#206 Finding connection and community when hoarding feels isolating

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Hoarding disorder can feel deeply isolating, and finding genuine connection isn’t always straightforward.

In this episode, I talk about building community - both through hoarding-specific peer groups, online spaces, as well as simply nurturing friendships outside the home.

I share practical ways to reconnect, set boundaries, and remind yourself that you deserve care and companionship, whatever your home looks like.

• The Relationship Between Hoarding and Isolation
• How hoarding and isolation often accompany each other
• Feelings of shame and concern about being misunderstood
• Secrecy around hoarding, even from friends
• Impact of loneliness on motivation and self-worth
• The fundamental human need for connection
• Finding Community: Hoarding-Specific Support
• Benefits of speaking with others who “get” hoarding
• Relief and authenticity in hoarding-focused communities
• Misunderstandings and stigma around hoarding in general society
• Shared language and understanding in dedicated groups
• Types of Hoarding Communities
• Peer support groups (both for people who hoard and for their loved ones)
• Differences between in-person and online groups
• Dehoarding accountability Zoom groups run by the host
• Therapy groups led by professionals
• Online forums, social media groups, and subreddits
• Choosing a Support Group and Overcoming Barriers
• The process of finding the right group for your needs
• Not all groups will fit; trial and error is normal
• Common barriers: fear of judgment, privacy concerns, and feeling overwhelmed
• Exploring online versus in-person options based on comfort and access
• Managing triggers and emotional challenges when joining a group
• Broadening Community Beyond Hoarding
• Importance of connection outside of the hoarding context
• How hoarding can lead to progressive social isolation
• Ways to set boundaries while still building relationships
• Alternative Sources of Community & Connection
• Joining hobby or interest-based groups (gardening, book clubs, crafts, etc.)
• Attending classes and workshops (in-person or online)
• Volunteering for shared causes and the benefits it offers
• Engaging in outdoor activity groups for physical and mental health
• Involvement in faith communities (acknowledging varied experiences)
• Nurturing and Rekindling Friendships
• The value of maintaining and nurturing friendships
• Strategies for reconnecting with old friends (acknowledging awkwardness)
• Personal anecdotes demonstrating successful reconnection
• Maintaining and Deepening Existing Friendships
• Creative ways of keeping in touch (memes, postcards, regular outings)
• Showing care and interest without inviting people into your home
• Importance of honesty about personal limitations
• Navigating difficult moments with friends through gentle outreach
• Building New Friendships
• The importance of patience and consistent small efforts
• Transitioning from casual acquaintance to meaningful connection
• Reciprocity and mutual engagement as key to growing relationships
• Natural pace of friendship development
• The Value of Self-Compassion
• Being a good friend to yourself while seeking social connections
• Avoiding self-blame and catastrophic thinking
• Recognising your own worth despite challenges related to hoarding
• Taking Small Steps Toward Connection
• Encouragement to take actionable, manageable steps to build community
• Celebrating small efforts toward greater connection
• Realistic expectations about gradual progress
• Suggestions for relevant previous podcast episodes on loneliness, accountability, and community

Links

• Podcast ep 200: Things I wish I’d known: a letter to Episode One Me
• Podcast ep 130: Loneliness and hoarding with Vassia Sarantopoulou: build human connections and combat hoarding-related shame
• Podcast ep 138: The Accountability Effect: Accountability, encouragement and mutual support when tackling hoarding and dehoarding
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