
About this episode
You can choose.
- New years
- New beginning
- Time to create turning points in life
- Give you 2 keys to make any new habit stick
- I can’t
- One of my least fav phrases
- It means we aren’t capable.
- It means we don’t have agency,
- Agency is
o Knowing what is right and wrong
o consequences
o Ability to choose
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- Any missing – don’t have agency
- A lot of us have, in our heads a laundry list of things that we can’t do.
- I want to give you three keys to help you deal with that list and start doing the things that you want to do
- More importantly these three things will help you become who you want to be.
- Because this is so important,
- Want it to stick
- Not going to talk about 5 things or 10 just two
- If you want to make a permanent change to anything in your life.
- New habit
- You have to do two things
- First, make it doable every time.
o Let’s say you want to be able to do 50 pushups
o Your goal will be to just do one
o When you are going to do it, all you have to do is one.
o If you want to be a runner, your goal is to put on your shoes
o If you want to eat healthier your goal is to write what you’re eating once a day
- Second, attach your goal to something you are already doing.
o 50 push ups, do one every time you finish peeing.
o Running? If you want to do it first thing in the morning, put your shoes on immediately after you turn off the alarm
o Food journaling – right as you sit to eat, before you pick up your fork.
- third – create and believe in I am statements
o Change is most effective when it is who we are not what we are doing
o I’m a push up fanatic
o I’m a runner
o I’m a healthy eater
o Don’t have to be doing it all the time, or even consistently
o We all know a hunter – they say, “I’m a hunter”
o No one is like, “are you hunting right now?”
o Have you hunted in the last week? Prove to me you’re a hunter
o We just take people at their word
o The more we believe we “are” the more we are likely to act in a way that reflects that belief
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