124. The Difference Between Real Standards and Protective Ones | Coaching Call with Courtney (Part 3)

Are your standards protecting your heart or protecting you from ever actually having to open it?

In this episode of the Speak Honest Podcast, Jenn Noble sits down with returning guest Courtney for their third live coaching session together, and this one goes deep. They explore the difference between real standards and protective ones. The kind that feel like discernment but are quietly keeping love at arm's length. Jenn and Courtney also unpack the expectations women absorb from Disney, romance novels, and social media, and how those idealized versions of men can create an impossible filter that no real human could ever pass through. The conversation then moves into Courtney's relationship with her somatic affirmation practice, what it means when the intensity of early healing fades, and why that shift might actually be a sign of progress rather than a problem. This is a raw, real, and deeply relatable session about what it looks like to keep doing the work even when the big breakthroughs stop coming.

You might want to listen if:

• You keep dismissing people you date but can't quite explain why
• Your standards feel like protection more than genuine dealbreakers
• You've hit a wall with your healing practice and wonder if something is wrong
• You find yourself craving that early intensity of doing the work
• You want to understand what your body is telling you when your mind keeps going in circles

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DISCLAIMER:  Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for acc...