to get to live that out So you got to be real about what you're trying to trade and I understand Yeah, it's fucking scary But you know what the game is you know what the game is the game is fucking jump and figure it to fuck out That's the entrepreneur game, okay, and not everybody's built for it dude. There's a lot of great managers There's a lot of great managers that cannot do that part of it that cannot fucking do it

33:20It is a different I was actually just getting my haircut and I was thinking about this And dude, I was thinking like Like I just be honest exactly what I thought Exactly what I thought was if people actually knew what goes on in my head And a daily basis they would never be an entrepreneur. No, no, they'd be in therapy somewhere Yeah, for real because like legit I'm sitting here and I'm thinking about The new arcane tech Then I'm thinking about first form Then I'm thinking about S2 then I'm thinking about cannabis then I'm thinking about tequila Then I'm thinking about fucking the show then I'm thinking and he starts All fucking like trying to organize themselves in my brain and my fucking head is hurting like legit I'm sitting in the chair. I'm like I got a fucking headache and then I thought well fuck I think everybody's head would fucking ache if they had all this shit going on at one time Okay, and

34:21It's just not For most people it's just not Because it consumes you dude and then like on top of it Try to have a normal relationship It's almost fucking impossible because here's the thing dude I'm always there. I'm always there. I'm always there. I'm all my brain is always It's so hyper vigilant to solving problems that when there aren't problems guess what that's a problem I try to find a fucking problem. That's right. Okay, so my my so your mind becomes so conditioned To executing and solving problems that it's almost impossible to be at peace Because even when you're everything is calm and everything is Going okay You're still in this place of like all right something's gonna happen I got to fucking what what's gonna happen? I'm gonna anticipate because true entrepreneurs are anticipating needs They're not reacting. They're anticipating. So when I'm sitting on the beach somewhere doing normal rich guy shit

35:25You know what's going through my head All right, this could happen Here's how we protect against this this could happen Here's how we do this and I'm doing that for fucking all these different things at once And do the sounds it sounds insane to people like right guys are about start playing on it That's not a problem. Oh, yeah, you guys know you guys fucking know these dudes will guess dude These dudes will get texts in the middle of fucking night and have nothing to do with fucking anything that we talked about And we're like hey We got to do this in this and you and the you guys here the podcast team will be like I know you're thinking it You don't say it, but like what the fuck you know like It sounds insane to the average person. It sounds insane to my own fucking team. Yeah, but like bro I'm looking way down the pipe. I'm looking way down the pipe. I'm looking all right Here's where where things are going Here's where we got to be positioned. This is what needs to happen And when that's going on on multiple projects, bro your brain doesn't have the capacity to process other kinds of information And luckily god blessed me with a pretty good fucking brain, you know what I'm saying like so I think

36:29You know for most people like dude, that's a miserable life. It's miserable But for the people who are built for it, that's all they fucking want and that's all they want Okay, like when I when I sit down and you know Dana and I talk right or I talk with fucking her mosey or any of my buddies Who are hyper successful ed my let We're all we're all like that We're like dude when you sit down like you sit down have us a guard with Ed You might sit there and fucking silence And that's the cool that is a cool thing like when you're other around around other high achieving people You could sit there and like super fucking silence for an hour Just thinking and then you know Alex will say something like have you ever thought of this Oh, what about that Right and like it's just it's it's a it's just a different kind of dude bro or or woman It's just a different person and for most people they can't fucking handle that dude And that's not me saying Beating my chest saying oh, I have this no, that's just what I'm built to do

37:29Not everybody's built for it bro, and that's one of the biggest problems with entrepreneurship And I don't want to discourage people by saying this But you have you have to be built for fucking war bro. You have to be built for it You know, and I hate to use the example because like I don't want to disrespect like what actual warriors But your mind sets the same Okay, I'm thinking of all my people And I'm thinking of like because at this point, dude, it's really not about me anymore. Okay, it's about my fucking people I'm thinking of all the things and I'm like, okay, I got to protect It's just like being it being a battlefield. Yeah, you know, I've never been on one But I imagine this is what it's like. Okay, here's what could happen This is what could all right. I need you guys to move over here because they're gonna fucking hit here And if you don't move You're gonna get fucking killed and that's the same concept in business. You're moving chest pieces To win this game and Uh You know most people look at that and they say well, that's no way to live your life

38:30But like dude, you know, and you've been there when I've been talking to Dana You know what fucking Dana said I fucking love it. I fucking love this shit with a smile right and dude They do love it and I love it. Yeah, but like I Most of you would be fucking miserable and I don't mean that out of disrespect. I just mean that As a fact like you just what it's not for you Pick one thing be good at it make some money Keep moving down the pipe don't do 500 things do the what you know like There's levels to entrepreneurs, bro. Like there's there's like Inside Okay, so it's it's basically 8% of the populations actual entrepreneurs and less than 1% are actually successful and inside that less than 1% there's like Levels in that 1% Okay, and like the true fucking killers Like these mother all they want to do is fucking hunt bro. That's all they fucking want to do They're built for it. They're built for conquering. They're built for building like bro if I was if I was in the fucking

39:36you know the 1200 year you know if I was living in the year 1200 bro I'd be conquering fucking world You know what I'm saying like I'd be riding in on horses and we'd be killing mother fuckers and it would be straight up Conquering because that's what I'm fucking built to do. I get to do it in business, which is great and safe Yeah, yeah, not always not always like people ain't dying, you know, yeah, man not always Not always, bro. You get you get in there and you get into big money shit and you start fucking with people They don't they don't they don't like like this is another thing like When you get into big money and there's big money on the line people do all kinds of fucked up shit, bro They'll hire people to go get a job at your company and try to corporate espionage. They'll try to sabotage you They'll try to fuck with you. They'll threaten you like these are like it's a different world, bro It's like fucking old school gangster shit and you gotta be a real fucking gangster to deal with it

40:37That's real so and you know you know that So I did it you know And I don't say that to discourage people because you can condition yourself But it's all about what the fuck you actually want like what the fuck do you want right do you do you Like you have to be real about what you want and nobody really ever asked themselves. What do I really want They see the car they see the house they see the they see the fucking garage They see the the private travel they see the hobnavon with other people and they say fuck I want that But they want that they don't want the fuck a shit that comes with it right because There's 20 years of backstory for these dudes all of them 20 30 years of just eating fucking shit To get to that point and like dude that's not for everybody man. Yeah, it's just not and uh, but but it's achievable for everybody That's the thing you can do it Do you want to do it is the is the question so like to this guy who's saying I want to be one of the greatest ever it bro

41:42You're gonna trade a lot for that. There's a lot uh The greatest rest restaurant doors in the world They're they're no different than Dana White in their world right they run their fucking world Dana said something to me dude He when we were talking about Trump one time He's like You know how you run you run your world, right? I'm like yeah, and he goes I run my world He goes Donald Trump runs the world So but there's levels. Yeah, okay, so like Like you could criticize Trump all you want and that's why like I get a good read on what's going on with the dude Because I understand the level of where the fuck he is he that dude's a straight-up fucking warrior, bro You can't get where he got without being that way required it It's dude. It's a different kind of dude and it's just not something that most people can fucking do Because and not because they can't do it They can't survive the process of doing it. They'll fucking go crazy so

42:43I believe that you could become who you want to become and I believe that you think you want to be great But you have to ask yourself are you willing to pay the price of greatness because that is the most important question I want to do one little final follow-up on this for you Uh, no, I know we're running out of time, but I want to ask you this because the money aspect They're not getting the raise aspect. You mentioned right? Okay, who like and again, what if you don't do it you stay there How realistic do we need to be like he's not about to start this entrepreneur path? Okay, it's very simple It makes a money either very simple you know I'm saying very simple You work Okay, I worked two three other jobs the first ten years. I was in business I worked those jobs to support myself so the business could stay open. Yeah This is the part nobody talks about So if you're going through an adjustment of Working for someone else, but then starting your own thing You got to minimize your life. You got to get rid of that nice car. You got to get a piece of shit

43:48You got to get rid of that nice condo or that nice house and go live in a shithole Okay, you got to downsize your life to where you can just function Then when you're to that place you're working towards the thing And then when the thing starts to pay a little bit of money and you can survive over there Like you start a restaurant think start going well. You're able to start making a little bit of money When you're able to replace the income that comes from That you are doing the other jobs of support. That's when you make the full jump. Yeah, okay Not a moment before no no, but most people aren't willing to take that step backwards because it's a little embarrassing So that's where the hang-up is for most people Most people don't want to go from driving a you know Fucking Tahoe or a Denali to driving a fucking 1987 beater. Yeah, Ford Ranger right exactly People don't want to do that and and that ends up costing them their entire lives like that's fucking crazy That's part of that process you for sure Crazy and by the way

44:49I just want to hit on this too and this goes for everybody who's an entrepreneur or an employee No one's giving you a fucking race like that doesn't that's not what happens, bro Like very few companies will proactively come and say hey, there's the fucking race. Yeah, your job is you understand like you work for you Okay, now you might be part of a team, but you're bringing something unique to the team What's that worth you have to start thinking of it as like the operator thinks of it? What is my value here and if your value is not really strong You got to build value if your value is strong and you're not getting the recognition Then you have to be very tactful and say okay, here's what I do This is what I believe it's worth and you have to go have a conversation and say with the fucking facts By the way, not bullshit Here's the facts. I do this. I do this. I do this. I do this I think it's worth this I'm currently getting paid that I would like to have a talk with you about this That's where the conversation starts and a lot of people ride away and what would otherwise be great careers

45:55Because they're afraid to have a conversation like that You know how many people quit their fucking jobs because they're like oh, I'm not getting paid enough Well, did you fucking ask you to pay more maybe we had a meeting Did did you did you display your value? Are you being honest with yourself about your value? Right like dude, and then what happens is these people quit and they go somewhere else and they have the same habit They think that everybody's going to just reward them and part of being successful is And like everybody likes to say oh I feel good know my worth the motherfuckers that say that don't have no worth They just don't your job should be to be so fucking good so good so good That the company couldn't operate without you and when you can get to that point You could write your own fucking check and that's the way you should think about it as an entrepreneur or as an employee If you just consistently get frustrated because you're not making enough money and go from thing to thing to thing to thing to thing

46:56You're no different than the entrepreneur that quits over after two years And they end up wasting their whole lives and seven different fucking businesses that never work all right, so Part of maturity and part of like and by the way a lot of people are full of shit Okay, a lot of people will come in and they'll say I'm so worth this and that doesn't mean anything dude That doesn't just because you feel like you're supposed to make more money doesn't mean you're worth more money Okay, you have to come with the facts. You have to show your worth and it's your job not the employer's job To compile that And display that worth and an ideal situation you work for a good ethical company They will recognize your value beforehand But that's not most places Most places you're gonna have to go and you're gonna have to say hey boss Here's what I do. This is what I've done. These are the things that I handle This is how good it gets done. Do you agree that gets done well? Yes, I agree

47:59Well, here's what I'd like to be paid and that's a normal conversation that a lot of young people just fucking won't ever have That's a grown up adult. That's it dude. You should never be embarrassed To talk about money. You should never be embarrassed to talk about money. That is a fucking real thing Okay, and so many young people will ruin their lives because they cannot have a conversation about fucking money It's a normal thing, but it's on you And if you aren't willing to put those things together and display it in a way that makes sense or actually be valuable You're gonna fucking rot. That's the reality dude. So you have You you have to be undeniably great You have to Display that you're undeniably great if a good company you work for a good company and I say fuck I love that guy We got to fucking keep him, but not every place is like that So it's on you to market yourself You see what I'm saying? Absolutely. There's got a situation. You got something scratching on the inside of you Oh, it doesn't matter for that guy if for for this dude particular. I was just addressing everywhere. Yeah

49:02Yeah, no for sure for this guy in particular If that's true what you say and it's true you need to leave that fucking job and Figure it to fuck out because you will fucking ruin your life. I love it man I love it dude. What guys Andy? That was three. All right guys. We'll see you tonight 7 p.m. Central. Don't be a hoe try to show We're sleeping on the floor now my jury box froze fuck a boat fuck a stove counting millions in a coke bad bitch Oh, got a own bank row can't fault. That's a no-hit shot case You