239. Lies of Modesty

If you grew up in church communities shaped by evangelical or conservative values, chances are you were taught a version of modesty that sounded holy — but left you feeling ashamed, disconnected from your body, or even afraid of your own beauty.

In this episode, we're naming what many of us lived: the modesty messages that told us our bodies were dangerous, that our presence might cause someone else to stumble, and that it was up to us to manage everyone else's purity.

It's the start of a new series — Lies I Believed — and we're beginning by gently unpacking the messages that formed us, and opening the door to healing and renewal.

Inside this conversation:

- Why modesty became more about fear than freedom

- The roots of shame many of us inherited from purity culture

- How these beliefs still show up in our bodies, marriages, and parenting

- What it means to reclaim a biblical vision of beauty, dignity, and pleasure

This episode isn't about swinging the pendulum or pushing a new dress code — it's about rethinking how we see our bodies through God's eyes, and creating space to disciple our daughters differently.

Resources and Invitation to Go Deeper:

Growth Courses

101 Strong Foundations for Married Sex, here

201 Pleasure and Orgasm: Passion and Practicals, here

Before (And After) I Do, here

 

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