8 How and why we recreate childhood hurts

without any limits. In other words, every child’s desire for love is unrealistic… Since they seldom receive an adequate amount of warmth and mature love, children remain hungry for it throughout their whole life… Essentially everyone—even the most diligent spiritual seekers—overlooks just how strong the link is between the unfulfillment of our childhood longings and our present-day problems. This isn’t just a nice a theory…

They may not have been as perfect as we thought and hoped they’d be back then, but there’s no reason to now reject them because they had their own immaturities and inner conflicts… Once we’re free of this repetitive cycle, we can stop being upset about not getting love the way we wanted it… By releasing the pain we feel now, which is inextricably bound to the hurt of then, we’ll see how we thought we had to choose this situation or admit defeat…

We can turn our painful feelings into healthy growing pains whenever we become ready to rid ourselves of the bitterness and tension we’ve been hiding… Forgetting and forgiving will become a genuine thing that we won’t even have to think about doing. They will naturally occur.

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Bones, Chapter 8: How and Why we Recreate Childhood Hurts

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