1 Emotional growth and its function

In every child’s life, there will be circumstances that are unhappy. Disappointment and pain are the human common denominator… We each draw a similar conclusion: “If I don’t feel, I won’t be unhappy”… This is one of the most basic wrong conclusions that people draw about life…

We bury our feelings deeper in our awareness where they stay stuck, destructive and inadequate, even though we have long-ago forgotten we even hid them… But if we don’t let these experiences be felt and moved along, they will stagnate and create a dull climate of vague unhappiness that we will struggle to pinpoint… We shut down our feelings and along went our intuition and creativity. From there, we limped along on a fraction of our potential. Often, we still don’t realize the high price we pay for doing this…

We grabbed a wrong solution like it was scissors—hoping to cut out what hurt—and we ran… This blocking action doesn’t prevent us from feeling the painful feelings forever—it just defers them… So as we grow up, the unhappiness we seemed to have avoided will come to us in a different, indirect way that is much more painful. We will suffer the bitter hurt of isolation and loneliness… We fail to see how we willingly choose our current painful isolation when we chose to defend ourselves this way…

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Bones, Chapter 1: Emotional Growth and Its Function

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