6 Years 308 days - Advice for Young Men

0:00Alright, you are back with comedian Dave Boyle and I'm quitting alcohol. So I got a very interesting message from a lady listener today after yesterday's podcast where I gave a brief explanation on how you can keep a woman or a man or whatever, mainly how you can keep a woman if you're a man. What you need, because it's easy enough to pull, it's much harder to keep. So I gave just a, I can barely even remember what I fucking said to be fair. That was yesterday. But anyway, go back and listen to it if you haven't listened to it. I'll read out what the lovely lady wrote and then we'll dive into it.

1:05So she's like, your ass Boyle today was interesting. I'm by. I'd say I hover around only about 20% attraction to men. But it's always been men with charisma and personality who have overcome those extremely unfavorable odds and not the smarmy charisma that guys try to put on when they don't actually possess any legitimate personality, but actual authentic charisma. Depth of personality and conversational skills is honestly the biggest piece of the puzzle that seems to have eluded many men. It fucking certainly has the interesting part is that you mentioned these things. Probably can't be taught. And I think that's mostly true. If the guy is over the age of 15 or so, then it's almost always too late.

2:07But I think if it was more prioritized to teach boys at a younger age, the importance of developing their personalities and conversational skills, it's impossible to overstate the positive effects it would have on their engagement and success with women as adults. It's impossible to fully express how many flaws both internal and external can be overcome by just having a fucking personality and being able to hold a goddamn conversation. And humour. If a guy has these traits and a good sense of humour, game over. But those things don't have anything to do with flexing on anyone. So most slash many men can't be bothered with it. And many men get all but hurt and bitchy about women only being after them for their money or whatever. And I wouldn't even say that's entirely untrue, but when men have absolutely nothing

3:11else to offer because they've developed literally no other aspect of their being, and what else do they really expect? Women are not going to join a man's world for absolutely nothing. And it's genuinely retarded to think they would or should, but even in those money-based relationships, they almost never last because it was never what the woman ultimately wanted to begin with, especially considering it's not the 50s anymore and women can and do build their own financial, financially successful lives. A man's sis. I think she makes a lot of fucking good points there. A lot of good fucking points. It's my experience that money and your job and wealth, despite what every fucking alpha dog podcaster, Manosphere Cunt says, almost makes no fucking difference at all. It makes up if you're lacking in what she described.

4:14If you're lacking in personality, depth of character, you can't speak, you're not funny. Any of that shit, then you better have fucking money. Money will get you girls. Don't worry about that. Harvey Weinstein was getting blown fucking Al Pacino's 84. He's dating his like, oh, get you girls. But what kind of girls, what kind of women do you want? Now she said if a guy hasn't developed his personality or character by the age of 15, it's over. That's a little bit true, but it's not necessarily true. It's not completely over. And guys around their teenage years are so fucking retarded anyway that it doesn't really matter if they're charismatic at 15 to 16. There's more like early 20s, you want to be fucking figuring out the opposite sex. You want to be able to understand what's going on and it's really not that difficult.

5:16I can tell you right now, if you want to, this is advice for young men. There's a shortcut to at least the beginning. I might even say, if you just do this one thing, then like the doors that will open are almost unlimited. This is the shortcut every young man should fucking take, but almost none do. If you're a young man right now and you want to be attractive to the opposite sex, you want to build confidence, you want to build depth of character, you want to be a guy. That is fun. All you need to do is learn to dance. That is the shortcut. I fucking promise you, if you can take a lady by the hand and you know what you're doing and show her and lead her onto the dance floor or any, it can be anywhere, the street

6:19of party. If you can take a lady by the hand and connect with her through dancing and I don't mean like just put your arm up and just groove a little bit. I mean like learn to fucking dance. That is the beginning of everything. It's a microcosm of what life could be like. You lead the lady onto the dance floor, you lead the dance, you connect on a different level, then you would just talking, you moving your bodies together, you're looking into each other's eyes, you're fucking having a moment of fun, everything else is blocked out. Like dancing is it, dancing is the key, start there and everything else will fucking fall into place. I promise you, I promise you, don't go to the gym, like go to the gym, you need to do that shit and exercise and all that. But fucking put aside a couple of hours a week to learn how to dance and I guarantee you,

7:25it will open up fucking everything for you. You won't have to drink and take that many drugs as much because most of that for me, I could dance a little bit. But the amount of booze I had to drink to get the courage to get on the dance floor was like monumental. But once I was out there and I was grooving, I could groove, I could dance. I wasn't trained, I just, I just winged it, maybe I could dance in a different life, but I had some skills and that helped as well, fucking my God, it helped. But I'm telling you right now, it will keep your booze in under control because if you can have fun without drinking and just through dancing, like you're sorted, you're sorted, I'm fucking telling you, I'll tell you this, a couple of weeks ago, I took my daughter and my son, my daughter loves dancing so fucking, of course I was going to take her, but

8:29I told my son I'm like, we're going to dance classes, you're going to dance classes because his fucking footwork in football is dog shit. So I'm like, you're going to learn to dance, it will help with your footwork and also you're going to thank me for it later. So a couple of weeks ago, we went down and they did a private lesson with a couple of dance teachers. We walk in and one of the old dudes is like, don't let them quit. Whatever you do, don't let them quit and I'm like, yeah, I won't. And so they did the dance lesson, my son was shy, he sort of got over it and then started enjoying the dancing, my daughter loved it, it was all good. And then we were speaking to the dance teacher afterwards and he's like, we would really love your son to join. And I'm like, it's he trying to make my son gay. That's honestly what popped into my, there is also that risk. There is also the risk that you might get gayed, but that is fucking, it's worth the

9:36risk. Okay. But they were more excited about having my son and I didn't understand what it was about. And then he's like, yeah, I would like him to do competitions. He can partner with some of the girls like most of the girls don't have partners because no boys dance. So I have to go to the tournaments and dance with them. So there's this room full of young girls and I'm talking like they're 10 or whatever, but it would happen all throughout. Like just dancing with their dance teacher because there's no fucking boys out there willing to overcome their fucking shitty little fears and get out there and fucking dance. Dancing was always a part of culture and every culture. Every culture in the world there was dancing except modern Western culture. And it's an absolute fucking travesty. Every culture, Brazilian, Argentinian, fucking African, they all dance, Indian.

10:42It's all, that's the foundation. I'm telling you right now, I'm fucking telling you, you can build from there and then you also have to do stuff like fucking, you have to have experiences, different experiences to add depth, you have to read literature, you have to read literature. It's a shortcut as well. You can't have all the experiences in life and it takes too long to learn all the wisdom. So reading literature is a shortcut to the wisdom and you can learn to live in like a narrative through the literature as well. There's a lot of things you can do, get good at something, get good at something, anything just become very good at something, learn to fight, you got to learn to fight as well. If you're going to be dancing, you got to fucking learn to fight, trust me.

11:48You can't be out there fucking pirouetting and spinning without being able to do a fucking spin and back fist, you know what I mean? You can't be boogieing unless you can fucking throw hands, all right? But fucking, I'm telling you, this is my one advice to young fucking dudes. Don't worry about money, don't worry about being an alpha dog, don't worry about fucking anything. Learn to dance and the rest will follow, it's the shortcut, it's life's shortcut. Anyway, she's right as well, lay, I'm telling ya. If you have all those other strings to your bow, you don't need to be a fucking millionaire or a billionaire or anything like that. Quality women don't give a fuck. Anyway, fucking, that'll do it for tonight and I'll see you the follow out off.