#83: Self-Sufficiency is a Weakness, Not a Strength

Most achievers have quietly built their businesses and their lives around the sneaky defense mechanism of self-sufficiency. Worst part? They think needing to rely on nobody except themselves is a strength. 

Not only is it not a strength but a weakness, but it's also the very obstacle blocking your path to fulfillment.

That's why a successful, multi-million dollar exit can make you feel hollow and empty.

It's why the more success you achieve, the louder your insecurities become. 

It's why you push people away as soon as intimacy spikes. 

All of these symptoms have one root cause: 

Low Self Strength. 

The good news is, despite being past childhood where Self Strength develops naturally and easily, it can be built in adulthood.

The bad news if you're an achiever is it might be the most difficult thing you ever do because all of your natural inclinations move you further away from Self Strength. 

But it's possible. And you can take your first step to it by listening to this episode. 

Listen now. 

Show Highlights Include:

• Why having a successful, multi-million dollar exit from the company you built from scratch hollows out your internal world and makes you feel nothing (0:36) 

• How to build Self Strength long after childhood, where it's built more naturally, ends (1:10) 

• Why Self Strength is a far more reliable ally against chaos (both internal and external) than confidence is (2:39) 

• Have you ever felt like success has ratcheted up your insecurities to a far greater degree? You're not abnormal… here's why this happens to so many high achievers (3:11) 

• How personal development can actually cripple your innate ability for Self Strength (the key distinction? Self Strength is not a mindset and you can't think your way to it) (4:02) 

• Why trying harder to build Self Strength is like using the very tools that caused low Self Strength to instead create high Self Strength (and why this never works) (4:47) 

• The insidious way typical therapeutic advice backfires on you when you lack Self Strength (it's like trying to tell someone with a broken leg to go for a run) (5:32) 

• Why people with "normal childhoods" often have underdeveloped Self Strength (8:16) 

• The "Earned Secure Attachment" secret, backed by substantial scientific evidence, that lights the road to developing Self Strength in adulthood (10:22) 

• How your need to be self sufficient at all costs is a dead giveaway that your Self Strength is thin (19:10) 

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