100: Your Four-Year-Old Self

Brad Solomon and I set off on another unplanned exploration into what’s present to us in the moment, including sharing childhood pictures of ourselves.

This is a rebroadcast of a conversation I had with Brad Solomon, Founder and CEO of the CTG Group in the UK on his podcast called The Lockdown Sessions.

The Lockdown Sessions is a weekly podcast, hosted by Brad that explores reflections on a broad range of topics including self awareness, self management, learning and development issues and personal growth.

For this conversation there is also a video on Youtube.  If that’s your jam and if you want to see what I looked like when I was four years-old (and many years later in present times) you can see it there.

We keep coming back to The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom by Don Miguel Ruiz, but this episode is definitely lighter on the book references the our previous conversation.

Conversation Highlights

• Coaching from an un-nuanced and unfiltered place
• Our word creates–what are you creating with it?
• Is being late to meetings your “brand?”
• Being impeccable with our word or cleaning it up
• We cannot bring meaning to a situation for another person (only they can)
  • Even though we think we can
  • Even though we try
• Do you re-play and re-create conversations in your head? How does it benefit you?
• Changing situations by how you are being and who you bring to the conversation versus saying the perfect thing you figured out from a past interaction
• Brad likes to ask
  • What did I want to happen?
    • Can I envision it?
    • Do I have clarity of the purpose?
  • How did I get in the way?
    • Owning my role in the conversation
• How we get in our own way
• Embracing our inner 4-year-old
• Seeing the 4-year-old in others as a way of connection and compassion
• Ways of asking permission to say hard things and designing agreements
• Listening to our intuition
  • Saying it out loud even if we aren’t sure
  • Unattached to interpreting it correctly
  • Cleaning up what doesn’t work
• John wonders when the “lock down sessions” will end and the “freedom sessions” will begin

Credits

• Hallon by Christian Bjoerklund
• Cold Funk by Kevin MacLeod

All songs licensed under Creative Commons

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