274. When Doing It All Is Undoing You (with Alyssa Bethke)

Join me for this episode of the show as I sit down with the Alyssa Joy Bethke, who is here to encourage us with deep, soul-refreshing insight. Whether you’re feeling overwhelmed, exhausted, or just plain tired of the daily grind, Alyssa's insights might be exactly what you need to hear!

In this episode, we take some time to dive into her new book, When Doing It All Is Undoing You: Meeting God in Your Unmet Expectations, a book filled with so much wisdom and conviction.

Alyssa shares her journey of dealing with the pressures of life, from managing a family of five and the ups and downs of ministry to handling a massive move from the dreamy shores of Maui to Tennessee.

What really stands out, however, is her vulnerability about the moment that she realized that she was coming undone, leading her to embrace a season of soul care – truly a powerful reminder that we don’t have to do it all and what to do when life feels to full but we know we need to step back, acknowledge our feelings, and tend to our hearts.

Alyssa and I also explore her practical tips for processing emotions using the three Ns: Notice, Name, and Navigate, which Alyssa learned from her friend, trauma therapist Tristan Collins. Alyssa’s approach is both grounding and freeing, reminding us that it’s okay to slow down and listen to what our bodies are telling us.

Tune in to discover how to find true refreshment for your soul and why it’s so important to let go of the illusion of control. This conversation is one you won’t want to miss, especially if you’re ready to step into a season of deep, transformative rest.

In This Episode

[0:35] - I have Alyssa Joy Bethke on the show today, author of the new book When Doing It All Is Undoing You!

[5:29] - Alyssa's husband went viral on YouTube, leading to an unexpected ministry.

[9:13] - After moving, Alyssa experienced burnout while managing family life and homeschooling.

[11:20] - Alyssa faced struggles with homeschooling, leading her to seek guidance and focus on soul-care.

[14:33] - Soul-care and self-awareness is not just superficial activities.

[17:26] - Alyssa reflects on the importance of lamenting, grieving, and moving through life's disappointments.

[19:58] - Learn about a framework for self-awareness, emphasizing the connection between body, mind, and spirit.

[22:33] - Notice, name, and navigate what you're feeling!

[23:45] - Chip Dodd's The Voice of the Heart explains that anxiety masks underlying fears and that naming these fears can break the cycle of anxiety.

[25:43] - Alyssa asserts that fears often focus on the future, but God's love is constant.

[28:01] - Many Christians mistakenly believe that following God should lead to a comfortable life free of grief or pain.

Links & Resources

Crystal Paine

Books

When Doing It All Is Undoing You: Meeting God in Your Unmet Expectations by Alyssa Joy Bethke

Satisfied: Finding Hope, Joy, and Contentment Right Where You Are by Alyssa Joy Bethke

The Voice of the Heart: A Call to Full Living by Chip Dodd

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