
About this episode
God's heart for purity is beautiful. It's about being filled with His presence — shaped by love, truth, and freedom. But many of us grew up believing something else entirely.
In this final episode of the Lies I Believed series, Francie shares how her desire to honor God was shaped by teachings that defined purity by what you don't do, don't know, or don't feel. Over time, those well-meaning messages created a type of "purity" rooted in fear, ignorance, and self-protection — not love or connection.
This episode gently names the distortion and offers a new vision: one where purity is not about fear or control, but about joyful formation, honest connection, and celebrating God's good design.
What you'll hear:
- Why purity is not the same as ignorance or inexperience
- How purity messages disconnected us from our bodies and desires
- The dangerous link between "purity" and personal worth
- Why education and relational connection are crucial to healthy formation
- A vision of purity that is about presence, maturity, and embodied joy
Whether you're raising daughters, walking your own journey of healing, or reframing what purity means in your adult life, this conversation will help you shift from shame-based silence to redemptive clarity.
Resources and Invitation to Go Deeper:
Growth Courses
101 Strong Foundations for Married Sex, here
201 Pleasure and Orgasm: Passion and Practicals, here
Before (And After) I Do, here
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